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Havesomesense:
I think a rich man, if he desires should have more than one wife.
What do you think?

siofra:
What she did is wrong but why didn't you give her a chance to explain??

Okay since you've sent her out you can now go ahead and marry your mother.

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

phranco:
I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.

The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.

I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.

Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.

BadRadio:
Was at a high class lounge for a friend's birthday party on the eve of Christmas... every one came hand-in-hand with their partners... but as a carefree lone ranger that I am, I went there alone, hands-in-pocket

Sitting on a sofa, I browsed through the guests, looking to spot the best damsel present at the event. As luck may have it, the damsel that caught my interest was sitting alone close to the bar with a glass of wine.

I walked up to her and asked "can I join you?" Sure she said... so I did join her... and ordered for my favourite chocolate vodka

After taking few glasses... my conversation became even more interesting with Shantel... yeah "SHANTEL" that's her name... she looked even more beautiful and I start feeling soft for her suddenly... I was falling in love....



To be continued

It was time for the naughty devils basket game...

Princeadebayo11:
Salute fellow Nairalander, hope you are staying safe and I hope you are all good.
This is the first time I will be breaking a lady's heart ever since I've started dating, it was them that normally end the relationship themselves. But this time around my recent relationship the break up came from me and ever since I told this girl the relationship is not working that we should give it a break she has called 2 times after that accusing me that I wasted her time for almost 4 years which, I tried to let her know that during that 4 years of courtship we only saw each other 10times because it was distance relationship.
Though this girl was the one that woo (toast) me herself back in 2017 but I just had to accept her because I don't want her to feel dejected or embarrassed, I just accepted the proposal out of pity thinking that as times goes on I will develop feelings in the relationship, but the fact is that the feelings normally come anytime we had sex and once she travelled back I will start seeing myself as a single guy. She was the one that normally calls all the time, it's just like she was the only one in the relationship, and she is 24 years old while I am 26. Last week I just decided to advise her that the way this relationship is going it's just like we are wasting our time that she should have plan B in case if things doesn't work out between us, but it seems she didn't understand because she just flared up immediately I said that and started shouting God will judge me for doing that to her. The reason why I ended the relationship was because we can go for like a month without communicating and Both of us will be fine about it and she is planning to settle down next 2 years which I don't see myself in any marriage in 2023. But ever since then I've been having this guilty conscience that even I hardly sleep throughout yesterday night and I have been calling her that ending the relationship doesn't mean we've become enemy that we can still be friends after that but she didn't pick. To be sincere I want to get married to someone I love not someone I will be managing, because marriage is a long journey.
Just that I need to let her know my stands that I am no longer in relationship before it's too late for her to get a perfect man.
I know some people will abuse me that I am still a kid, no problem. I know because I am 26 years old

Ugmama:
The rate at which prices increase in Nigeria is alarming. Those that married earlier than covid period would think price of goods were expensive then, but now they will know how far.

I pity young people who are yet to be married especially those who don't earn much. How can they cope with price of things in the market? Even dowry go don put money too...lol


So my elders in the house, mature minds in the house, married folks in the house, please come to our rescue and advice us on how:

1. To be able to survive this economy as it regards to marriage.

2. Secondly, at what age were you married and advice you intend to give young folks for a successful marriage.

I pray things will get better for all of us.

Please share your view guys and ladies.

Thank you and compliments of the season!!!

JONNYSPUTE:
....Good morning folks. Sure we are all good and managing the effects of pandemic well?. To God be the glory.

This is going to be long because I will want us to read and understand it very well before commenting. Reason is because any decision taken is going to affect both myself,my immediate family members, extended and the entire community.

I have been thinking about the way forward since December last year.

It happened that we lost our king (Eze) 5years ago and the community has been in turmoil due to the inability of the elders to select a new king.

Reason is that it is rotational between my village and the other village.

My village is now supposed to bring out the next king and my compound has been told to bring out somebody to be crowned as a king.

I never envisaged or dreamt of becoming a king in my life because.
(1) My father is still alive.
(2)I'm not the most senior in the entire family.

But then,the elders met me last December and told me that the diety in the community has selected me to become the next king and that I have to pick another wife from the community before I will be crowned.

I told them point and blank that the oracle is mistaken due to the reasons I mentioned above but they are not taking it.

Now everyone in my village is against me for refusing the offer and saying I'm doing it be cause I don't want to hurt my wife which is true.

Now my question is,What do I do?
Should I damn the consequence and pick another wife and be crowned a king in other to make my community happy or should I forget about the whole idea entirely and allow the community sort themselves out?

I'm confused here. N B. My wife is aware of all this.

Thanks.

Please bring this to front page cause I'm no longer myself. So many sleepless nights and selfish advices from the elders in my community. I really need to hear the truth from people I don't know.

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Nowadays, marriages are no longer the way they were in the past. In the past, Love and intimacy were really genuine. The word Love, marriage or intimacy is gradually dying. Nowadays, many people get married to just to bear children, some just For the sex or to satisfy their sexual desire, some just for the money, etc. Sadly after achieving all these above, marriages becomes so dull. If someone says Love or marriage is a scam or it doesn't exist, i may say the person is right because of what marriages are like, nowadays. If u have anything to say, take this mic.

mrkings84:
Good morning Nairalanders. So yesterday as we were watching the Chelsea match in a viewing center, a big, rotund woman, (very big, tall and round) stepped into the arena, at first I didn't really noticed her even though I saw her walked in as I was sitting close to the door (this is my ideal place for sitting when in a large crowd), next thing I heard was a big commanding scream "my friend come with ur phone".

At this point, people's attention were drown to the woman who made the high commanding order, and swiftly i wandered to see who the command was to, lo and behold, it was to a man who is much more older than the woman.
Older in age, but emaller in stature.

And it happens to be her husband.

Now I saw the man step back to where he was sitting, unplug his phone from the wall socket, and made way to meet his commanding wife.

See, while this was going on, I saw on the man's face some trembling reactions. He was kind of shivering and muttering something which even if everywhere was silent no one would have heard.
He was frightened and embarrassed at the same time.

Boom!, The man left with his darling wife. Then some people around me reacted by saying, ah, if this woman is this rude to her husband in public that means in their home the man is in soup.
And some sort of sayings...

"Now, my question is, what should be the right age difference between spouses"?

I didn't just like that incident of yesterday.
I realized the man was way advance than his wife aside the fact that she was very much bigger than the husband in size.

And she appears like a husband beater!!

I think this big age differences between spouses may have lots of disadvantages between them in the long run!
Most especially when one of the spouses becomes disrespectful and mean.

Guys/ Ladies what do u have to say??

Ayantoyeopeyem:
Hi NairalandFam, we all notice and knows what's going on in Ooni of Ife's marriage.
All I want is to start the hashtags is #SaveOonii'sMarriage.
It's not until we wait till everything is scattered in people's lives, the power of social media can destroy and also make things work.
Look at what happened the Female soldier in Kwara, she was eventually Pardoned. We all signed the petition!
I recently watched Oonii's interview, and I can boldly say Baba is still in love with Naomi.
The Elders in the Palace must do something!
The King's and Oba's must do something!
Nigerians must do something!
That marriage must stand!
Nigeria Must stand!
Remember, Togetherness we stand, Divided we fall.
I LOVE MY COUNTRY, I LOVE MARRIAGES
May God bless us all.
Mods, pls do the needful!

steveneche:
Am just curious. With the current state of economy, as a lady, can you marry a guy whose salary is not up to 50k monthly?

Candid opinion please!

laiperi:
Chai, see ignorance. Mine eyes or yours?

Brush up on the chances of getting admitted to hospital and deaths between those that are vaccinated and the unvaccinated.

1nigeriamyfoot:
Use your brain

Theres only one God

I said GOD n not god ok

1nigeriamyfoot:
I don't have time following any MOG

I only pray to God & do good

Kobojunkie:
Hogwash....the man is a leader of a cult. His followers perceive him as their god. They follow his doctrines and traditions against commonsense in most all cases and those who try to rebel or spur change are either bullied into submission or cast out of the group.

1nigeriamyfoot:
Kumuyi misled most of you guys with his cult group he tagged church

In the Bible, drums, piano & other musical instruments was used to praise God but kumuyi said it's not biblical to praise God with musical instruments so they don't use drum in the cult group packaged as church

Kumuyi said it's bad to watch TV whereas he uses same TV to broadcast all his TV activities infact deeper life member only observe services by watching TV which is nothing but stupid & hypocritical attitude from th cult leader named Kumuyi

Pastor W F Kumuyi sees all religious killing under Buhari as nothing even when a pastor of his cult group was murdered in cold just because Buhari is close friend of Kumuyi

Kumuyi was so blind that nothing is working under Buhari but will always sing praises of Buhari at every slight opportunity to do so because he wants to be Biharis friend at all time

The same Kumuyi who banned his church member from wearing wedding garment but his son married his wife wearing wedding dress & nothing happens thereafter

The mumu Kumuyi threatened to stepped down as G.O but many years have passed but he's still the G.O

Anybody following W.F Kumuyi teachings is not only stupid but completely mad

Richdoh:
I'm a young hard work guy who's planning to settle down someday. I have a girlfriend whom I have gone to see her family with my own family , as in, we have done our introduction, what was remaining was for us to fix a date for our wedding.

But this girl started showing some nasty attitude. There was a day she came to spend weekend with me and I gave her some money to buy some food stuffs to cook, that day i received the greatest shocke of my life , my fiancee warmed me never to send her message like that again that she is not my slave.

As if that was not enough. Another day she came to spend some days with me but when she got to my house I was not at home that day. She went to the bathroom to get some shower but unfortunately there was no water running in the bathroom because we didn't had light for 2days so we couldn't pump water. Normally when there's no water like that we usually fetch from the next compound. Though I live in a room and parlour self contain with water running in my kitchen and bathroom.

To cut the long story short, my fiancee refused to fetch water for herself to take her shower. She had to call me on phone to come home and fetch water for her to take her shower. When I eventually got home at late hour, I took the bucket went to fetch water for her to bath just for peace to rain. I later asked her why she had to call me to come and fetch water for her to bath knowing fully well that I was not around. She said in her house, she does not fetch water that her dad usually call Aboki's and buy water from them. She told me that she can't leave a suffering life of having to fetch water, she can never do it.

Please nairalander is this a good sign or bad sign to watch out for?

laiperi:
Obviously edited tape dicerning ears can pick up.

You guys won't give up your mischief

https://www.nairaland.com/6908361/vaccines-skeptics-more-afraid-vaccine#108792122

Cyntie55:
Good day nairalanders. Season greetings to y'all. I'm so angry right now. Please I need mature advice.

My father is not a learned person but he make sure all his children are graduates. My younger brother(last born and only son) rounded up his Nysc few months ago, we're just 2 girls. My elder sis and I. My elder sis is a nurse in Austria (3 years now), she's married with a kid in Austria. My big sister send money home once in 3 months, and I have been the one receiving the money. I share the money exactly as instructed by my big sis. I have never cheated anyone, Infact my Dad and Big sis communicate very well. My Dad trust me so much.

My younger brother is always angry, He said he feel cheated all the time. He shouts and talks to me anyhow like I'm his mate.
Honestly speaking, I gave my younger brother more love and respect that he could ever imagine. When he was serving, he would call telling me he need 10k urgently, sometimes 20k, that he will pay back. Immediately I will send it to him and he would never pay back. Same thing he does to my father.
If we ask him what's he using his allawee for?? He would angrily say so is becus we're sending him "chicken change" that's why we're asking jamb questions.

He said we don't regard him, he called my Dad a SIMP, he said my Dad listen more to my big sis and I....but he don't listen to any of his suggestions.

My brother is a 2:1 (second class upper) graduate in economics from UNIBEN. After his Nysc all he does is to sleep and eat. My Dad's good friend told my brother to come to Lagos and resume work with him. He refused. My Dad ask him if he wants to further his education (masters or professional courses)he said no....Okay follow my Dad to his cement shop and help him (my dad even promised to pay him salary) he refused....I overheard him on a call with a friend and i suspect he's now into yahoo yahoo.

Look at what happened. My big sis sent us money yesterday to celebrate this festive period. She said I should give my brother 50k, I should take 80k and give my father the rest (abt 250k). My Dad is always aware of everything.
I even added 20k out of my money and I transferred 70k to my brother, I was left with 60k (becus she also sent me hair and I plan to sell it becus I already had enough). You can imagine this ungrateful idiot started insulting me, that I cheated him. the fool angrily withdrawn the money from his account and SET IT ON FIRE (70k). He called my elder sister and started warning her saying "if he can't receive the money henceforth, she should stop sending him money again that he's the man of the house".
My Dad gave him a resetting, resounding, hot and dirty slaps. He pulled out a knife, deflated my Dad's car tyres and ran away from the house.

Everyone is not happy. I don't want my brother to live a wayward life. He's 24 years old. Please nairalanders Help!

T0T0fucker:
not everyone is a weakling and wretched like you.

if am not financially and physically stable to fight this, the topic headline would have been different.

(please read the headline again before you comment)

T0T0fucker:
good day all,

I really do need your mature opinions on this issue, I'm a young man in my early 30s. due to my personality am the kind of guy that flex alot. night life parties, clubbing and the rest.sometime last year I happened to be at the club, just like any other day..I took a girl home. (one night stand) we had sex and in the morning she left after I sorted her out.

She took my number though and from there we started chatting, due to how we clicked easily.. just like every other guy..I decided turn her to a friend with benefits...from friend with benefits....she started acting all up like a girlfriend. (coming to my house to pass the night and she can decide to leave whenever she wants) during this period, we had consexual sex raw because I was beginning to trust her a little.... that she wasn't really that bad.

Fast forward to the ending March this year, one issue led to another...and she stopped coming to my house...though we still talked sometimes on phone... later I got to know she got hooked with one rich yahoo boy.( which I didn't Care, because me na block on my own)

Next thing I saw on her whatsapp status was her traditional introduction rights, inviting her friends and well wishers, I congratulated her and moved on. after some time I saw her upload a pics of her baby bump.

Na wa o, na so it dey quick, fast forward to yesterday evening she just put to birth... which she also sent on her whatsapp status. retweeting her friends who congratulated her on her status.

Now, I haven't congratulated her yet, this has got me worried.. thinking.... "WHAT IF THIS CHILD IS MINE" I have every reason to believe it's mine.

1) calculating the month we broke up and had sex last to this December she gave birth is like few days pass 9 months.

2) the way she acted on the issue that made her stop coming to my place again... showed she already had this planned out (picked the yahoo boy over me because she knows am not going wife her...due to how we met )


3) the baby she uploaded is quite fair, and I also am fair in complexion. (her man is black)

With this I have every reason to believe that child might be mine.... but am really confused don't know what to do... have been thinking ever since yesterday night.

Can I fight this now or I should wait till the baby is grown?


Moving on when I know I have a child somewhere, my offsprings is not an option.. because I feel scammed already.

AntiChristian:
1.The LORD is slow to anger, abounding in love and forgiving sin and rebellion. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation.’
Numbers 14:18

2. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God,punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me
Deuteronomy 5:9

3 I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me (Exodus 20:5).

In the second and third verses (which also explains the first verse) we can clearly see that the scriptures say that the punishment of the fathers will be extended to the following generations PROVIDED THEY HATE GOD. So here we can see there is a condition and this must be highlighted

4. God justified a calamity to the people: It is because your ancestors forsook me (Jeremiah 16:11).

Dude quote the full verse. This is what the full verse says: "Then shalt thou say unto them, Because your fathers have forsaken me, saith the LORD, and have walked after other gods, and have served them, and have worshipped them, and have forsaken me, and have not kept my law" (Jeremiah 16:11) Here the LORD God being a just God was going to punish the children of Israel in the same manner as He did the Caananites, Amorites, etc because they were basically doing exactly what these people God punished did, worshipping false gods. Idolatry violates the first law of the ten commandments and its punishment is death. For the wages of sin is death.

But the opposite claim is recorded in the Bible as well.
All man will be punished only for their sins.
6.Fathers shall not be put to death for their children, nor children put to death for their fathers; each is to die for his own sin.
(Deuteronomy 24:16).
7.Everyone will die for their own sin; whoever eats sour grapes—their own teeth will be set on edge (Jeremiah 31:30).
8.The one who sins is the one who will die. (Ezekiel 18:4).

9. Yet you may ask, ‘Why shouldn’t the son bear the iniquity of his father?’ Since the son has done what is just and right, carefully observing all My statutes, he will surely live. 20The soul who sins is the one who will die. A son will not bear the iniquity of his father, and a father will not bear the iniquity of his son. The righteousness of the righteous man will fall upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked man will fall upon him. 21But if the wicked man turns from all the sins he has committed, keeps all My statutes, and does what is just and right, he will surely live; he will not die.…Ezekiel 18:19-21

All the verses quoted in verses 1-4 are in agreement with the verses 6-9 because the punishment of the Fathers will only pass on to the sons if the sons are also sinners. The very verse you posted, Ezekiel 18:19-21 proves this point. If the son has done right and is just, observing the statutes of GOD he will live because he has chosen not to hate and GOD and hence the punishment of Deuteronomy 5:9 does not apply to him

Where does this leave Original Sin? This is the idea that we’re born fallen and deserve hell because of Adam’s sin, which infects us all. What foundation remains for Original Sin if it is undercut by the Bible itself?

[b] Paul said: "For I was alive without the law once: but when the commandment came, sin revived, and I died." Romans 7:9. This verse shows the effect of the original sin. Paul being alive without the law is in references to his life as a child not aware of the law or conscious of right or wrong but when the commandment came into his awareness and he knew what was right from what was wrong, sin revived in his and he died. Death here is not in reference to a physical death but to a supernatural death where he becomes unable to relate with the Father due to the residual levels of the HolySpirit present in him. Man is a natural sinner, one that does as he pleases irrespective of the consequence of his actions on others and hence the law was given to provide man with GOD's opinion, the standard, relating to acceptable conduct. However being devoid of the HolySpirit he could not live up to GOD's standard easily and hence there is reward for denying your desires drive by sinful nature for the purposes of living by GOD's standard. This reward was clearly stated in Joshua 1:8 "...thou shalt make thy way prosperous and then though shalt have good success". Hence any man who lives by his desires (sinful nature/original sin) and not in alignment with the law of the LORD is subject to the punishment and if his sons also lead by their desires (sinful nature/original sin) they will inherit the punishment meted to their Fathers (in agreement with Deuteronomy 5:9) but if his sons deny their sinful desires and strive to live in alignment with the law of the LORD they will find mercy and live (in agreement with Ezekiel 18:19-21). [/b]

7victor:
Traveling is part of enjoyment and education.

But as you travel, learn to look at the beauty of nature.

Make sure you look at the trees, rivers, rocks, mountains, valleys and the countryside.

Look at the houses on the way, in the remote areas and in the towns and cities as the journey progresses.

Make sure you appreciate the beauty of the Savannah in the north and the rainforest in the south for those going from north to south.

Try to behave as a child by asking questions in your mind concerning the small things you see on the way.

Questions like: Why does that bird I am seeing over there have 3 colors in it's feathers?

Why is that river flowing through that forest. Of course, those questions need not be answered. It only helps you to be a child temporarily.

It helps to heal someone's body and soul. It heals someone in a way undreamt of.

Don't just stay in the bus/car praying for the journey to end.

Try to enjoy the journey.

Make sure you buy any local delicacy of any town on the road if such delicacy is sold along the way.

Relax your mind, afterall being agitated during the journey would not suddenly land you where you are going. Why must you tense up when it would not help you in any way? It won't help you arrive sooner.

So relax your mind and make sure you enjoy your journey because it heals the brain.

KnownUnknown:
I told a Christian that if man is made in the image of god, then god is a supernatural ape. Of course he vehemently disagreed.
However, he didn’t explain why humans have similarities to other Apes (of course he can’t explain anything) So I maintain that this god is Super Chimp. He gets angry and throws shit everywhere like an ape.