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I can't say I'm overly religious but I definitely believe in God; He is supreme

While I understand there may be cause for worry esp now your fiancèe is already freaking out.. My 2cents is this, I do not think your mother-in-law's dream has anything to do with your marriage plans with her daughter.. No evil shall befall you & yours, may God in His infinite goodness forbid it..

She(you as well) however should be very careful in all her(your) dealings henceforth if she(you) isn't(aren't) already.. We do not know all our enemies but they know us, they're lurking around everywhere we go, some even live among us & will stop at nothing to destroy our happiness, peace & lives in general.. Guard your love, peace & happiness jealously, arm yourselves with prayers, visit the Blessed Sacrament occasionally, pay attention to your gut feelings & always stand for the truth even when all odds are against you.

I wish you & yours all the best.. Happy Easter in advance!

Let's see,

If I understand you clearly, you've been married for 18months now.. You "dated" her 3yrs prior and met with her in person half a dozen times in all of that 3yrs(scratch that, I see you've clarified that it wasn't just 6times).. Aii, she gave you these vibes that she's quite industrious(1), charitable(2) & se.xually adventurous(3) and now you both are married, it appears that her mask came off.. I'd say 1&3, add that to her lack of financial discipline are actually the main issues here..

About her constant communication with the other guy, I cannot understand why she'll still be in contact with her ex (or ex friend, whatever), fgs he's even married and she is too.. Maybe, let's just say maybe there's nothing serious going on between them, she has sent him money(which you give her for upkeep ofcourse) twice already.. I dunno why she did that, perhaps a harmless help but to what end really?

What you can do is to have a sit-down discussion with her, tell her you genuinely want your marriage to work but you seem to be at loss at what she really wants.. What are her future plans going forward? Tell her yours, how you intend to go about financial stability, how it'd be nice if you both can put heads together & pull resources together as well to build a happy home and beautiful future for your unborn children.. Tell her that it's totally unacceptable for her to always give ridiculous reasons wrt her reckless spending habits, even that has to stop cos if she continues that way, how are you both going to save up to fund important projects, how are you both going to even survive considering you're the only one footing the bills presently.. I meann if she can't work or rather doesn't want to, she says no to starting up a business venture, then it's only right for her to make good use of the money you keep in her care.. She should do that, encourage & support you in every possible way and not constantly *bumping* an ex whatever *rolling my eyes*lol

About her not being charitable, not everybody is really but I can understand why you're not taking it too well, she made you think she was.. Now, you don't need her permission whatsoever, you may seek her advice as your partner if you wish.. Be it what it may, that shouldn't deter you in any way.. Follow your instincts, do your due diligence yourself, if it seems just about right, then you may go ahead with it

Lastly, about the s.ex issue.. You can bring up the topic when you both are having that sit-down discussion. Good luck!

OP, dis your tori get as e be.

Anyways, if this really happened.. I don't think "running away with the money" should be on your mind now.. Firstly, you don't even know how the money came about.. Secondly, you don't know who she got it from, you're saying she "stole" it from "her husband", based on assumptions.. I dunno but what if she got the money from illegal means, what if she low-key does dirty deals.. Okayy, let's say she stole it from your boss.. You don't see that she could have a hidden agenda, you Frank is going be her pawn lol

I'd advise you to return that which you've cornered into your pocket, e get why.. If she doesn't reach out to you, reach out to her and tell her that there are robbery cases in your vicinity and keeping such amount of money there is not advisable so you were thinking of bringing it back for safety reasons plus you'd suggest she pays it into her bank account as that's the best option

Make sure you convince her to collect "her" money back, stick to your word, don't let her brainwash you sha.. Okwa maka ndu gi, iykyk

This brings back sad memories, for you and for me as well.. I couldn't process the grief then, even I still can't now, I never will.. I was angry with God, I refused to commune with him for 8months.. I had people around to console me but nobody really understood the pain I felt inside of my soul.. They kept telling me that only God knew why, I shouldn't question him, ofcourse I knew all that but I still needed an answer(for closure maybe), why would you let this happen to me, God? Yes, I began to doubt His love for me.. Sad reality is death is inevitable, and even at that, nothing prepares us for the death of a loved one, nothing.. 5yrs on, my heart still bleeds..

My heart goes out to your sister, your niece & nephew, your family, to you.. I do pray that y'all find the emotional strength to carry on.. In the same vein, I'd want to wish your niece & nephew a very happy birthday & many more beautiful years ahead, I actually do find it amazing that they were born on the same day.. They're happy to have y'all as their family, y'all are indeed lucky to have them, they will grow and prosper.. May Mr. Peter's soul keep resting at the bosom of our Lord, Amen.

Hmmmm.. Life is indeed a mystery

Death knows no one, it doesn't give prior notice.. We're never prepared for it and we can't effectively deal with the grief even if we tried.. It is traumatic, it is painful, it is heartbreaking.. The sad truth however is this, death doesn't freeze time, the earth won't be at a stand still, it will definitely keep rotating, life will always always go on.. We can wail and cry and mourn all we want, even that would never seem enough and honestly it won't really change anything. People may fail at showing their pain but I assure you they did feel it maybe not as you did/would.

For your deceased colleague, may Allah reward his good deeds and forgive his shortcomings, Amin.

Na white dodo you dey fry give us, bros why na.. Even the Sprite sef dey hot, next time make it chilled zobo with correct chinchin, tenkiu.

Such a clown lmaoooo.. After going through your profile, I can say you sure do have alot of fun concocting such stories behind your keypads and posting them on here.

Just passing by, I know you said you didn't want anybody telling you to face your books.. Sorry but that's not what my message will be all about so you can decide to take it with a pinch of salt..

One, I may be wrong but I think you have low self-esteem.. You'll need to work on that.. Not cos of any girl but for yourself

Two, see this as an unfortunate incident as it is.. Why, you may ask.. Yeah I'll tell you why, some relationships have gotten to a good footing from this same scenario, someone gives a friend's contact to another, they chat for a while, get to know each other and before you know it, they hit it off with a relationship, sometimes they even get married.. Yeah, even our family relatives, church members, sometimes it does work out fine, other times it doesn't.. It's not about snitching or whatever.. I for one, wouldn't pay any attention to anybody male or female who doesn't give me a reasonable intro about him/herself and how he/she got my contacts, if I didn't give it to him/her myself ofcourse.. I do have to double-check with my person who allegedly gave my number out, just to be sure they're not playing a fast one on me.. If I get a number from someone or I get referred to someone by family/friend/anybody, I make it a duty to introduce myself and give solid details on how I got their contacts, I'm not just "preaching sermon" to you.. Yes that's been working for me, I dunno about other people

Three, I'm not sure why your friend(coursemate) would show hostility towards you.. Okay, lemme guess, she's been "under fire" for giving you that number.. Perhaps her friend didn't take it too well, understandably so.. They must've somehow downgraded you all along yes like "you're not the kind of guy they'd want to be in a relationship with" maybe laughed over it countless times too.. They may feel like you're out of their league, it's fine okayy. Don't push it, leave it that way.. You can't do anything about it even if you try, you'll only be filled with resentment, pain & regrets

Lastly, please focus on being a better you for youu.. Develop yourself, secure your future, live up your dreams and be happy cos your dedicated efforts paid out, every other thing will fall into place. Good luck!

You can keep trying but I'm not sure how this will pan out..

However, I believe God sees your heart and He will definitely bless her immensely, actually you do not know that she has already started receiving her blessings from that very minute she gave it a thought to call you & moreso when she eventually did..

Wherever you are Queen, I join my voice with his to say thank you once again.. We need more of you in this world to make it a habitable place for all of us.. Thank you.

Belated happy birthday little champ, blessings upon blessings

Stanleyville:



There is this idiot that farts loudly as if its a normal thing without saying sorry oo

He does it intentionally n unintentionally.. No courtesy no regard..when u ask him why..he'll say ''you no dey mess?''..

Another day I asked him if he does that in front of his boss in the office..same ansa..''him no dey mess?''..smh

Romblmfaooo whaaat?! my chest ooo, dfkm plis dear.. Omooo×1000 which kain human being be dat

I don finally wake everybody with my laff, wahala

Mr. Isiraoje & Mr. Adewumi, clowns smh no words for you both

Mrs. Bakare, Mrs. Joy, Mr. Ayo, Mrs. Opene, Mr. Okunlola, Aunty Kate, Mrs. Loveth, Mr. Oke, Baba Olawuyi, Fr. Peter(now), Mr. Uwaya and those I can't now remember, 600yrs of enjoyment for all of una abeg.

Before you're named my ex, I must've broken up with you in my mind already.. When you've got all our bridges burnt down, there could never be another chance.

For reasons best known to them yeah.. Oh, you already answered the question (in your first paragraph)

OP, this story left me aghast.. I'm lost for words, gosh I can't even begin to imagine how the man would be feeling

OP, I can totally relate but this time I'm talking boys of about 9,10, 11yrs.. Osanobua, you see these pikins dem, aswear dem wan make me kolo finish, na to comot cloth enter street remain..

What's going on with this generation Z kids? If you try to talk to them, you automatically become a topic for gisting among their friends and they make it seem like you're crazy.. You wan talk abi, you go talk tire.. Caution orrr even discipline them nko, shior dem don grow thick skin, odeshi na you go tire.. Try to have a conversation with them, if you don't give in to whatever they say, na wahala, they'll either counter what you're saying or they keep you quiet like mumu(shebi when they talk finish, I'll still do what I want to do), it's theirs or no other and if it doesn't pan out well later, they'll endure it inside inside their metallic heart

I dey tell dem sey my own dey be like generator oo, that I better pass my neighbor own.. E no dey quick start but when e start, e dey hard to quench.. If I no give you as e dey hot, you no go know wetin jam you lmaoooo but seriously I may turn a blind eye or a deaf ear to some things, just pray the day your cup overflows doesn't draw near.

Haha ma'am descarado really got me in stitches with "kind ko, smart ni"

Be back soon

Hmmm let's see

If you earn 110k monthly(maybe sometimes not paid as at when due, maybe 5-10days into the new month I dunno, depends on where you work)

60k per term for a child, you have two so 120k
A term = 3/4months
3 terms make an academic session/year;
In a session you pay 360k for both of them excluding textbooks & exercise books which are paid once i.e in the first term
Now, if you pay roughly 150k for 1st term which includes their textbooks, that's 30k worth of books for both of them;
Add 30k to 360k, you spend 390k every academic year

You earn 1.3M gross;
For every 330k, 120k goes to kid's sch fees
You have roughly 210k split into 70k monthly; yes I calculated it per 3months cos the last month is usually just about few weeks in which is basically revision/exam week aaand you must've completed payment before then else your wards won't be allowed to write their exams..
Every academic session/year runs from September - July.. not to talk generally about how crazy things get in Dec, Jan, Feb up until March

That's quite alot considering your salary.. I dunno how you cope with rent, feeding, electricity & utility bills, plus even unplanned expenses.. I'll suggest you do your due diligence on schools within your area/location, I'm sure you would get one with lesser fees(tuition of atleast 20k for primary sch pupils, with lesson fee, maybe ptf, total ≤30k per term for a child). I dunno what classes your kids are in but I'm guessing they're not up to 10, maybe 3-8yr olds.. Books are pretty expensive, you'll pay for new school uniforms, sports wear and all for a start too.. I do hope you get it all figured out soon and may God grant your partner a good job so you both can pull funds together to settle bills.

FreeSpirited:
Awww...sowie for your horrible Kulikuli experience. Will you buy next time you see it?

Thank you o jere.. I no buy oo lmaoooo

If for anything, l'll ask to taste before buying sha

About 2/3yrs ago, I was heading home one cool evening like that when I saw wan aboki selling kulikuli.. E jus enter my eye ehn, I was already imagining how I'll stuff my face with it that night while watching a movie.. I approached the aboki and made known of my intentions to buy, E say na 50 50naira, okayy I hope sey e sweet oo, e say yes very very, you sure??, e say walahi you go like am, alright gimme like 200naira own.. I should've asked to taste but my mind don already first me reach house.. Omooo I don finally reach house, freshen up, time to watch movie, I brought out my dear kulikuli for me to use to "wangle" my mouth.. It tasted all so different from the one I had in Secondary School, very bland save for the pepper that burned my throat, I wan die.. I spat it out and kept chipping off the remaining 3 hoping, just hoping that they were not all like the 1st.. who was I kidding? They were all the same, e painn me but na there e end.

Haha LMAO we been knew

I had to be sure my eyes weren't playing tricks on me.. Ah ahn bros shey you jus dey wake up ni, dis na March o.. New Year parole lati igba wo? O ga oo

Modified: Smh you definitely need help. I'll offer a rosary.

I may not truly understand how you feel but what I do know is that you're deeply hurt.. I'm sorry you found yourself in that situation.. Your feelings are valid, nobody has any right to tell you how to feel cos only you wear the shoe, you know where & how hard it pinches..

That pain, I have experienced it, many others have.. It's how you deal with it that truly matters cos be it as it may, even if you hate him for as long as you want, it doesn't really do you any good rather it somewhat holds you back, you're only giving him a chance to still have control over your emotions despite you two not being together.. You need to heal my dear, you need to move on.. You need to know your worth and not let people like him walk on your mind with their dirty feet, you shouldn't let them do that to you.. You didn't see that he wasn't the right person for you, it's fine, stop beating yourself up over it, you can't get past this if you do not give yourself a chance to heal..

You've got your whole life ahead of you babygirl, don't lose focus please, work, keep the grind up & going, secure the bag, have fun with friends & family, go see a movie, read(if you love reading), listen to music, dance(release bad energy, let it stay farrrrr away), sing, play games(if it makes you feel better), just do anything & everything that makes you happy & sane.. Treat yourself to nice stuff ever so often, you deserve it and more.. Don't go jumping into another relationship so fast(e get why), give yourself time to heal okayy.. Good yeah, I assure you that's the best thing you can do for yourself now.

I do not think you overreacted in any way per se.. However, I think she's not totally true to you.. She told you that she left the other guy just to be with you, she just wanted you to feel that there are better chances with you.. The truth is, she's still weighing her options with the other guy hence she's always bringing up topics about him.. She wants to be 100% sure, she made a better choice of being with you.. There will always be a comparison, if you don't meet up with what the other guy is doing/has done/has promised to do, she may have to rethink her stand with you afterall.. I cannot say for sure that she loves you but maybe, just maybe she has some feelings for you, you could wait it out orrr strike it out.. Either way, I don't like having someone make me feel this way like I'm in a competition when no be say na bazaar auction sales lmaoooo.. I meann, c'mon if I'm not treating you right, why don't you just tell me straightup and not tell me that "see ehn, I be spec oo, there are other people also dying to have me, so shey normal or you lose me" , it's so vague.. Tell me what exactly is the issue or what's bothering you then we can talk about it like adults and know what to do about it.. Nobody wey no be spec abeg

I don't think so but even if it did happen in the past I can't remember, maybe twice

E don happen to mumsy sha, she just dey rush go somewhere laaro kutukutu.. Omoo the kain holdup wey dey always dey for that Egbeda-Iyana-Ipaja road no be here at all, she no even see when the conductor jump branch anoda place.. She con dey ask oga driver pe wey im conductor na, oga driver say im no know boya im go look for change.. "Ehen tori pe mo fun won ni 500 naira, mi o ti gba change mi", E tell mumsy "no worry, im go soon show".. She con sight the conductor for wan corner dey call am "conductor wa fun mi ni change mi nau, mo ti n bole", oga driver say "madam no worry, e go still give you, e never get change".. remain 5mins "oya oo my change o" conductor still never come back, next thing oga driver: "oya everybody come down come down come down, we don reach last bustop o".. Aje dem plan that thing.. Mumsy don enter another bus, motor don move and conductor don dey ask "ehen money for front?" Na dah time she say she remember sey laslas upon all the plenty talk, dem no still give her change.. Thank God no be her last card be dat.

Not all, perhaps some of them do.. Even less likely in recent times

OP, I see that you're leaning on the presumed love/dating aspect i.e a relationship between two persons(or more, for people that double date, triple date whatever lol) perhaps "testing" one another to know if they can/will at some point, consider getting married(to one of them).. Aii, let's say a lady gets pregnant, she then decides to tell her man orrr her parents I dunno whichever.. Now, if she tells the man, he may/may not take it very well in the sense that at some point he may have considered her his soulmate orrr he never had intentions of settling down with her in the long run but was just having casual s.ex with her pending when he meets the lohl(love of his life).. Okay, the part where she's got to tell her parents before they find out on their own(dem no dey hide belle na except sey you don get plans), it won't be sooo crazy if her man is okay with it & intends to marry her, her parents will definitely ask to meet with him & discuss about his plans. Wahala go wear koi koi, when bobo says he's no longer interested infact denies responsibility of the pregnancy.. She con go tell maale & paale wetin dey sup, God punish devil dem con talk sey alaye must marry her oo orrr im go collect for inside guardroom.. Laslas bobo gats choose wan sha; perhaps a third option.. Even better, babydaddy sef issa goal

Haha lmfaooo but seriously it depends solely on the individual.. A man can(of his own accord; without any form of coercion) decide to marry his pregnant partner just to be a "proper father" for his unborn child(on basis of love or not), after he must've evaluated & re-evaluated so many things as crackhaus rightly said.. Ofcourse, he may also decide to work towards being not just an awesome father but also a fantastic husband.

Only about 30-40% of people(women inclusive) will actually consider it now.. People just want to enjoy random or casual s.ex, "not everybody" wants to get married.

He was the strongest man I knew.. Losing him was the biggest teardown of my entire life.. That vacuum you left in my heart seems to only get bigger and bigger.. Onye'm, please keep watching over us.

Alfryd:
Is not working

Lol calm down, lemme help you out.. At this point, I suppose you must've gone past the very first stage which is resetting your password.. You should login with your new password and ofcourse your email.. On your dashboard(top left corner), you'll be instructed to update your details.. You will then input your BVN, email used for registration, phone number, date of birth and state of Origin, all these for your BVN validation.. When it finally goes through, you will be able to update your details and upload your documents.. You can also update your passport photograph, if you wish.. Ensure that your files are not more than 200kb, you should compress them if they are else it won't go through.. After submitting successfully, you will be prompted to take the test and there you'll find your NASIMS ID (NPWR/2020/*********), you should screenshot it.. When you attempt to take the test, you will be instructed to input your username which is your NASIMS ID and ofcourse your password..

If at any stage, you encounter "some errors occured" or anything of that sort.. If you're 100% sure that you did all that was required of you, then do not relent.. Keep clicking/pressing that button, keep trying, it will eventually go through.. If it doesn't on Chrome browser, download or tell someone to help transfer Firefox to your device.. Keep trying on both of them till it finally goes through.. Good luck!

Profound input, Kettlecorn.. OP, he has said it all.. Things ain't really encouraging down here but I believe you & yours will do just fine.

Bad o, since March.. In January & February, we had constant power supply(8-16hrs daily, not uninterrupted though)

Now, we can't confidently boast of 1hr uninterrupted power supply talk more of daily.. Confi wetin I say if you no use am dah moment wey you see am, omoo you fii no see am till the next day.. Ask me wetin I go fit use dah kain light do, okwa "low current" o.. Some days we don't even see "flash" even if na to test bulb lol

haybhi1:
No, actually...
I'll say just break all ribs from the second to the sixth on the left side to the lateral side of the said man. You may remove the sternal's body too, for easy access.
If you're doing this from the posterior, just cut betweenT5 and T10 ribs.

Then proceed to cut the heart from the aortic arches and the suspensory bodies. Dip your right hand through into the middle mediastinum to remove heart with its pericardium covering.

The man would be left speechless that way, with ease.

Haha you smart! You know it