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My sister I understand your pain. What I want you to do is this, you and your boyfriend are to pray seriously over it, begging God to reveal his wish for the both of you concerning the matter. Whatever you get as dream, take it to your pastor for interpretation. I had not so similar experience with my now ex girlfriend and we both prayed over it individually and the message I received was that she was not the person destined for me. She also got a similar message and informed me. We went to our pastors for interpretation and understood that we were not meant to be married. We both discussed it and agreed to part ways. She is currently married to another man who I believe is destined for her.

Pettyprincess:
My worst kiss ever was with an ex,this dude nearly choked me that i couldn't breathe well,hw will be kissing like your life depends on it? Since then i made up my mind never to date an edo guy infact Nigerian guys in general.
So ladies share yours!!!

The fact that your ex boyfriend nearly choked you while kissing you, which led to you leaving him doesn't mean that other Nigerian boys are bad kissers. He is just one out of a multitude of boys who you have not even met or known not to talk of kissed. There are some that when they kiss you, you melt instantly. So don't blacklist every boy due to your ex's mistakes.

As for me, I cannot sleep with another man's wife as it is an abomination to me and to God. Apart from that, it might lead to the destruction of their marriage, it can also lead to death of the man of the house. Another bad reason is that the fact that I did that with another man's wife, someone else will do same or worse to me.

Reading through your write up I saw a problem which could have led to your current situation. His place of work and your school are they in the same state or location? If yes then it's means that you and him need to have a serious talk concerning his visitation to your hostel. What I mean is that rather than always come to your hostel everyday, he should go home straight from his place of work. At least in 2 months, he can visit you like 3 times just to see how you are fairing or doing. You on your own can visit him sometimes even as a surprise. The fact that you and him are seeing everyday makes your relationship with him less interesting.

Mr exploder calm down and listen to this advice I am about to give you. You cannot assume that anything you heard about your girl outside are all true without confirming them from her. How are you sure that those your guys telling you those things about her don't have evil motive towards your relationship with her? How will you feel if she accuses you of flirting with other girls when indeed you are not doing such. If you continue listening to gossip and side talks it will not only affect your relationship but also your marriage as you lack trust and can believe anything you hear outside.

MYDEBBY:
Bravo my senior colleague,thanks for you superb counsel,sincerely it is her friends that are unmarried that deceived her.but after all my spendings and she did this to me,she must regret the tears I shed pleading to her.Thanks once again.

That's what we are here for. You are most welcome my brother.

My brother I am happy that you have decided to distant yourself from her. Now concerning this present threat, my little advice to you is to be careful concerning this issue as it might cost you your marriage. As a man who is married, you already know the type of woman you married. I want you to talk to your wife the time you know that is best for you and her, preferably very early in the morning say about 3am or 4am, wake her gently and when she gets up and is actually awake, kneel down and tell her everything calmly letting her know of the steps you have taken to avoid the girl in question and also pleading with her to forgive you promising never to repeat same. I know as human that she will feel bad if possible you can even cry while telling her to pardon you. I have this confidence that if she truly loves you she will forgive you and also appreciate you for opening up to her as it is hard for men to admit such not to talk of opening up to their wives about it. I am also a man by the way and telling you what I would do if I was in your shoes. She will appreciate you for telling her by yourself and not an outsider. My reason for taking this long to explain to you is that I know that your wife will take up the issue with the girl in question and end your fears.

My brother before I proceed with my advice, I have an important question to ask you. Are you the person training her in school? If yes then you made a nasty mistake. She has been influenced by her friends who are not yet married to forget about you and move on with her life. How is your work or business going, are you making enough money or not. My reason for asking is that her friends may have told her to leave you since you don't have steady income and go with another guy who according to them has more money than you and may also be younger or older than you. You said you have done the traditional wedding and awaiting white wedding. I need you to do something. I need you to discuss this issue with your family and kindred telling them everything, standing your ground that if the lady is insisting on leaving the union, they should collect back the dowry paid on her head from the family and also collect your child from her. Look for another beautiful girl that will love you for who you are and not what you are.

Bros what you did with her was wrong in all material aspect. Since you have repented and not willing to continue sinning, avoid her completely even her calls and visits so as not to fall into any further temptation.

My guy you really messed up. Why did you take the revenge too far to extent of telling her that she need a haircut. You would have just ended with the olive oil and make her know it was only a joke. Now you have crossed the line. Get ready for the repercussion.

My advice to you is this, since he does that, please next time he wants to kiss you tell him you are not in the mood for kissing or he can peck you on your lips. If he complains then open up to him about how you feel and how irritating and unhygienic it is.

My dear I like your sense of reasoning, the problem is that most guys mix all together and in the end cause heart breaks for girls.

To me I believe that keeping virginity till marriage is still very much important for both male and female alike as it shows to the man or woman that he or she is married to that they could withstand all the temptations and pressures from friends and peer group. It also shows that the man or woman is free from any sexually transmitted diseases.

To me he is both a disgrace to manhood and also a fool. Must he propose to her openly hasn't he seen that many public proposals end up in disgrace of the guy in question. Did he discuss marriage with her before doing that? This will serve as a lesson to other guys planning public proposals to rethink before disgracing their generation.

I don't see what some men achieve when they sleep with another man's wife. Whether you are caught or not, you should know that what you are doing is bad and could lead to breaking of people's homes. How will they feel if they catch their wife with another man?

chenzen:
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Ebe isi n'obu ajo ihe nsogbu adiro

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Nwa nná isi gini?

Asim na mmadu inyere nwanne ya aka obu ajo ihe?

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Nwoke interested Nwoke Ibeya aka obu ajo ihe?

Amatarasha:
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Biko ego ole ka iji ?

Gini ka iji ego ole oji eme? O si na ofuru gi n'anya, chokwa k'ibu nwunye ya. Oburu back iforo ya n'anya gwanu ya k'omara.

It not that I am in support of what you did, in fact you messed up by going against your agreement with him. It is not every guy that will permit what he granted you, even me myself will never permit such. Where I take offense with him is his taking you hostage for 48 hours, beating and raping you. He has no right to beat you despite what you did after all he is not your husband or father. He is now wanting you back, it's left to you to either accept or decline the offer.

You said you have been pleading with him since but he refuse up to the extent of involving your mum, but failed to mention what you did to him in the first place. Well I believe his is no longer angry with you, and playing hard to get. My issue here is why did you involve your mum in your relationship, is the guy in question your husband or boyfriend, clarification is needed. If he is your husband it's quite understandable for that but if he is your boyfriend or fiance, it's wrong involving her up to the extent of her kneeling down to plead with him.

My brother if I am to advice you, I will tell you to let her go. Since she wants you to sacrifice your happiness and up bringing so as to please her religion and family, it is better you move on to another girl who will understand that we are all Christians and pray to the same God. It also happened to me but what I did was to let her go.

Well the issue here is that you lied at first when he asked you if you had anything to tell him. Now you have decided to tell him the truth. My advice to you is to open up to him, making him understand that it happened in the past and will never happen again. Make sure you apologize to him for telling lies at first promising not to do that again.

How can you be sure that the pregnancy is yours and not that of the other guy? If she has been flirting with him how are you sure she has not been having sex with him on the side and got pregnant in the process.The two of you have to decide what you want for yourself. If she is sure that the child is yours then go ahead and marry her. Abortion is not an option as she has done the first one killing the first child she was suppose to have. If she goes ahead with abortion she might be risking her life and reducing the number of children she will have in this life. If the pregnancy is for the other guy she should open up to him and agree to his proposal. I repeat it again ABORTION IS NOT AN OPTION.

MrLankeeee:
Hello everyone

My girlfriend is pregnant and her family people are forcing me to marry her but the problem is that i am too small to marry.
Pls where can i hide?

You know what that you are too small to marry and not too small to score free goal in her stomach. Go and pay her bride price and carry your wife. Congratulations, you are now a father.

[quote author=sacramento1212 post=78613362]Except not on the grounds of Adultery, then you are correct. But the Husband can remarry in this case because Adultery is involved here. I understand but i believe he should forgive her as he did not catch her in the act but due to guilty conscience and love for him, she opened up to him. My stance is that is we ask God for mercy every day of our life, why don't we forgive one another. Our Lord's prayer said "forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. If God forgives you why not forgive others. How is he sure that the next person he will get married to will not do worse to him?

ped007:
I read her first story, and trust me dear...
She'll do it again 10times over. Just that she won't apologise again.

I believe that the fact that she opened up to her husband by herself shows that she is really sorry for the act. The man should try to forgive her for the sake of God and the children. As I said earlier if he really loves her he should forgive her. Before he married her, he knew the type of lady is was and went ahead to marry her. Also as i said before if he is doubting that the children are his or not, he can go for DNA test.

I sympathise with you on your current problem, but there is something I want you to understand something . If your husband really love you, he will forgive you. My reason for saying this is that before he married you, he knew you and decided to marry you and also it is for better for worse. The fact that you opened up to him despite not catching you in the act showed that you really love him and you are sorry for the act. Biblically, it is written that whoever divorces his wife is to remain single and also the wife is to remain single. If he is doubting the fatherhood of those children, he can confirm it by going for a DNA test. If it proves that the children really are from his sperm, he should forgive you. You on your own have to promise him not to make such a drastic mistake again. Invite family members to plead on your behalf and let him see sense in knowing that it us out of the love you have for him that you opened up to him. Please don't loose hope, God is your strength.

Take it easy on her please.

clemz85:
Yes, I figure it
It was as if I was too much vocabularies so I cut some slack on that

I believe that the girl in question might be the shy type or does not want to disgrace herself due to her communication skills.

Whether he is under any family pressure or not, how can you marry a person you don't really know? Even if he is a friend as he said, it is not enough reason to marry him. He might be using the pressure story as a way to date you and probably get what he wants which is the taste of you. Think twice before taking ant drastic decision.