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I am sorry to say this but you are the cause of your problem. She told you already that she has a guy which she intended to get married to even before you started dating her. What do you expect her to do? From what I read you guys are in school, so see it as one of those things you must pass in life.

taurusdude0:
this one dey bring father Christmas come this talk. Christmas has been celebrated years before Santa Claus or ur father Christmas. There are different stories about Santa his own is to give gift to less privilege kids. It's part of the society not the church.

If it is part of the society who introduced it to the society and why do churches have one during their carol nights. Why is he an important factor of that day that without him, the day is not complete.

chigoziri2403:
The man will be like wife pls dont die, if I ever touch you again , let me kpai
BTW, he should keep a crate of malt handy, just in case he decides to beat her again

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Sunnycliff:
Mark 15:37 And Jesus cried with a loud voice, and gave up the ghost. 15:42 And now when the even was come, because it was the preparation, that is, the day before the sabbath,

The day before the Sabbath Sir

Count from that day (Friday) 72 hours or 3 days and 3 nights

Sunnycliff:
Matthew 28:1 In the end of the sabbath, as it began to dawn toward the first day of the week, came Mary Magdalene and the other Mary to see the sepulchre. 28:2 And, behold, there was a great earthquake: for the angel of the Lord descended from heaven, and came and rolled back the stone from the door, and sat upon it.

I know of this but which day did Christ die on the cross to resurrect on Sunday

Sunnycliff:
We worship on Sunday because it is the day our Lord Jesus Christ broke the bounds of death and resurrected. His resurrection is the reason we have power over all religions and can conquer sin nd the devil.

His resurrection is of more significance than hi birth

Which day did Christ die on the cross, according to your teachings he died on Friday which make you celebrate Good Friday. But He said that as Jonah spent 3 days and 3 nights in the belly of the fish, so He the Son of man will spend 3 days and 3 nights in the grave after which He will rise again. So do your calculations well.

mgbadadike:
Jesus Christ wasn't born on the 25th of December, but 25th December was chosen to celebrate the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ.

So what's wrong with it?

Everything is wrong with it. Who chose that date as the date to celebrate the birth of Christ. What is their evidence or proof backing such a day. What is the relationship between Father Christmas and the celebration of the birth of Christ? If you don't know make enquiries.

The girl in question must either be a child or behaving as one. How can a boy who you claim you love and loves you treat you like this and you allow it? A boy that will leave you tomorrow for another girl, a boy that has not paid your bride price ordering you to cut your hair and still say you are beautiful. He must be very wicked. How will he react if a boy does such a thing to his sister or daughter?

Sorry to say this but your wife is very wicked and I like the way you called her to action. What does she mean by "the house help doesn't need clothes, because you feed her and train her in school ". This is the type of woman that will take your children and the maid out, buy things for your children and nothing for her. She has forgotten that she is maltreating another man's child and should not complain when her's is also maltreated. What you have to do now is instruct her to buy the clothes for her failing which you will buy them yourself.

From what I read here, I don't believe you did anything bad, you were only been kind to the ladies because they helped you walk due to your injury. Go to her place and pick up your car, avoid any form of confrontation or problems that might ensue, collect your keys from her and if you can't drive, take a friend with you who is licensed to drive and can actually drive.

In recent times the exposure of naked pictures has become a norm in the society. This is as a result of some girls sending their naked pictures and videos to their boyfriends or sugar-daddies for their pleasure without bearing in mind the repercussions of sending such pictures and videos. They forget that if the persons they sent it to is annoyed with them for one reason or the other, there is a tendency of the guys exposing the pictures or videos just to shame them. A friend of the persons they send it to may copy it with or without the consent of the guy and from him another friend may copy the same pictures or videos, before you know it your private pictures or videos become general to all friends of the friend of the guy and one of them may post it on the internet. Some ladies even without sending the pictures or videos of their naked bodies may have them saved in their phones, laptops or tablets for their personal pleasures. When this any of these devices get spoilt and they go for repairs, there is every tendency that the repair man may see those things, copy them to his own devices maybe for his own pleasure or even expose them on the internet. Here also a friend may copy this same thing and also spread it via whatsapp among his friends and one of them may expose the pictures or videos. A good example that can be seen is the recent Babcock University video that was exposed. If the video was not made in the first place, the girl will still be in school now. It was so recorded that the girl knew that the recording device was there. In her mind, the video was for her own pleasure and that of the young man as she knew that the device was there and recording; but it somehow found its way to the internet. From the video you must have noticed that the guys face was not shown, only his body was shown, which depicts that they must have agreed to make the video. One this is to be learnt from this; which is, never record your privacy on any device whether for your pleasure or to be sent out to anyone as it may end up been exposed.

It's not possible as if indeed it was my last money that I was about to put as offering, it's means that I will trekk home.

I forgot to add this very important line. Why should he be wanting to test your fertility when he knows that you are a virgin? Supposing tomorrow after testing the fertility and the marriage doesn't work, what happens next? Testing your fertility means impregnating you which is a norm among men of now a days. If you weren't a virgin, I would have supported him testing your fertility as girls now may have damaged their wombs from abortion or may have done much abortion that may affect their fertility.

My sister I understand what you are saying. Virginity is very vital and very much important, and I could deduce from your write up that you really love this guy and also that he had started the process of marriage. I will like you to plead with him to have a little more patience till after your wedding for him to break your flower. If he is the understanding type, he will wait and also be proud of you for keeping yourself clean till your wedding night.

To my little understanding, bride price is still very important and encouraged because that is the only thing that shows that a man has given out his daughter in marriage. The only problem with it is that some parents will like to be like Dangote from bride price and after collecting a huge amount of money, if there is problem in the future, they will not be able to pay back. When my junior sister was getting married, my father told our in-laws that the bride price (Money) is #10,000 which they brought. Out of it he took only #1,000 and returned back the remaining #9,000 telling them that if by tomorrow they mess up or do anything bad to my sister, that any body among us can afford #1,000 to return back to him and take back our daughter. So in the case where for instance he took #1,000,000 as bride price and tomorrow they mess up, how will he pay them back?

Advice your friend to go for another round of test to confirm the first one she did and when confirmed should start treatment immediately. Even if the so called boyfriend who stole her pride is infected, he will deny it.

My brother I don't know what else to tell you as many people have written to you, giving you advice. The only thing I will say is that you deserve better than her and not to allow her to continue being a burden to you.

SeunDobo:
Thank you bro

You are very much welcome.

My sister any guy that hits his girl whether jokingly or not is not suppose to be with that girl. You said that he hits you for every slitest thing and even in front of your course mates. I believe he is very temperamental and also must have seen where boyfriends hit their girlfriends and go free. My advice to you is to tell him that the next time he will hit you, you will leave him.

My brother I am sorry but you are a kid and acting as one. How can a girl you claim you love and loves you be treating you like this and you still have the time to type it and send it here for advice. What type of advice do you want from us that will make you see the handwriting on the wall, I don't know what to tell you than saying you should leave her alone and move on.

Why should your girlfriend wash your clothes, is she your maid or your wife? From washing of clothes she will cook for you from there she will carry out duties of a married man's wife. She is been sincere with you and do not wish to tell you lies. You said in your last paragraph that you love her and will wish to marry her. How am I sure that you are been sincere with your thoughts of marrying her, after all you said it before to your ex but didn't marry her instead you dumped her when you were tired of her. You need to be wise and not expect your girlfriend to do your chores for you in the name of love and relationship.

My brother I have a question for you, what is your main intention for staying with the girl? Are you interested in marrying her and making her your wife, or are you just looking to date her so as to steal her pride. If you really love her and will marry her, tell her not to consider her ex rather considering you. If on the other hand you want her only for dating and at the end stealing her pride, then she shouldn't consider either of you. My reason for saying this is that I am very sure that the ex boyfriends are all interested in her because she is still a virgin and will love to be the person to steal her pride.

My question to you is that why will you use charm called MAGUN on your girlfriend, is she your wife? Even if she is cheating on you, what you have to do is let her know you don't like it and if she continues then let her go. You have no right what so ever to do that as it is very wrong in all standards. Put yourself in the shoe of her brother or family members how will you feel if someone uses such on your sister or daughter? Think twice before you act so as not to cry "had I known" tomorrow.

Nna from this your long narrative I didn't see where you said you love the girl and will like to marry her and also help in changing her life style. The girl in question really loves you and despite you not returning the love, she abides by your house rules and regulations. Now you want to throw her out of your house because your friends told you to do so. Talking about not knowing her background, have you discussed it with her, because I know that if you have discussed it with her she would have told you about it. She might even going to the extent of taking you to her place. Since you have made up your mind to throw her out of your house, I don't know what you want from us anymore, so go ahead.

If this is true, it shows that maybe his reason for doing that was to be free from any form of STD.

What other proof do you need to show you that she doesn't like how your relationship with her is going? She even told the other guy that you are crazy. My advice to you is that you should continue investing in your future and when you are done you will find a better person to spend the rest of your life with.

My brother I feel your pain and also understand where you are coming from. What I can tell you is that since she told you the truth and not withholding anything, try to forgive her. She also promised that it was first and last so don't end it this way, pardon her and give her another chance. The guy in question is a youth corper to be and I know he will meet many girls there. Tell her that you will not tolerate such next time. You said you are about to engage her. If you are really serious about it, give it a little more time and see if she is what you really want as a life partner.

My brother listen to me and listen good. You will not risk your life and safety over a girl that is not yet your wife. It is not compulsory that you will make it in Abuja even if you go there. My advice to you is simple; since she has broken up with you over this matter, stay back in Lagos and continue trying your best. I am sure you will make it.