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"Me I wont feel fine tomorrow, you did not give me enough suya" hahahaha children

Every single time, even as I'm typing rn.. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you.

I think he should be thinking about having a successful surgery and then complete healing.. I know it probably wasn't easy to get the new job but life first.. The doctor will definitely tell you both all y'all need to know.. It will take a while to recover & heal up completely but with steady balanced diet and fruits incorporated in between, lots of rest, he'll be fine in no time.. Good luck!

I'll quickly lift him up & drop him at the front door, he could cry there for as long as he wants, it's fine if his parent(s) would also like to join him there.. When he's done crying, I'll tell him about the dangers of doing that and make him promise never to do that again in my house or anywhere else.. But if I find out that they "angrily" took their child and left my house, then so be it.

*Chuckling* Boys can cooook, leave am lyk dat

Chrizoby:
The fact remains that I always buy clothes for him, it's not as if he is lacking. The issue is that he is fond of leaving his own untouched but loves meddling with mine without permission.

Have a sit-down discussion with him.. No matter how much people would want to brand this as authentic family bond, it doesn't excuse the fact that he already feels entitled.. It's not like your brother should kneel and beg you before he can wear your clothes, nooo but a simple "bros, I like this/that, e really make sense & I go like use am comot abeg" won't actually cost him anything.. It also doesn't mean you would say no if he didn't ask in the first place, it's just a really mature way if he did let you in on wanting to try any on.

Congratulations to you both.. Cheers to many more happy & blissful years together, God bless you & yours.

roteblomen:
It calls to question when no one out there can meet an individual's standards, don't you think so? still, does it suffice to call such people decent?

Actually there may be people who can meet those standards, it could be that they haven't found "the one" orrr for some reasons best known to them, they just ain't looking..

Ofcourse they(he/she) could be decent in the real sense of the word.. They look great, they are morally upright, they're doing well for themselves financially, they're witty & smart, yeah they can be all that and still not know what being in a love relationship is truly all about & as such cannot sustain one; I like that you've touched on some key attributes instrumental to sustainable healthy love relationships.. On one side, there are those that do not know how instrumental those key attributes are while on the other side, there are those that know all about it but are either not ready for such commitment or really do not want to.

Hmmmm I'd say it's something about individual standards.. One may be decent enough but it doesn't really work that way.

N ₂ O, my laughter was/is contagious.. Even at odd times, everybody go jus follow me burst laff.. Principal, asst Head Teacher, my classmates, all of dem tire for dis pikin

Hot creamy custard with moin moin elemi meje, after rounding up with house chores on a nice Saturday morning

That marriage should be dissolved.

Not quite often but I sure do have some living rent-free in my purse, just next to two 5naira notes, followed closely by a few 20naira notes, some 50naira notes & its other siblings..

As I no too dey remember who & who hol me change plus if pesin no go collect am quick quick, dem fit deny am.. Naim mek I dey always tek change gum body anytime anywhere anyday lol except sey I jus wan leave am.

"Convid19 fund request form"? Hmmm I've only heard of that of nmfb which was filled online but I think the portal is closed now.. I'm more concerned about the part where you're the one to input your personal details, your BVN & account details..

All these, and all you get is just 25% while you will have to repay 100% of the loan whether they comply with you or not cos it's you who applied for the loan afterall.. Ofcourse he'll deny it, what were you thinking? That he'll admit it to you, nahhh he won't.. Well, now you knoww, I'll advise you to use your tongue to count your teeth.

Na wa o, abeg dis wan na till wen?!

Wen time reach to send bill naww, dem go con get memory loss bah

You mean you suddenly find your ex desirable because she's no longer ugly & broke? LMAO so you broke up with her cos she was ugly? You're one funny dude.. I beg to ask, why did you bother to ask her out in the first place? I meannn she didn't just become ugly overnight orr did she? Lol I'm glad she's doing very well for herself.. Not many do, some get depressed & suicidal esp if they had their genuine feelings trampled upon.. Some become what y'all refer to as karashika aaand let's not even talk about when the tables are turned lol

Well, I've not had any cause to regret breaking up with an ex while being in a new relationship.. Tbh I'm not sure I've ever been caught unawares, that's cos I must've broken up with the said ex in my mind over & over again while giving room for possibilities(but ofcourse there are limits to what a human being can take soo I give my all til we've ran low on chances, my tired is tired tired & I'm officially exhausted) So if we eventually break up and I now refer to him as "my ex", it stays that way cos at some point I must've ruled out getting back with him based on strong irreconcilable differences(not cos he's broke or ugly lmaoo) that made us break up in the first place, it'll be a totally different thing if we only took a break.

Congratulations to you both.. Happy married life.

It's quite worrisome, I know.. As Richy4 rightly pointed out, you didn't say what she does instead.. Is she crawling everywhere? Attempting to stand but falls each time she tries? Holding onto tables & the sorts? Do you aid her to walk? Truth is, not all babies reach these milestones at the same time, and as such you do need to exercise alot of patience with them..

Keep trying, do not give up, I implore you.. Help her stand, help her move her legs little by little, let her wrap her hands around your leg whenever you stand & walk, help her believe in herself; that it's not too difficult a task and she too can.. Even better, if you have small children around you, when they come by to play with her, she'll be sooo excited to learn & perfect her moves effortlessly.. Also, do not forget to load her with foods containing calcium.. See a paediatrician, if needs be

She will walk, she will for sure.. Before you know it, she's already climbing things, jumping & running around making a mess lol.. Good luck! My regards to your lo

About 2wks ago, met with an acquaintance & we talked a bit about the crazy things that happen in Ikeja Computer Village, never been there lol.. It wasn't funny but at the same time it kinda was..

Really sorry for y'all experiences honestly.. Lord knows, I'd die of high blood pressure if I found out that they've played a fast one on me; leaving me with a fake stack of banknotes.. So I've resolved in my heart, mind, body & soul; for the life of me never to go there, not
in the nearest future, not everrr lmaoo.

Just cruise lmaoo

Lol.. I also think the dog probably hates your guts.

Hmm what more can I say really..

First off, OP do accept my condolences, may God comfort & strengthen you, your children, the entire family..

Actually I believe you've gotten more than enough advice; very solid ones at that.. I do hope you're no longer confused & now have a clearer view of things and way to go henceforth..

Please, you & your children need some more time to grieve & heal.. Always run background checks on people before allowing them get into y'all comfort zones, please for the sake of your children.. Saying she needed "only" your children for the sitting room party should've raised concerns, esp from someone you've never met & ofcourse didn't know anything about her asides that "her husband abandoned her and his children", your emotions were all over the place and that was why you swallowed it hook, line & sinker..

Just so you know, nobody has the right to tell you how you should feel about the death of your wife or how you're supposed to grieve over your loss, not her, not anybody, be it a single lady, single mother orrr even any member of your extended family.. You cannot be made to just forget everything about your wife at a go, she was your wife for crying out loud, you've spent your younger years with her talk about 13yrs in wedlock and 4yrs out of it, she bore you 3 lovely children too.. How could this lady be so insensitive?! Asides from being desperate, she's also selfish, manipulative & inconsiderate.. Trust me, you have no business being in a relationship with her in the first place, your children absolutely deserve better; take your time.. Do nothing that will make wife's spirit restless and troubled.. Shalom!

To be fair, take GAZZUZZ's advice.

Nonetheless, make strategic moves to leave that house as soon as you can

If you already had an altercation with the landlord over this issue which I'm guessing that was why he gave you quit notice in the first place, common instincts will tell him you were the one that rat him out. He'll definitely know but that shouldn't deter you if you want to do the right thing.. Nigeria is a very crazy place hence I won't advise you to go to any damn office.. You may not know if the officials are all aware and your landlord has probably been wetting their palms with the money he collects from y'all.. Anonymous tip won't do nothing, it's a case of the highest bidder takes all so be guided, if your landlord gives them a better offer, they won't bat an eyelid to give him specific descriptions about you.. Just leave that house pere.

Too little or too much of everything is bad, always try to find a balance..

Nobody is saying you shouldn't pamper your children, we all need tlc at some point but at the same time inculcate good morals & values in them.. Let them know that they can't always have their way, learn to put your feet down, learn to say "no" & do not leave out the implications, motivate them & help them be the best they can be.

Lostchild:
I picture some of the bad things a man can do but that doesn't mean that men are generally bad.

If all men are bad, then God will have wipe and destroy this earth completely.

LOL. Don't kid yourself bruh

Lostchild:
Womam are just a photo-copy of men
While Men are the original.

If (all) women are more bad than good and they are photocopies of men, so therefore (all) men are bad; originally.. In other words, vagina pipu dey learn work for where men dey nau? Nahh you don't need to answer this at all, it's just rhetorical..

You want a woman cos you weren't created to be alone.. You will find a beautiful woman, very pleasing.. You'd sure wanna know that which is relatively easier yh; you'll find women who'll lay with you in bed, you'll find women to frolick with you, you'll find women who will beget children for you, you'll find women who are ever ready to enjoy your money with you; yes you will find them EVERYWHERE.. But you do want a good woman right, who no like better thing?! You can absolutely have it all but certainly not with this mindset of yours.. You will ruin everything before you realize it since you cannot stop seeing them in a bad light.. Yeah, you need to work on yourself first

There are bad people everywhere irrespective of their nationality, race, tribe, religious beliefs, gender orrr even blood ties; bad people live amongst us so also are good people

I'm in no way disputing the fact that you've had bad experiences with women in the past, your feelings are absolutely valid.. On a lighter note though, if the men say all women are bad and the women say all men are wicked, that means everybody is bad niyen, sometimes even our creator isn't spared lol.

The two monikers though..

Akv666:
Good day guys,

so I've been dating a single Mom for almost 4years now and we're ready to tie the knot, but recently she came up with a suggestion of me adopting her son legally. Her baby daddy has actually been irresponsible right from start, nigga last saw his son when he was 4months old and he hasn't even bought ordinary diaper for the boy right from when he was delivered. now I'm being skeptical about taking him up legally, please i need advice from you guys, no insult please

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm let's see

I have a few questions, if you don't mind ofcourse..

Was your fiancèe ever married to her baby daddy orrr they were just casually dating? What really transpired between them, do you have the faintest idea? I'm assuming you've gone to see her parents/family, did they at any point mention it to you? Whose surname does the child bear? Was her baby daddy & his family present at the child's naming ceremony orrr have they in any way reached out to your fiancèe & her family concerning the child ever since he was born? What was/is her family stand on the issue about the baby daddy going MIA? Lastly, what does your gut feeling tell you?

Regardless, I dunno but the whole "suggestion" seems to come on strong, to me.. Perhaps there still linger some uncertainties else I do not think that should even come up at all, not at this point in time, not just from her.. I feel it's something you of your own accord, maybe after a while, after thinking deeply about it, after sleeping over it, after checking it through & through, you can then make moves to inform your inlaws of your decision to adopt the child.. This "mere" suggestion has somewhat put you under some kind of pressure, it shouldn't be so.. Referring back to question number 5, you should equally know what steps the baby daddy's family have taken concerning the child, what is their stand? It's her child I agree, she has been the one raising him with some help from her family yes but you do need to know everything from the onset, no information left out as that will help you make a logical decision

In as much as I'd suggest you seek legal counsel before making this critical decision, your fiancèe may deem it unnecessary, she'll get sentimental, her family too.. Assure them that you will love, care for & groom the child like your own and you will always make sure that the child is out of harm's way, give them your word and do well to follow through on it.. If they(she) can't take your word for what it is and offer some benefit of doubt, probably withdraw their(her) consent to the marriage just because you had a different view from theirs(hers) regarding legal adoption of the child, it won't be easy but if they do not want to be reasonable then it's on them, not you..

Wait a sec, y'all calling him names for being in a relationship with a single mother.. What is wrong with dating/marrying a single mother? Are they not human beings? What exactly is wrong with y'all? They should've aborted their pregnancies just to suit y'all narratives? I thought y'all are against abortion, so much for pro-life Orrr they should've had their babies & abandoned them some place right? No? Oh yeah, y'all prefer to be kept in the dark; nahh my bad I forgot y'all keypad champions don't like people being real with y'all.. Everybody's just catching cruise on the internet but in reality, we know as e dey be lol

I don't think there's so much of an issue

I agree you didn't do well by adding your friend to the video call, she didn't want that but you went ahead with it anyway.. Least you would've done was to suggest you both went back to sending chats, voice notes orr making audio calls seeing that she was too shy for video call.. She video called and you decided to add your new friend; another girl, aaand you both comfortably started gisting "the supposed video caller(a girl who seems to have a big crush on you now) probably felt like the odd one out" lol c'mon you should know that she just wanted to speak to you, no one else..

Well, if she isn't having a rethink of her chances with you then maybe she's quite busy & got enough on her plate.. Considering that you both ain't in a relationship proper, and I'm quite sure you're not even weighing in on that, not now & maybe not in the nearest future, you could however check up on her as a friend, heaven will not fall.. Apologizing to her will make her overthink things, I feel so long as there's nothing serious going on between you two then it should wear off.. Ask her how she's been doing and all that, if she talks about that video call and how uncomfortable she was about you adding your friend blah blah(I doubt she will, but if she does), you can apologize & say it wasn't your intention to sideline her that way.

Dis kain combo sha

Me, leave that iceblock to melt in peace?! Laelae mind no go gree me, if I no poke am til e pieces finish

Kakistocracy, that's what it is.

Eating so much junks leads to premature ejaculation, how so? Lol I think it's the composition; unrefined sugar, unhealthy oil, substandard food products etc you should be more worried about..

Pay special attention to your diet; detoxify with natural herbs, eat fruits & vegetables, drink lots and lots of water.

The anxiety, nervousness phew, yeah I knoww

Well, he should try to be as calm as he can possibly be.. His babe will definitely introduce him to her parents, they'll also want to hear from him directly so he should be prepared to answer questions.. No, he shouldn't go with a friend or family member, it's his first visit to his inlaws to-be.. He shouldn't be so rigid or "beebop" like an automated robot, just be free with them, smile if need be, loosen up, at the same time be respectful.. I do not know about going with a gift, I'd suggest he seek advice from his babe.. She should also tell him more about her parents, that would somewhat prepare him mentally & emotionally.. I do not want him to start thinking about rejection & all that, go with positive vibes & energy, remember to breathe, just be real..

OP's friend- Bad e bad, dem tok "No", try not to lose your temper, just pick yourself up & leave.. Go home, have a shower, no appetite? You could take a cup of water & dive into bed.. Don't drown yourself in alcohol, resist that urge as much as you can cos it'll only do you more harm than good.. Give it some time, you'll be fine & everything will be alright.