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EmGeee:
Thanks... not necessarily severing ties, just so he doesn't feel committed to me. It's been on his own terms ever since, he calls when he wants and comes around when he feels like. I already let go and stopped calling him, last time he called after a week distance, I told him I traveled to Villa he said I didn't tell him I didn't reply he kept repeating it (in my mind I was like 'what d'y care) just want us to respect each other

Okayy, I get you.. Act like you don't see that "commitment" he's throwing around, mixed signals.. Regard him as an acquaintance, just don't catch feelings.. Draw that invisible line in your mind, you can decide not to be rude but then you owe him no explanation whatsoever.

Hmm I don't really see any issue here.. Do you intend to severe ties with him permanently? Cos I just feel he randomly calls you just to check up on you, platonic level..

I get that so many people are not cool with being just friends with someone they wanna be more than friends with, yeah it's like emotional torture to some.. If that's how it is for you which I guess it is, you can just tell him that "you can't really deal with him constantly checking up on you, things have obviously gotten really awkward between you too ever since y'all found out about the age gap, you can already tell it won't work out for y'all in the long run so this is you subtly telling him that it's totally okay, there's no bad blood whatsoever but for the respect you both have for each other, you feel these things ought to be clarified sooner than later so you both don't keep stalling"

You could talk to him over the phone or chat him up, if you can't deal with meeting him in person.. Meeting him in person will actually make things more complicated and super a w k w a r d, you should either call orrr better still chat him up if his voice is something that really gets you giddy.. I hope this helps.

So sad.. May your soul rest in perfect peace, Comrade Yinka Odumakin.

Shellsploit:
Removing fuse from my community transformer at night. The spark from the copper used as fuse tickles my fancy.

Lmaoo eyin ika

Well, it depends on who got him angry and why(what the person/group of people did)

If he's angry at me, probably I must've faulted in a way, I'll apologize and promise not to get him all riled up that way again.. No be pesin wey dey quick vex laidat, so it must've really gotten to him perhaps I'd struck a nerve.. I'll give him some time, a very cool smoothie/fruit juice could help so I go sharpally run am.. Apologize again and offer him a sip to calm his "narves", it works like magic.. He'll ask if I'd like to join him, in turn I'll ask if he has forgiven me with all his heart, ofcourse he'll say "dah thing pain me o but it's okay now", I'll then pick my own smoothie/fruit juice and appreciate him with a thank you hug which will transform to a full-blown kiss lol.. Him: "It's alright but don't do it again okayyy?" Me: "okay honey" case closed

If na dah time wey I still dey with my ex eh, to apologize na wahala oo.. Before you talk sor... im don leave you commot go outside.. He hates "sorry", im no dey take ear hear am & im no dey tell pesin.. So if im vex (weda na me cause am or na another pesin), I go soffry go dey my dey until im don ready to talk.. If I no see am 3/4hrs, I cook I chop, cover im own til im come back.. we rugged am laidat 3yrs til I see say na to find my way sure pass lol.

Good that they later had it figured out.. Lack of trust yeah but that's not even why I'm concerned, imagine how scared their son was.. I fear if the grandparents weren't there, it could've escalated really bad.. The child was uncertain of what the outcome would be if he told them himself(in the heat of the moment), I think they should work on how they relate with each other first & then with their children.

BeautyO:
Why do I find this post funny and the Op immature?...

Ofcourse, he is grossly immature.. Same with other guys/men who go into relationships or propose love to ladies SOLELY because of their physical features & vice versa too.. I only see misplaced priorities but you lots think y'all are very wise lol

Lmaoooo you and the girl caressing your beards, both of you, infact "the two both of you" haha lol aswear una be real case study

Hard guy hard guy, wan geh touch your bearbear small, you sharpally conform.. Mr. Fantastic, Mr. Romantic, Mr. Melodyyy(one Sunny Neji's song comes to mind, humming lol)

When you initially refused to jejely come down & look for another bus/shuttle, baba na anything you see you go collect even if na ifoju cos na you first find trouble, some go insult you die(trobuu dey sleep, yanga go wake am).. As for the girl smh, that was totally uncalled for, I meann stroking a stranger's beard just cos he was in their space, e never reach lyk dat abeg, e no suppose at all at all.

I see obsession cos what if it was another pupil,(not the finest of them & not one of your Best 4 either), would you be as worried as you are now or will it be no cause for alarm?

Anyways, as Wittyglam suggested, you can approach the teacher if you so wish.. Tell him that you noticed some of your pupils do come by his class pretty often and they don't really give explanations as to why they go there & what they do esp during lesson hours so as their class teacher, you thought it wise to meet with him and ask, perhaps he tutors them in some subjects, you sincerely want to know so you could help adjust their timetable to suit them better cos you want nothing but the best for them(fullstop).. He'll tell you, just don't make it seem like you're a monitoring spirit or overly obsessed cos you already sound like it.

Don't be in a haste to ditch your current job o.. It's not alwayss greener on the other side, do your due diligence before making such a critical decision.. A bird in hand is better than 2 in the bushes, you can learn how to drive during your leisure time & weekends if you like.. Just don't quit your job yet until you've got another..

I know the cost of living is very high presently, talk about feeding, rent, basic utilities, miscellaneous maybe tfare to work and sch fees for your children but 85k/monthly isn't sooo bad esp if you're paid as at when due.. You & your wife should sit and draft out y'all monthly budget, that way you can both monitor y'all expenses.. Cut down on all excesses as well, I know that some unplanned expenses may come up i.e medical bills, fittings & repair but let's work on the planned first.. It would be nice if your wife can also help out in any way, she could start little.. I believe all will be well soon

SocialJustice:
Which station is currently airing Courage the cowardly Dog?

Cartoon Network (CN), as at wayyy back 2012.. Presently, I'm not so sure but you may still check.

SocialJustice:
Regular Show, Adventure Time and The Amazing World of Gumball does it for me.

Yeah.. Add that to Total Drama Island, Courage the cowardly dog, Ballerina(not Angelina), Throne of Elves, Onward, Big Hero 6, Zootopia & Tangled.

Try to smile more dear, it will sure look beautiful on you.. If you're always frowning and squeezing your face, wrinkles go quick come o lol but seriously stretch those facial muscles a bit, yesss babygirl smile for meee, for us, for youu.. Just try okayy, I promise you'll feel better.

I see that on the 1st page, Femi8586 has already said it all hence I didn't see any reason to repeat same thing again.

Tbvh, it has a whole lot to do with the individual, educated or not.

Odabi pe won fete sha

When I was given an injection, it was a 3days something so this was like the last day I was supposed to come for it(me wey no kuku like injection before o). The nurse was about to chook me then she saw my red swollen butt skin(o ti wu bi kini), she then felt it and said "Aunty you're not pressing this thing, if you don't press it, it will be strong, see now it has swollen, you should be massaging it with ori or tell somebody to help you, you hear?".. Me: Okay sissy nurse, tenkiu o

When I was shaved on the delivery table, omooo see as I dey use hand close am, I was so restless ehn I couldn't even keep my legs still.. Sissy nurse: "see eh if you deenur stay well, this blade will jus cut you now".. Some hours later, I had pushed out baby U, doctor nau said he has to put his hand inside me to remove the blood clots, you need to see the shock in my eyes I said "ahhh no o abeg, you wan kee me? How can you say you wantu put this whole hand inside there", the nurses were like "yes they do it, it's normal & very advisable" omoo no be small thing lol

Just passing by..

When I read your title, I thought it was about you taking in a woman as a wife, probably you both had children together and she kicked the bucket without consummating your union then yes you'll be urged to marry her corpse and you should if not for anything but for the children involved..

In your case, no.. It is quite unfortunate that this happened.. I do hope your boss is aware, he should avail himself for her burial ceremony, she did him a great favour that cannot be overemphasized.. Even one's blood may decide not to give a kidney, but she did, blood is infact not thicker than water, some are ready to milk you dry but will be MIA when you need them the most(not relating to your story but yet it's a bit mind boggling)

I digressed, okay back to you.. Your boss may be rich, yeah he could've easily arranged for an organ transplant with a chemically preserved kidney in the hospital or wherever but he got this on a platter of gold, if I may say.. I won't be so surprised if he made a truckload of promises to the girl, maybe he didn't force/threaten her who knows.. Her parents finally giving in to her plea is something that shouldn't happen on grounds that they're not okay with it but well I cannot really blame them, a person will always do what he or she wants to do anyway

Make arrangements for her body to be sent home, assist them in the burial preparations in whatever possible way.. I know that they're going through a lot of pain rn, regrets, anger and all.. I wish I could say it'll only get better but it doesn't really.. I won't say you shouldn't attend her burial, I'll however tell you what will happen if you don't yeah, it'll raise eyebrows and potentially create more problems for you as they'll start having strong doubts about your good towards them.. You can go with your family, village elders if possible.. Your boss should stand alongside you & your family, he could also go with his family, his two sons preferably.. She may or may not have died from anything related to the kidney transplant but it's only right for them to be present, she was his staff afterall, it shows their care & concern towards the deceased & her family.. Compensation could also be deliberated upon as well, brand it under care & concern, just to genuinely help out..

May her soul rest in peace and may God comfort & strengthen her family.. Amen.

We'd see about that..

Some weeks back, you lots didn't even bat an eyelid to export your food items to Niger, Benin republic & Cameroon, y'all didn't even care if you got money value for the goods(ofcourse they could even have them free just as long as it doesn't get to Southern Nigeria) but what happened? When microorganisms had started performing wonders lol, most of those food items are very perishable, Una talk sey road no good to come South.. Traders had to go to Cameroon to buy tomatoes and the sorts, sold them at high prices.. Those who couldn't afford it, found alternatives/substitutes, some got used to the fact that it wasn't readily available at that time & learnt to cook and do without them.. God pass una, we'll definitely survive as always

Look who y'all are gonna vote in for a pot of soup/stew, come 2023.. Na im still dey shout One Naijiria for una, One Nigeria indeed.. It's a shame.

Lmaoooo love been dey shack una true true plus omode lo n shey iwo ati Betty nigbayen

I can't say I'm overly religious but I definitely believe in God; He is supreme

While I understand there may be cause for worry esp now your fiancèe is already freaking out.. My 2cents is this, I do not think your mother-in-law's dream has anything to do with your marriage plans with her daughter.. No evil shall befall you & yours, may God in His infinite goodness forbid it..

She(you as well) however should be very careful in all her(your) dealings henceforth if she(you) isn't(aren't) already.. We do not know all our enemies but they know us, they're lurking around everywhere we go, some even live among us & will stop at nothing to destroy our happiness, peace & lives in general.. Guard your love, peace & happiness jealously, arm yourselves with prayers, visit the Blessed Sacrament occasionally, pay attention to your gut feelings & always stand for the truth even when all odds are against you.

I wish you & yours all the best.. Happy Easter in advance!

Let's see,

If I understand you clearly, you've been married for 18months now.. You "dated" her 3yrs prior and met with her in person half a dozen times in all of that 3yrs(scratch that, I see you've clarified that it wasn't just 6times).. Aii, she gave you these vibes that she's quite industrious(1), charitable(2) & se.xually adventurous(3) and now you both are married, it appears that her mask came off.. I'd say 1&3, add that to her lack of financial discipline are actually the main issues here..

About her constant communication with the other guy, I cannot understand why she'll still be in contact with her ex (or ex friend, whatever), fgs he's even married and she is too.. Maybe, let's just say maybe there's nothing serious going on between them, she has sent him money(which you give her for upkeep ofcourse) twice already.. I dunno why she did that, perhaps a harmless help but to what end really?

What you can do is to have a sit-down discussion with her, tell her you genuinely want your marriage to work but you seem to be at loss at what she really wants.. What are her future plans going forward? Tell her yours, how you intend to go about financial stability, how it'd be nice if you both can put heads together & pull resources together as well to build a happy home and beautiful future for your unborn children.. Tell her that it's totally unacceptable for her to always give ridiculous reasons wrt her reckless spending habits, even that has to stop cos if she continues that way, how are you both going to save up to fund important projects, how are you both going to even survive considering you're the only one footing the bills presently.. I meann if she can't work or rather doesn't want to, she says no to starting up a business venture, then it's only right for her to make good use of the money you keep in her care.. She should do that, encourage & support you in every possible way and not constantly *bumping* an ex whatever *rolling my eyes*lol

About her not being charitable, not everybody is really but I can understand why you're not taking it too well, she made you think she was.. Now, you don't need her permission whatsoever, you may seek her advice as your partner if you wish.. Be it what it may, that shouldn't deter you in any way.. Follow your instincts, do your due diligence yourself, if it seems just about right, then you may go ahead with it

Lastly, about the s.ex issue.. You can bring up the topic when you both are having that sit-down discussion. Good luck!

OP, dis your tori get as e be.

Anyways, if this really happened.. I don't think "running away with the money" should be on your mind now.. Firstly, you don't even know how the money came about.. Secondly, you don't know who she got it from, you're saying she "stole" it from "her husband", based on assumptions.. I dunno but what if she got the money from illegal means, what if she low-key does dirty deals.. Okayy, let's say she stole it from your boss.. You don't see that she could have a hidden agenda, you Frank is going be her pawn lol

I'd advise you to return that which you've cornered into your pocket, e get why.. If she doesn't reach out to you, reach out to her and tell her that there are robbery cases in your vicinity and keeping such amount of money there is not advisable so you were thinking of bringing it back for safety reasons plus you'd suggest she pays it into her bank account as that's the best option

Make sure you convince her to collect "her" money back, stick to your word, don't let her brainwash you sha.. Okwa maka ndu gi, iykyk

This brings back sad memories, for you and for me as well.. I couldn't process the grief then, even I still can't now, I never will.. I was angry with God, I refused to commune with him for 8months.. I had people around to console me but nobody really understood the pain I felt inside of my soul.. They kept telling me that only God knew why, I shouldn't question him, ofcourse I knew all that but I still needed an answer(for closure maybe), why would you let this happen to me, God? Yes, I began to doubt His love for me.. Sad reality is death is inevitable, and even at that, nothing prepares us for the death of a loved one, nothing.. 5yrs on, my heart still bleeds..

My heart goes out to your sister, your niece & nephew, your family, to you.. I do pray that y'all find the emotional strength to carry on.. In the same vein, I'd want to wish your niece & nephew a very happy birthday & many more beautiful years ahead, I actually do find it amazing that they were born on the same day.. They're happy to have y'all as their family, y'all are indeed lucky to have them, they will grow and prosper.. May Mr. Peter's soul keep resting at the bosom of our Lord, Amen.

Hmmmm.. Life is indeed a mystery

Death knows no one, it doesn't give prior notice.. We're never prepared for it and we can't effectively deal with the grief even if we tried.. It is traumatic, it is painful, it is heartbreaking.. The sad truth however is this, death doesn't freeze time, the earth won't be at a stand still, it will definitely keep rotating, life will always always go on.. We can wail and cry and mourn all we want, even that would never seem enough and honestly it won't really change anything. People may fail at showing their pain but I assure you they did feel it maybe not as you did/would.

For your deceased colleague, may Allah reward his good deeds and forgive his shortcomings, Amin.

Na white dodo you dey fry give us, bros why na.. Even the Sprite sef dey hot, next time make it chilled zobo with correct chinchin, tenkiu.

Such a clown lmaoooo.. After going through your profile, I can say you sure do have alot of fun concocting such stories behind your keypads and posting them on here.

Just passing by, I know you said you didn't want anybody telling you to face your books.. Sorry but that's not what my message will be all about so you can decide to take it with a pinch of salt..

One, I may be wrong but I think you have low self-esteem.. You'll need to work on that.. Not cos of any girl but for yourself

Two, see this as an unfortunate incident as it is.. Why, you may ask.. Yeah I'll tell you why, some relationships have gotten to a good footing from this same scenario, someone gives a friend's contact to another, they chat for a while, get to know each other and before you know it, they hit it off with a relationship, sometimes they even get married.. Yeah, even our family relatives, church members, sometimes it does work out fine, other times it doesn't.. It's not about snitching or whatever.. I for one, wouldn't pay any attention to anybody male or female who doesn't give me a reasonable intro about him/herself and how he/she got my contacts, if I didn't give it to him/her myself ofcourse.. I do have to double-check with my person who allegedly gave my number out, just to be sure they're not playing a fast one on me.. If I get a number from someone or I get referred to someone by family/friend/anybody, I make it a duty to introduce myself and give solid details on how I got their contacts, I'm not just "preaching sermon" to you.. Yes that's been working for me, I dunno about other people

Three, I'm not sure why your friend(coursemate) would show hostility towards you.. Okay, lemme guess, she's been "under fire" for giving you that number.. Perhaps her friend didn't take it too well, understandably so.. They must've somehow downgraded you all along yes like "you're not the kind of guy they'd want to be in a relationship with" maybe laughed over it countless times too.. They may feel like you're out of their league, it's fine okayy. Don't push it, leave it that way.. You can't do anything about it even if you try, you'll only be filled with resentment, pain & regrets

Lastly, please focus on being a better you for youu.. Develop yourself, secure your future, live up your dreams and be happy cos your dedicated efforts paid out, every other thing will fall into place. Good luck!

You can keep trying but I'm not sure how this will pan out..

However, I believe God sees your heart and He will definitely bless her immensely, actually you do not know that she has already started receiving her blessings from that very minute she gave it a thought to call you & moreso when she eventually did..

Wherever you are Queen, I join my voice with his to say thank you once again.. We need more of you in this world to make it a habitable place for all of us.. Thank you.

Belated happy birthday little champ, blessings upon blessings

Stanleyville:



There is this idiot that farts loudly as if its a normal thing without saying sorry oo

He does it intentionally n unintentionally.. No courtesy no regard..when u ask him why..he'll say ''you no dey mess?''..

Another day I asked him if he does that in front of his boss in the office..same ansa..''him no dey mess?''..smh

Romblmfaooo whaaat?! my chest ooo, dfkm plis dear.. Omooo×1000 which kain human being be dat

I don finally wake everybody with my laff, wahala

Mr. Isiraoje & Mr. Adewumi, clowns smh no words for you both

Mrs. Bakare, Mrs. Joy, Mr. Ayo, Mrs. Opene, Mr. Okunlola, Aunty Kate, Mrs. Loveth, Mr. Oke, Baba Olawuyi, Fr. Peter(now), Mr. Uwaya and those I can't now remember, 600yrs of enjoyment for all of una abeg.