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Romance / Re: My Girlfriend Cannot Keep A Conversation by eazzzy1(m): 1:31pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
Start calling then. She’s not a chatty type. Another way is to ask open ended questions. Not questions she can say yes or no to. E.g how was your day should be replaced with tell me how your day went. 5 Likes |
Family / Re: Why Paternity Fraud Will Never Stop (My Humble Opinion) by eazzzy1(m): 1:41am On Jun 25, 2020 |
Why do we always like to compare the male and female gender? We have different struggles and different expectations thrusted upon us. The only reason why men continue to cheat is because women do not dump cheating men, the reverse is the case for men. Just like you won’t see most guys break up with a woman for being broke, the reverse is the case for women. The reason why women tolerate cheating men is because it’s hard for a lady to get a meaningful relationship, it is far more easier for men to get a relationship because there are more women readily available for long term relationship or marriage than there are men. Most men will not date/marry if casual sex was readily available e.g look at the number of your male celebs totally uninterested in marriage. When a man is caught cheating he owns up to it, he either apologizes and accepts he messed up or tells the girl well that’s who I am, take it or leave it. When a girl is caught cheating it is because her man did something and she’s only getting back at him, when will you folks learn to own your decision to cheat? Accept your hoeliness as a man accepts his doggliness. Lastly, I’m a big advocate of criminalizing cheating in marriage. If physical violence (domestic violence) is a crime, emotional violence (cheating) should be too. Research has shown that emotional trauma hurts more and takes longer to heal. |
Family / Re: Why Do Couples Who Claim To Be In Love Engage In Physical Fight? by eazzzy1(m): 3:35pm On Jun 12, 2020 |
It’s because of control, usually most couples want to control their second half. This is as a result of dependency. If you depend on something for your happiness, you tend to want to control the situation all the time. Once it isn’t in your control you become unhappy. That’s why you see someone get angry because his wife didn’t sweep or do the dishes, when he can very well just do it. You see women get angry because their man did not grant their financial request etc. Solution - Your happiness depends on you alone. If you don’t like something your partner does. Your two options are; 1. Accept the situation 2. Let them know you don’t like it, if they can’t change, walk out of the relationship. You can’t fight them to change. Getting angry only makes you age faster and opens you up to lot of sicknesses. 86 Likes 7 Shares |
Family / Re: Nigerian Model, Cries Out After The Wife Of The Man In Her DM Reached Out To Her by eazzzy1(m): 2:11am On Jun 10, 2020 |
He’s bisexual, stingy and useless but you remain married to him. 1 Like |
Family / Re: This Is How We Are Encouraging Rape Culture by eazzzy1(m): 9:07pm On Jun 08, 2020 |
Graxie: The hijab lady clearly falls under violent rape that I removed from ‘preventable rape’. All the cases of “I went to his hotel or I slept over at his place” flying about isn’t preventable? What do you want me to say? Girls should keep sleeping over while trusting criminals not to rape them? |
Romance / Re: So Whats The Intention Behind A Woman Refering To A Pastor As Her Daddy by eazzzy1(m): 6:33pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Justbehave: In the southwest where I’m from most women call their husband daddy, daddy wa even when the husband is not old enough to be her dad. Are you saying any woman who respects her pastor won’t respect her husband? Is respect for husband and pastor mutually exclusive? Or are most men just insecure? If you don’t want your wife to go to church just tell her not to and if she refuses divorce her. What’s the fuse about? |
Romance / Re: So Whats The Intention Behind A Woman Refering To A Pastor As Her Daddy by eazzzy1(m): 3:38pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Warlord2012: You could call it trash but you can’t say it’s false. It certainly happens. |
Romance / Re: So Whats The Intention Behind A Woman Refering To A Pastor As Her Daddy by eazzzy1(m): 3:14pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
In Nigeria any person old enough to birth you is daddy/mummy. Any person who has a child as old as you is daddy/mummy. Your Guardian is mummy/daddy. Any person in a position of influence/power/wealth is daddy. Your spiritual guardian is daddy/mummy. Even in old times people had father in the lord e.g Elijah/Elisha. |
Romance / Re: Between Guys And Ladies Who Is More Affected By Breakup? by eazzzy1(m): 3:11pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
The one without a backup plan. The one who finds it harder to move on. 4 Likes |
Romance / Re: Help Ooo. My Girlfriend Of One Week Is Pregnant. by eazzzy1(m): 3:37am On Jun 07, 2020 |
skymight: I have never had to buy one myself, but it can’t be up to #2000. You can google ‘pregnancy urine test kit’ to find out how it looks like. Also if it turns out she’s pregnant, do inform her aunt. The aunt can even take her for safe abortion. If you buy pills and it kills her or affects her adversely you can go to jail for a long time. |
Romance / Re: Help Ooo. My Girlfriend Of One Week Is Pregnant. by eazzzy1(m): 2:55am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Your girlfriend is paranoid.The first symptom of pregnancy is not seeing her period, other symptoms would happen between 6-8 weeks. Go to chemist, buy pregnancy test kit, let her read and follow the instructions. Usually she pee on it, after a couple of minutes if it shows 1 line she’s not pregnant, if it shows 2 she is pregnant. Before you buy abortion pills, make sure she carries out the test. 1 week is too early to know. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Family / Re: Gifting A Cheating Husband? by eazzzy1(m): 1:38am On Jun 07, 2020 |
OP. |
Family / Re: This Is How We Are Encouraging Rape Culture by eazzzy1(m): 5:26pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
We encourage rape culture by not teaching women to report cases immediately. We encourage rape culture with words like ‘nobody has the right to rape you even if you go to his house naked’. Rapist are criminals they don’t care about rights. We encourage rape culture by bullying people to silence with accusations of being a rape apologist. If we want rape to end we have to engage in these conversations. We encourage rape culture by absolving girls of all responsibilities towards preventing rape. We encourage rape culture with words like ‘no means no’. Action speaks louder than words. You don’t want sex with someone don’t lead them on and then say no at the point of sex. We encourage rape culture by shielding relatives who rape. We encourage rape culture when the police cannot bring rapists to book. We encourage rape culture by thinking the rules, guidelines put in place to prevent it are backwards, uncivilized and meant to cage women. Organizations like deeper life, covenant uni etc have been shamed over and over because they prohibit any kind of unnecessary mingling between genders. Asides violent rape like Uwa’s case, rape of minors, Armed rape/ use of weapon most rape cases could have been prevented. Lastly, the authorities really need to step up, the greatest deterrent to rape is when the rapist knows he will get caught. Also the rhetoric that females are better brought up than their male counterparts in Nigeria needs to stop immediately. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by eazzzy1(m): 8:13pm On May 30, 2020 |
Klass99: This is not always the case for immigrants, especially the ones of coming from Africa. There is a minimum wage system in most developed country, meaning no matter what you do, you can not earn below certain amount of money. These wages are put in place with consideration to cost of living, i.e housing, transport, feeding, taxation etc. Most minimum wages are livable wages, you can survive and live comfortably if you live according to your means. Most Diasporans who come back home only do so because they do not see themselves doing these minimum wage paying jobs. e.g your cousin with a master degree wouldn't want to work as a security or sales associate at a store. Depending on ones course of study, grades, age, past work experience, not every diasporan will get the career of their choice. As long as you are able and willing to work and spend according to your means, you won't suffer. 148 Likes 10 Shares |
Family / Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by eazzzy1(m): 8:03pm On May 30, 2020 |
Sleyanya1: Desperation can bring out the worst in people. I agree with you, i try to set aside a percentage of my earnings for charity, but i discovered that people will always take advantage of it. Some people who make requests end up living better than you, they walk into restaurants and spend money you won't spend on one sitting. You soon start to feel like you are being taken advantage of. 160 Likes 4 Shares |
Family / Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by eazzzy1(m): 7:59pm On May 30, 2020 |
sweetmelanin: People have a bias and react to things through the lens of these biases. I am sure once he opened my thread he thought it was another diasporan bashing Nigerians in Nigeria post and he couldn't resist the impulse to defend the NIN. 34 Likes 3 Shares |
Family / Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by eazzzy1(m): 7:56pm On May 30, 2020 |
Amanee: You are very correct Amanee, i realize that when i was working in naija, i could give out almost a quarter of my monthly pay without thinking about it, right now i cannot even give out 5% except it's a life or death situation, even though i earn more now. Your comment is spot on. 43 Likes 5 Shares |
Family / Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by eazzzy1(m): 7:51pm On May 30, 2020 |
Klass99: Very good for you, you have got your priorities right. I do have people who make demands and get angry when you don't meet up. These ones think you owe them and will say words like "let me enjoy you na, since you traveled you have only sent me money twice. bros no be so". I am learning to tell people i have commitments and i would not be able to be of assistance right now. 48 Likes 8 Shares |
Family / Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by eazzzy1(m): 7:46pm On May 30, 2020 |
rentAcock: Lol. Nobody makes $100,000 and ends up with $40,000 after deductions. Anyway this is not a homebased vs diasporan thread. How do you cope with the people abroad making financial request? 151 Likes 7 Shares |
Family / Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by eazzzy1(m): 6:16pm On May 30, 2020 |
Are you a Nigerian? do you have friends and family in diaspora or home who are doing well for themselves but will ignore your request to send money all the time? before you call them stingy or wicked, here are some of the reasons why rich friends do not give out money; 1. They don't have enough: Enough is subjective, someone can earn as much as $100,000/annum but feel he's not earning enough, some people have these dreams of being wealthy and that salary isn't sufficient to get them there. So you have a friend/relative who works in a big firm abroad, you think he's rich, he thinks he isn't earning enough. Even millionaires have needs too. 2. You are not the only one making financial demands: You think you are his best friend because you went to secondary school together and were seat mate or bunk mates in the hostel so automatically he should be predisposed to meeting your needs, well there are primary school best friends, university best friends, first love, NYSC best friends, Neighbours, uncles, aunties, brothers etc who think their request should be met too. It is impossible to meet all these needs. 3. Making financial demand is never a one time thing: I had this habit of giving money to people who ask for financial favors the first time. I thought since they never asked for such before, they must really be in need. I soon found out that after that first time they run to me whenever they need money again, sometimes they space out the request like two months, some every month etc. I then realize that the $100, $200 i send them is never going to be sufficient, they will always come back for more. So i joined the God will provide gang. 4. Yahoo boys : Not every fraudster hacks into companies accounts, or forge the accountants signature, or even find lonely older women/men to scam. Some yahoo boys have resorted to begging, they send you message of how their dad is dying in the hospital, how their sister got arrested for a crime she didn't commit and they need a lawyer bla bla, they call these lies format and once you send them money they pop champagne and call you client. 5. General realization : One day i was going through my bank statement and i noticed i gave out about $500 monthly to family and friends. The same me who will walk into H & M, see a shirt of $40 and think it's too costly. I either buy it grudgingly or wait till it's on sale to buy. I realized i wasn't taking care of myself enough. Most people will come to this realization at a point in their lives. This thread isn't limited to just people abroad, it include people who work and earn who are home based too. How do you cope with demands?Diasporans what made you rethink your generousity? Feel free to add yours. 710 Likes 67 Shares |
Family / Re: My Spouse Is Bi-sexual, What Do I Do by eazzzy1(m): 12:26am On May 29, 2020 |
Men wouldn’t mind a bisexual partner, women would mind. If my partner was bisexual I wouldn’t really bother as long as she’s not depriving of the love deserving of her husband. |
Family / Re: Are You In A Misogynistic Relationship? by eazzzy1(m): 7:05am On May 27, 2020 |
yvelchstores: Maybe these specific issues do not come up but you would definitely see signs of being overprotective, of not wanting anything to do with your family, being controlling, etc. the signs are never hidden. I agree with you it is never too late to walk out of such marriages. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Are You In A Misogynistic Relationship? by eazzzy1(m): 4:23am On May 27, 2020 |
Women will go into a relationship with a man knowing fully well his position on certain issues then try to blackmail him with words like misogynistic or narcissistic. A man who wants his wife to serve him and sees himself as the authority at home isn’t always a bad person, it’s his upbringing and views about life. I don’t think men like this will hide their character during courtship and only reveal them in marriage. If you as a woman are not comfortable with his views, it is your prerogative to leave the relationship. There are certainly many women who wouldn’t mind a relationship with such people. Most times women while dating would not mind being under total control, as soon as they get married they then expect the man to change all that she made him accustomed to. Relationship is the time to push boundaries, if he walks away, he walks away. Don’t date Pablo Escobar and expect to be in a marriage with Adeboye. |
Romance / Re: Pls Can A 24 Year Old Guy Date 17 Year Old Girl..need An Advice No Insult Pls by eazzzy1(m): 4:52am On May 24, 2020 |
I don’t know who made these laws that a 17 year old can’t date a 24 year old but once she turns 18 she can date a 30 year old. If she’s in the university or any other higher institution please go ahead, she’s not a child, if she can choose her course of study she definitely can choose who to date. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Why Is It Wrong To Hit A Woman? by eazzzy1(m): 1:23am On May 22, 2020 |
It is wrong to hit anybody, however Nigerians are very hypocritical, we took only a small segment of that law as applied in western countries. In western countries, teachers do not beat their students, military personnel do not beat civilians, men do not beat women, men do not beat men, parents do not beat children etc. Every kind of beating is prohibited. In Nigeria, the child gets beaten by teachers, parents, older siblings etc, the child in turn beats up people he’s older and stronger than. We grew up like that with a mindset that we should use beating as a way of registering displeasure. If the government is serious, physical violence should be frowned upon across all board starting from the family and schools. That way children can learn that not every situation should be solved with violence. Back to your question, it’s because women are seen as physically weaker than their male counterpart. In the world today the weak is allowed to bully the strong but it mustn’t happen the other way. E.g. fans can insult celebs all day, when the celeb claps back it makes headline, black people can say trash about white people, when a white guy does same he’s accused of racism etc. 1 Like |
Family / Re: When Is The Right Time To Start Having A Boy Or Girl Friend? by eazzzy1(m): 12:20am On May 22, 2020 |
You can’t advise teenagers on issues as this. Once the hormones start they want to be in a relationship and that’s fine. I started dating at 13, I was in JSS3. I think I agree with the guy who says relationships shouldn’t start till you are ready to marry. Anything you do before then is just setting yourself up for heartbreak, relationships should be a means to an end which is marriage, not just a tool to get sexually satisfied. Again, you can’t advise people about these things, they will do what they want anyway. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Why Can't Women Have 2 Husbands by eazzzy1(m): 5:37pm On May 20, 2020 |
Why can’t a woman marry two men is just like asking why can’t men be prostitutes!! The answer is who will patronize them? Is it the same woman who can get sex from any man on her whatsapp or instagram contact who will pay for sex? With the multitude of single women willing and ready to settle down, why will two complete and able men choose to share one? If you choose to buy them with money, the chances of them using your money on other ladies are very high. You can however choose to have multiple sex partners, guys are not selfish, they will even be the one giving your contact out to their friends to bed you. Advantage: you will have lots of sex Disadvantage: if you choose to settle down later on you will have the dilemma of having to inform your partner about your past or risk him finding out from outside sources. |
Family / Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by eazzzy1(m): 2:41pm On May 19, 2020 |
NoToPile: What would you like to read on NL? To hate your husband because he has a bad habit? |
Family / Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by eazzzy1(m): 12:20am On May 19, 2020 |
Women do not always like it when their spouses give other people money, the 5000 or 10000 your husband gives his siblings is not the cause of his lack of investments. There are lots of other ways your husband can cut cost but you are fixated on him not giving his family. Expunge that idea from your mind, it will always be seen as trying to put a wedge between him and his family. If truly your husband is irresponsible with his money, love him through it and one day he will come to realization, if you can’t do that leave the marriage. You are already solely taking care of your immediate family, I’m sure you won’t miss him anyway? 53 Likes 6 Shares |
Celebrities / Re: xx by eazzzy1(m): 6:05pm On May 18, 2020 |
Most working class girls are like this. There are many men who are also like this. They feel threatened with the goodness of their partners they would prefer it didn’t happen. OP you are normal, as long as you don’t physically/intentionally do anything to sabotage his progress, it’s jealousy/fear which are basic emotions. You really are only looking out for yourself, but by doing so wishing someone else bad, it’s good you have acknowledged these emotions, whenever it comes to mind again pray for him and wish him blessings. |
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