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The fear of NBC lmaooo

Jeez! He was a great actor.. Mazi, may your soul rest in peace.

LMAO

So your true relatives are only your father & siblings then.. Haha issoraiit

Hmmmmmmmmm tough nut to crack yhh

I'd be lying if I say I do not know how crazy those hormones can be.. Sometimes it's just hard to get some sort of balance, what with hardship, daily struggles to pay bills, stress, etc we all just want to ease off some.. Just like sexual urges/feelings comes naturally oftentimes and even in odd times, we can't cheat nature ofcourse but I feel we can somewhat control our actions..

Bad habits die hard but that doesn't in any way mean that we can't outrightly do away with them; it's like a full-on battle and tbvfh it gets harder every day.. I won't mince words to say that you have alot of work to do yourself, I know this is really important to you aand it's been a work in progress since last year but now it feels like everything is ruined.. Actually it's not, I'd say you went too hard on yourself, so breathe, just breathe Mavin.. Listen, it's good to be optimistic, it's good to want to build targets or set goals, in that same vein you can never go wrong with being realistic about it.. Don't go calling long shots, baby steps will do, one step at a time.. I really do not want to go over your past sexcapades, I believe you're in the quest of finding your purpose now and it's certainly good to know how much your perspective has changed esp on the objectification of the female gender, that'll really help you in this quest I assure you.. Please do not put yourself to the test sooo early in your self-discovery journey, you'll feel like you're immune to temptations, nah that is never the case, nobody is immune to temptations even Jesus Christ wasn't, we just learn to deal with it squarely but in this context of testing yourself at the early stage will have you falling deep deep & deeper into temptation, very vulnerable also but you won't feel it lol..

So my dear, you haven't even drawn out your plans/strategies not to talk of mastering your act.. We do not know you as much as you do, so you should sit & think of how you can achieve this goal of yours, be realistic as much as possible cos as a human being you will always have sexual urges, the key however is in how you go about it.. Don't stay off sex for a while and then the next minute you're putting yourself in a situation where there could be a relapse all in a bid to "test" yourself, the outcome is never palatable as you can see, you'll fail woefully so don't make that mistake again..

I can tell that there are times you'll feel lonely yunno and could do with some company, yeah I'm stylishly talking about your neighbor.. Lines have been crossed so I do not think you both can keep that friendship going for a long time, I would've suggested asking her out and taking it up from there but I see you saying that won't work cos of contrasting differences between you two, I don't know how you'll define things esp now she's got some feelings for you.. Well, all I can say is for you not to push yourself too hard so much so it feels emotionally draining, let it flow with ease like blood in your veins, build your self-control, be decisive, be determined, let it be a lifestyle, your lifestyle.. Faith without work is dead sooo I'll encourage you to do what you have to do, God in His infinite goodness will do the rest.. Shalom!

My God!!! This is sooo heartbreaking Oh dear Ini, may your gentle soul rest in peace.. Justice must be served, you will not die in vain I do pray that God grants your loved ones the fortitude to bear this irreparable loss.

Hmmmm

If this is real then I think you're an example of a man who feels his ego is bruised; cos why would a woman(that you pitied & used your money to marry) be capable of giving solid advice, she doesn't have any right to "dictate" to her husbandman, she should only nod "yes" and show her unflinching support and not counter anything he says even if it leads to his doom bah..

Just one question for you, why did you even consider getting married in the first place? Cos you do not have any business getting married, you do not.. I'm just wondering why she chose to do life with someone like you, likee babe why would you want to mortgage your future this way?Just why? After dating him, you ignored the red flags babe.. For how long do you intend to keep doing this with this man, someone who only wants to be in control & not reasonable omg I feel for the little princess..

As for you OP, I see you've decided to keep your decisions to yourself from now henceforth.. If your mind is already made up, it's safe to say you do not need any advice.. You see dah your coconut head ehn, egungun be kiafu egungun be kiafu

Dah wan sef dey.. Hwfa you na

I do not understand what you mean by "personal name"

If it's theirs, why not?!

May God Almighty grant you a very successful surgery & speedy recovery.. You & your household will have cause to testify & celebrate the goodness & mercies of the Lord.. We await the good news.

Wahala o

Mumsy say wetin? Abeg shey she think sey all these strike strike wey dem dey tok, sey e dey sweet dem ni Abi as dem carry cardboard dey waka under sun under rain dey protest non-payment of their salaries, she think sey na feem dem dey act ni because I no jus understand this leg wey she bring so Well, maybe she's not in Nigeria sha

The medical profession is fast becoming a charity venture in Nigeria.. Even those wey don open their own private clinic dey cry, people no dey ever believe, you go hear "taaaarh na lie joor, you no dey see how many patients dem dey get, see they're really making it, how I wish sey dis my pikin fit just jump now now turn to doctor" lmaoooo broda, sista, onkuu, hanty, no be so ooo, aswear everybody jus dey manage to package.. Okay now see as economy bad, sapa don reach everybody side and maybe 70% of patients wey come hospital dey tok "doctor you be my personal pesin nau, abeg treat am, I go bring the money later", tomorrow I go, 2wks I go, 1month I go.. Abeg how dem go pay their staff, how dem go buy medical supplies, how dem go upgrade equipment, how dem go tek chop, how dem go provide for their family, mama & papa nko wey suffer pay sch fees, dept fee, faculty fee, buy textbook, feeding money plus miscellaneous, God bless sponsors oo.. See ehn, I no wan tok Federal Government own, I no get strength abeg.. I hope sey una get land sha as Nigerian leaders don tok sey if doctors dem no come work say FG no go pay dem shishi sooo if dem like make dem do strike from today til thy kingdom come enu gbe, make all of them go carry cutlass enter farm o.. This life ehn, e no balance at all at all.. After dem don work work work work, dem no pay but dem still dey threaten dem sey "no work, no pay".. Aaand na still dem no want make doctors dem go jand where they are very much appreciated, where all lives matter(human, plant & animals alike) smh Naija which way nau?!

Like I said before, maybe no be for this Naija she dey orrr she has plans to send your brother abroad.. Anyways, y'all should sit together and really talk about this.. She shouldn't dictate the kiddo's future please, she should atleast hear him out and guide him on the right path, encourage & support him in whatever profession he'd love to take up.. He's a guy na, bobo sef go don know wassup so he'll surely be leaning onto something lucrative.. Make mumsy try dey calm down abeg make things no go spoil.

The thing wey I wan tok.. Gbadebo01, sisisioge, WoundedLamb, DesChyko, all of dem don tok am finish..

You don't just capitalize on the shortcomings or wrongdoings of others, that's why there's something called "constructive criticism".. Everybody is giving comparison about how things were done during their own time, everybody dey tok sey na all those "naked truth" catapult us reach where we dey now.. Indeed, quite alot of Nigerians do not know much about mental health, yet everybody say they're depressed, some are at the brink of commiting suicide, there are expectations, nobody cares to actually put themselves in the shoes of others, empathy means nothing, "make we just tok am like dat jare afterall we sef see the one wey worse pass this one", everybody is frustrated, tomorrow when e commit suicide, "ehyaaa and im dey hardworking, she dey very nice, dem no get wahala, wetin cause am, but e no suppose reach laidis na", na like this e dey start sha, small small water go don pass bridge.. Anyways, I don't intend to digress further

I am not oblivious to the fact that education is purely business to private school owners.. Most of them are not educationists, they probably did their research and closed in on the idea of running a school just cos it's a decently lucrative venture.. Most run their schools in a way that they are more than ready to lower the already low Nigerian standard of education just to give assurance of undiluted satisfaction to their clients; more clients = more money.. In that same vein, anything/anybody that will stand as a stumbling block to their constant cash inflow is automatically a threat and they won't as much as bat an eyelid to crush it..

Wrong choice of words on the part of your friend though but the school telling him to apologize to the parents is just outrageous.. Apologize for what exactly? For being blunt about it, but that wouldn't actually change anything rather it'd make it seem like the parents are enabling the children, that they're okay with their excesses afterall they got that "aproko" teacher to beg..

Personally yh, for me bah, I prefer being told directly, even if the teacher wants to be blunt about it, I'd respect that.. Just tell me in the heat of the moment so I know what I'm up against and lay down plans to tackle it as e dey hot, no worry about proprietor/proprietress, na only "bring money" "bring thiss, bring thaat" those ones know, I'm more concerned about my wards moral conduct, academic progress & total well-being . If my pikin do anyhow for sch, onkuu teacher/hanty teacher please feel free to call me/flash me, send me an sms, I go call you back still appreciate you kindly, if you maa wan come house no wahala.. Open Day, tell me every every, no hide anything, no fear, just be real with me, let's help nurture reasonably responsible intellectuals..

Yes, na true sey las las pikin wey wan spoil go spoil, whether teacher inform their parents as e dey happen or dem write am for end of term report card, whether dem write am anyhow for there or dem soffry write am.. Wetin I know be say, there are many ways to pass a message across; be logical about it.. No be everybody dey see am as driving force to be better, some people have anxiety issues, some get depressed, some don't see any reason to forge ahead, some feel worthless and just need one mean statement to "officially throw in the towel".


- My 2kobo sha

DH would love to hang a framed picture of my MIL? Why, I'm cool with that He can hang it wherever he likes, I'll be extra careful around it thrice on Saturdays, twice on Sundays.. I'll guard it with my life, baby

LMAO.

You're doing well..

Still need to work on one or two orr three; use of emojis & animations and then your CV will sure do with some proofreading & editing.. Overall, I'll give you 7.. Good job!

Men are not scarce o, women ain't scarce too.. Look around you, you'll see houses where people live ofcourse, adult humans(a man or a woman atleast, young or old orr both) & their families comprising of infants, toddlers, teenagers, etc maybe all asleep now.. Abi na only forest and animals una dey see ni, maybe no be dis planet I dey una follow dey sha..

Men yapa, women sef yapa. The thing be sey dah your spec eh, dah pesin wey you say na your spec, shey you sef be their spec? Las Las nobody wey no be spec but what values do you hold on to, what qualities do you possess? What qualities do you want to find in your significant other? Which do you think will sustain a healthy & happy relationship? How do you want your relationship to be, is it a long shot or quite reasonable? There are a truckload of honest questions you should ask yourself & your partner, I can't begin to type all of that now.. Have y'all thought about the reasons why our ancestors had long-lasting & successful marriages? Fun fact, most of them if not all didn't even marry on basis of love, all they needed was someone who was humble, homely, caring, resourceful, supportive, understanding, responsible; someone who gave them regard & peace of mind aaand will subsequently bore them children as well as satisfy their se.xual desires.. Love isn't all there is, there are basic fundamentals required to make it a blissful & jolly ride, ultimately there will always be bumps on the way.. It takes two to tango so the mantle falls on those two individuals; they decide if it should work, will work or not..

But you see, everybody is woke now.. Nobody wants to agree to disagree, nobody wants to accommodate the views of others, nobody wants to live and let live.. Nobody wants to go the extra mile for the other, nobody wants to be considerate, nobody wants to truly commit but everybody literally loves the idea/concept of commitment Nobody wants to be reasonable, nobody wants to be called a fool or a simp nobody wants companionship.. Nobody wants to learn, unlearn & relearn, everybody knows it all, we've got it all figured out Lies, pretense & deception have become the order of the day.. We all have hearts made of concrete, we don't even have human feelings, wetin be love again Love na scam, everybody gotta secure the bag & also have fun while at it

Yeah it's true that there are no manuals to these things but please look for someone you can work with, someone that will understand you, someone that will be there to encourage you, to support you, to care for you, someone that'll complement(well, also compliment)you, someone that'll respect you, above all someone that will give you that inner peace, in all of these I do hope you yourself are willing to do the same for that special someone.. Everybody has a deal breaker, what is it for you? Can we work something out? What is your own life perspective? Make it make sense, Are you in for the long ride or you just want something light? Truth is, we all want a fairytale ending but you lots just ain't ready to put in the works lol..

Even Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala put in dedicated efforts, and so did her husband, just to make their relationship & marriage work.. She didn't look down on her husband or make him feel less of himself orrr less of a man/human as some women do.. Neither did her husband use her career against her, he didn't make her quit her career by coercion, emotional blackmail and all, like some men do.. He understood her perfectly, stood tall by her side through the thick and thin, supported her & helped her be the best she could be.. We don't get to hear so often about the not-so-sweet tales when they must've thought of calling it quits or when they had issues.. We "awwwn relationship goalsss", "God when", "Oba atorise, abi am I your adopted child?" & "Chukwu bi nelu igwe, but I wasn't yet born when they crucified you nau" when we see their throwback & recent pictures we do not know what it took them to nurture it up until now, no be magic, it's a work in progress til forever dears.. Ofcourse, It is indeed refreshing to know that love is a beautiful thing.

Mad cruise

But wait, why are y'all pressed though? Last I checked, a good number of y'all have been writing off Nigerian women on here, calling them all manner of names, based on y'all past experiences and as such prefer to be in relationships with international women now.. You lots don't want to have anything to do with Nigerian women so I don't get why y'all are smearing aloe gel all over this thread now..

What is good for the geese should also be good for the gander yeah, na only una go like better thing ni? International women are the best, they do thiss, they are thaat, why then is there a problem with Nigerian women wanting to try their chances with international men? Y'all don't want them afterall.. What are y'all on about? yeah ofcourse it's only bad to generalize when you lots are involved but y'all stay yapping unprovoked about how Nigerian women are useless, "all of them" y'all family members inclusive, just few give exceptions lol

Joor nau nl alfa males, mek una sef do marry oyinbo go jand na.. Leave Naija jajaina pipu, dem no drink water wahala, dem drink am still una no go allow dem drop cup.. Unu ga buru ogbenye, buru amoosu kwa?! Hiann

Na 200L embryology dah year.. With those "borrowed" GSS courses like NPC, etcetera, I still think sey na 100L I dey.. Na Prof. Udemezue(of blessed memory now) officially welcome me to 200L..

Im must come exam hall anyday wey we get im paper, infact na im dey arrange every every still invigilate.. Sooo dah day, we don dey wait for am since 2pm, we no see am.. Everybody don dey happy sey las las dah exam no go hold.. Omo naim dis man jus rush in around 5pm, wey everybody don already commot mind, im no even give us time & everywhere don dey dark small small..

We write dah exam o but we carry am over sha, after pesin don chop how many okpa sef, drink mineral ontop all the night reading, class revision abeg abeg the flesh & spirit is not willing again, lataaro both of them are tired jare.. Na for chapel my cry start, carryover yen ja mi lara je, after all my preparation, e pain me enter bone marrow.. Olowogbogboro se iyanu ni second sitting

Zico5:
I remember my experience in Federal polytechnic, Ede about 15 years ago. Anytime I remember this experience I always felt a kind of anxiety and fear cos I will never be where I am today if I was rusticated from that school then cos that ND certificate was the stepping stone to where I am today. I was in statistics department and everyone knows that that school withdraw students like kilode. I have a friend I met in ND 1, he repeated the class when we met. We became closed friend when the first semester results came out. Nothing like checking results online like today. The school would paste result for everyone to see with ur matric no. So everyone knew his/her stand in the class. When we got to second semester ND 2, the final paper. The guy begged me to teach him one applied statistics. We went to a class for the tutorial, and the guy gave me about three questions to solve. I solve the questions in a sheet of paper because we were alone. He took the sheet away to further study it for the paper the second day.
Though we were supposed to sit in the same class for the examination but due to spacing I was asked to go to the next class. He thought I was in the same class with him not knowing I have been moved to the next class. I was surprised to see that I was writing the same questions the guy gave me yesterday to solve. I was about to finish when my name was called outside that a guy implicated me that I gave him the answer to the question. I was froze cos I couldn't understand. The invigilator gave me the sheet of paper to recognise if it was my handwriting, I affirmed it and told him what really happened. They asked how I got to the class and the invigilator in my class affirmed he put me in the class cos my former class was filled up and nobody got out. They called the guy and he said I gave him the paper to write in the exam hall. I had started crying cos I did not understand what was going on. It was the lecture in my class that stood his ground that the guy was telling lies that he should be held properly to know where he got the questions he gave me to solve. To cut the story short, he confessed that a brother to the lecturer who was his friend gave him the questions. I just thank God for his mercy, assuming I was in the same class with him that was how I would have been implicated. Though he was rusticated eventually but this experience made me to know the power of God. I gave testimony in my fellowship about this event.

I'm sooo glad God came through for you.. Keep basking in His glory.

toluleke:
I remember dubbing a guy then and there was one particular question he was answering which i had a little idea of i told the guy he is writing nonsense.. the guy replied ki iwe sha ti pun (just make sure you fill your book) I fail the course though since then i dey read enter exam hall. When i was in 500L the guy still dey take 100L courses e no dey take any course with us at all.

"Ki iwe sha ti pun" my chest ooo, kuku kee me.. Won maa n san owo skool gbogbo igba smh, dah guy go need better nodding for exam hall then strong 2×2 plank after exam.

Omooo if to sey you be rat eh, aswear dah girl get skills for where that olden days iron trap dey..

She really set am well, even buy shawa put with her "poetry" chaiii.. You lucky no be small, infact your name suppose be Lucky(without the Johnson lol) Remain small dah iron trap for tear tear your belle, e for even take style catch tail but thank God sey na brush e brush you mana nwata nwanyi ahu dikwa veli dangelous o.. Anyi ga esokwa gi je mee Thanksgiving echi, emechaa i ga kporo anyi je n'ulo gi ma kporo anyi obia.. Okwa nkwobi maobu loi-loi na ezigbote ofe oha, "stepu godi ya downu" with nkwu enu nwanne ighotago

Lol don't mind me, just catching cruise.. I think in a bid to "cover" her shame, she probably thought it wise to get you in the picture so it becomes "officially okay".. Thank your chi, alot of guys don't easily get out of this kind of situation, DNA testing helps now though.

mekaboy:
They believe its sex you want, so they have to bill you before u get it. So once the billing starts, demand it right away.

Haha, it doesn't have to be like that.. Some ladies don't even bill men before giving their consent to sex, sometimes men don't even need to demand for it.. That word "demand" though but whatever rock y'all boats, good luck with that.

mekaboy:
And most times when you start paying, you think you are in love. When you look back at how much you have spent on the girl, you cant let you. You keep paying and being hopeful.

All this would have ended if you asked for sex immediately she asked for money.

The one that likes you wont block you or stop reading your messages because u did not give her money.

The bolded should be y'all major concern.. Actually, there should be no pressure whatsoever.. If she asks for a particular amount of money and you do not have it orrr you don't intend to give her, simply tell her you do not have it.. If she's moving mad about it, ignores you or cuts communication with you, it's safe to say you both don't complement each other and should not be in a relationship.. She can as well continue on her quest, while you do the same.. I don't get all these money exchange for s.ex talks honestly, shogun laye ni?!

Do not date out of pity, do not marry out of pity, do not be in any form of relationship out of pity.. Do not put yourself in that situation, it will end in hot premium tears.. Been there, done that

"Just gimme a trial", "Oya try me, you won't regret it"..laughing in ekun egbere(pls don't ask me how, t for tenks)

Lmaoooo wahala this redditor get time & strength sha.. If only we could send memes on there, maybe I'll hit their(dunno the gender) dm with that "be calming down" meme lol

If you no fit reply me with "okay", "ok", even "kk", abeg abeg just leave me on read, maa fi "k" da ile ru.. But if you maa get coconut head, shorii just be prepared to sleep there with your "k", shingbain strength ah no get.. Ti o ba ji, ki e pe mi lori aago

I will never understand how people find foot fetish sexually exciting lol but it's really a thing in the western world, they're quite big on it.. Infact, it gets even crazier than this, just pictures of well-oiled feet could get the volcano erupting and then there are footjobs too lol

Se.xual fetishes & fantasies, oddly satisfying to alot of people.. Oftentimes unconventional but to each its own.

Hahaha OP suit yourself; call it quits.. She has actually made it quite easier for you, send her just one breakup sms that ends with "You'll thank me later"

kendological:
Everything you said is on point, thanks.
You sound like my elder sister, she has always told Nancy that she will know my value the day I wash my hands totally away from her, which I have already done, I feel pain within me when that girl(my niece) rejoices in my presence, because I know when she grows up, her mother, possibly her grand mother will turn her against me.

Don't worry about them pitching your niece up against you in future or poisoning her mind about you, do not worry about that at all.. For the now, they can't and they'll get pissed most esp your sister.. They'll fail, no matter how hard they tried, why? You see, little children are just like an open book, so adorable with their precious heart & incorruptible mind

You'll be surprised at how they read different human expressions, genuine & fake, likewise animals.. Children of her age can tell when someone is trying to ruin/pollute their perception about another, they can smell foul play from miles away lol.. They love attention, as well as people who gives them attention & spends time with them, no matter how little, they appreciate it a whole lot.. When they build such a cordial bond with anybody, it's often very hard to make them think otherwise about that person, infact they'd even go as far as confiding in him/her while asking to know how the hostility came about, those little FBIs haha.. They are quite rational, in their own way..

As a matter of fact, they should actually be worried about how bad of an influence they are to the growing child, they're highly toxic for her.. Just keep being a good uncle, God sees your heart and in the end, that's all that matters.

Is it still the same girl from March 16? Hey c'monnn, don't be such a pest.. The young lady has shown her displeasure, it didn't matter if you apologized or not(this is an example of a situation where saying/showing that you're "sorry" doesn't just solve/cut it)

Come to think of it, she broke up with you, been giving you cold treatment, ignoring your calls, dude she doesn't even want friendship orrr you checking up on her.. She didn't "miraculously" pick your call, she just wanted to put a stop to your incessant calls.. While it was fulfilling to hear her speak, I bet she was so irritated.. There are no mixed signals there, no be yellow, no be orange, na shombo red with "abort mission" boldly written on it..

I actually find it hard to believe that you've gone this far, wrt your current level of education(I resisted the urge to type "grow up, son" ).. It's indeed great, now you should start thinking of life after NYSC, your career path and your future.. You will alwayss have se.x, you will.. So stop losing focus over it!

After reading your story & deducing some more from your replies..

Paying your niece's school fees shouldn't be obligatory, her mum & dad should be saddled with that responsibility.. Your dad should ask to meet with the man, all members of your family should be present as well.. Y'all need to address this issue, he should make known his intentions, lay them on the table so y'all can move forward, what exactly does he want with your sister? Most importantly, why has he been found wanting in taking up full responsibility of their daughter, what sort of father is he? If e do anyhow, make una give am anyhow, deploy strict measures if need be.. Your parents should put their feet down, how can they turn a blind eye in this kind of situation? It's the way they handle(d) things that he has the guts to do as he pleases/feel as though "anything goes, nothing dey shele".. Question their acclaimed love for your sister, is that the best life they'd want for her? How come she feels superior to them? Was that how y'all grandparents groomed them? They should put a stop to this madness now, clip those wings now.. Imagine having a growing child around her, what sort of role model, what values, what morals will she portray to her daughter? Your parents should really sit up, they've been putting up with her excesses for too long hence she feels so comfortable & sees nothing wrong in her actions.. She should go find a job, anything to settle some bills & take care of her child, no matter how little, that fulfillment is second to none..

Focus on your purpose, self-discovery, career & life in general.. Doesn't mean you won't help out if you can, financially or otherwise, if they seek your advice and you have one or two, do tell even if they don't take it, it's not on you.. If your sister can't see that you've been nothing but a good brother to her then she could as well crash & burn lol I didn't quite mean that but she seems so irredeemable gosh.

In line with what WoundedLamb has said.. I'd say you should not come in between them at that point in time, let them trash it out themselves unless you are called upon ofcourse.. That way, you get to hear them out, try to calm them down and then subtly give your own opinion(how best you understood the situation), try to ease off the tension as well..

When you & your spouse goes inside and you're 100% sure that she's calm and all, you could tell her where she missed it or got it wrong and then help her understand how she could've handled it better.. I, for one, won't be mad but it all depends on the individual.. You know your spouse better than we do, if she wouldn't want to hear about it after it's been resolved publicly then please don't bring it up again, you could find a way to tease her after many weekss, months orrr not.. While stating your opinion, be as neutral as possible, so as not to be seen in a wrong light which often leads to disrespect.

Why on earth did he not let the girl in on his plans of wanting to have a child before he clocks 30? Omoo see as pesin pikin turn labrat wey dem dey use do biology practical; Title:-To determine man's reproductive ability & potency..This is just me crying over spilled milk ni..

Aww how sweet of you to help brainstorm ideas for him, your reward is moving towards the packaging stage

Just to add to what has been said, I support Kelvin30286063 & mddavid contributions

I'm sorry about the recurrences, negative effects & psychological trauma.. One, I hope you do know that when one's spouse is taking treatments for any form of pelvic infection, it's always advisable for his/her partner to do the same(get treated) whether he/she is experiencing symptoms of the infection or not, also there should be no sexual intercourse until they've both finished taking their medications. Two, I do hope you both take y'all medications judiciously, please don't discard them whenever you feel the symptoms have "gone", ensure you finish the dosages. Yeah, there should be an overhaul of y'all undies & briefs, get new ones(cotton preferably) and if possible change your beddings too.. Failure to do all that leads to recurrences so you both keep reinfecting each other again and again and again.. Also ensure proper hygiene, soak in antiseptic (warm water, if you like), wash and sundry them, the heat from the sun further kills those harmful microorganisms.. I could go on and on but I'll stop here, please google more about this.. I'm quite certain you must've heard or read about it somehow though

For the now, I know you both must be really tired of going in and out of different medical facilities for this cause.. I may not know all the symptoms she's experiencing, however, I do suggest you both go to a good laboratory, she should ask to run a pelvic scan, if it is confirmed that there is an infection, there will be other tests to further identify the type of infection as well as the causal organism(s).. The test results should be taken to a doctor and only then will the treatment be prescribed.. Orr even better if you both have the privilege to meet a renowned Pharmacist(one who did study Pharmacy), do ask he/she to help interpret the test results and proffer the right medications to combat the infection.. I hope you both find a lasting solution.

Please run around for money & rush her to the hospital asap.