₦airaland Forum

A more suitable analogy would be; you go to a dealership to buy a car, you try to test the car but it wouldn’t start. You then conclude the reason it wouldn’t start is because you haven’t paid for it. Your assumption is, once you pay and tow it home, it’s very likely to start functioning properly.

Are you saying married women don’t go out with other guys? Are they also keeping their options open? This is how you assume yourselves into bad marriages then start disturbing people with tales of your marital woes.

There are no family members abroad to call for family meetings. Many marriages in Nigeria are been held together by family meetings.

A party decides they’ve had enough and want out, the couple’s family organizes an intervention for them. How will you insist on leaving when your mother in-law kneels with tears in her eyes to apologize on behalf of her child?

Elders intervention on phone doesn’t have the same effect as in person.

There’s no chance at a better life with his friend. So the comfortable bachelor has been waiting his whole life to marry a divorcee who’s known to cheat on her husband with his friends?

This is possibly why he has chosen to remain single. You are probably not the first married woman he’s slept with. If he decides to be with you, the opportunity of sleeping with other married women like yourself diminishes.

My only advice to her is to not leave her marriage because she thinks there’s a chance with Mr friend or she could, and learn from experience.

The average 30 year old today has had between 3-4 relationship that started out good but failed. How you think getting the 5th and promising forever changes anything beats the imagination.

I think people get married today to satisfy the society, then in the marriage they begin to look for their own satisfaction.

If you do your findings, one of them was tired before the marriage, they just had to see it through for their family and society, they will continue that way in marriage, tired but holding on for family -immediate and extended.

‘’She argued that no reasonable woman would abandon a partner who treated her fairly and justly while they were still in Nigeria’’

Getting a reasonable one is often where the problem lies innit.

Anytime I got into an acrimony argument with a lady, I ask one question. If you were the other lady who picked him up from dirt and helped him prosper, would you be happy if he returned to his ex wife? That question usually ends the argument.

It will make sense that the guy would connect more with a Nigerian girl than with girls from other Nationalities. He’s is Nigerian. Whenever I meet a Nigerian girl, the friendship and laughter is instantaneous, it’s like we have known ourselves since forever.

One of the pros of been with a Nigerian girl is the predictability. You were raised the same way, you know how she moves.

One of the cons is see finish. You are just another Nigerian guy she could be with. Unlike if you were with a Kenyan, Somalian or South African.

Once you start having sex without condom, it’s almost impossible to go back to the use of condom. You may filter the kind of people you sleep with as a form of protection.

From experience, men control sexual activities. You want sex, you have to initiate it, you want a particular style, you put her in that position, you want head, you push her head towards your bick, you want protection, you wrap it up.

The conversation you had about visiting platonic friends should have happened at the the beginning of the relationship. These are the things you should have ironed out to ensure your values aligned.

Some people will soon arrive to call you insecure and tell you she would have deleted those chats if they weren’t platonic but you are a guy, you’ve had female friends and you know how it goes down.

In my opinion, begin a new relationship. List out your deal breakers and ensure you are on the same page before you proceed. So when these deals are broken, it’s clear she knew the right thing to do, she just didn’t find you deserving of it.

How are you sure they hate you because you have more money? They may hate you because you have a bad character. You are a pauper to some other people, do you hate those people?

Either ways not everyone will like you, if you think people hate you, it may be because you hate them.

He will resume talking to you next month when you must have paid your house rent.

The ex-husband/new husband deserves what he’s getting. They say the money made by the fool will be spent by the wise. The woman married by a fool will be banged by the wise!

The curves looks like a disability. Like she got in an accident and dislocated a joint.

Fiscus105:
Some foolish ladies would say, they are cheat, .....yet emotional chest is even killing than real cheat, 75% of ladies involved in such non sense, most especially from bestie angle.

I guess they had a distance relationship, when she was in Awka she could talk to the guy for 4hrs a day and nobody would care. He would have found out if they really dated. It’s his cross to carry.

At the end of the day, single guys deserve to have sex too and it’s easier to get it from someone in a committed relationship. So one man’s loss is another man’s gain.

Have you ever told yourself, I am going to drink some harmless water? I’m going to have a harmless sleep? If you use harmless before a word then there’s a possibility of it been harmful and you have to go close to find out e.g. harmless snakes, harmless bulldogs etc.

You are not the first student the man is taking on a harmless date, you won’t be the last. There’s a reason every man in the comment section is saying the same thing. Men know how men think.

Nothing said here will stop you from doing what you want to do. Just don’t get caught. The dating scene isn’t kind to even single women talkless of a divorced single mother.

WWHD-What would Hakimi do?

On a more serious note, you are married to her so your options are really limited. This is why women want to marry ASAP. They tell you a real man knows what he wants, he can marry you 2hrs after meeting you. This is why most long term relationships seldom leads to marriage. When you know someone enough, the idea of forever with them starts looking scary.

Your wife may not like the guy but she has to keep him happy if the money is to continue coming. One day he will lure her over with a gift, then what?

When men discover things like this and out of distrust decide to hide things from such woman people start shouting mummy’s boy, not a real man bla bla.

There’s nothing like one last sex, the sex will continue even in marriage.

Well, how do I know it was just a dance? Am I sure she didn’t go to the hotel with him or she wouldn’t have gone if he asked.

I would breakup If it’s a girl I like, obviously I had higher expectations of her. If the emotions aren’t high with her then we can continue playing till she gets tired.

Hed0nist:
Some people need to be taught. Especially now when some people try to shame others for looking out for their best interests. Common sense is not that common.

Lol G, if someone needs to be taught this then they do not have a choice, even a five year old would prefer to have a new toy than one with 53 previous owners.

So if I have to give someone reasons not to eat poop, I just assume the only option available to them is poop.

Your post doesn’t disprove virginity been a lack of opportunity. The guy who sneaks girls in has the opportunity to because his mom leaves him home alone, if there was an aunt at home 24/7 then the opportunity would be removed, the girls he sneaks in have the chance to leave home for an extended period of time, that’s an opportunity. If they lived in a house where they can’t go out unless they were sent on errands, how would they get snuck in to a guys house?

There’s nothing like self control when it comes to sex. When people meet someone they like and want to sleep with, self control usually flies out the window.

The 30 year old virgin you think has some super power called self control may have tried having sex on several occasions, the pain stopped her not the magic wand so called self control.

Unless body count means penetrative sex to you, there are virgins with double digit body count, where’s the self control in that?

This is like opening a thread giving people reasons not to eat poop. Anyone who needs to be given reasons not to eat shit, deserves to eat shit.

He’s not saying anything new, there are people who are also wary of him from now on. Some of you got blocked already by friends but you don’t know yet until you try to reach out to them.

How were people living before the internet? You mean you can’t vote your choice without announcing to the world and fighting anyone who isn’t supporting who you support? Why is no one attacking 2face? Who did he vote for? When grown ass men choose to make a fool of themselves on the internet, this is the result.

When I was younger I played football on the grass, now I’m older, I play with the football on sister Grace.

If every mother disowns their rebellious teenagers there would be no children with mothers in the world. Your cousin was a rebellious teenager, she got pregnant at 19, did her folks disown her?

I understand the fear of not wanting to relocate the boy abroad but not picking his call and not wanting anything to do with him is an overkill.

The table your cousin thinks has turned in her favour is still turning. The mistake the boys father made in his youth is what your cousin is making at almost 40. When his father came back to his senses, he met an impressionable teenager, when your cousin comes back to hers it may be too late as her son would not be the child you can win over with sweets and biscuits anymore.

Tell the lad the truth as you have told us, your mom wants nothing to do with you, she wants to focus on starting a new family.

thebosstrevor1:
Knacking people wife isn't an achievement, l personally think guys with low self esteem sleep with people wives.

But how do a guy enjoy sleeping with a married woman with 3 kids, stretch marks everywhere and big stomach..most married women fall under that category, it is not a diss but a reality...that is embarrassing for a guy.

Btw, you don't have to pay any woman to sleep with her, but if you want a fresh girl then once a while you have to boost her ego by making her happy through material things. Women have herd mentality, they are easily influenced, if she sees her friends enjoying that, there is a big chance she will compare you with her friend's man.

Moh stated earlier that you had to get married or pay relationship levy to get access to sex or you stick with masturbation, that was the comment i was rebutting with my ‘people are there having free sex’ even with married women.

We differ on your opinion of what constitute low or high self esteem. Every guy has a specific class of women they won’t go below. Every woman in that class are the same, whether she’s single, married, divorced or widowed, it doesn’t matter. It’s the same vagina, it’s the same sex.

What makes a girl fresh to you? You do understand the average single lady has more sex than the average married woman? What you consider fresh is what another man has trashed and moved on from.

I’m not against giving in a relationship, but if you think you won’t have a relationship if you don’t give then you are not in a relationship, you are bidding time until someone who gives better comes along. And yes there are women who do not expect any material gifts in a relationship and that’s why it’s called a gift in the first place. If the expectation is there then it’s a payment.

Guys are out there are nacking peoples wives but someone here believes the only way to get sex is to buy a relationship for #20k per month. How much allowance are the big brother guys giving the girls they nack on live TV?

If as a guy you think you have to pay a girl to be with you, you need to retrace your steps to see where things went wrong in your life.

It’s embarrassing to even engage in some kind of arguments in 2023.

I don’t believe reaching out changes anything. If they want you for the job they will call you. They ask everybody they interview about their availability to start. Just keep on applying for jobs until you get an offer.

Ask her what she wants you to do? Ask her if her definition of man up means to allow your sister sleep in the street or remain in an abusive relationship because she thinks she has no where to go. You would think as a lady she would be more empathetic.

She’s right, you need to man up, tell her you are not up for such trash discussions ever again. If she’s not comfortable that you care about the well-being of your family, tell her where to go and how to get there.

Her intentions may be genuine, she just needs a crash course on empathy and you need one on firmness.

The court will be the ultimate decider of what is paid in alimony and child support not a prenup. The court can decide the prenuptial agreement is unfair to one party.

You wouldn’t have to pay alimony unless your wife doesn’t work, or there’s a huge disparity in your incomes. With child support, as long as you get joint custody, you wouldn’t have to pay much or pay at all, the court may give you certain financial roles in the children lives but you won’t have to pay your wife anything.

If you don’t want to pay alimony or child support, asides having a prenup, make sure you have a working wife who makes money on the same level as you do. If you are the typical Naija man who likes to be the sole provider, then the court will say she’s accustomed to the lifestyle, now you are a provider to her and her new man until she decides to remarry.

Anyone who ‘invests’ all of their money in crypto deserves to be left though. That’s a level of stupid no stupid person should aspire to.

Cheating should come first and last on the list.

She should have worn her socks on her boots too.