CUMIN: Most of you guys don't know that men is the center of the world...you should never pamper any woman you are not married to except you are ficking her. You don't need any explanation.[color=#000099][/color]
That's a wrong advice. Even you, you dont practice what you are advicing guys to do
22o62021: We bonded so well together, she is an NYSC member. She told me that she has a boyfriend but she has called off their relationship because the guy has beaten her twice. The first time , the guy did it in front of his mother to the extent that she lost a tooth. And spent days in the hospital
The second time the guy slapped her because she told him that he comes home late. She said the guy is a serial cheat, she has caught him on different occasions.
They dated for 6 years. But the guy will not accept the break up. Their families knows each other.
I have her the love she deserved, pampered her so well. I told her that I know she will go back to the guy one day, she said nooo I can’t do that.
One week after I said that to her. The guy was calling and pleading. She stopped picking my calls. I stopped calling her.
I sent her a text to know what is going on. She said it’s not what I think.
I said fine. I deleted her numbers and move on.
This is to say that most girls are confused. I think they prefer abusive men but on the internet They rebuke them.
Most women are not confused as a matter of fact women are never confused in a game they understand better
Yes you gave her what you think was the best for her there could be some thing that the guy does better than you, which is lacking in her and will prefer to go back to him anytime he returns back to her
Despite that the guy has removed one of her teeth, she still went back to him, she knows best, maybe until the guy removes the most important teeth inside her mouth before she will have sense
Just move on fast because she will still come back to you anytime the guy mess up
It's now left for you to be used as a resettlement center, where displaced babe can take solace pending when she will be recalled back
But left for me close her chapter and get a replacement, love is not for gamblers
hilltop007: My final year project supervisor called me to summarize my research work of 2 years for publication. He sent me a copy of one of his ex-student work that he published. It was only his ex student who did the work with guidance from my supervisor, but the published paper has two authors; my supervisor (main author) and his ex student. Only my supervisor's contact was also in the paper.
I strongly believe that's what he will also do with mine. Should I give him the go ahead? If I don't publish it, it will probably rot. Or is there a way for me to publish it myself?
Why not ask him to include your names and contact number same way he will do his own too
I got married to my husband 12 years ago. He has previosly bought some land but not developed it yet due to financial hardships. When i was a newly wed my sister in law mentioned “oh this is land my brother bought for mum”
I asked my husband later and he laughed it off & said its not like that. I just left it at that & did not think more of it.
Recently things got better and after 9yrs of marriage & sacrifices from both of us he had enough to start building & by Gods grace the house is now nearly complete. Its two flats.
My mum in law has now moved to the house - which is great as we always say she will move into one flat and the other one is for us & our children. For when we visit Nigeria from abroad where we stay.
However recently my husband mentioned his brother & family will be moving in too. He has 3 children. I have made it clear that anyone can move in but the other flat should be left alone for our family. Im not sure that will happen.
It seems as though my husband’s family is under the inpression that this house is his mothers. It seems like back then my husband bought this land for his mother. And it seems the narrative in nigeria is its her house.
I honestly feel a bit stupid as i have two sons & in 12 yrs of marriage i sacrifised to build a house that i or my children have no say in. I made sacrifices to build house for others.
I love my mother in law & husband’s family. They are good to me. I just feel there is a breakdown of communication. Husband should have told me this is mums house or make it clear to his family now that this is OUR house but others are welcome to stay on our terms. But honestly i dont think i am even seen as an entity or “shareholder” of this house.
Please help on how i can deal with this withought upsetting my inlaws & my husband.
I must add i am not Nigerian by birth.
You could have asked hubby about the land and get clarification on who's name is in the land documents and who actually paid for it
Well, if the name belongs to your husband, let him know the importance of keeping the other apartment for you guys, so that when you come home, you will have a place to stay and enjoy your holiday
If another family member moves in, it will be difficult to ask him to leave as you guys will be coming home for holidays
But if the documents bears yoir mother in laws name, that's the end, it belongs to the entire family, irrespective of who builds the house
Lastly you guys can save and buy another land that will bear your own family names, including your own name then start building it
darkstar6971: Hello fellow Nairalanders pls I'm here for a suggestion and let it be positive pls ain't need no insult... I'm having a girlfriend which is 29yrs and I'm just 23 years, We both love each other to the extent that we don't even knew the time we start the relationship... pls I need your suggestions here...
Please moderators help me to move this thread to front page so as to get more positive suggestions.
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What advice do you need exactly?
To go on, or not to go on
Just follow your heart, whatever comes out of it, you are an adult, so you can take responsibilities
It seems your family and loved ones have given you approval.
Who are we to disapprove it
Experience is the best teacher Be ready to mark your own script
Warrior14: I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.
I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.
I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak. Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.
Since you have seen the red light that signifys danger and you have the courage to go on with it, you have automatically signed your own warrant
It's obvious you are getting married to fulfill all righteousness, not that it's from your heart
I won't advise you to walk away since you can't advise yourself
Lenny22: I want a revenge !!!! Call me petty, idgaf. My name is Jeremy, I'm respectful, friendly but I get pained easily. I came here to pour out my mind and to seek good opinion.
There is a pretty girl I know right from secondary school days, we were not friends in secondary but fast forward into three years post secondary school, we started chatting. We had smooth conversations, although I was always the first to get in touch with her and also the first to chat her up.
I never for once hit on her , flirted with her or disrespected her in any way. I noticed I was always the last person to text and the first person to start another chat. I once waited weeks inbetween but she never texted until I did. Sometimes she never replied my text (Not a bad text in any capacity).
Two months after I decided to check on her three days ago by chatting her up . Her replies were to short to the extent that she replied one of my statements with just a word.
Please Fam, I just wanna save my face and regain my respect. What can I do to make her feel how I feel at the moment. I just want to make her have a taste of her own medicine, the feeling of being ignored.
Your case is like, you prepare poison for your enemy, drank it and expect your enemy to die
This lady in question has not done anything bad to you but you feel she neglected you and your communication
Bear in mind that she is not into you, let her go It's not bye force to make a lady fall for you
You can confide with the Top and inform them that you are dating and became pregnant
Your guy, informed his family about your pregnancy and his family doesn't want him to marry from your town because of the experience a family member had marrying from that same town
So you are keeping the pregnancy because your conscience didn't allow you to abort
Superwave16320: This is a foolish question n it shows that you n your entire household is cursed.
Did Igbos leave Awo Tinubu Lai Aregbe etc alone till this hour ? Does this not prove you came from a household of mad n insane people for demanding that a foolish set of people that never let others alone should be left alone.
It's obvious you are extremely high Take your drugs before you start roaming the street
donsolo4u2c: I have been trying to figure out if actually female soldiers do moan during sexual intercourse because of the mean nature of their job occasioned with hard training.
PLEASE NOTE: File photo is a run from google search
Sex and love making humbles every one, even the most toughest human
Ayiman001: Recently my brother girlfriend has started developing an attitude which I don't like, First i was ok with her since we where only 3 in our room,me,my brother and her. Sometimes she sleeps in our room since it a one room self contained,and some time her and my bro sleep in her room until last month till now i noticed some changes in her,she now take the advantage of her coming to see my brother,she no longer sleep in her own room only thing she does is too take her bath and change up finish,the rest is our room from morning till night till the next day the same thing even my brother now feed her like it now his hole responsibility and we are student, recently my younger sister joined us she just got admission, now tired of her u can't even have privacy again even to talk to my bro some kind of issue i cant,i cant have my own visitors, because she just occupied every where,im feed up even my friends find it difficult to visit me and i dont know how to approach my brother about this i need your advice on how to handle this please naira land tha
Since you can't approach your brother and your brother sees nothing wrong with her staying with you guys for nothing but sleeping with her
Just hold on a bite she will soon get pregnant and they will either pack out or you guys will pack out
Please I'm in a dilemma, my 2year old refuses to write,even coloring is work to her. She holds pencil very well but hates the idea of writing anything. Her teacher also complains about it.
I really do not know how to go about it.
Get a spelling nursery rhyme for her, while playing the video, she will see them spelling and she may be interested in it
Get her favorite snacks for her and promise her that she will get it once she finishes her writing
Chiden: I've been a drop out since 2017. I had believed I'd make money and put myself through school again. But problem no dey ever finish, rather I spend the peanuts I make on family. I have no savings and no way forward even ..
If I continue like this, I might not be able to go back to school even in five years time.
I would really love to further my education again.. University or Polytechnic, I don't mind starting from somewhere
You may not be able to achieve this unless you start saving money for it
Though you can still go to school at any age
But now is the best time for you, if not, you will be in school and your children will be in school then too
kimcastropiihnh: A video making the rounds on social media shows a young man crying uncontrollably as his friends comforted him.
Reports alleged that the young man broke down in tears after his girlfriend allegedly broke up with him and shattered his heart to pieces.
The video has sparked mixed reactions on social media as media users share their diverse opinions about the heartbreaking incident.
While some fans have been dragging the boy for breaking down in tears over a woman, some others are relating with him, stating that they have been in the same situation before and they also broke down.
Cameron_dxx wrote;
“Guy no Cry. U go get over am. It happened to me and I’m alive.
Promise_Godsgift__ wrote; “Omo u don cras. Na woman do you this thing?”
nurain150: Lol, you think it's easy, who will give her that child, ghosts right and fake men.
Shior.
A lot will do so
Have you forgotten that, a woman will and can become pregnant without a man's notice, till the pregnancy gets to 2/3 months before she announce it. Even if the man refuses the pregnancy, she may decide to keep it
Superwave16320: If this was located in any other part of Nigeria you will hear foolish n hopelessly sense Igbo say Nigeria like celebrating mediocrity
Is he building it with his money.
He is only doing his job etc
But now look at the comment of the first 3 fools above. Search through their previous comments to see they are Igbos, then make your own judgements.
Just yesterday Yahaya Bello was showcasing the standard bridges, gigantic hospital etc he was building n this fools from Alaigbo were all over the thread commenting there is nothing to celebrate in a governor building bridge but alas here we are to celebrate a whole Enugu governor celebrating borehole.
Show me any Igbo governor aside Obiano first followed by Umahi ( not moved by his propaganda on NL) the rest I will show you what FAILURE is in liquid form is.
Why not leave the Igbo's with their problems and concentrate on being a better man
Your comments shows how bittered you are with the Igbo people
Does it mean that you are more happier with the North and their Boko Haram wahala
I means do you rather support the Boko Haram and wish yours will be a victim of their massacre?
duyox2004: I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.
I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.
I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��
When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.
Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �
I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �
Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��
My dear sister, you don't need to regret anything at all from keeping yourself during the time you would have been carelessly pregnant till now that you are still waiting for a guy
You known what, your status and educational status are part of what is scaring some men to come and hook up, but that shouldn't be an issue for real men who appreciates successful women
Who marriage help ?
In as much as you have once slept with a man in your your life, simply get pregnant and have a child of yours before the egg gets finished
Also note that the care and responsibilities of that child is strictly on you
You will be glad if you have a child of your own especially at old age
Lastly, don't live your life on regrets, the past is gone what we are talking about now is the future
BadRadio: I hear people say things like " If not for the kids, I will abandon this marriage"... what does this mean? Will a person have to endure and tolerate an abusive spouse because of the kids?
What are your thoughts on this?
No woman or man deserves to be in an abusive marriage
A situation where the woman is helpless and depends on the man, if she is in an abusive marriage and she have kids, she will be too helpless to move out with the children, probably she can't take care of them
That's just one good reason you see women saying because of her children, she endures all the pains, especially the emotional ones
But where she is capable, so far she can take good care of them, such women moves on with the children
It's either the man changes and pleads with her to come back or he too moves on
In some men's case, where the men are equally in abusive marriage, if he can't cope, he may move out of the house to any where he can find peace
Understanding each other is one of the problems couples are not getting it right
Please I would appreciate if any one could suggest the best way I can rid my car engine of these rats that have choosen it as their abode each time I packed the car in our compound for a long time.
Get a rat poison and keep for them to feed on
If you park near a gutter, you will experience it
If you park near dustbin, the worst of it
If you park for long time, you have given the rat a permanent home
JackDaAlienz: I went to pick her up from uni then drove her to my house. We chilled drank wine then bleeped well After sex I decided to drive her back to school. On our way my back tire brake just lock The wheel stopped rotating. I had to Shell out 10k to repair
2nd time with this same girl yesterday night we had sex This morning I got a message that the items I planned to ship from Canada was cancelled.
Why do I experience these badluck events after having sex with this girl
It could be coincidence
It may be true
Best option, take a break from the relationship and watch if it will occur
Meanwhile, if you want to send money to her, do that true transfer
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