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Kinzo0917:
Thank you so much for your prayers. I say a big Amen to that. I also pray God gives you yours that will love, cherish and respect you. And above all, one who loves and fear God

Amen

Poswahala:
Guys I genuinely need some advice
Because of the state of my mental health I have decided never to get married or have kids.

I suffer from intense depression and anxiety and other mental health problems. I'm unsure of my own future talk more of a child.

I do love being in relationships but I do that only for companionship and sex.

I don't know if I will regret my decision. The guys I have dated have been cool with my no marriage proposal but I don't think any Nigerian man will not want kids.

I'm thinking of moving to another country, buy a house, take care of my community and neighbors then when I'm old, I will move to a retirement home.

If I change my mind I can adopt a child, am not against adoption as I am with marriage, it depends on if my mental health improves.

The problem I have is that will I be lonely without a child, like I said I'm not into marriage despite being a woman trained in traditional home, it's not that I hate it or anything, it's not just for me. I will be unhappy being married.

But the child thing is bothering me, I always wanted a child, but i don't want my mental health to prevent me from loving and caring for the child.

Please advise.

Your case is complex in the sense that you know the problem you have with mental issues

You have not started what you ha e done to put yourself back to normal

Does it mean that you want to be alone in this world, loneliness kills faster than sickness

Am glad you use to be into relationships, taken in, ha e the child, hand the child to any family member that will help you nurse the child

With time your mental health will go away, if you realy work on it and by then you will appreciate the child

If you have the money to relocate abroad and live yourself then settle in the old people's home, that means you have lost your roots and no one will see you again talk more of your corpse

First of all, go to Psychiatric hospital and treat yourself properly then let's see if you can reason like a normal woman

Kinzo0917:
. Amen ooo. I have been looking for that wonderful woman but I have not found one yet. But I believe God will do it soon

Trust God to give you his choice, he knows what is good for you

slivertongue:
He should have done it quitely no need to go public. Weldone sha

No dear, it's too big a good news and good move to be done silently

Let him say it again and again let the world hear it

It's a good news

emmanuelbrown26:
I hv no RIP and I will never ever hv any RIP to give to anything that has to do political office holders. They all should rest in hell

Take is easy ohhh

They are not the cause of your unhappiness

They too go through their own worries and still blame the government

gevans:
I don't know why some Nigerians are so heartless. I went to execute some Projects yesterday after first service. I got home past 10 (pm), I went to my car this morning to pick some document from the boot. When I was leaving, I pressed the lock key from the remote, it didn't lock. When I checked properly, I found out that brain box, the driver side glass button and passenger button were all stolen.

I am so pained, this is happening after spending over 500k to fix and replace the engine.


Pls what should I do now, I need to make a critical decision on this Corolla of a thing. I really needs your advice.

Thanks

It depends on the area where you are living

You may put alarm on your vehicle the sound may scare intruders away

Kinzo0917:
. May God continue to bless all our good mothers, wives, sisters, daughters and girl child

Amen and may God grant you your heart desires of a wonderful woman, who be a good wife, mother and sister to you so that you will have a happy home

CalabarPikin:
This is Nigeria

Where every unimaginable things happens

siofra:
Stop saying "your face show" please it's ratchet and annoying. Somebody will just be walking on the street, you'll go and appear in front of her and shout "omo babe, your face show" no matter how well you're dressed, at that moment you look broke to me

Stop saying "fine geh" it makes you sound broke and uneducated too. It shows you have no other words in your vocabulary to describe an attractive girl. It's generic and boring.


Stop telling yellow girls they look like mammy water you sound diabolical and broke and uneducated too.

Thanks

Just Leave men to say whatever they want to a woman

You and I already know why they are sweet mouthing women

You know what they want

AkpaMgbor:
While this is true at basic biology, there are other factors that can cause it. Some women have a higher internal temperature or even different ph level that is counterproductive for a male gene to thrive. That is why some men marry another woman and she gives birth to a boy on her first pregnancy while the other woman has given birth to 5 or more girls from the same man. Female babies are stronger than male babies in general. A female baby will survive twice the trauma during birth than a male baby. Ask any experienced midwife you know.

What if the man that a woman had five girs for, later took sperm booster drugs and decides to try else where

Will he come and tell you the real truth

Women have high body temperature so that she can incubate whatever you give her, so far your sperm is active and alive

Echoban:
Stop saying what u know by half. There are techniques to it. It's more of 50:50.


Don't u know men has both sex Y and X in stalk? Ask urself why it's only X the woman keeps taking after the plenty millions ejaculated..

Stop giving half information just to give ur co ignorant gender a sigh of relief.

Visit a Sabi Doctor to help u out. Mind u not all Doctors knows this too.

Esp ignorant Female Doctors will even tell u it's what d oga put in just as u said in disguise of psychologyically helping the woman.

Meet those who Sabi. It's 50:50. No man is born to produce only X. Think abt it

You need an upgrade, you are not just Ok

Echoban:
Frozen70

This for a start. Many more factor still dey.

Wetin concern me, am I the couple

Kinzo0917:
. Yes. The man is annoying and ungreatful. One of my sisters has 4 lovely daughters who are doing very well. The husband never for once complained because it waz what he gave her that she delivered. And he is always proud and happy for his 4 lovely daughters. What about couples who don't have children? If they can have just a female child, they will worship and honour God 4rever. Former president of US Obama has just 2 lovely daughters and he is always proud of them. Most men that complain like this , are illiterates and unexposed. As far as I am concerned, female children does better than we men in most cases

Exactly

Ninisun:
To adopt a girl child is not that easy o, you don't know the type of lady that had her.

Couple who are desperate to have a child goes for adoption

If you are scared of who gave birth to the child, then you will remain where you are

If you can't give birth, accept the one given by others who are ready for adoption

[quote author=Kinzo0917 post=112883154][/quote]I wish men will read this and make something out of it

You just nailed it

Thank you

His type of man can fight God for not giving him a child

Medianna:
If it were to be her mother she will send her to mushin or whatever abi?
No na they can do better. This is what family is all about

Government created and opened old people's home even some private people operate too

The Post is one of the reasons while such centers are created

Obynolee:
Best advice, he should have gone for adoption long ago.

Honestly ❗

Bodyodour:
I told my boss,I have feelings for her after thinking she gave me the greenlight. She smiled and left. Two days later, I got a sack later. She is 28 and I am 23. I am just confused and angry. Did I do anything wrong?

You sef you no get single sense

A premature man like you that came to work, left your work to chase your boss, a boss lady for that matter

Your journey is still far

AkioluGraceObi:
my name is grace akiolu obi

my friends name is princess
here is a WhatsApp contact.

08160284441,

we will not wait until the evil landlady and her son murder our friend before we start protesting,

we want justice for our friend.

thank you

Leave all these justice you are looking for and ask her to get another accommodation extremely far from her present location then go to that same police station, ask the same police to escort you to pack her things out of that place

We don't want any careless casualty pls

latosolorunwa:
My wife was chatting with her ex boyfriend continuously. she was disturbing him to send money to her which the guy sent 2k without telling me on may 13 2022. Fuuny enough, on that day I collected loan thru app becos of her and my kids.
The guy using my love thru their conversation on WhatsApp. I'm so confused what to do.

Seat her down to tell you more

She Amy not want to tell you thr truth but let her speak then ask her intelligent questions that will make her fall

If at the end of the discussion nothing came out of it

Ask her to call the guy and out it on speaker to tell him that her husband caught her chatting with him and have asked her to inform him that she doesn't want any kind of communication between both of them

But before you do the above make sure you are carrying out your duty as a man and she is not an ideal woman at home

She may be doing that rubbish because she needs money to support the home

himir42175:
I'll try to summarize. I recently came across good fortune, after lots of hardwork. The type that upscales your standard of living by a huge percentage. Good right? But the problem now is my spouse. For reasons known best to her, she doesnt want her family to have any idea of this. I understand times are wicked and you gotta be careful. I understand this. but the approach is what mesmerizes me. When they ask after us, she sometimes tell them we've not eaten for days.
That we had to go beg for food etc. That somebody lent us piecemeal amounts etc to eat.
That i'm sick and we cant pay the hospital bill. She even goes as far as asking siblings to send her recharge vouchers like 100, 200, etc. And sometimes sends her account number to them and beg for 1k, 2k etc.
Now this puts me off because, in so doing she has dragged my respect to the mud. Probably they all now see me as a church-rat, no do-good. If you want to hide your finances, must you tell them that we havent eaten for days, and beg them to send you 1k to eat. It hurts my reputation alot.
Not only her siblings, her friends and all. Did she think about the image of me she is portraying by doing such? I'm really cnfused and it hurts me alot because you would think she's trying to be smart to save money. But the reverse is the case; cos she doesnt blows through money like hot knife through butter. The problem now is why she had to rubbish me inthe mud for this? I didnt ask for any of this.

Whatever her reasons for behaving in such a dirty manner is no longer your business now

Your business now is how to put a call through to all those people she lied to especially your inlaw

Let them know that this call is on speaker and that you condemn what she has been telling them about uoir family as they are never through and that you want her to tender unreserved apology before you will a decision that she won't like

Just stop at that junction

When she wants to apologise, let her go back to her call logs and all those people she swindled and disgrace you as a man

She will call them to ask them to apologise to your on her behalf for causing you shame ams disgrace by reducing you to a church rat

Thats the kind of apology that will clear the mindset of those people who made those donations to her that you are not what she has been telling them to make money from them

Airnigma:
I know right

You know what

You have tried and he tok was just tired of being in a relationship where he could as well have other babes to change taste

Just start to withdraw from him both sexually and the rest

Do t pull out with force he is using sense on you, so you have to apply wisdom
He betrayed you by sleeping with another girl got her pregnant and top it with spiritual stories

I dont know how true the stories are and am sure you too can't really say how true it is

Just let him go in while you withdraw and replan your life

If he really loves you considering that both families knows who each other is to yourself he would have respected himself

Now if truly the lady is possessed, you may be attacked for not allowing her to have the man

At this point now, your safety should be your priority

Even if the family gets to know what is happening, whatever he decides and whom ever he chooses as a wife to be is who the family will escort him to go ams marry

If he gets successful in it good luck and if its a loose game for him, good luck to him too

Nothing concern you again about his life and wellbeing

Pleasant101:
Greetings my people, please am in a confused state, I'm a guy in my early 30's, an hnd holder in accounting, with a son of about 2years, yet to be married to my baby mama of which I intend doing few months time but we already cohabiting.... My issue is, I managed to save upto a million naira while working, but lost my job a month ago, then ventured into hustling with a small car I've got which is currently down with engine problems, Nlanders please am trying to strike a balance between doing my TM few months and getting a shuttle bus to hustle as I stay in one of the Eastern states in naija or fixing up my old car of which i was using while I was still working but doesn't yield much income or better still intensify my search for another job for only God knows wen I'll get one due to my country naija wahala.. Admin please approve nd move to the front page for candid advice.

You are your partner are already living as couple so, keep the idea of TM till you can comfortably finance it without begging for money to survive after marriage

You can also do parlour type of marriage, do far you and your in laws have agreed with such

Then repair the kowope and use it for daily business while you keep saving then think of plan be

janejjjjj5000:
One of my cousins and I were talking earlier today after I spoke with his wife (who is my close friend). My cousin's mum is 79 and has memory loss problems. She nearly died a few days back because she was cooking in the night and left her stove on before going to bed. Her kitchen caught fire and she narrowly escaped dying and burning her house to the ground. My cousin wants his mum to move in with him because he does not think it is wise for her to live alone. He has tried to get nannies for her but they all leave within maximum two months because they claim the woman is too difficult. His wife does not want my cousin to bring his mother to live with them. I am very close to his wife and she has shared her concerns with me. My cousin thinks his wife is selfish and does not care about his mother. They got married 8 years ago and have three kids under the age of 7. The wife feels she cannot add the burden of a difficult, aged woman to what she has. It's tough. Both of them are not rich, rich.... They live in a four bedroom apartment so if the woman moves with them, she and my cousin's wife will be in each other's face. The mama is my relative too and I care about but I also understand the views of my cousin's wife. I am very interested in seeking great ideas here on how best to resolve this. Thank you.

This is not a problem because there are solutions

Mama is stubborn, now coupled with old age, she will be more stubborn and problematic

Let the husband and wife go to Mushin if they live in Lagos and make enquiries about old people's home, there is another one at Yaba, that one belongs to Lagos state government while the one at Mushin belongs to catholic

Even if mama comes in and they have a stand by attendant for her, the am wife will still not be comfortable with her presence because she is difficult to handles especially now at old age

They can look for a two bedroom flat where the rent will be cheaper to pay and use the other part to pay for mama's admission to old people home

I believe she will be happier there

Stayingtrueee:
Thank you

You are welcome

Stayingtrueee:
Good day nairalanders! Please I have a serious issue at hand and I just need different opinions.

I met this guy sometime in November infact the day we met we spent the night together it was more like a hook up thingy and he paid me my money and I left the next morning. Later that day I wrote him to know his whereabout and he said he was at home and I asked if I could come over cos I really enjoyed what we had that night. So he invited me over and I spent two days with him, along the line we grew fond of each other and we became really close. Infact I was always going to his house it was more like we were dating.

January this year I noticed I was pregnant but I wasn't sure so I actually waited till I'll see my period in February but my fear was confirmed. I was pregnant! I told him and he wanted the baby infact we both wanted it.

Fast forward to last month I came to visit as usual and I spent some weeks with him, he was really facing some financial challenges and he started transferring aggression on me. I tried to calm him down that it was only a phase and that it will pass. He loosened up a bit.
I traveled back to my state cos I live in Port Harcourt and he's in Abraka Delta state, we're both from Rivers though.

So he was expecting some funds on Monday which he promised to send something over for me for my upkeep, the money came in and he never sent a dime for me. I tried calling him to remind him and he started giving me attitude, putting up some flimsy quarrels. Then I asked him hope I'm not in all this alone, the answer I got from him was however I want to handle myself was solely my business, I should do what ever I want.

Right now I'm so confused, I'm thinking of traveling to Delta state to go see him at least he should say all these to my face. If he wants me to terminate the pregnancy which is still not late I have my own conditions to give him. I'll stay at his place and we'll both go together to have an abortion, I'll stay at his place till I'm perfectly fine and he has to pay me for damages.

What do you guys think? Am I doing the right thing

Pardon my typos please!!!

I am just wondering how many abortion you have done and you will still do that will affect your future chances of having children

Since you don't have any legitimate job doing

Take few of your things, go to his house

Stay with him and be calm

If he insist that he doesn't want the pregnancy and you on your own side too doesn't want the pregnancy too, then you are on your own

Even if you decide to deal with it, I read where you said he will compensate you, my question is, what ways do you think he will compensate you, is it by cash, if yes, what about the damage done to your womb

I think you should stay with him, talk with him and both of you may agree to carry on

Get yourself registered for antenatals

Be humble and loyal to him, such may help him to be ready to embrace Father hood

While you are with him, invite a family member of yours to know where you are and who you are with

Then start discussing what you can start doing to bring income no matter how small

Notyourtype:
Hello Guys,

Is it even possible to have up to six kids without having a male child?

I have a friend, who wanted to have only 4 kids. He's now counting six and will count more because he has refused to have a male child.

When the wife gave birth to the fifth child, then my friend was very anxious to having a male child. But as soon as the news got to him that his wife gave birth to another female child, he send a message to his wife at the hospital not to come to his house with the child. He said his wife has a curse on her, that is why she refused to give birth to a male child. We had to beg him before he allowed his wife home.

The issure now is that his wife just gave birth to the sixth child again today, and another female child. He his just very confused right now.

He just told me now that people says the fault his not from her wife but rather on his side. And he want me to help him on what the problem is.

Pls nlanders, what do you think is the problem, and how can he give birth to a male child?

Science already proved that male child comes from a man because of his chromosomes

Well let him go for adoption

If he has the money, let him go for sex selection through ivf

But God gives every parent what he wants you to have

What if he is impotent or sterile

Won't he beg God for even just a child girl or a boy

hashtagged:
Can I apply for Immigration recruitment as a serving NYSC Corper or do I need to complete the service

Can you gain admission into secondary school without first school leaving certificate /testimonial report

rukz:
Good morning ma!.

pls can God use you to bless me?.....Things are really not rosy at the moment...

I should n't be doing this, but I know there is zero harm in trying.

Anything will be greatly appreciated. thanks a lot.

I think you need God's intervention in your life

You need to visit your biological mother to assist you in any deliverance that will take your entire life away from gambling and its cousins

You are the one putting yourself through the torture you are going through, so you have to be ready to come out if you know that you have hard enough

Onetenth:
thank u ma, i am definitely following this advise

You are welcome

GlorifiedTunde:
Lol. Sorry I already modified my topic, you'll get my intention from there.

I don tire