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cococandy:
So he refused to go to the hospital with her for years and then he wasn’t having sex with her at the time frame that she got pregnant?
It seems like he already knew the truth but just wanted to carry in like nothing was happening.

Which begs the question why he hurt himself over something he already knew

crackkhaus:
Let's start again, I'll number it this time so you don't confuse yourself.

1. A wife who has refused to apologize, is she displaying MATURITY?

2. When such a wife refuses to apologize even though she is in the wrong, what should her husband do?

All that meandering story about how they have to meet halfway, or they have to find a way to resolve the issue, is much too abstract for my very realistic senses.

3. How should she be handled exactly?
Should she be begged to apologize, or should the apology be forgotten and everyone moves on?

Na simple queshons...

nautybride:
Well said. Probably the reason they are sending her packing. Human rights office will do her justice to a certain extent.

Sinzuko135:
It has been a thing of worry to me that wife insists on having four kids, but it didn't go well with me... Initially we concluded on having two, all of a sudden she change it.......
Pls what is the best way to resolve this cause I actually have reasons for what I say.... Wouldn't want this to bring a problem between I and my wife.

Thanks

Paul8000:
Yes I have hurt my wife a lot in the past ... I have cheated on her so many times with 3 different women.... I impregnated one of them ... my son is 6 years old... I sincerely apologised to her and promised that I will never cheats on her again... she has forgiven me ... that was 6 years ago and I haven’t cheated don her since. All these misunderstandings we are having has nothing to do with me cheating.... my main problem is the way she has turned the kids against me ... anytime we are having some issues ... she keep malice with me and will tell the kids to do the same thing... and when things get back to normal again... she will tell them to start talking with me...

DonDemu:
Busted!
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adontcare:
Go to fida

DesChyko:
I remember when my team took on an opposition in a debate on this matter. We were to support 'demonic initiation is more effective than that of christianity.
They couldn't believe what hit them.

Rozz:
The primary responsibility of an envagelist is to preach God's words, telling people simply and clearly what God says about his messengers and what He has done for us all. It is the duty of an envangelist to deliver God's message and be faithful to every word.

However it is a difficult task for single ladies who have passion for evangelism. Most of the opposite sex do not really have interest in your message but romance and believe me some can go to any length for this.

No doubt I have passion for evangelism but my pastor has advised me against it as it brings everything controversial for all the moves I have made towards it, even online is not left out.

Pastors in the house, do you think I should give up this passion? Am I going against God's passion in me if I stop?

Acidosis:
Sis, do you know a statement like "you're m.a.d" can cause two sets of reactions: provocation and laughter?


That's my point.

Ishilove:
Good points raised

crackkhaus:
Lol, good one Buka


Meanwhile, someone is baiting you with her alternate, yes that same person.

Acidosis:
I pity you. There are better ways to correct a spouse than telling them they've got mouth or body odour. You're probably a kid with no form of relationship whatsoever.

Words are powerful. Saying one's mind unintelligently ultimately kills ego, self-esteem, and relationships.

genq:
I don't joke with fitness - Fitness to a man is like beauty to a woman. It's an asset you must maintain at all costs! It determines how you are perceived and speaks volumes of your discipline and self-control.

Just read OP's previous threads, clearly someone who has no love for himself, allowed his family take advantage of him and ruin his marriage. Now he's outchea getting fatter and fatter! What a twaat!

Say no to effeminate men

zukky79:
From your writeup, it is clear that you are married to your TV.

Your TV done replace your wife.

Divorce your TV and marry your wife and enjoy your marriage.

deleSayo:
Our marriage has always had issues from the beginning (as you can see in my previous threads) but we passed it off as normal marital issues which we eventually resolved (or so i thought).

Just when i thought things had began to improve between us, i noticed my wife is no longer interested in sex with me and counting now, it's been 6 months since we had anything to do with each other intimately. I tried to joke around about it just to find out her reasons and she joked back with me saying that for the past 6 years she's known me, i haven't changed from these habits:

1. spending all night in front if the tv, sometimes till 3am in the morning and when i eventually come to bed, i snore so bad and this made her go buy earplugs to help her cope with it. when she said this, i felt so offended that i began to sleep in the guest room and she never apologised or begged me to come back to our matrimonial bed (for 3 weeks now)
2. she always complains that i eat too much and my weight has skyrocketed within the past couple of years. and that my late nights in front of tv means im snacking throughout the night . yes this is true to be fair but the truth is that ive ballooned so much in size that i now lack motivation to do anything about it .
3. she has also complained about my breath to the point that she purchased tongue brush for me which i refuse to use as i find it quite rude that she would say such to me.

The only time we spend together as a couple is when she comes to join me in front of the tv after work. Then by 9pm she's off to bathe our son and put him to bed, from there she's goes to sleep, leaving me alone to watch tv into late hours of the night/morning.

I know for a fact that my wife isnt cheating and apart from sex we have a good friendship. but my problem with her is that her overt and covert behaviour towards sex shows someone who is irritated by me and that makes me feel quite offended.

biz2get:
A lady below 30 CAN NOT understand this line....

they think excitement/free hand is love , but that is when they will get heart broken.

onyekabe:
In this period of lockdown, slot of people do not have money to buy food and there being locked down. My question is is it not better for a man to steal in other to feed himself and family, than to die of hunger and starvation

Omeku:
Thanks to all of you. I appreciate so much. Never believed that through reading of some responses I will get better. You guys made me better and with prayer God will see us through. U guys are the best. You have really helped me in one way or the other. As for my maid,have decided to take her to my mom so to help her finish her education,cos she has nobody to train her. Thank you all and God bless.

andyanders:
Madam, you're welcomed. I'm glad you've even forgiven the girl you expressed that you see or took her as a daughter. This goes to show a kind heart you have and may God Almighty help you to overcome this storm. For the girl, do call and counsel her from time to time never to try such, even outside your home. Devil wants to destroy your peaceful home.Since your husband was remorseful for his action and pleaded for mercy, in your closset, both of you should hold hands together and call unto God for the restoration of his manhood. Nothing Jesus cannot do and he should avoid sugar or eatables that contain sugar. Bitter colar from time to time. God bless your home.

crackkhaus:
You're enjoying this...

Continue

Gigin:
Okay, I will. Thank you.

Mariangeles:
1. How is she his "woman"?
Has he married her?

2.Investing your resources in uncertainties is not a wise thing to do

cococandy:
For sure. A one time or few times financial boost is not an issue (at least to me). But the continuous dependence and more so not on his money is what’s worrying.

Olawaleyy036:
Fuji music legend, King Ayinde Wasiu aka KWAM1, has reacted to rumors of his alleged affair with one of the wives of the Alaafin of Oyo, Ajoke Adeyemi. Rumors have been rife online since yesterday April 15th that the wife of the 80-year-old monarch had been sent packing from the palace over her alleged affair with the music maestro.

In a statement released this afternoon, KWAM1 said the allegation is a lie concocted from the pit of hell. He opined that those behind the allegation were only bitter that the monarch conferred a reverred chieftaincy title on him a while back. He hinted he will be seeking legal redress

Read his statement below:

The attention of Fuji Maestro and Mayegun of Yorubaland, Alhaji Wasiu Ayinde Marshal, K1 De Ultimate, has been drawn to the rumour making the rounds in the past 48 hours, on social media platforms, where it has been alleged that the music icon was having an affair with Olori Ajoke, one of the wives of Alayeluwa, the Alaafin of Oyo, His Imperial Majesty, Oba Lamidi Adeyemi 111.
Ordinarily, one would have waved off this allegation as one coming from the warped mind of one possibly numbed by high covid-19 fever.
But as known in these parts, a lie repeatedly told, has a way of transmuting to truth.

Let me categorically state that the rumour is lies concocted from the pit of hell by those whose aim is to drag to the mud, the name of K1 De Ultimate and ultimately that of the most revered kingdom in Yoruba land.

These agents of Lucifer have continued in their warped delusions to see K1 go to the ground just for being conferred with the title of Mayegun of Yoruba land. The Alaafin's crime is the conferment of the honour, hence the grim plot to drag him down also. Moreover, the higly respected Monarch and his Olori have both debunked the story as baseless and unfounded.

For the records, as the Mayegun of Yorubaland, K1 is aware of the customs and traditions of the Yoruba and as such, can not put the culture and tradition of the Yorubaland to disrepute.

Let me remind the rumour mongers that Nigeria has adequate laws to bring anyone who has embarked on character assassination of the innocent to book. The fans and the general public should be rest assured that we will legally seek redress for this allegation.

Signed;
Kunle Rasheed,
Media Adviser

https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2020/4/fuji-music-legend-kwam1-vehemently-denies-alleged-affair-with-the-alaafin-of-oyos-wife-seeks-legal-redress.html

babythug:
You’re quite open minded and “liberal” in your approach to this thing. I am happy that more and more people are coming to terms with the fact that life doesn’t have to end because a spouse (male ot female) has cheated. It is worthy to note though that the African society is hardly forgiving of adultery or straying in a relationship. Even a widow many times is expected to remain chaste in memory of her dead husband “shudders”

2mercy:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/top-news/388180-vulgar-tweet-nigerian-editor-sacked-after-criticising-kaduna-first-lady.html

crackkhaus:
Something is wrong with you