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Smartford:
Thank you very much for your kind advice. It's very realistic.i really appreciate

AuroraB:
Wife wey just carry belle to now goan start teaching
Who employs pregnant women in this country and won't she sleep the whole time This is a big lesson to the 2 of them . To the girl, getting pregnant to hook a man doesn't stop what she's running away from.
To the boy, you can't carry another person while standing on just one leg.

Prechgold1180:
Good day members of Nairaland

Please I need your take on this

My close friend is planning on getting married to a prostitute unknowingly

My friend has been away for some time came back last year.
Don’t know how they started the relationship
He introduced her to me last month as the lady he is planning on taking as a wife
The thing is I know this girl very well and she knows me
I have seen her countless times standing out looking for customers in a popular hotel

I know more than three people who have slept with this said girl even me myself I have (ok story for another day)



The thing is I don’t know if it’s nice to tell my friend what I know or I should just mind my business

For some time now she has stopped going to the spot to look for customers

She looks so innocent

Dainy1:
So, we relocated to a new environment. The formal school is too far from us. So, I decided to look for a closer school. Although it was a small school, I didn't inspect the environment very well too, but I was told by neighbors that they teach very well.
I took my daughter there, and made all the payment (35k)
After school the very first day, she came home and said she's not going there again that her class smells an offensive odour. her class mates told her and showed her a broken socker way that is behind her class window covered by curtains. Very irritating and smelling.
Secondly, primary 3, 4 and 5 are merged together and they teach them same topic.
I went there and comfirm everything.

The problem is, I want a refund and the woman told me her husband said, I can not get a refund after payment.
That the only alternative is to leave my daughter's there for this term.
Just a day after payment, I can't get a refund.
I don't want problem with this woman and her school but how can I go about This? I really need a refund.

The school environment is bad and not healthy for children at all. I'm sure if all the parents should check the back side of the classes, they will feel so sorry for their children.

Smartford:
Good day fam, I newly got married in (April 2022) and my wife is now 2 months pregnant. I live in my own house of 2 bedroom apartment with another 1 bedroom apartment attached. I am a fresh graduate (have not gone for nysc.) Lost my job weeks to by wedding. Now the problem is that I have an out standing debts to the tone of 2.3mill. it includes a police bond which is due for payment last month, a couple of due loans from loan apps that are already unlishing all manner of treths, my in-law gave me 200k during my wedding and she is about to take a title in the village and needs money to run around (she have not asked for it but I can read the handwriting on the wall), and many unpleasant debts adding to the fact that I have no help from any family member as I am the first son, my parents are all retired and are using their pension to train younger ones. Uncle's are all making sure that no one in the family surpass their kids so have never and not ready to give 1kobo. it happens that almost all needs their money and some (police and loan app) may take legal actions against me anytime also to avoid my in-law from making unpleasant side talks. We bearly eat 3 square meal and there haven't been any income since April.
I have nothing doing, and my wife have nothing doing too. Depression pushed me into Yahoo but I am not seeing any light. I am also very fluent in programing Bitc0in investmeint websites, etc and as a result flooded both Facebook and nairaland with my ads which got by accounts banned. I have waited on the Lord and have submitted my application letter to several offices even to filling station, gas plants and at a point, I even applied at a bread factory all to no avail. All I have is my humble self with a bright future and a house at okpanam, asaba Delta State.
Note: I am ready to take any action even if it requires to start from scratch all over again as I am still young.

I need your advice,
What do you advice me to do.
Please help a brother.

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to you all wherever you are reading this my story. I am just in an emotional situation now that i need a breather and what to do to ease me of this emotional pains am going through.
I got married 5 years ago and have 2 daughters to that. For almost 5 years of marriage, i have not had any reason to suspect my wife of cheating cause she has always prove to be a loyal and trustworthy person to me not until recently that i started noticing some things popping up. Our marriage has not been that rosy and perfect as we do have alots of arguments which i have tried my best to make her happy in my capabilities. I fund the house finances and barely get any tangible financial support from her but that doesn't really bother me so far am still capable of meeting those bills.
It happened when i noticed that my wife started using password on her phone and she react negatively whenever i want to access her phone. Though she doesn't pick up my phone cos its also has password but i can never deny my wife access to my phone whenever she wants to make use of it. Anytime i want to access her phone, she says she cant allow me cos i dont allow her aswell which is not true. I only password my phone cos of security purpose. The last time i used her phone, i noticed she deleted a particular chat with a guy. It was the guy replying chat that made me knew she deleted the conversation and the way the guy was addressing her made me so uncomfortable. He was using my love and all sort of romantic words to my wife, i saw it and confronted her about it that i dont like it but she said he is just a friend that she knew way back before she got married. I noticed the guy just left the country to an arab country and my wife told me that its strictly business of exporting food stuff to him thats between then.
Fortunately, i picked up her phone last night and what i saw was so devastating, i noticed she was still chatting with the guy and also exchanging love words together. My wife told the guy that she loves him and also miss him so much. This was just a little out of their conversation. I was so mad and screenshot those chat and send to my self for evidence cos she can deny anything deniable. I sent those shots to out church pastor, her dad, her mom and also all her siblings to know what their daughter was doing under my roof. Her dad has been apologizing that i should forgive her but seriously am so hurt emotionally right now and just felt like leaving the marriage cos to trust her henceforth will be difficult.
Pls what advice can you give i do and also did i over reacted by sending those screenshot out to her family and pastor. I need to know cos am confused. Pls pardon my english and typo errors.

WibusJaga:
Quite Impossible for someone born blind to dream, because there is no mental picture of anything in his mind.

adeoyekay:
Weldone, I think this is okay.

BIDOO:
Hmm! What a world we're in, it's such a great worried indeed, please no be by force to marry! Look for someone to put you in family way because age is no longer at your advantages in term of reproduction! My cent.

GraciousGod190:
The area I recently packed to is filled with yahoo boys and men that can't keep their thing in their trousers. Most of them all they do is hang about with bags across their chest. go after small small girls just for the fun of it..what my eyes saw today I'm still in shocked a teenage girl that my daughter might be older than already pregnant with her tommy shooting out.....my daughter is almost 15yrs, I like to know as a father how do I make her keep her virginity for her future husband.
Do I always check it like monthly interval (hospital) or just warn her sternly?
Please help, parents in the house.

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Mynd44
Seun

henrimoto:
,..kiikikikii... Lol. @frozen70. Mama! You no go kee person with this your comment. Kai! Loll..

pansophist:
No, people will not purposely commit crimes just to have rested there. Nigerians and Norwegians are humans, and no humans want captivity. But if it happens that Nigeria becomes as good as Norway, people will have an awesome life to a point that such prison will be hell for them.

No amount of luxury will be better than captivity, after all, a golden prison is still a prison.

BigBashiru:
House help erodes the validity of the marital contract.... a house help helps the woman with house work but who helps the man wiith bank job?? And eventually na both househelp and wife go dey chop husband moni as a right....

Ready100:
Halden Prison is a maximum-security prison in Halden, Norway. It has three main units and has no conventional security devices. The second-largest prison in Norway, it was established in 2010 with a focus on rehabilitation; its design simulates life outside the prison.


Let get into details

starbuck:
*141#, then click on 'My Area'
If it doesn't reflect, continue typing the code till you see it.. Though mine now reflects on 'My offer' because I have been on it for long

starbuck:
5k Airtel will give him 40gb for 30 days

Ablemed:
Can therapy work for me?? isn't it to late at 24years of age?? I just finished calling mum now and accused her of everything that has happened to me, I told her I don't want to hear from her, not anytime soon. I've tried calling my Dad to but his line is switch off, I just wanna cut both of them off, They put me in this mess that I have to fight alone now

Prospertochu:
Thank you for the advice I am a single father and the problem has been resolved my triplets will go to school with their mates on the 26th of September

henrimoto:
@Frozen70 ... 1,000 likes for you.

Militant1:
I will try to be brief and straight to the point.

My wife stays up late (11pm -12 am) every blessed day.... That's the problem.

We live in Lagos and have 2kids, 3yo and 8 months. My wife was working before but left the job when she gave birth. There is a job waiting for her when the baby is 1y6mnths, therefore she is a stay at home mom.

We live on the mainland but I work on the island so I live home as early as five. In our house we have all the amenities you can think of; 24 hrs light (NEPA plus inverter), running water, gas, 2 washing machines etc to make a home 95percent comfortable but my wife can't seem to cope and it started when we had one child.

She doesn't wash my clothes, my office shirts and suits are given to dry cleaner to arrange while my other laundry I do myself every weekend with the washing machine.

When I get home by 7pm or 8, that's when she now starts rushing to bath the kids and prepare dinner, so we eat by 9 or 10. Before the kids play play and play, by 11pm we are still awake. Sometimes I go to bed by midnight and have to wake up by 4am to go to work again. It's impacting on my health and my work. She will sleep by 12 am and wake up by 8 or 9am the following day.

I have tried to beg and appeal to her. If I eat out and come home to just sleep, she go dey vex. If I just come home shower and sleep the kids who have passed their bedtime will be playing and when madam is ready to sleep they won't agree to sleep. She will beat them, guess who they will come crying to- daddy that just started sleeping and has to wake by 4am, I will now pet and pet till 2am before kids sleep.. I have advised her that kids have a bedtime(8pm). When I man up and off the tv by 9pm and tell everyone to go to bed, she says I am disrespecting her. She reports me to her mum.

Worse still our sex life is horrible... We have sex like once in 2 month.. At 35 I am in my sex prime and can Bleep everyday but she doesn't seem to care about me because she is always tired am I pity her so I don't demand sex so much.

I fully understand stay at home is not easy and I help her when.

I tried to create a schedule for her.

Wake up by 6am
By 7 she suppose don clean finish
By 8 breakfast should be ready for her, kids
9-10am bath herself and the kids
10-12 do any other stuff in the house
12-3pm rest, watch movies, chill
3-5pm... Do whatever she likes
5pm boil water and bath the kids
6pm she don bathe and bath kids
7pm... Food don done... Everything dey freezer
8pm we eat
By 9 everyone goes to bed and we knack 1hr

I throw the trash every day
Na me dey go market buy foodstuff
On weekends I clean the house
I wash my all my clothes
I provide all the finance in the house
I satisfy her on the bed when we naka. She begs me that she's tired
I buy her gifts, drop 3k for her everyday
Why should we have a house help when she is a stat at home mum (for now)

So what's the problem..


Mothers, are my demands too much?
Mothers, please when do you close your kitchen and go to bed?
Are you still awake by 11pm every blessed day.
Am I crazy?

Please advice me.

I have begged her, pleaded, shouted, done everything. Sometimes I intentionally come home late (10-11pm) thinking that the kids have gone to bed but my first child will be watching cartoon.

Please advice me. I am going crazy, Lagos is stressful

Softboy001:
Some people are so wicked and inconsiderate, about 2 months ago in July I packed into a smaller apartment. A room self con. I was broke and going through hard times. I decided to cut my cloth according to my size.

My neighbor that was beside me, was a single lady too just like me a single. But it was obvious she got everything cut out for herself well, giving the way her room was and the way she was putting on Gen.

Now like I said, things was hard for me, I could bearly eat. And it was still 10 days before they pay salary. I was hooked. Nothing on my hand. Where I was working, I won a bag of rice, as one of the best staff. But I didn't have gas or anything in room. Alot of things happened to me. Story for another day. I just rented the room. It was empty and sleeping on the floor.
Hunger wan finish man. I was just there with the bag of rice. So I decided to sell it. It was 25kg rice. So many people came to buy it. Some were saying 12k, some 13k.

When this my unfortunate neighbor heard that I want to selling, she came to beg me to sell it for her. 2 of my neighbors actually came.
1 said 12. But this my neighbor said 11k.
But because a room was closer to mine I decided to sell it for her for 11k. Just because of neighbors. I gave her the rice.
Give money turn to problem. She first gave me 5k. She said she will send the remaining in my account. And then that was it. Since then if I call her she will not pick, if text her she will not reply. She has been avoiding me.

It's been 2 months now, money I no see, am a very gentle person why I remained calm. Hoping she will pay.
How do I handle this situation without it turning to quarrel

Prospertochu:
Is 4 or 5 years too late to start school? I am asking because my triplets will be 3 years next month I have no plan for all three to start school yet because I am not financially stable i can only afford for one which will not be fair on the other two. I will keep them at home until they are 4 or 5 years. I hope it will not affected them when they start school at 4 or 5 years also what is the best way to teach them at home any books reccomandation and prices please??

Imlost:
Good evening everyone, I had to create an account and put this out in order to get this out of my chest.

I got married to my pastor's daughter last 2 weeks ago and right now, all I think of is to divorce her as I can't lie to myself that I'll continue with the marriage.

Here's the issue:

All through my life, I've always been a virgin due to the fact that I'm a very religious person.

I finally got to wed the love of my life 2 weeks ago. We had met at a friend's wedding and it was like love at first sight for the both of us.

She is the perfect woman and has all the qualities I had always imagined In a woman.

After our wedding 2 weeks ago, I got to have our first time 4days after the wedding.

Even though it was my first time, it just didn't feel right to me (I've had people discuss about virgins having tight virgina, and the hymen being broken, etc.).

And so, I jokingly asked my wife who her first was (I wish I never did).

She got a little bit excited and told how she started having sex at 13 while she was in SS1 with one of her senior in SS3.

She also told me how she had 3 boyfriends in the university and also about her ex in her former place of work.

In all, she had 5 body counts. she asked me about my sexual experience too and which I told her that I'm a virgin, and she was my first.

She got silent and the environment was a bit quite. Well, we were like that until sleep drifted us both to sleep.

Ever since then, my love for her has dwindled.

I have always have respect for this girl and right now, I feel cheated.

Agreed, I never discussed anything about her being a virgin or not. I just assumed she was since she's my pastor's daughter.

Right now, I can't divorce her because I feel like it will seem like I'm disrespecting her dad, who is my pastor.

And also, I feel like I should cheat outside my marriage and have fun just like she did in her youthful years so that we can be even.

I am 29 while my wife in question will be 26 next month.

I'm I being childish? Or will I get over it?

Anytime I look at her, I always look at her with some disgusted look on my face.

I wish I never asked her about her past in the first place and I wish I could just erase the memory of her past in my head.

hunterezi:
Good day Nairaland Family.

I want to make this post as short as possible.

So, I had a baby with a girl in 2018 in my final year in school and I've been trying my best to keep her and the baby. (I created a post here then too).

Fast forward to last year I went for NYSC in Gombe and she got admission into the university. I returned for holiday last December, checked my girl's phone and saw that she has been seeing another guy in the school. The messages I saw broke me ehn despite all I do to please this girl still I forgave her (I was thinking it was cos of the distance that's making her see another guy). She promised to leave the guy bla bla..

When I left for Gombe, I noticed she has gone back to the said guy again. I confronted her and she said a lot of things to me. Bad things. I was perplexed knan. I never believed this girl can do and say such things. She outrightly told me that ive not married her and she can see any guy! She blocked me on WhatsApp.


Ever since then I've been sending upkeep to her mum who is taking care of the baby.

When I returned, I tried to make things up again cos I don't want to be having children with different women. But she declined and now her parents are supporting her.

Still, I do send upkeep. I've never missed a month. The thing is I'm sincerely tired of everything. I want to leave them with the child and not do anything with them again

When I get a job and be comfortable again, I might return cos they're milking the little I saved and its affecting me.

What do you think I do?

PS: She is still with same guy

dubaino:
I DONATED MY KIDNEY TO MY HUSBAND when doctors confirmed both his kidneys were all damaged

‘IT was not easy, but it was worth it. I reached a point where I started thinking that what if both of us died here in India, who will keep our three children! But I drew my strength in prayer and my favourite verse 1 John 3:16……. I did it for him and the children!’

I thought this was the end of me Seeing my husband Benjamin Mowa and at some point i visualized myself as a widow, i couldn't handle it so i decided to take the risk

I did it for the love i have for my family and also to fulfill my wedding vows, i thank God it all went successfully, please, help me thank God for saving us

@Prayer Room Network

princezzz:
I need help o.
Money keeps missing from my handbag and this has happened for 4 conservative days, should I be worried?
Back story: On Thursday,after returning from work,I had #900 in my bag
On Friday,when it was time to pay the bike man on my way to work,I couldn't find any money in my bag.
I withdraw #3000 that day, after all expenses for Friday, I was left with#1400
On Saturday,on my way to work and on checking my bag,I discovered that #600 was missing from that money.
I withdraw my expense money for next week on Saturday, about #6000 I intentionally tied #1700 with rubber band,so I was having 3 bundle of #1700 tied separately with one bundle of #1000. Remember all this was tied separately,so I was having 4 bundle of money.
On getting home I kept my back and went to wash,after washing, on checking my bag, one of the #1700 I tied together was missing.i told my younger sister about it,and to not sound spiritual,we concluded that I must have been careless with the previous lost money.
She asked that I take the remaining money out of the bag, but I refused and left the 3 bundles there,I wanted to find out if money can disappear from handbags without wings.
Nobody,and i mean nobody including myself went to that bag through out Sunday,i am very sure of that.
On opening that bag this Monday morning,I found only two bundle of money,and one of the bundles had just #1400 as again the #1700 I kept. So out of almost #6000 that I withdraw on Saturday,I was left with #2400 this morning.so I have lost a total of #5200 in 4 days in this difficult period.
I was so angry in my spirit,and planned to burn the bag, but on telling my aunt,she said na to put am for prayers. I currently did not go out with that bag,and I will be very watchful with any money that comes my way. Make I know if it is the bag that has an issue or it is my hands holding the money that are affecting me. Is there any spiritual meaning to this,is something after me
I am trying to take my mind of this issue, but please should I be worried??
P.s : I am 100% over sure that nobody in the house entered my bag,I have been there for almost a year and have never experienced this. It's just ,a younger sister of 17,a younger brother of 12 and their mom

Fira09:
A Nigerian man has taken to Twitter to share his amazing transformation photos, two years after he stopped being a crystal meth 'meth' addict.

@BadboiNelson said he "turned to drugs for comfort after being brutally heartbroken" by his ex.

Revealing that it was a devastating experience, he urged people to stay away from drugs. He tweeted;


https://twitter.com/BadboiNelson/status/1568654621824143361?t=_0jtemyZ-_HgoUIrZnLlyg&s=19[/quote]He was actually embalming himself alive

Well some heart brakes can be very devastating

Fedrams:
Am not talking about using forte oil for servicing cars, but what am saying is using it as gear oil.

Nigerianization:
It's not easy. Bringing in family to join your business is tricky. Easy to come in, hard to discard.

Treat him with a long spoon, am talking from experience

Sweetmaama:
I have a niece, she bedwet seriously. No matter the fluid intake regulation given to her, she still bedwet.
Who has a solution to this problem please.

sokeril:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders,I’m bringing this here because I know there are so many reasonable and matured people here and I will like you to advice my brother and his wife whose home is currently breaking apart.
Now these are the issues.
My elder brother is 34 years old,got married about four years ago.He is a lawyer (doing quite really well) and also lectures at one of the SW state universities.

His wife is a nurse, currently in the UK,before she left for the UK shortly after the birth of their only child till date(though she is currently pregnant).Before she left my brother was not in total support but eventually had to bow down to pressure from various parties.
Now the current is issue is that the wife want the husband to come and stay in the UK permanently, that husband and wife has to be together..and she complained of a host lot of other things.
My elder brother is having none of it, he argued that it does not make sense for him having struggled to build his legal career to this stage(Nine years at the bar now) and with the huge potential to even achieved more in his career that he can not close his law firm, lose his client and career and moreover if he is relocating to the UK then which job is available for him or what will he even be doing that will worth risking his career back home in Nigeria....The wife said she has factor this in her plan and that’s why she is willing to write professional exams and move to the USA where there are better job opportunities and he may even still practice his law there.
The wife has been threatening fire and brimstone that she will abort her current pregnancy and fill for divorce..my brother has told her to do her worst.
My brother believes his wife is trying to manipulate him,and he is being wary of sacrificing his career for a woman....he believes if he make this move he may regret it in the future having come this far in his legal profession.
Though majority of my brother’s friends abroad are encouraging him to take the risk that he will not regret it,My brother said when pressed none of these people have also been able to give him any cogent answer whenever he talk about what job will replace his fairly successful career back home in Nigeria.
Your advice and criticism are well welcome,thank you.

knowhowk:
Why Would a Right thinking Woman Turn Children against their Father ?


The Home Could be Hectic and Frustrating , Some Men tend to Leave the Home and decides to Live in Isolation .

What Could be the Reasons ?
My thoughts Apart from a Human Ritualist Father , Murderer father trying to Kill .I don't think there are other reasons good enough for a Woman to Turn Children against their Father .My Opinion..What is yours ?