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content208:
Please, when will Pentecostal Churches stop feeding their members with this error?!

qualityovenbake:
Reminds me of that India movie late 80s "Snake Girl".

sweetonugbu:
Sisi, embarrassing men since 2010, men should never beg for se.x, we are expensive, we should be paid.

coolitempa:
Not these people again o.....

Lexusgs430:
Simply stop driving..........

Queentee214:
Hi everyone,
Am really confused on what to do right now and I need advice.

I and my ex broke up six months ago...I broke up with him cuz we are always having misunderstandings...not just that..he can't control himself when angry , he always end up insulting me and calling me names but apologize when he is calm.

The last one that led to our break up was when we went to his friend's birthday party..on getting there,,i met an old time friend(a guy) and we talked for few mins .i went back inside where the party was holding and I met my bf angry already,,we end up quarreling there and he called me a prostitute in front of everyone(that wasn't the first time he would embarrass me in public)...

I was hurt and left there...i started ignoring him and the relationship wasn't going well anymore...i broke up with him afterwards ..i love him but I can't accept his flaws ..we tried to get back together but end up blaming each other for everything.

Six months later, I'm in a relationship with another guy..he has his flaws too but not bad...
Now the problem is I still love my ex and we still talk and chat almost everyday...

He is the first person I call when I need advice and vice versa..my ex family thinks we are still together and always call to check up on me....this is causing problems in my new relationship....

I decided to cut contact with my ex but he is isn't ready to let me go and neither am i..

Just last week my bf broke up with me and told me to call him when am ready to cut off contact with my ex...

Am really confused and I don't know how to do what he asked me...pls anyone with advice on how to forget someone should help me

I need to forget and move on from my ex
....pls advice... Thanks

Pls no one should come here and start telling me I met a good guy and toying with his feelings..

My ex is also a good guy, he just has his flaws...I just need advice...

Thanks

partnerbizn5:
I will call her on phone to come back home from wherever she is, hug and kiss her, reassure her of my love for her; prepare her favourite meal, and make the bed for her to sleep. We will look for the way forward afterwards ranging from sending her abroad to counselling.


You know why?


She needs me now more than ever. The whole world is against her. The hypocrites.

I will be with her now!



Another option is to disown her, let her go into depression and may be suicide.


I choose the former, first option.



Wisdom is profitable to direct!


toks2008

pansophist

queenfav
pocohantas

Dimples0303:
What's your flavour

cococandy:
Who’s raising you people?

Mrsabuh1:
please I seek advise from experts here as I'm lost and devastated over this issue , please bear with me as my story is a little bit long.
this is the 7th year of my marriage and the union is blessed with three kids, hubby and I stayed in UAE, but whenever I'm pregnant I come down to have my kids due to cost and also I ll b needing helping hands after delivery , it happened that when I came down to have my last child 3years ago as ,and as usual I was preparing to return to UAE , I discovered that my Husband had canceled the resident visa for myself and our two kids, when I confronted him he said he is making plans to leave UAE and there was no point for us coming back and also business isn't moving as usual so taking care of us will cause a strain on his finances ..at first I felt bad and cried about it but later I accepted my fate and moved on .
first plan was for me to apply for Canada study visa, the plan was to go with my last child and after sometimes hubby and my other kids can join me later , I got admitted into a Canadian college but when the time for visa processing hubby pulled out that we should go the express entry way , I accepted and started with registering for ielts tutorials which I did for 5weeks ,and to God b the glory I aced my exam , it was left for him to write his as he ll b standing as the primary applicant since he has lots of job experience but along the line he pulled out again and said everyone is going to Canada and he ll work out something different .
last year he applied for US visa he was denied, he applied for Germany too, still denied . while he was doing all this I was alone in Nigeria with the kids while he stays in UAE but visits every 5months .. this year June we had some issues that would ve resulted to divorce but we settled it with the help of some elders so he said he was going to make up for his mistake by applying for UK for both of us so we can just take a vacation to London , of course I was excited and looking up for the trip.
he applied for UK visa for both of us and lucky they granted us 6months, I was already getting set and looking forward to the trip when he said he needed to rush down to UAE as he has some unfinished business , two days after he left I saw him updated his fb and the location was showing UK , he left without me and he didnt even Informed me that he ll b going untill he got there , when I confronted him he came up with the excuse that he needed to meet with some companies over investment so that way he can process resident permits for everyone at home so we all come over there at once , two days later he told me he got a job .
its been 2months over there already, we filed our stay for 10days when applying for the visa and I know what he has done is messing his future chances up , now he doesn't do video call, won't pick my calls when I call at my own time , from 7pm he isn't active as no way I can reach him, before now the only time he put a call across is when he is in a bus .. I confronted him over all this and guess what. ,he has stopped talking to me , Wont reply my chats or even talk to me yet he reads them ,our sons bday was 4days ago and he couldn't even call to speak with him or wish him happy birthday.
I'm so confused ,this is the man that I have lost lot of jobs opportunity for simply because he doesnt want me to work, I learnt fashion designing so it won't be like I'm staying at home doing nothing, I run a fashion store but trust me I'm not feeling it because its not what I'm meant to do ..In two months time I will b 30 and you know how nig systems works, the older you get, the lesser chances of getting a job I dont even know what to do with myself ,please advise me what to do ?
I'd also like those who ve an idea of how the system in UK works to tell me how long it takes for one to b granted residential permits in the UK so I ll know when all this will end or if it ll ever end so I can make my next move
also how possible it is for one to land UK and in two days he is already working .
I feel used, I feel like hubby used me to secure a visa and I was never in his plans..I reported the issues to our family already and he Told them all he did was for the future of myself and the kids and I shld endure but I do not know for how long..,I'm tired of this distsnce marriage ,its been 3years in distance marriage and its been hell for me.
MOD please help me post this

graciously03:
They want her to wear skimpy clothes, show off her boobs and butt.. This same set of people will still criticize her if she dresses that way.. Confusionist
Ndi ara

Pettyprincess:
Lol see how guys are wailing above
Bt op your title says 160k while in your write-up you wrote 60k,can you please clarify?

UnbiasTruth:
I am sorry this is rather too long but please I need to pour out my mind because I need your mature advice. I have been going through a lot of trauma since my husband stopped working and it is really getting to me because my blood pressure is high.

I love my husband and despite what is happening now, I still love him. I just need advice on how to manage the situation right now.

My husband is a hard-working, loving, caring and gentle man; he showed me true love from the first day I met him. He was very dedicated to his job and he received commendations from his boss and colleagues at work but something just happened that led to his resignation.

A kind of conspiracy against him. He was advised by one of his superiors at work to resign. Now it’s been more than a year that he is out of job. All attempts to get him back into the labour force had been futile because he keeps saying he does not want to settle for less.

He was earning six figure salary while at his former place of work and he has a side business which he still manages till now but the profit is close to nothing and it is not even constant.

Now, the issue I have with him is that my husband gets angry at almost everything. He nags and drinks (not with friends because he is an introvert) excessively, so he is always at home. He keeps on complaining about our house helps even when I investigate and realize that most of his complaints are flimsy. We have changed house helps in this year up to 4 times.

So, in August this year, I decided not to get any maid again since we could not find one whose domestic care service would satisfy my husband.

Mind you, I have been the one practically footing the bill after two months that my husband lost his job because we made a huge investment in acquiring some property shortly before he lost his job. So, I pay house rent, school fees, feed the whole family (we have 3 lovely children) from my salary.

My nature of work rarely gives me time so I can’t afford to take care of the children and do much of the house chores. I explained to my husband to assist since he is always at home but he keeps saying if he had not lost his job, I wouldn’t have asked him to do basic house chores.

I know he was raised with silver spoon so he rarely knows how to do most domestic work. I had been the one doing this before we started having house helps and my job at office got more engaging.

My pastor recently advised that I should consider getting a professional cleaner who will only do some routine cleaning and leave immediately because my husband may not be comfortable with a stranger in the house.

Two days ago, I came across a thread https://www.nairaland.com/5426688/what-cost-getting-regular-home here on Nairaland while searching for a good cleaning service here in Lagos and I decided to pay for the service of a male cleaner.

After discussing with my husband, he shunned the idea and still insists I do it myself. So, he asked me to demand a refund. I need someone to help me do some basic cleaning at home since I can afford to pay for the service, but my husband does not want to accept any stranger in our home.

I have asked my pastor and my mother-in-law to talk to him also but he is still keeping deaf hear.

Is there anyone with a better suggestion before I get fed up?

Janelle08:
Hi Nairalanders,

What is your opinion on this topic.

In a situation where a woman receives some inheritance from her father or a share of her late father's property, is she expected to hand over her inheritance (money) to her husband?

Married folks over to you. Women, how will you handle your inheritance? Men, how do you expect your wives to handle her inheritance?

Hubsolar:
I trust FG
Reaping where they didn't sow
At least they should do the honourable thing and return it to the foreigners he stole from

1Sharon:
We all know he's not your dad. You and your brother, bloody liars.

SKYloafFISH:
I mean my profile

Shegzy8:
She is only trying to gain public sympathy. There are so many flaws and ignorance in what she wrote.
There are parish pastor's, Area pastor's, Zonal pastor's, Provincial pastor's and Regional pastors. It is impossible for you to pastor two churches in Redeem let alone Zonal churches.
No Redeemed pastor builds a church with his money, they are contributed from all quarters.

Tithes and offerings are remitted according to hierarchy. They are meant for the church and not pastor's. So she shouldn't go about feeding people lies.

Pastor's are paid there allowance and salary monthly and are also been paid pension after retirement.
It shows she knows nothing about the church apart from been a pastor's daughter.

Pearchi:
So I am dating this guy,is long distance. He was the one that asked me out o,along the line I started loving him more than.

I really love him but he would not call/chat unless I do always saying business stress, I see him online,I just ignore. He tells me he still loves and even coming to visit this Christmas but communication is a big issue, he wasn't like that before,he is always asking me to send sexy pictures which I can't do because I don't take such pictures, I am not really a picture person. This guy is every thing I prayed in a man,I don't know if his behavior is because he knows I love him or he is not just into me

Meanwhile I have 2 other serious guys asking me out yet I have feeling/love for any of them.

PrincessGift:
Who the bleep is he?

Bluebarbie10:
Hello guys a friend of mine shared her little story with me and I want to see your opinion on this.
She's being dating this guy for 8months on a no sex relationship but they later started having sex 3months later. She caught the guy cheating on her with some other girl. She was broken and I consoled her and adviced her to quit the relationship in which she agreed on.

Later she started saying that she can't leave the guy and that anytime she goes to his place, he would touch her and she will just fall. He even beats her but still she said she loves him that no man has made her feel the way she feels when with him.
Please my friend needs help this guy is not worthy of her.