₦airaland Forum

missjekyll:
He is very right. Any Onitsha person could have told you this.

Correct. Even the Great Zik of Africa confirmed it in his book in 1973.

VinnyBaba:
Hmmm, na wa o.

How did you arrive @this?

A publication by a DNA test lab in Lagos published their findings earlier this year. Search NL for it.
It found that 26.2% of ALL kids belong to another man. These are results the lab had over many years.

But older findings were roughly 25% for all kids and up to 40% (average 35%) for firstborns. We have discussed such reports for over 10 years on NL here.

Reason is most women have multiple sugar daddies and boyfriends and don't usually know who is father of first preggy. They usually give it to who is most eligible or most likely to accept it. But some still continue sleeping around but a bit less than when single.

Women used to dispute it here until the latest result came this year.
Only a very foolish will just accept a baby without DNA test these days. Even if she's your wedded wife.

I know people whose 2 or 3 kids were not theirs at all.

olisefom:
I do tell people that most of our parents had no idea what parenting was meant to be. This case of preference has been since time immemorial and I think its part of human nature.

Just like you said, parents can do better by hiding whatever preference they have

Tor at bolded.

Even biblical Jacob loved Joseph and Benjamin more. Because he loved Rachel their mom more.

Na human nature.
At times, a child may look or behave like your mom or dad you loved so much.
At times, a dad may wonder if a particular child is his because his looks or behaviour may be so different from his or family traits.

Remember by the way that about 35% of firstborn kids and 25% of all kids belong to another man outside.

Squirrel1:
If I understand this clearly, this means that cbn can't pay banks n clear forex orders, thus making the naira lose value against the doller? Those with deeper understanding should clear me please.

Dude, at a basic level you nailed it. We don't earn enough in dollars/export and our $33bn reserve is not actually that. Because around $11bn of it is tied down. In reality we have about $22bn free to dip into. But we can't really afford to take too much from it. It's already too low and would ruin our credit worthiness pata pata.

Therefore, CBN is hamstrung and has little room to manoeuvre to clear the $6bn backlog to banks. This, along with other poor economic indices like high inflation and unemployment will keep putting pressure on the Naira.

So, our failure to industrialise after 6 decades and export cars, electronics, pharmaceuticals, steel, and other high value products and services has reduced us to exporting mostly only oil with very shaky price.

Nigerian men may be terrible but from my observation 9ja women are just about the worst I have seen.

The most unfaithful set of women. (No unfaithful guy has the right to complain)
Bad/toxic manners.
Sense of entitlement.
Hardly bring anything to the table even when she works.

All the above rubbish their cooking and mothering skills.

Way less than 10% of 9ja women make good wives.

I have friends traumatised by wives' infidelity, dishonesty, diabolic practices and lately in diaspora, using their kids to punish ex-hubbies. Not minding impact of denying access on the kids. Men often refuse to go to court to protect the kids. Women have no such scruple.

The FEW good ones are REALLY good but majority don't deserve any relationship at all. You only have the right to complain about 9ja men if you are one of the very few good 9ja women.

To my mind, if 9ja women are the only ones left, marriage should be scrapped. Period.

If I can roll back time, I won't touch any 9ja woman with a barge poll. The most terrible beings.

BALLOSKI:
You're in Europe and trust a brother in Nigeria with 30m? Can't you just find a way to get your money to Nigeria in your own account and come and supervise your project?

She has no papers. It's not that easy. At least 50% of our people who left 15 to 50 years ago suffered something similar. In fact I don't know anybody that left 9ja in the 80s and 90s that didn't suffer it to some extent. Virtually everyone did.

A distant relative who left only 15 years ago lost an amount close to this, adjusted for inflation. This lady's own is good. She found out while still abroad. My relative found out after arriving to visit 9ja. Her junior brother wasted the money.

If you suddenly arrived in 9ja only to find out no house and no money, your life is in danger. They can kpai you to "die" everything.

Also remember one thing: the relatives that ate all her money have also been doing all kind of diabolical stuff to tie her abroad. All attempts to obtain paper will fail. Hoping that if she can't visit, she won't find out. That woman go don try all means to obtain paper. No way. We know as things dey na.

At least 5 to 10% of that 30m will have been eaten by babalawos. Na today?

Only smartphone and easier communication via social media is now exposing things. That was not possible just 15 years ago.
Even now, blind trust still make people fall victims. Siblings and in-laws are the most terrible set of relatives in this regard.

Wow!

Cromagnon:
99% of Nigerians cannot boat of 500k oga
You think 30 million is easy?
How much you get for account

What they forgot is that some of that money must have been sent when exchange rate was 200 Naira to a pound.
Adjusted for inflation, the current value might be 50 to 60 million Naira.

She didn't gather the money and send 30m once. It was over very many years.

Fiscus105:
You forget that many of these people approaching or more than 50 have little or nothing to fall back on wen they finally retired, and they fear they may end up doing gateman or watchman after retirement.


A top surgeon earning a million naira in Nigeria, where as, his far far junior, a fresh university graduate would be earning, x5 of his earnings in abroad.


It's only politians that are connected to corridor of power, that I can give 100% backing in ur list.


Meanwhile, some even japa basically because of their children, the atmosphere of naija today not good enough to bring up children. We are in jungle if not dungeon.

Oga, go to interland and do findings.

Most of politicians' grandkids and kids study abroad or even based abroad.
Some have used money to secure Caribbean passports that allow them travel visa free worldwide.

Even rich men in 9ja, many still kpeme before being rushed abroad in emergency.

ILoveNG:
I believe First class graduates are meant for academia not civil service. Second class upper graduates are more apt for civil service.
Commendable though. It’s good to see efforts on education being rewarded.

It's not by force to accept the job offer. Those that obtain scholarship for study abroad may or may not choose that option.
No, it's in 9ja that most people think 1.1 must go into academia. Some students just put their best into their studies without interest in academia. Many are quite happy to work across all sectors of the economy.

There are far more 2.1 graduates in research/academia than 1.1. Reason is there are far more 2.1 graduates out there than 1.1.
So academia is not a congregation of 1.1 students only. A friend had 2.2 first degree but had distinction in his MSc and later did well in his PhD. He's in academia now. All in the West.

Zxcvbnmghtr:
Thank God they voted based on OBJECTIVITY and not SENTIMENT and the best of the very best player won.

Portugal voted for their own Bernardo Silva. Was he really the best? Did they believe he would win? No.
I can understand France voting for Messi, so that at the right time, more countries might vote for Mbappe like they voted for Benzema last year.

But there is no foreseeable time when many countries will vote for a Nigerian to win. So vote for yours.

Nice.

Too bad.

Lots of Diaspora kids can be very vulnerable.

Some don't believe their parents understand the intricacies of Western society. Many won't take parents' advice.

But most of their parents have navigated the system for decades, yet these kids see African parents as Africans who don't understand the West.

Their resilience and street smartness are usually low.

Also, being black and stigmatised has eroded the self-esteem of many black kids so much that they feel overjoyed to be hit on by a white guy. Even a dodgy and low grade oyingbo. Pretty black/mixed race girls like this. I cringed a lot seeing it at uni.

But as a black man, if you speak, you will be seen as jealous, so I
said nothing.
Sad.

RIP.

Obierika:
Don't start getting worked up unnecessarily, it's a fake story!

Fictional stories have good lessons to learn from them. Moreover, most of us know of similar real life stories.
So people can still learn a lot from replies here.

Jewessgratitud3:
Ogar it easier said than done until it happens to you personally.

I'm a Christian and a born again Christian but I don't condone cheating of any sort. This kind of women don't place value on marriage. They Just feel they can do anyhow and it's nothing. Now imagine if you forgive her just like that, You have given her license to do more.

She even had the audacity to do it on her matrimonial bed. With disease flying every where. She can even kill the man. Such people don't deserve pity. She deserves all the punishment she's getting.

I like the silent treatment the husband and children are giving her. At least now she can perceive her own filth without stressing it to her and she knows she's on her own. This will teach her and others a lesson

At bolded, the man get mind o. The wife fit kpai am to cover everything. The man's family not knowing might seem good to protect his family, but puts him at risk. She fit kpai am before his family finds out. Because if his family knows first, inheritance wahala go shele.

I hope the hubby has done DNA test on all his children.
Nor trust any woman no matter how "godly" or innocent she pretends to be,

Afodot0022:
I will support your dad in some ways as he is trying to protect your mum and also the family, it takes alot of strength to withstand the negative influence of social media. So many things you see and read online and if care is not taken, you will start using it as a yardstick to your life or how to run your home and from there problem start. The likes of blessing CEO are there to give misguided advice and if momsy no strong, she will want to start applying it in the house or to your father which might later cos havoc. I support your dad 100%. My marriage that broke was caused by social media cos my wife got too exposed and start using social media fake life to judge her own life, and it also aids cheating reason why the level of divorce has skyrocket unlike the past.

My brother, if any woman wan mess up, just monitor am. Nor even warn am. Otherwise she go hide am like that Samantha woman wrote.

Na to catch am dey hungry me b4 sef. So long DNA show say your pikins na your pikins, leave the rest. When you catch am, trade for a younger version. The young one too fit worse but manage am until you catch am. You've got to keep your wits about you

No time to waste. The whole thing na game these days.

LadyRosa:


It's an age-long practice and so, TIV men at a point did these things. Whether it practised to date? May not be possible but maybe, TIV men in their reasonable majority do not value their women that much. Unlike the Idomas and igboid groups, which share boundaries, TIV does not have a culture against infidelity so TIV married women sleep with men like breathe to the nose, and it's a habit their men taught them right and well.


It's affecting genuine well brought up TIV girls. Twice I tried to match some good ones with clients looking to settle down, but they rejected them outright on hearing they are TIVS.

Its far easier to see TIV married women in local meat joints drinking and eating meat with men than any other Nigerian tribe.

Hmmmm
Better be sure of that thing you wrote there o.

Is there any Tiv woman who can confirm it? Was the "kola nut" practice in the past? Is it perhaps still practiced in some remote areas where some people may be more conservative?

If it is or was part of the culture, others have no right to condemn it, even if we hold different values.

Culture is not static. If they wish to now change it, they must respect the minority who may wish to uphold it.

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jayAjoku:
If you are a man in Nigeria you hear this thing and you believe your girlfriend or fiancé is exempted you are in for a RUDE AWAKENING. That’s all I can say 😌😌

I dey tell men: If woman born for you and test show say na your own true true, just forget the rest.
Nothing woman nor fit do. Just know this and know peace.

I find these ladies far more attractive than the fake nyansh and fake eyelashes hook-up women of nowadays.

Oh, no wonder. These women had brains. Nowadays, their brain dey their clit.

fullclub:
yeah we have been going.
what i observed was the population.

you... you hardly see no Nigerians unlike Asians. in school you have to first count 50 Asians before you see a black man.

i observed that the British don't too fancy university degree so they are not much in school

You are most likely not in a top uni. Most of the foreigners choose MSc in just about any uni just to japa.
The British are doing well with just their BSc most times.

FarSide:
The fear shaa. I just can't stand it. For the past two weeks I've been trying to muster courage for this but no way.
I wanted to do it last week Wednesday but when I got close to the hospital, I lost every courage in me, I had to change direction, entered a cool joint, took some bottles of beer and headed home.
I just wish someone can drag me there but I can't confide in anyone Incase if it turns out positive

Dude, if you love yourself and the woman, go do that test right now.

If you have HIV you are good but if you delay it and let it turn to AIDS, oh buy sorry na your name, HIV test should be routine if you live such a rough sex life. Did you not fear infecting an innocent girl?
Why no condom? You hate yourself and life that much?

Yes, you can be extremely lucky and do rough play with 12 girls and not have BUT not advisable.

You can also be extremely unlucky and catch it from doing with only one girl.

BiGVEEN58:
Nigerian woman go follow you build wealth together?

My bloda, dem wan use laugh wunjure our enemy.

99% of women nowadays only come to reap where they didn't sow.
The only 1% ready to bring to the table choose yeye men.

What an irony.

Gbadugbakun:
Seun is married. It's him and his wife who are conducting the seminar. Can't you read and see their names.

Na wa o.

Those are Seun's relatives, haba!

JASONjnr:
How do these guys put on skirts and blouse and not feel gayish?

Who say many of them nor be?

gentposh:
Always make an inquiry on who you are dating... Past present social media and family background


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Zero eight one 130 seven seven one six seven

Hmmmmmm.
Is that legal?

Pickmycall:
She was enjoying his ritual money not knowing she will be next.
There was one girl like that who helped his yahoo boyfriend to receive fraud money into her bank account.She refused to give him the money until her boyfriend locked her inside the room and torture her to death.Girls Una stubborn.Y[b]our yahoo boyfriend dey torture you, still you no gree release him money until he killed you[/b].Haba mana!

Maybe her other boyfriend already scammed her of the money but she could not admit that to her yahoo boyfriend. Nor be human being again?

My own idea is simple. We are not wiser than our ancestors/parents.

It's the same food like pounded yam, amala,agidi, egusi, efor, ofe onugbu, tuwo dawa, kilishi, dodo, idika iko, okro/ogbono soup that our ancestors invented that we still eat. We couldn't with all our open eye invent anything new locally.

Our mother would greet our father and every other relative of our father (her in-laws or even call them her husband) irrespective of their age and gender. The younger in-laws can then knee down and greet her as mama.

Our kids observe what we do and that's how we imbibe culture.

Now, there are occasions when the wife might be very busy with something and you might see her first and greet.

There are very little things a wise woman can use to build her home.

A wise man should also know what is is really important to him/his marriage and correct a women with love.

My own idea is simple. We are not wiser than our ancestors/parents.

Our mother would greet our father and every other relative of our father (her in-laws or even call them her husband) irrespective of their age and gender. The younger in-laws can then knee down and greet her as mama.

Our kids observe what we do and that's how we imbibe culture.

Now, there are occasions when the wife might be very busy with something and you might see her first and greet.

There are very little things a wise woman can use to build her home.

A wise man should also know what is is really important to him/his marriage and correct a women with love.

oluwaseyi0:
Yet African elders will be claiming the world was better in their days and the children of nowadays are after money

When this so called older holy generation are the very same people that ran and still running this country aground

Mostly all the leaders and civil servants they produced are thieves of the highest order

Abeg, let me breath well before I laugh kwa kwa kwa.

At least since 1960, 9ja corruption has been bad and only got worse.

Murtala Mohamed destroyed civil service kpata kpata. He mass sacked those corrupt elements with a little conscience in 1975 and later we replaced them with very corrupt ones without conscience at all. Corruption has never looked back since.

9ja happened to Mohamed's good intentions.