₦airaland Forum

Mariangeles:
We are Africans. Let us be honest with ourselves.

A man going alone to visit his would-be mother in-law empty handed is a red flag. Something to worry about.
What was the purpose of the visit?
Even as a female, it is still wrong to go visit the mother of the man you're going to marry empty handed.

Even #250 bread, the Bobo no fit buy!
Their hate for women on this forum won't make them see reasons.

DEMZEE:
It's a sin but how many of our ladies are heeding to the advice

Virginity is scarce in the land

Poverty breeds hoes and we have too much poverty in the land

Like the ladies are doing it with themselves... everyone should take responsibility for their actions! Every time ladies here and there...

zik4ever:
No. It is not! It is #445k for a start. I am a parent and paid last term. This one is not 'they said' or 'internet matter sir. I made the payment and have receipt. I repeat it's #445k and covers uniform, books, tuition, feeding and boarding etc for first term. It's same for all the campuses.

Did you pay 445k per section or term?

Marvellously2Me:
If she has been fighting on complete truth, she will have been able to gain sympathy and justice for starving the boy but she added sexual abuse and molestation which weren't part of it, you don't expect to throw such big accusations and expect the accused not to try every possible means to defend themselves.

Her accusations are ladened with, deception, lies and inconsistencies that was why the police ask her to keep her mouth shut until the end of the investigation.

How did you know that sexual abuse and molestation were not part of it?

Womanizer:
You people should face your own lives and leave this lady alone

Na fuçk she fuçk, she no kill person

Her fvck Don kill person o!

pyman11:
Pray God save us from the infidelity ladies of now a days

It takes two genders to commit infidelity... to think that the MD is also a married man!

Realtord43:
Men are scum are still swallowing men cum to get pregnant.

Talk about double standard.

they cant live without us

Cry baby! Cry!

Everyone who has struggled to keep their heads above the turbulent waters of 2020 is indeed 'man of the year'!

jaxxy:
He’s not a side dude he’s her boss and can use his leverage of money, power and influence on weak women. That was a married woman and he destroyed sm1’s marriage.

If he wanted to have kids with her why not ask her to officially divorce then do his thing? Why will he have an affair with his married staff and even impregnate her 2ce??

This is not a joke. He destroyed a man’s family and destroyed his life.

May God punish all bosses who use their position to intimidate married women! Even lecturers and HoDs tormenting people's daughters ... You will meet your waterloo soonest!

Pochettino:
Pretty wives don't guarantee fine kids.

Ugly wives don't guarantee faithfulness!

merits:
See the results of waiting for perfect man, they even told you to go and marry.aunty madam career woman my own advice for you just go and marry that man you think is not up to your standard before it's too late.



Once again I wish you quick recovery.

Why do we have so many 'cry babies' on Nairaland?

Hello house, please anyone with an idea of the cost of an Amazon fire tablet 7inches screen?

Hello house, please anyone with an idea of the cost of an Amazon fire tablet 7inches screen?

olurili:
on field I drive like vin diesel, but on road na another story,come see sweat for my body,because I want drive

Guy driving na. Mind!

Juliusmalema:
Trash...

But you will take the 6 year old year child on evangelism and that one is not child abuse..

Please stop it! It is simply child labor and abuse...however you see it, it is still child abuse? He is too young!!!

kingreign:
Cry toy!

Yada Yada Yada!

It yaf do!
Our men are becoming "woman wrapper". Too talkative! Quarreling with a woman online... haba!

White soup and pounded yam

Pounded yam and white soup for brunch.

Jogunomi1:
There is almost nothing a woman can do to get back at me. If you don't cook, we have plenty restaurants. If you don't give sex, I have answer to that.

So, my wife found out my daughter is my mumu button. Once she's angry, she would start denying my toddler daughter attention. If my daughter cries, she would let her cry very well in my presence knowing that I can't stand my daughter's cry. I know it's a game, and I would leave the house for her so as not to see my daughter crying.

I fear who no fear women.

Can't you resolve issues with your wife? You want some little boys who can't even wash their boxers clean to start abusing her here?

Freshbank:
Please moderator push it to front page

This is my first post and I'm writing from the comfort of my lodge celebrating my honeymoon but I'm not very happy. I truly want to know others opinion on the issue causing my unhappiness ( please for those of you who would say brought my marriage issues to the public, just try to be civil, I said I want to get your opinion if it where to be you how will you handle it).

Straight to the subject matter I just got married less than a week, the entire marriage plan was drawn by my spouse and I we both agreed on what to spend and how to go about it, during the whole planning process my wify was super supportive (I have to acknowledge her before I throw in the complain). I trusted her judgements that I entrusted the execution of the marriage plans to and her families while I provide the funds, of which she was also covering some of the expenses I forget to cover. From caterers, mc, live band, renting of canopies, chairs, deco, make-up etc everything was left for her to handle since we were doing it in her home town the only service I brought someone to cover was the coverage (cameraman). I had to send the cameraman there the previous day before the event because she said she needed the cooking process to be covered and other stuffs before our arrival.

Fast forward to the main day, it was about 3:30 mins drive to her home, we (I and my kinsmen) arrived five minutes to 12pm it was during that time some chairs were carried in, the arrangement was not very organized, by 2pm MC was no where to be found, the couple's stage and the cake design was like the expression "what I ordered for vs what I got". In preparation she traveled to Onitsha to buy stuff including gift items but all the cars that accompanied me I didn't see anyone with any of the souvenirs. Some of you might want to think from the description that my wife is unexposed but this is someone that has lived and worked in the Emirates (UAE), being to Britain, Italy and some few others.

After the whole function when we got back I was very angry not because of the shabby execution of a well planned marriage but the facts the she thinks I should commend her for her efforts and stress she went through and not the opposite. The way I look at the issue is like you registered for a course with 50 points as benchmark then u score 15 and you're expecting a "part on the back" or songs of praise. I ain't perfect but I love excellence, my sadness lies in the facts that I don't want to start our home with discord at the same time i can't tolerate or live with this kind of argument. The argument is that she claims it wasn't her fault, the people she designated could not meet up to expectations but every of the plans were drawn by just two of us only. Imaging spending so much to get very little outcome.

If you're in this situation what will you do? Thanks

You would have paid a wedding planner to lift that worry over your shoulder. Planning and executing a wedding single handedly is no childs play... the wedding has come and gone, focus on your marriage now! I never gave a second thought to people's complaints after my wedding, I didn't want them to spoil my joy abeg. They never contributed a dime to it, why should I worry unnecessarily over them at the detriment of my joy? Mba! Eno reach abeg!

Don Jazzy come and Carry your Rihanna! This one na Nwafor!

Why do people come to a generalization over things they read or see on social media? Most people do these things just to trend. The real world is out there!

Nairaland has become a forum we're every Tom, Dick and Harry comes to bash women. If men will channel these energy to work on themselves, we will have a better society. Look inward people!

craigkoel1989:
Anytime my wife makes me angry I destroy things, the first day she made me angry I destroyed the television remote, another day was the dining table and yesterday I smashed her Android Samsung phone even though I later became remorse and bought her a new one.

I am afraid I might beat her one day.

What is wrong with me and what can i do to stop it?

Do you destroy things or beat up your boss at your place of work when provoked? If not, then you have no reason. To behave irrational at home when your wife provokes you! Desist from. Such barbaric act!

Marriage comes with different challenges madam. Maybe this is your own cross. Wait and see if he changes after you both completes your joint project. If he doesn't, then open a kids account and save up for your children's future. If he notices any changes in you, simply tell him you are saving up for your children's higher learning. At least he won't force you to make withdrawals from their account.

soundOsonic:
Did you read what you wrote. You want a man to love you not based on standards not based( how you look, what you do, what you say)
But you can only love a man based on if he reaches your required standard.
You cant expect someone to love you for who you are, and not love the person for who he is not based on any standard luv.
I have been indifferent concerning the bashing of women in this thread, from what I have seen so far both online and offline women might just be the most selfish and self centered gender. You

You have not been indifferent, you have not just got a perfect opportunity to bash them.
It is erroneous to come to a conclusion based on some comments you get online, most especially on a faceless forum like this. Most of them are not even females, nor ready for a serious commitment. There are amazing women out there ready to build a home with the right person!

CastingCrowns:
Change really is constant.. I recall those days when I couldn't stay a day without reading a book but nowadays just looking at one exhausts me.. I've also lost interest in watching movies, they annoy me immensely..

Let's share what we have lost interest in nowadays.

We are in the same boat. Family challenges, economic challenges etc. Just living in Nigeria alone is depressing itself! Things that have been of interest are suddenly seen as a waste of time.

Pierocash:
Where is the picture of the one that the head cut off.

Haba! You want to cook soup with it or what?

nitrogen:
You are a tool! I dont know why you decided to bring your elders into this. I am so sure you are guilty, reason you came out blazing with an AK47, better go and change your ways. Eeeedioootttt!

I swear if you try that sh1t again with me, I will curse your generation! Fuvktard!

Channel your curses and frustrations to those who made your life so bitter!
If you have regards for elders you won't come on a faceless forum to generalize and abuse women, forgetting that a woman birth you.
I see the struggles of women towards their family everyday... from the petty traders to professional women. It will be a disservice to their struggles if someone sits idle behind a keyboard and downplay their efforts and call them names because of his personal experience.

nitrogen:
Shut up abeg, yen yen yen yen.......

Loyalty is needed when you depend on a man to leave a gutter and impoverished lifestyle. You need to not worship but be loyal, make it work, stop growing wings overnight and doing the wrong thing.

Id1ot!

You must be living a miserable life to conclude that all Nigerian women depend on men... You need to change the class of women you mingle with, and also the enclave you live in. You also sound frustrated and bitter towards women. It goes to show that the women that brought you up did a terrible job. Kudos to all hardworking Nigerian women who have sacrificed all towards their family and loved ones!
If Nigerian women were to be terrible, then I am yet to see a Nigerian man who speaks ill about his mother or sisters.

JovialJune:
Lol I already have sons, I am and will continue to train them and teach them right on how to treat ladies well, regardless of where they are in future

Cheers.

Thanks for being a voice to Nigerian women! Nairaland is filled with misogynist... they believe women are the cause of their misfortune in life, but won't hesitate to chase them about at any given opportunity.

tubolancer:
Isolated building, a target for Fulani militia.

my thoughts exactly!