₦airaland Forum

I feel so sorry for mama, she married that boy not knowing the full extent of the suffering she is going to face
I hope her relatives abroad will advice her to return back to the US and leave sammy in his suffer head life. Some of these boys think they are smart, they bring naive oyinbo women to Nigeria to suffer hoping the women will ask their relatives for money which the boy will collect and spend instead.


Sammy doesn't drink alcohol my ass, that's just an act to make this mama think that he is a morally upright person.

Op sounds so naive and empty headed

Hahahaha

Very immature and childish reasoning. He needs public opinion on whether he should marry two wives, no personal experience, no first hand knowledge of how such a complicated system works, just his fantasies
My favourite part is where he thinks educated ladies will not use charm or find ways to harm each other/each others kids.


Better respect yourself and stay your naive ass with only one woman.

okwadatigbogal:
Also, Nigerian men are not desirable! That's a fact. All these noise of Nigerian women and money is most times not factual. Many of you if you are sincere were trained by your mother's efforts not your father's. Many of you do even have any money to begin with, bunch of brokeasses with very fragile egos, making noise up and down. MANY Nigerian women provide for themselves! Fact

Above all, stop disturbing our ears and eyes. Marry who you want, none cares. All I see here is men who suffer from a lot of self hate and self loathe. Your mothers, sisters are 'Useless Nigerian women' too!

QED

Wow, I really love the bold part of your post.

They are arrogant people that don't have any idea how to live in peace and love with their wives, too egotistical, easily offended and sensing disrespect in innocuous actions their wives take, wicked and selfish lot. the only thing many Nigerian women have to gain in marriages is the money their husbands are supposed to give them and now they have started crying that they cannot provide.

Lol
Nigerian men want submissive mumu zombies as wives.
Women that will forgive their excesses like infidelity or just plain nasty, rude behavior to their wives.

So they run home after getting abroad Visa because women abroad or so called akatas refuse to be disrespected so of course Nigerian men don't like them. They think, "why will a woman expect a man to see her as an equal human being? Why? Why can't I have a woman that contributes to home finances and pays bills but also tolerates my nasty behavior and infidelity?"

Look, nobody likes being oppressed and subjugated, nobody, not even women. That is why many women always seize the opportunity to emancipate themselves when they get to a liberal society.

I dont blame you males for expecting docility and timidity from your Nigerian wives, you grew up in a country where women are 2nd class citizens and taught to accept almost anything marriage throws at them that is why you find it hard to just get married to foreign women instead of looking for a wife with high bullshit tolerance thresholds.

sweetmelanin:
My point exactly!

You entered those relationships with a preconceived notion that those ladies aren't worthy of marriage simply based on the fact that they aren't "home-based" girls... there is nothing either of those poor women could've done to change your prejudice mindset. You are definitely a 'category 1' brother!

If I may ask, what were the different approaches to dating you observed? (your last point)

Please don't believe everything you read online.

solmusdesigns:
I said obligations, why not ask which obligation before concluding

Sorry, what obligations?

Biglittlelois:
Be bold to type her moniker together na,

If I am she, and she is me, why are you scared of properly typing her moniker out

The guy is just an attention seeker he doesn't even believe the crap he is typing.

solmusdesigns:






Female child are just as important as Male child, however if you want someone to care for you after getting old, then it's the Female that can deliver that care . A Man starts having his own obligation after marriage unlike a women


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So women don't work?
Women don't have jobs?
Women don't have obligations after marriage?

Emary:
I have a cousin married to a prominent doctor in the east. I needed to print something when visiting their and tried using a small home printer. You need to have seen her fear that I touched it without his permission. She has been married over 25yrs at that point with grown professional kids. Some women are in bondage in Nigeria.

The same men doing all sorts of selfish and heartless things to women are the ones endlessly complaining about how women are not good.

Why are males so troublesome?

If you want to do DNA tests on your kids go ahead and do it, haba, we no go hear word again for this matter? If you like do DNA on all your kids then when you finish do for your neighbors and family members if you like instead of disturbing our ears with foolish irrelevant crap because it affords you another opportunity to insult women.

I just knew that when this DNA topic came up that idiotic Nigerian men will not let us hear word again because it will be another avenue to write unprintable vile insults to the female folk.

Na men hobby be that na, insulting women, meanwhile they are literally the gender causing the most problems in the world, fuking beasts of no nation males.

Sixfeetbelle:
Why tax only female income earners? Why cut budget of women affairs?

Anyway, I don't think DNA testing should be subsidised. I believe it should be made free and compulsory. All men should be subjected to DNA sample collection so that half of the children in orphanages around the country can be reunited with their rightful fathers.

I agree with the last paragraph.

Many children are abandoned because the biological father refused to take responsibility for the pregnancy, if I had the power I will conduct DNA test for all the kids and force their stupid irresponsible fathers to take care of them.

Even those in China themselves are not using their own vaccine, they imported Pfizer vaccine from the west but useless and hopeless Health officials in Nigeria are in talks with China for their vaccine.

LuciferO:
really...... A man in his 50's. That I've known for 8yrs

Lol
So 50 yr old men are no longer virile?
Maybe he patronises sex workers or even has a secret girlfriend

LuciferO:
let's turn the tables, if it was a lady, do you think your words would have been different

Male and female sex drives are different

LuciferO:
yeah, No this is not true. When you say men you're referring to all men including monks (irrelevant) but I know men who've stayed 8yrs without sex and when asked why he said just because well not really his wife died and he refused to be with any other women � that's true love

The guy is clearly a chronically addicted masturbator

Truvel:
Most Times, Na because Of Una Dem Dey Do So.

Ok so men are to be blamed for prostitution because na them dey patronize ashawo.

Prostitution is Male people fault.

Truvel:
Lol, Btw Men & Women, Who Are More Sexually Slave? It's D Women. Yes. Women Are Slave To Money, Since Dey Are Slave To Money, Dey Are Slave To Sex. Dat's Why We Av Many Of Dem As Prostitutes Everywhere. I Once Caught A Beautiful Girl Having Sex With A Guy At A Corner because Of Money. Some Months Later, I Found Dis Girl In Our Church, Dressing Like One Kind Saint. 4 My Mind, I Come Dey Say No Be Dis Girl I Catch 4 One Corner? Since Den My Value 4 Ladies Reduce To Almost Zero. Yes.

Why do you write like this? It makes it hard to read your post, I know you are probably doing it for attention but abeg consider our eyes you are stressing peoples eyes everytime they want to read your posts.

Anyway, men also are slaves to money, that's why you see them killing people up and down for rituals and doing armed robbery left and right.

Na their own worst pass women own sef

OP thanks for this thread, nairaland boys will throw insults as usual but that is because they are pained by the facts you are spilling.

Males are certainly not superior to females just by virtue of gender, they like peddling this lie because they have extremely sensitive egos that are so easily hurt by any slight. Very sensitive people so they need to keep women's status under males so that they can feel superior and important.
Go into any topic where a woman says she doesn't want or need to get married to a man and watch how majority of the guys will get angry and hurl insults because they take it personal and cannot accept the fact that they are not a necessity or even valuable in a woman's life.

I can never understand how men got away with the lie that they are the more logical gender because I have seen cases of men doing the most extreme, evil and irrational things just because their emotions or anger was stirred. Women are more calculating and manipulative and less destructive.

Sandrazima:
Men are naturally slaves to their sexual desires.

This is one of the greatest truths in life, they will be angry you said it but it remains the truth.

Men are basically controlled by their sexual desires and sexual needs, just look at how stressed and neurotic and frustrated a sexually starved man acts, the sex starved man without any form of release is always unstable and easily worked up.

Men's peace of mind and ability to reason calmly and rationally depends on how sexually satisfied they are

They are big time slaves to their sexual needs, that fact cannot be overemphasized.

Nobody says men must know how to cook and clean before marriage
Nobody says they must be excellent child carers before marriage

It's always different laws to make women's lives miserable.

Men are truly a scourge and a plague on earth

lydianessa:
What's the point of having 500k made through the wrong means just to have a man..
Funny enough, Rich independent ladies suffer most in relationships..they meet the wrong guys..
Today's men prefer broke girls that will beg them for money just to massage their egos..
This life is definitely not balanced.. wahala for who comes to social media for advice..

Facts, @bold.

Men in general don't want an independent woman, they claim they do but when they get one they start resenting her and look for ways to humble her or use her for her money, the relationship is hardly ever healthy,
Just imagine a relationship where the lady never ever asks her man for anything because she is independent and doesn't need him. He will start complaining that the lady is too proud or arrogant/not submissive.

Confused people

Broken2020:
They frown at the word “sex” but they celebrate rape in the name of child marriage.

Honestly, Very useless animals.

I am sure el rufai does not see anything wrong with marrying a 13yr old child, confused people.

dominique:
My husband just ran over one of our two dogs on the forelegs and he's screaming in excruciating pains . What can we do? We don't have any vets closeby. I never liked dogs in the house but hearing him cry in pain is breaking my heart. How can I relieve its pain till we get a vet?

What later happened to the dog? Is it okay now?

Bennysam:
You’re desperate idiot

Wow, what kind of meaningless bitterness and anger is this? Wetin carry desperation enter wetin I talk?
Wawuu

Bennysam:
Bitch

Oga rest abeg stop sounding so bitter.

Bennysam:
Daughter of a shameless hoe

What kind of extreme reply is this? Take your frustration elsewhere,
Leave her alone.

Gokoyer0:
Angry? not at all. I now realized that You believe what I stated, you just wanted to troll.

Anyway, I believe real men will not trade words here about DNA at all, they will quietly do the DNA for their children even without their wife consents.

I rest my case.

Lol,
I truly am not trolling, your story sounds like a bunch of lies.

No same married woman will come outside to start bragging about sleeping with young boys and giving him their husband's money. Abeg shift with those ridiculous lies.

And she is supposedly telling the story to her fellow women in public when many women in Nigeria bear "gossip" as their middle name.

Not only that ooo, your sister is ALWAYS hearing this type of gist from randy women week after week. The gist no dey end.

Unku you can lie oo

Gokoyer0:
Do you really expect me to come here to start writing about all the load of atrocities being committed by those women? I just stated some of the instances that she was telling us at home.

I don't care what you think about the stories btw.

You dont have to get angry that I pointed out your tales by moonlight

Gokoyer0:
My sister is currently learning hairstyling right now while waiting for her NYSC call up letter. We are really close and she is staying with me.

She used to tell me about women coming to their salon to fix their hairs or nails. Sir, married women cheat more than the single girls right now. They pretend to be satisfied sexually with their husbands but they keep on giving their husbands money to younger guys who are f.ucking them seriously outside. There is no week that my sister will not gist us about promiscuity of married women. The saddest part of it is that, while they are talking about their sexual sprees outside their marriages, they used to laugh it off and some of them are so trusted by their husbands. No conscience at all.
DNA test will be done with 100k naira. I will encourage every men to go for it in this present age.

This story sounds like a big truckload of lies.

I am not saying married women dont cheat, they do and men deserve to be cheated on, yes.

But the part that sounds unrealistic is the part where you think a married women that is cheating on her husband and giving his money to a side bobo will start discussing her infidelities in a public saloon like a brain dead mumu.

Either you came here to tell lies or your sister dey deceive you.

jchioma:
Let the man live his life... I am sure he's the least of our problems ... Happy new year

Did I stop him from living his life?