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ImaIma1:
People like Kuns84 and my dear Toks2008 will devise and develop a good plot on how the woman is to blame or they will avoid the thread completely. Because they can't afford to fault a man for anything.

It's probably her fault that he is marrying a new wife.

It's his right to marry a wife with her money because she has to understand his sexual weakness and go along with whatever he wishes

Shots fired!!

.**runs out of thread

Come back here! Don't run! You just told them the bitter truth... Hypocrites

noble2faith:
Hahaha.. y did u ask?

It is because of the way you were analyzing like you know them in person.

noble2faith:
Babygirl. Don't get it twisted! The culprit is already condemned so no need of blaming him.

The girl is being given her own dosage. She knew the boy was into such atrocious and dubious act yet she was in relationship with him. I want to correct the bolded in your comment. She wasn't with him because she trusted him. It was because of the material gains she was earning that made her to be with him even though she knew what he was into.

Do you know her in person?

uniqueboi1:
Problem

Some girls no dae hear word sha.
Infact every Nigerian girl I know must fall for bread.
Flash a few bands and they turn your slave automatically.

Is that all you have to say? You have no word for the bloody Murderer! Even in death you still blame the victim because she is a woman... make we fear God o!

psyco:
does this includes paid agents, trolls and bots?

If you feel he/she has violated any of the forum rule, do well to click the 'report' option!

GIANTPLUSHUB:
Mheen! These vagina people won't cease shocking us.

Is the father inlaw not a blokos person? Lol!

ebuka10box:
Been reading some comments on this platform and I can tell u I get scared anytime I think of marriage or falling into a relationship . What really happened to our girls?
I'm not tryna sound like a holy person or I dont enjoy being crazy at times but there are times in your life you need to tell yourself the truth and act a lil decent. If you are familiar with most of these new live video chat applications, you will be marveled at the rate Nigerian ladies show off their body to the world . like I earlier said , I'm not a holy person but it beats my imagination that some of these ladies have serious dates,some are engaged, some are mothers and some are willing to get married in the future. the crazy truth these ladies dont understand is 85 percent of guys that wanna get crazy with you and spend on you wont want to spend the rest of their life with u. I was a live chat earlier this week ,a lady between the age range of 25 - 28 was just saying all sorts of crazy stuff and flaunting her body. Is it money that pushes them to do all this stuff on social media .
Here in Abu dhabi,70 percent of Nigerian ladies engage in prostitution, u really need to hear what my colleague( Afghanistan ) feels about our ladies. I asked one sex worker if she doesn't want to get a job here she was like she makes the money the company pays in a month in a week. This lady in question has a guy in Nigeria oooo. I came to the final conclusion that I ain't searching for a Nigerian to date over here.
entitlement mentality is crazy especially when our women make it sound like they are supposed to be provided with everything and live like its heaven on earth. Women build houses,women buy cars, women own companies too. It's not only a man's world when it comes in term of spending. I cant say what happened to our girls but our mothers were very hardworking, supportive,loving and understanding and sincerely my mum made see life from a positive angle that ladies can also make it big. Our mothers never advertised boobs they never had Facebook,Twitter or video chat apps but they always Carried a trademark of decency.
Please ladies money is important (very) but dont make it seem like your life revolves around it. I could remember a movie (acrimony ), 80 percent of our ladies wont go through what that lady went through. love is not only enjoyment, love is tough ,love is enduring, love is pain in addition.... please our ladies make una try abeg...

Also come to Nigeria and see a lot of boys roaming on the streets with nothing meaningful doing but drugs and internet fraud.They go about with dread locks and sagged dirty looking jeans. Whose daughters and sisters is going to marry them? Don't make it look like the world problem centre's on Nigerian girls! The society as a whole should look within. It is a family and communal problem!

ebuka10box:
Been reading some comments on this platform and I can tell u I get scared anytime I think of marriage or falling into a relationship . What really happened to our girls?
I'm not tryna sound like a holy person or I dont enjoy being crazy at times but there are times in your life you need to tell yourself the truth and act a lil decent. If you are familiar with most of these new live video chat applications, you will be marveled at the rate Nigerian ladies show off their body to the world . like I earlier said , I'm not a holy person but it beats my imagination that some of these ladies have serious dates,some are engaged, some are mothers and some are willing to get married in the future. the crazy truth these ladies dont understand is 85 percent of guys that wanna get crazy with you and spend on you wont want to spend the rest of their life with u. I was a live chat earlier this week ,a lady between the age range of 25 - 28 was just saying all sorts of crazy stuff and flaunting her body. Is it money that pushes them to do all this stuff on social media .
Here in Abu dhabi,70 percent of Nigerian ladies engage in prostitution, u really need to hear what my colleague( Afghanistan ) feels about our ladies. I asked one sex worker if she doesn't want to get a job here she was like she makes the money the company pays in a month in a week. This lady in question has a guy in Nigeria oooo. I came to the final conclusion that I ain't searching for a Nigerian to date over here.
entitlement mentality is crazy especially when our women make it sound like they are supposed to be provided with everything and live like its heaven on earth. Women build houses,women buy cars, women own companies too. It's not only a man's world when it comes in term of spending. I cant say what happened to our girls but our mothers were very hardworking, supportive,loving and understanding and sincerely my mum made see life from a positive angle that ladies can also make it big. Our mothers never advertised boobs they never had Facebook,Twitter or video chat apps but they always Carried a trademark of decency.
Please ladies money is important (very) but dont make it seem like your life revolves around it. I could remember a movie (acrimony ), 80 percent of our ladies wont go through what that lady went through. love is not only enjoyment, love is tough ,love is enduring, love is pain in addition.... please our ladies make una try abeg...

Is it only the girl child that should prepare themselves for marriage? What about drug abusers, yahoo guys and miscreant? Are they going to be eunuchs? Who will marry them... It is the same girls and ladies in your households that would fall victims to them in marriage! It takes both a husband and a wife to make a marriage work! Our society concentrates on building the girl child for marriage, forgetting that if their sons are not being properly brought up, their daughters will be at the mercy of a useless boy in the name of 'husband'! We have heard enough of this girl child issue already!

Canadianelenu:
Recently, the increase in armed robberies and banditry has become a disturbing trend in Nigeria. It is even more horrendous when the men of the underworld not only steal when they attack but will also rape any unfortunate female caught in the invasion. My wife and I were watching a real life crime documentary one evening and in the documentary, a lady was shot and killed after resisting rape advances from 6 men who invaded her residence.
Fortunately, the criminals were later caught using forensic evidence and paraded by law enforcement. These men were tough looking strongly built men who no doubts would have torn the lady apart if they had succeeded in raping her.

However, the shocker was when my wife of 4 years said, and I quote “she just died for nothing and has caused her family a lot of grief...if it were me, I would just let them have their way and live to see another day”. Although this sounded very right, it also sounded very wrong at the same time and has since been messing with my head as I cannot get the picture out of my mind. We could both see that they were 6 hefty men and yet she felt she should have................ladies, am I over reacting and men, what do you think? How can something feel so right and so wrong simultaneously??

What are you saying? Would you have preferred your wife dead?

psyco:
I don't know why he always bother us his existence. Who cares if he's intersex? Can't you stay on reddit with like minded fellow?

Nairaland is a public forum! You've got no right to tell her where to be! Neither is Nairaland made for you alone... stop the bully!

thebosstrevor1:
THAT PERSON WAS BORN A MAN THEN TURN INTO A WOMAN.

IF YOU DON'T MENSTRUATE AND YOU DON'T HAVE A VAGINA, YOU ARE A MAN

You will get sympathy from "boys" here who wish to have sex with you because in reality they pursue anything that moves in skirt. No wonder they are all giving you praise.

What if she has got ovaries? She didn't create herself... the fact that you are different from her isn't your making!

femi4:
No Taaooma appears as Mama Taaoo and Taaooma,

... And as Kunle, Tayo all of the above!

Boko haram in Christiandom. But their Muslim counterparts are given Presidential pardon and VIP treatments when caught. Hmmm!

ADEMALAIKA2:
Good evening all.

I just opened this thread to seek for opinion of what have been bothering my mind .

No1 .I have a baby mama staying with me for the past 6 years .We have been together for long and we live peacefully but on some occasions ,she gets on my nerve and I am the type that forgive easily couple with the fact that I love her .We ain't married yet because anytime she offends me ,it really hurt me and I keep punishing her by extending when we are going to make the coexistence official .I have a boy who is close to 3 years .

I am working as a salary earner but not getting enough pay as salary .Today ,I went to her shop .I needed #8,000 to be sent to her account to make some online payment because my ATM was not with me. I have the money as cash and my wife was to help me pay the money into her account so that I can use her card (Note that i call her wife and i do that anywhere even on social media ).My wife supposed to go to the next POS shop to pay the money into her account but she paid in #5,000 .She actually have money in her account to balance up my #8,000 but what surprised me is that when I tried to check how much she paid into her account ,I discovered a man (igbo by name ) sent #4,000 to her of recent and she still have the money in her account .I mentioned igbo because our families are not even related to igbo tribe .When I tried to hold to her phone very well ,she started dragging the phone with me .With this ,I know something was not right I just kept quiet Even till now ,I did not say anything (very unusual of me ).I later went out .I just came in now about to sleep.I rejected her dinner just now. .

No2.

I noticed for over three months now ,she have been so expert in kissing .Things we were not good at before but I didnt even raise an eyebrow about that though till now .I thought she learnt that through telemundo or whatever .I work in lagos and we live in lagos .Though sometimes,I may decide to spend 2 or 3 days at work but most times I come home everyday .

My point is that my landlord gave me 3-month quit notice and I am planning to relocate before April ending .I am thinking of not taking her along .My son is on holiday with my wife mother .I hope I will not be making a grievous mistake packing my things and leaving her behind to go back to her parent house .Anytime she offends me ,I feel so hurt and betrayed .This is someone I am owing a lot of people some money because I needed to get a shop for her and all my salary since I know her have always been spent on her and my son.Sometimes ,I send money to her relatives though I have stopped that anyway.

I plan to leave her behind and keep sending to her to take care of my son.I plan to only pick some essential items in the mini flat we presently leave .

I only want to start afresh.

Is it that you can not have a 'heart to heart talk' with her? It appears you are no longer attracted to her reason why you are letting grudges linger. Bringing your relationship challenges to Nairaland will only cause you more heartache!
If you doubt me, wait and see how they will call your baby mama all sorts of names.

atiku4President:
You are going too far. Most Nigerians, especially our youth lack basic moral and social knowledge. Such group of people talk anyhow and show no sympathy for people's feelings. You may put the blame on inadequate home training, systemic failure and the general lack of moral and societal values.

Well put!

Midas01:
What beats my imagination is that this gender is on NL every minute berating, deriding and calling women useless but will stop at nothing to insert their d!!cks into a female cockroach if given the opportunity.

Old men raping adolescents, grandsons raping their very own grandmothers, father's raping their daughters..It's just endless.

Heck, one even used scissors to cut the vagina of his 4 year old daughter for easier penetration.

This same gender is responsible for 99% of the murder and violent crime of earth yet they feel women are their problem.

God forbid.

God forbid my dear! They are many here on Nairaland... they are jumping from one thread to the other looking for every opportunity to abuse the female gender, forgetting that a woman birth them. If you look closely, you will see misery oozing from them. Hypocritical sets of beings!

BlackMamba69:
Notable mention: Peter (Psquare)
Peter went ahead and married a woman that his late mother didn't approve off (Lola) and this eventually led to him becoming ostracized from his blood brothers at the expense of breaking up a very lucrative musical duo -Psquare.
As a result of this, Peter will forever be stuck at the mercy of his wife - he must remain loyal and subservient to her and she knows this, whatever shiit she gives him to chop he must chop it silently and still come out to praise his wife on social media in a desperate bid to hold on to his marriage irrespective of whatever hell he must be facing at home This is why you will often find Peter unceremoniously blowing his wife's trumpet on social media - empty barrels they say, make the loudest noise. Don't be surprised if the reality of their marriage is a sad miserable one which Peter desperately holds on to #smokesandmirrors.

Moral of the story: The worst mistake a man can make is to choose a woman over your own blood relatives. A woman can divorce you at anytime, a woman can cheat on you and even bring home bastards for you to raise and even if she doesn't do the above, the man will find that he has to work twice as hard to make sure his marriage doesn't collapse - if not, he will loose on both sides.

Cry me an ocean! Leave people to live their lives

Keep that child away from social media! When you have a social media freak as baby mama what do you expect? You will get social media freak as children!

moralistic:
you wouldn't have typed this if the guy was your brother.... secondly, odume never denied killing the guy....


if you were to be her lawyer, I see you misleading her



I know the law very well....

I see you are bringing emotions into the matter!
Did she go there with a machete? How did she locate a matchet in the guys house? But because she is a woman everyone will label her a prostitute! She wouldn't deny killing him if she actually did in self defence!
Only God knows the truth... May we not be victims of circumstances!

moralistic:
this mama is wasting her time... as far the law is concerned, the guy was murdered... it was a clear murder case.... I foresee death sentence or life imprisonment ...no Matter the number of women that will come out to castigate the dead guy, it won't stop odume from life imprisonment or from getting her death sentence. honestly I feel for her and her family... but the law still remains the law....irrespective of whatever, this is a clear murder case


Na ashawo business carry her reach the guy house, the guy do finish he no wan pay, and she killed him.

simple and short

Judge Judy! Like you were there with them

Kriss216:


LIFE IS LIKE A PARTY, WHEN YOU STOP HAVING FUN, LEAVE.

False! Go to hospitals and see critically I'll people struggling to live... they will do everything just to continue living!
6 years ago, I had a medical Condition. With two major surgeries in a space of 2 weeks, and a newborn I was blessed with 2 days to my birthday. I had just concluded a masters degree a few months back... all hope was lost. The hospitals were on strike, blood banks had few reserves because of the strike. But with each excruciating pain I felt on my sick bed, I knew I needed to live. Not just for my self , but for my new born son, aged parents and darling husband. I couldn't bear to have my son grow up without me!
I am not here to judge the deceased, but to let other depressed people know that living is not just about oneself! If you love your loved ones, you won't want to cause them pain and let them live with the stigma of being labeled a 'family of a suicide victim'. This is Africa! Such stigmas never fade!
Love and light to all depressed soul!

Naajjii:
Why dont you also state if non-northern muslims tried it like Kukah, you ommitted the muslims ? That is the cux of the matter, the bishop is using the opportunity of the govt's failure to attack muslims, let him just come out fully and attack muslims he shouldnt hide under the guise of criticizing Buhari to attack muslims.

Can you quote where he attacked Muslims?