₦airaland Forum

dyttt:
praise the Lord

Yes all glory to His name.i will always ascribe all glory to God no matter the trend, westernization and sophistication people claim.most times when you learn the dark secrets sorrounding most of them you will be glad that God is your anchor.
no matter the mockery and sacarsim; i will proclaim, declare and shout it:God is my help in the face of challenges! The only one that can change the heart of a cheating husband!!! God is all i need to have all my needs met.i have never visited any jazz man.i am proud of my trust in God!!!

Dyt:
Yes
We must call out holy ghost fire to consume
They shall fall
They must die
In my deep voice
Die
Die
Fall down and die
Fire
Fire
Consume
I am starting a 21 day dry fasting

dont put the name of Holy Ghost in vain.
i have a real life story for you: He loved her so much, everyone knew it.some envied them, some despised them but the truth was that he loved her.they had seven children; 4 boys,3 girls.he took care of the family.they were all happy.it was crystal clear.
along the line trouble struck, thinking it's business as usual she handled it physically, all those feminine 'shakara' didn't help.it got worse.by now children are grown and took sides.home practically broke.he tore their marriage certificate, threw her things of their room and she moved to the children's section.he called it quits.asked her people to come and take her back.by then she realised the battle was spiritual.she was also old.her heart was broken.she couldn't fight again.her father was late, she had only a sister for her mother had no male child.she fended for herself.she suddenly realized it was spiritual.she started her prayers.( more curative than preventive).
Meanwhile he announced he wanted a wife.his children kicked against it but can you tell a man what to do in his house? his first son ( over 30 years of age) visited the patents of the bride to be and introduced himself.the lady suddenly opted out of the show of shame.he got angry , threathned his children and went ahead to take home a strange woman who shared his matrimonial bed with him.nobody said 'pim'.it's not all men you control.
She ran to God with her children.they prayef and prayed.oh yes they prayed and the strange woman woke up one morning packed her things and left.
He later fell sick, so sick, so so sick.the sickness took his life but beforr his exit, he sought her forgiveness.he begged and begged.she said she had forgiven.he askef her to keep talking to her even in the face of death.that little woman, held his hands , talked to him about Christ till he finally closed his eyes in death!
you do not have to believe me.if she had done that preventive fasting and prayers, she wouldn't have suffered that much.it is much much better to pray than to visit jazz houses as most 'funky' women do these days.

alexistaiwo:
not surprised this is coming from a female

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am i wrong?

a house is just a structure to shelter you from rain, sunshine, intruders and all the likes.a home on the other hand is a place of refuge; filled with warmth, love, peace, joy and security which is usually precipitated by the prescence of a comely woman!

then her fear is his ability of transfering the affection to the child? and still not put her feelungs first? her mother has such a strong hold on her though it will ultimately bring her dishonour? then why wouldn't he fling her up , loosen her from the chain, free himself with the key and vamoose with her leaving behind the chain?
thought it was finance related though

how lovely

a girl child can start using a phone at any age but my reservation is that it's you that wants to buy the phone.oga abeg na, leave that child alone.what sort of like is that that sef?

op but why are they attacking you like this na?

last week and the babies are already sitting and this big? hmnnn.this lie sef!

her efforts cannot save them but his ; however his efforts are made potent by her.he us willing to save them if she empowers his effort but she is reluctant because of insecurity afterall she has nothing to loose as they will both go down if she refuses plus she fears he may not consider her after she empowers him.he desperately needs that empowerment for them both.
2 issues are here: her reluctance at empowering him and the uncertainity of his ultimate action when empowered.
hian! this is like going round in circles.

this is so do true.my mother is guilty of all.
i remember when my cousin from my mother's side was staying with us; then i was about 8 .after cooking she asked me to get the plates while sitting on the kitchen stool.i brought the plates asap and while still holding them i told her i had brought the plates instead of dropping them .she askef me to place them on her head which i did! oh my God! the woman pounced on me and the plates.ewo! i still remember the beating.i even had to remind her of that beating last year..

SAMBARRY:
Falls from bed


so pre marital sex is the reason why men have uncontrollable John Thomas and different homes every wherey

what won't I see on nl

this is a serious matter so don't fall from your bed let us reason and set things right for the sake of our children and the next generation.
1> You said our gutters are littered with thrown away babies? where are these babies from.they are products of fornication.how many married women throw away unwanted pregnancies.my mum's 7 th child was not planned for but they still had her and kept her.imagine if my mum wasn't married...
2>You said doctors are enriched with D&C.on few occasdions married women are medically advised to fo d&c for medical reasons but over 80% of abortions done are done by single girls who wouln't want to keep the child.if they regard fornication as sin and abstain from it they wouldn't even have any business with a doctor as regards abortion.
3> If all married men see adultary as sin, they will put their stuffs under subjection..and the need to have different homes will not arise.
what are we even talking about here.this thing is crystal clear.fornication and adultary( illicit sex) is a sin.it spreads diseases( STDs, HIV) , death( both physical and spiritual), it's the only reason a female will bear a child and throw it inside the gutter.it's the only reason why a man that would not marry two wives will still keep a second home!!!
** the examples i worked on are your words

SAMBARRY:
Yinmu. Continue deceiving yourself. How come doctors are now making a lot of money from d n c.how come we read of mothers dumping their infants on the streets in a religious and self righteous country like Nigeria

the people wey yash them na their husbands abi the married men wey dey yash single girls nko?


abi you no dey hear where married man dey impregnate another woman who is not his wife and come and give testimony in church

dearie, the fact that most people indulge in pre-marital sex does not make it right.God says not to do it.
the fact that most marrief men cheat on their families does not make it right.
as a matter of fact the reason why you see abortions is because adultary and fornication is 'normalized' and accepted.don't get it twisted; fornication is a sin against God and your body.

**To answer your question, doctors are making money via D&C because folks like you support and advocate for pre-marital sex.if we all go God's way, there will be no unwanted pregnancies but if we go your way, our gutters will be littered with unwanted babies, our husbands will have mutiple homes all over.

DollyParton1:
I am saying if tables were turned, I hope the husband would be praying also. And not kicking the wife out of the house.

ok.i get it now

DollyParton1:
Who mentioned anything about retaliation.

you did when you said "if the wife decides to steps out too" or did i get that wrong?

DollyParton1:
Lol.... your husband is cheating on you and you resort to depriving yourself of good night sleep and probably some delicious breakfast and lunch too. While the husband is having a good night sleep and probably enjoying delicious meals all over the town.

I hope he returns the favour when the wife decides to step out too.

it's all about choices.every one has the right to choose what to do in the face of such a challenge
if adultary is wrong, then the right thing to do is not to retaliate as two wrongs can never amount to a right. on the other hand, if you think adultary us right then you have every right to indulge even before hubby attempts it.it's all about values and choices.

thanks for the tips.i can't wait for midnight to come o.additional point:Father destroy any emotional attachment my husband has with any female that is not me AND let any plan any lady is having to get pregnant for my husband and/ or to steal her way into my home be broken to unconnectable pieces.amen

adopt a male child.get your husband to agree to it.make him see why polygamy is bad.it's not your fault dear, just try and convince him.( God help you)

ooo chi m oooo!

you contradicted yourself with point 6. marriage is done according to the obtainable cultures and tradition.if your tradition requires only gifts, cool.it it is free, cool.if it's on credit cool again.the most important thing is to contract a valid narriage cikena!

SAMBARRY:
This days what's right or wrong sin or holiness is relative. Some believe wearing of trousers is sin others believe it is not. Some believe sex before marriage is sin others believe it is not. There's no consensus of opinion concerning sex before marriage. Do what you think is right for you

no dear the scriptures stipulates that fornication is a sin.it's not a question of what you think or not, it's all about what the owner of the life you live said.He has said fornication is a sin.

sex before marriage is a sin.besides sex has nothing to do with fertility and compartibility in marriage.i know a babe that procured abortions10 times(according to her) but still had a child .i knew a family friend that got married at 18 as a virgin yet pikin no gree come.
leave the fivorce matter and sexual compartibility out of it. the question is why do folks marry.if you understand that marriage is giving and taking, loving and sharing; then you will accomodate the most rigid partner while the most rigid partner works very hard not only to please the other party but to loosen up abd enjoy the show as the fun in sex is the knoweldge that you are capable of blowing your partner to cloud 9 and back...

buzquet:
The best way to gt refund is to sell first born to Bahrain for slavery, the second for child tracking n collect good moni and the third for money ritual. dats d best way to revenge.

ewo! the way your mind works e!

Ddonoflife:
what of blessing in disguise

LOL.okay, blessing in disguise will do.

Ddonoflife:
1. You know where ur parents bleeped up and u will try to avoid it during ur marriage
2. You would not want ur kids to go through the kind of mental torture u and ur siblings went through as a result of a broken home
3.It makes you stronger and u can face. Any life situations.
4. You get to depend on ursef and not whining over little issues......dts all I cn tink of

the aforemrntioned are not blessings but lessons

nna ee! with the way some folks are going about gender issues these days i wonder what happens to the next generation.nobody has African family values again or are we all pretending?
A man goes out there and humps from one floxy to another, bringing home pain, heart break and disease or death!
A woman releases 5000 bombs from her mouth when her husband says 1! homes break everyday because the couples are not ready to compromise!
Who told you you can ever be equal with your husband?? haba! check am naw! our mothers excelled because knew their place---> under the man!
in every home someone has to pretend to be the fool.in most cases the onus rests on the woman! i'm tired of all these gender equality thrash..let the man be the best he can be, then the woman the best she can be.
husbands: love , care and provide for your wives
wives: submit to your husbands and every other thing falls into place.
May God help our family systems( amen)

it depends on the angle you are coming from.basically every ibo woman is an Ada( the umuada thing) but uf you mean being the first daughter in a home, hmnnnn! that is a baggage of responsibility.
Granted; you are pampered, you are sent to a good school( if your folks can afford it) every kobo spent on you is seen as an investnent or a show ( oh yes a show off) i remember my dad ( God bless his soul) telling a friend" ada m nwanyi nozikwa federal benin..." as in eee?
fastfoward to pay back time.you are expectef to excell in all you do, come out with good grades, get a good job with a heavy pay and fantastic confitions,marry early enough to a WEAKTHY man that must splash his wealth on the family...
e never finish o! when your younger ones misbehave, they report to you, when mumsie makes a mistake, na you dey go call, popsie commits, they call you, your brother's wife slips , na you dey go call BUT nobody will call and ask how you are doing o.the only person that will even ask is mum.you are expected to take care of yourself, your children and husband and still take care of your roots.and if any of your parents mistakenly drop daed, omo na one cow don commot for your body be that o.oh yes you are expected to burry each with at least a cow!
at least when you talk all man dey bend!
the list is long but this is what i know for most normal families.

like you i don't have friends.they keep on hurting and disappointing me.i stick out my neck for friends.i even over love.i strive to please.though i get irritated easily but i am a happy person, very playful.young at heart too yet people don't like me.on getting married i transfered all the love to my husband joor.wetin sef? now i no send.i don't even have the time again though i still wish i could have just 1 true friend.i believe she will come but God knows i'm not ready for disappointments and gossips again...
be yourself jare.friendship comes with a lot of baggages both good and bad...it requires a very large heart...

Rajjah:
I learnt somtin here. Some men can be very complex n filled with ego plus pride. I pray I dont get married to over complex man cos even me, m quick to anger especially wen som1 involve with me makes one mistake twice after correctn.

darling work on that anger as soon ad possible.amen to your prayers but bear in mind that no singld man can be your mr right as in no single man can meet all your requirements.so at the end of the day you are bound to choose the closest call..i pray you get the man that complements you best but a man with very low male ego is no good...they are the type that will want you to foot most of the bills if not all..in all you do remember that a wise woman keeps her home.remember to be submissive.work on that anger asap.God bless you and grant your wishes ...

looking at where i came from and whom i'm married to; i think the best secret to a happy home is know the man you are married to.not the one that proposed.the one that is your husband.try and learn his behavioral pattern.what does he like/ appriciate, what appeals to him, what puts him off, what does he like eating, when does he want his meald served and all...
you see men are complex; no two men are alike behaviorally so don't treat him the way your best friend treats her hubby. but generally, they appriciate any woman that respects and honours them.know your man, fit in to his pattern, accomodate him, creative and constructive criticisms please, massage his ego.call him my lord and he will melt like icr

i was once in despair .school dsys ofcourse.i wished for death,wasn't even bold enough to consider sucide...
Anyways reading this write up , i just realized that i really didn't want to die, i wanted the problems that plagued me to die and thing is; the issues died and here am i living life to the fullest...