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GboyegaD:
Why will I with such an earning have such size of family? Children are a result of actions of two grown up and we shouldn't keep encouraging what isn't right. If you don't have the wherewithal, don't do it.

He was thinking this same way, when he was a Batchelor until he got married and change the narrative
Same thing with few people

ceevee2003:
Hi all, I need your advice. I work for an online university that pays USD equivalent 230,000 as per today's aboki exchange rate. Now, just recently my immediate supervisor was sacked and replaced by an Indian lady who is making the work so difficult to the extent that I hate remembering work. I have been in this job for close to 5 years and I have never felt this bad about the job. Right now I feel like quitting and focusing on my other hustle, although this will mean halving my monthly income. Anyone with a similar experience to share, or advice to give?

Its up to you to know what the company Is upto

Instead of them to sack you same way they did to your supervisor, is better you resign

If you know that your other hustle can feed you three square meals a day, then it's time for you to quit

But if you are ready to humble yourself, especially now that a new sheriff is in town, pls do and start planning ahead of your exit

GboyegaD:
Ok ooo. I understand it because I had friends who grew up in such conditions however, whoever choose that in this age and time is wicked and inconsiderate.

Assuming your salary is 50k with three children and your wife has no contribution financially,
What kind of apartments will you be going for,
Three bedrooms ?
Two bedrooms?
Mini flat of room and parlour?
Just a room in face me?

Pls pick your choice let me know if it's choosen as wickedness or inconsiderate

GboyegaD:
Please, what is a semi flat? I'm hoping it isn't a mini flat as that wouldn't be fair on the kids.

It's a room and parlour with kitchen and toilet included on the apartment

It doesn't have effects on the kids because they will sleep in the parlour

Cashio:
let him go straight to the point. No need forming nice and caring guy wey go easily get you friend zoned. Tell her what you want from her and let her decide whether to accept or not.

He said he us nit bold enough to talk to girls

So he can start with style

Wisdoy:
Hello nairaland, please I need your honest opinion on a very pressing issues.well unlike most guys who are bold and courageous to approach a lady, and express their feelings ,I can't boast of being one , because I'm a very shy guy ,there is this girl that I like a lot at my working place , have been watching and admiring her for days now ,but I'm not just bold enough to approach her I told a friend about it and he went to her last night .he tried to woo her for me now I have to Goan and talk to her but the problem is I don't know what I'm going to say to her I. Too nervous to even think straight please help me !!

You have to grow up my guy

The foundation has been layed for you, so,
Take her out for lunch, tell her to tell you more of herself

Tell her about yourself, or is that one difficult again?
After the outing, start with love messages every morning and night

That alone is enough ways to tell a woman that you love her

Don't rush to go down with her, just steady and constantly romantic and the show will pick up by itself

Pls tell me, are all these difficult for you ?

If yes then you are finished before a woman

richmond500:
Its cool to pay tithes in churches cos the church will use it to enlarge and win more souls for God, but is that enough, should we let the NGO's, widows, needy and orphanage to rot?

Cos Matt.25 Jesus told us the criteria for judgement and its not amount of tithe u pay or people u convert into chritianity, a Muslim that shows unconditional love is eternity worthy than a bittered tribalistic christian that never missed paying his tithe

That's what I do, I give my tithes to the poor

I can't be feeding a well to do pastor when the people around me are dying of hunger

abouzaid:
madam and oga are a tight team and 50k is hardly enough to cover school fees and house rent for a three bedroom flat with running water. How much would likely be the total monthly expenses for such a family?

That amount was just for feeding

As for school fees they can look other schools that pays lesser

As for apartments, they can afford three bedroom that's why they are in three bed rooms if not they would have been in semi flat

Onahi95:
For over a year now I've found out that I'm no longer interested in ladies, more like I don't have time for them again. Growing up I was more of a play boy, I once had dated over 8 girls at a go, I loved the constant ringing of my phone, the tons of messages I get and the endless list of missed calls if I step away from my phone for five minutes.

During the era of 2go I bedded countless ladies, I even dashed girls to my friends, I was a master of the game. A friend of mine abroad would forward his chat with a white lady to me while I reply the chats and he would forward my replies to the lady, he later married the lady.

Fast forward a few years down the line and I now suck at the game, I can't even keep a conversation with a lady, if I chat a lady up and she delays in replying me message, I would take at least five times the time she took before I reply, most time the chat dies a natural death unlike before that I drop catchy pick up lines here and there.

Most times I approach a lady and get her number but I never get to call, sometimes I scroll through my contact list and see countless numbers that I can't recall their owners.

I've somehow turned to an introvert, I love staying indoors and alone thinking of how to survive in this buhari economy. I would make arrangements with a lady to pay me a visit but on the said day I would grow cold feet and blank her.

Is this normal?? I'm not gay and can never be one but nothing interests me about ladies anymore, I'm more concerned on how to make money. I get to meet osho frees but I'm not still interested . If I call a lady for a day and she does not pick or return the calls I delete the number .

Recently I met a girl and asked her out, she agreed but complained that I rarely call her, she managed to visit and it was a very boring visit because I didn't feel like talking, I didn't event make an attempt to touch her. After ignoring her calls for some days I called her back only to realize that I have forgotten her name, like I can't recall my supposed gf's name.

Has anyone been in this situation before??

The relationships your are expected to have for the next 30yrs, you already had it with those countless women you had on the past

So now enjoy your solitude life
That's life,
you have completed your love circle

Dagundo:
I need advice guys. I had sex with this girl 2 weeks ago. I didn't use protection but I'm good at pulling out so I wasn't bothered about cumming inside her.

We had penetrative sex 4 times over the space of 12 hours. The first time was very painful for her and I took my time. I finally broke through her hymen. Second time she was on top of me but it didn't last long cos she was a novice and didn't know much about riding dick.

Third time was better and the sex lasted longer. Fourth time was also long. But I didn't cum in any of those times.

Now she claims to be pregnant and she claims that I'm the only guy that has ever entered her. I'm very confused because I didn't ejaculate inside her.

She checked her calenders and realized that when we had sex was her ovulation period. Even at that, I don't cum inside her so I don't know what she's talking about.

She's 21 years old and she's a responsible, decent girl from a good home. She's been keeping herself for this long so I doubt she'll sleep with someone else within days of losing her virginity, but still I can't explain the pregnancy thing

For the fact that you broke her virginity and she claimed pregnant after two weeks, you are responsible for it
Since she is a good girl, start planning how to settle down with her

Burneracct:
I am a twenty eight year old man. I still live with my parents although I have a job that pays me just under a hundred thousand naira. I haven't had a relationship in a long while and I'm in the process of getting into a relationship but I feel like the fact that I stay with my parents would negatively affect my chances. I'm considering renting an apartment but then these things are quite expensive in lagos. My parents ahve been supportive thus far. Do you think it's a good idea to move out? What affordable housing options are available assuming I'm to move out?

How much have you saved so far

Can you afford to feed yourself and a babe assuming she comes regularly

Start with a self contain apartment

abouzaid:
What do you think is the bare minimum amount needed by a family of six (The two parents and four children) for monthly sustenance in your part of Nigeria, taking into cognisanze school fees, house rent, feeding, utilities etc.

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Try 50k,cooperate and love madam she will add more of her own
If you trouble her she will trigger the allowance more

MrReeseG:
Interested

Gone

Priceless007:
Hello Nairalanders,

It's a long story, but I'll try to keep it short and to the vital points. Please endure the length.

There's a girl i met at a theological college in where I was studying to become a clergyman and also learning a skill under the civil engineering department of the college. She was my junior in the course, as I was a year away from graduating from my first course, while she was just a fresher. She was always having issues getting through her courses and projects and would always ask for my assistance since I was the course rep in that department. It was forbidden to have any intimate relationship with your course mate or anyone in the college for that matter, the penalty would be expulsion. But unfortunately for me, out of sheer lust and seduction on her part, and gross indiscipline and lack of self control on my part, I got intimate with her and we ended up committing fornication during one of our semester vacations. And it just happened once, of which out of deep regret and remorse I confessed the matter to the college Admin when the next semester resumed. We were panelled, after which I was suspended, while she was expelled.

During this time I was learning a skill sponsored by the college, of which I use to get paid some weekly stipend. After I was suspended I was also stopped from continuing my apprenticeship, because I was not to associate with any of the students or lecturers in the school while my suspension lasted. So I was without a job and without a source of income since I wasn't yet mastered on the skill. The condition that was given to me to resume my studies and apprenticeship was that I should go and get married before I could come back to college, so as not to be tempted to repeat my error. But I wasn't ready for marriage whether financially or any other wise for that matter. So while I was contemplating my next move, this girl came to me that she was pregnant, that she needed us to go and see her parents. I told her I had no money neither was I ready to father a child at this point in my life. I pleaded she should give me time to think about what next to do. Two weeks passed, and I called her to enquire about her welfare but her number wasn't reachable, I decided to go to her place, but I was told she had travelled a week ago to go see her family. A week later, I received a call from a woman telling me she was the girl's mother, that her daughter came home with a pregnancy, and she asked me if I was responsible for the pregnancy, I answered her in the affirmative. She then asked when I was coming to see her family. I told her I wasn't sure about coming to see them that I needed to speak to the girl first. She said okay, then later that day the girl called me, and I told her to come back for us to talk deliberate on the way forward. When she came she told me her parents (who are by the way divorced) will not accept her nor the pregnancy without me coming to see them for marriage arrangements.

I explained to her I wasn't ready for any such thing, that I have a calling to answer and a course to finish, that what happened between us was just a stupid and careless mistake that has been as a setback for me to achieve my goal, and that I was ready to overcome the trials and get back on track, and I explained to her that before then I had neither dated nor been intimate with anyone for over seven years, and so any kind of relationship or marriage was not even in my nearest future plans, and besides, I didn't even have a job, not to mention having enough money to embark on a marriage plan. She said she would never accept such excuse, that I should look for whatever means to make sure I come see her parents before her pregnancy becomes obvious. She also said that she needed money to move her belongings back to Imo state where her family resides. I agreed to raise some money for her. I went to do some menial jobs and raised some money, about ₦20k, which I gave to her and she traveled back to Owerri. From then on her parents kept calling and pressuring me to come and see them for marriage arrangements. I told them I was going to come, but just to introduce myself to them as the person responsible for their daughter's pregnancy not for any marriage arrangements. But they disagreed, that if I wasn't ready to come for marriage that I shouldn't bother coming. I pleaded with them to give me enough time to look for money to come and see them, but they instead started threatening me with court cases and arrests, at one time they brought the girl and some soldiers to my family house and harassed my family members including my mother.

So I later traveled to Benin city to go look for money. After one week of my arrival in Benin, I lost my phone and I couldn't retrieve my number. I lost connection with them until I got back to Uyo where I got her phone number from a friend of hers. At this time, I was told that they came to my house several times with police officers claiming I raped their daughter and impregnated her then absconded. At this, I established contact with the girl again and she told me that I should not bother her that she wasn't in the mood to talk to me, I kept calling her but she often ended up abusing me or we often times ended up in quarrels, so I left her alone for sometime.

Two weeks ago I related the matter to one of my distant uncles, who advised me to gather some money and go see her, I called her and told her I wanted to come and see her before she puts to bed, which is expected to be sometime next month (August). But she told me that she still stands by what her parents had said, if it's not for the marriage issue that I should not come, that I should rather send her the money I would use in coming so she can use it to buy the baby clothing and buy some hospital requirements before she puts to bed. I called her parents and they told me the same thing, and said if I don't come for the marriage agreement before she puts to bed, that after she's delivered of the baby I should forget ever coming, and should never mention that I have a child anywhere not to mention coming to claim it ever in the future. And that I should just forget about her and the child.

The issue now is this, I am a bit frustrated because I seem to have lost everything at the moment because of this issue; my calling, the skill I was learning is gone, I have no job aside the menial jobs I do at construction sites which isn't available regularly. Now the little I have saved so far, I am contemplating on whether to use the money to pay for my skills training and continue with it and start my life afresh and forget about her, the child, and her parents, or use the money to support her in her hospital requirements for her delivery. Because I don't want to be seen as abandoning her when she is in this condition, and I also don't want to give up on the child, though I'm not capable of taking care of the girl and the baby right now, and probably, I might end up getting married but not under my present circumstances. I know I've made a grave mistake and this is the consequences for not being true to myself and my calling, and I deeply regret it, and I've suffered for it in any way I can possibly imagine, but I also need to put my life back in order, because right now I'm so devastated that I'm contemplating terrible alternatives to survive the storm, I'm at a very critical moment of my life and I just feel like giving up on life altogether. Please I need your help and advice on this issue. Thanks.

PS. Please if anyone is willing to teach me any skill, I would be very grateful and willing to learn.

After reading your post, I feel for you

The Dick, has his own ways of acting that's why it has to be tamed

She too on the other side, kmows her game, so the pregnancy is not a mistake

You have tried in the following ways
The zeal to do minial jobs to survive

The efforts you have made to make her understand that you can't feed yourself now talk more of extra two persons

I don't want to blame you or her because you guys are adult and knows what you were doing before it lead to pregnancy

But she is not taking any of that, all they want is to trap you with the pregnancy then leave you to suffer whatever ways it comes out

Well, use part of the money efind your bearing and send part to her, at least 20k, that's if you have upto that amount


Continue your learning skill as you are off the school now
You will always start again from another theological school at any time of your life

As for her, whatever penny you have, send to her

Don't bother going to visit them for now if you know that you are not ready to do something about marriage rites and once you do, even a bottle of Shapp, that means you have already married her, she may not even be your spec

By the time you are man enough, you will be allowed to see your child, she too has the options of waiting for you or get married to another man

That you pregnanted her doesn't mean that you are the one they should tye her too

Find your bearing first and stop panicking about the whole thing, she is working on your weaknesses already, be strong that's why you are a man

You should be more than your obstacles

MrCover:
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From The Trending Photos Sighted By On Whatsapp From Sources, Said They Are Fighting Because Of Misunderstanding that related to woman.

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What a calamity

Beloved3:
And what is that thing. Sex?

The op knows best

Limassol:
i never knew women support jungle justice, too bad.

You have never been a victim of Robbery before

Agboconsult1:
This is my first ever post since following nairaland after almost a decade.
Help me with suggestions.
Please move it to FP.
At the tail end of my final year in the university, i fell in love in a lady who was in her 100level...just within a week into the relationship, the lady called it off. She blocked every avenue to talk to her. I didn't know what could be the problem.
This lady, her elder sister happens to be my course mate as well (had a little feelings for her too) but nothing serious happen between us. Even though i suspected its her sister that ask her to call off the relationship, but she still denied her sister didn't talk to her. As I graduated, any time i tried forgetting about this lady, out of the blue moon she will call to check on me. We met on two occasion, though we shared some intimacy, sex was not involved.
Just recently, after 4years she disclosed that she was only afraid i will only use her and dump after I graduate.
I still love this girl. The problem now is that she's in a serious relationship with someone else with sex involve. She's emotionally unstable, she can't decide as she only wants me to be her friend...other guys are still chasing her.
My focus now is to make money.
Fellows what do you think i should do?

Since she is not yet married and other guys are disturbing her, try and use condom incase you guys are getting down

There must be something you left with her that is still making you to remember her deeply

Try and collect that thing from her

zyphr:
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend since September 2019. I intend to marry her.
The problem is that, I don't desire her sexually. Any intimate touch from her feels like the touch from a blood sister. Very uncomfortable.
She is a strict Christian with a policy of no premarital sex. So we have never had sex except for occasional kissing and romance which I sometimes initiate.
However, since January this year, I lost sexual attraction towards her and I avoid even simple touches. In fact, last Sunday we were walking down the street and when she placed her arms round my shoulder, I stylishly evaded it. I don't feel like this towards every other woman.

I'm currently not seeing any other lady but I have had sexual flings with two different ladies including an ex.

Question is: Is sexual attraction/desire neccesary for marriage? Is it normal not to feel sexually attracted to your partner? Can this be a basis for break up as I fear it might persist in marriage and make me cheat on her.

It's already a problem while courting, what makes you think it will turn to gun after wedding

Marriage is a rough road, so staying with someone you don't have feelings for will make the marriage uninteresting

If you realy love her and can endure that aspect for life good luck

Wetpuxy:
Three suspected armed robbers were caught by security operative in Orlu, they were burnt after the confessed they went on a successful mission early this morning, it was a horrific moment as villagers gathered to witness the incident

Serves them right

kingvicking:
Hello Nairalanders,

I have an issue at hand which I need advice of the best line of action to take.

I use to work in a bank here in Abuja, until I resigned in May 2020 and now work in a finance house (a loan firm, also here in Abuja),

January this year (Jan 2021), one of my former colleagues at the bank called to beg me to help her process a loan with my current firm, as she has an urgent need for money & will pay back in 2 months.

Well, I ignored at first, but after series of begging & pestering me, I considered the risk involved,

She wanted #150,000
Her take home was a little over #100k (after tax & pension).

So I agreed & help her facilitate the loan, she got disbursement & details of interest and maturity date.
2 months down the line, I called to notify her of her repayment, to which the said she will may payment in two days time (the loan due date was 31/03/2021)
But instead of making payments she disappeared,

So first week of April, I went to the bank to check on her & was told she resigned from the bank some weeks ago, ever since then she has been giving me one excuse or the other,

Now, I have been held liable of making the repayment at work, since I was the one who approved the loan and the applicant (the customer has absconded).

Secondly, the particular lady no longer pick my calls, she also moved from her old apartment.

I have all relevant paperwork with me,
Please, your candid advice on the best action to take is really appreciated,

You have tried looking for her
Well it's true she must have absconded

Call her, place a curse on her that
Men will disappoint her
Women will disappoint her and Life itself will disappoint her
She will remain stranded till the end of her life

Send it to her on phone again if she refuses to pick your calls when you want to tell her

That alone will torment her just as you are being tormented for helping her

AfriNotesNEWS:
...But wait o,

Nairalanders helps me on this



Is it that woman don't have heart, or they do but just heartless... This is just a questions and am curious to learn...

Women are resilient by nature and they have the ability and the shock absorber to assimilate all nonsense yet ever ready to revenge at the right time

That alone is enough for them to beat heart attack

gpercuxionz:
mine is the newest model specially designed for Nigeria with three pin plug, unlike the Chinese model with 2 pin plug and if your light voltage is not up to 220v it won't work well... Just a secret, no one will tell you, only 2 pcs remaining, someone had paid For one, so if you are serious in getting it, the best price is 21k.. thanks

Ok thanks for the analysis, but I don't have the amount you are giving for last price
I thought I can still get for 17k

1EmmyKay:
Why are the mums always to beat a child when er and not the Dad? Before a Father beats a child for once sure the mother will have beat that child up to 50x

Mothers understand children and their body language and doesn't wait for anyone of them to be naughty before dealing with that child

Father's watch them from a distance and can only deal with a child when he becomes naughty

doggedfighter:
Yes but not in physical strength.

What women have as strength is stronger than physical strength

Dtruthspeaker:
They have certainly caused the deaths of many a men!

The men in these categories actually killed themselves through naughtyness

gpercuxionz:
Limited quantity available, ikorodu Lagos reach me on 0706388.4158

How come your price is quite different from the ones we see their advert and the power is not up to 400wts

Anyway I stay In Ikorodu and will like to purchase but that price is a shock, even Jumia has it at #17k

dave0450:
So u mean u will jst tender request to the board jst lik dat without having strong person that back u up n u will be expected to be upgraded jst like that

It's obvious that you are not an inside

For you to proceed on such, you apply through your office who then forward it to the board along with others in the list

It's done yearly

IncomingKing30:
Please I will like to apologize in advance incase anyone sees fault in my English. I have been overthinking lately about my girlfriend. We have been dating for the past 3 years now and she has been a very good girl to me, but one thing I don’t understand is that she has been a gumbody since day one. She prefer to abandon many things just to be with me and she’s been caring and taking care of the house chores and that makes me focus on more important stuffs. She’s not doing it for money cos she’s very loyal and I haven’t seen any traces of cheating even the fact that she’s very beautiful and everybody wants to have her. Most time we do petty fight but settle at the end of the day. Fast forward 2019 I sold all my stuff to travel out of the country, I can see she was not happy about that but I promise her to be back soon to come take her with me. Later when I arrived that country something happened and I have to rush back to Nigeria. And when I arrived back here I don’t have where to stay cos I already sold all my properties including my car. My only option was to stay in an inexpensive hotel for 3 months till I can think of what next to do. I told this my girlfriend about everything that happened to me over there and she came and still stay with me all through the stay at the hotel, before she was either staying in her father house or mother house. After 3 months at the hotel I sold some of my bitcoins and some money from my tipper truck business I bought another car And was able to get a duplex at Lekki and we moved in together living like a couple, she’s knows I do cheat and we argued about that most times when she comes back from her parents house and begin count the remaining condoms. Fast forward 2020 I was thinking big and thinking of expanding my empire by investing more looking at my Benz I think it is a liability and I don’t need to compete with most people on island to live a meaningful life. I sold it and save the money. I have always wanted to own a oil & gas investment for a long time. I sold everything I had, my car, uncompleted building, my truck business, all my bitcoins and other stuffs I can’t remember and was trying to get quotes from engineers to start my journey into the oil and gas sector. Me and my girlfriend were always arguing cos she wants her uncle to get the contract, I was trying to tell her I don’t trust her uncle maybe he will try to outsource it too I don’t know. After getting ridiculous quotes from all the companies I was able to agree to giving her uncle the contract. I transferred all the money I got from selling all I had to this her uncle and he vanished with the money and even gave me poison the last time I meet him but thank God no poison can affect me but I later know he gave me poison after collecting my life savings. I tried to report him to IRT squad in Abuja but I think the guy has come kind of juju which make it hard to track him so I give up wasting more money to get him down. I had to breakup with my girlfriend and she told me she never know her uncle to be like this and even all her family were surprise and cursing him. We broke up and she left my place I was alone with my though cos I was broke and can’t even Renew my house rent cos it’s very expensive. So I have to sell everything in the house to raise some money and I traveled to South Africa for 6 months to cool off my head. When I arrived back in Nigeria I couldn’t afford Lekki house anymore my best option was to Sangotedo which I got a flat to start my life over again and think of what Else to do after selling my remaining land. This my girlfriend shows up again and I forgive her, I told her we can’t live together anymore but she knows my weakness by cooking my favorites cos she knows I can’t cook and I really like home mad food cos it makes me feel relax. The bombshell of this story is that she’s now pregnant with my baby and I don’t know what to do cos I am not ready to marry or carry any father responsibilities until I can get my life back together. I am thinking maybe she should just stay at her parent house and I will see what I can help her with once in a while cos I can’t involved myself in any form of abortion. Please I need advice on what steps to take. I am depressed already and don’t want more depression. I already throw away my life and now begging for it back. So painful �

You are yet to come out of the mess a family member of hers brought into you, I don't know how such drity thing could happen from his uncle

Base on that, meet her family let them know that you are awareysje us pregnant for you and you are not denying it

You will appreciate if she stays with her parents while you find your bearing for the time being

That whatever you can do to supher with the pregnancy, you will try

They may tell you that it's best she stays with your mother its up to you to accept it or turn it down

In that case is either you are prepared to keep her as a baby mama or then think if to settle down with her or not

The good thing there is that. You did not propose to her

With time you will finally decide either to Marry her, marry another person or relocate abroad

If you know that you won't marry her, try and establish her before saying good bye

dave0450:
Ok will not argue I'm in the system that's why I said it is not easy to like that to upgrade

I am equally in the system
Do you know the full meaning of CICFR BOARD?

ageraGT:
A little history…I’m 28, divorced with two young kids, they live at home. He is 37, divorced with one teenage. Here is my dilemma…. I can’t figure out if I’m attracted to him or the fact that he’s a good guy.

You wait and pray for there to be a good guy left on this earth and finally one comes along and you find him boring or at least not challenging.

What is that? Am I crazy?

He is completely into me. Calls, writes me letters, texts, takes me out, does family outings, asks about my day, washes my car, is clean, is fit, responsible, understanding, compliments me, etc, etc. We’ve been dating two months. We don’t get too much opportunity to spend alone time so we’ve only slept with each other twice. It was okay, not mind-blowing or anything. I’ve had much better, but I’ve had much worse with the wrong guys too. He’s relatively attractive but not my usual type or taste.

Am I being picky because I think my boyfriend is boring? Any other woman would think he is a great catch. I think so as well but just…I don’t know why I can’t get into him.

He’s completely fallen for me, thinks I’m strong, independent, beautiful, good mom, etc. wants to make me happy and for me to be his “girlfriend” and I can just tell the L word is coming along any day now. I can just tell and trust me, I’m not wrong on this.

Another bit of history…

So he usually gets involved with psychos that latch on to him. That is – the complete opposite of me. I like my space and I don’t care if I never see you again. Guys come and go but my family, especially my kids, are forever. It’s one of the mottos I live by. I don’t need anyone to take care of me. A guy in my life is “nice to have” but by no means a need. I think I’m a challenge for him, which is fine. But on my side of things it’s too easy.

From experience, happily ever after doesn’t exist. Sure everyone puts their best foot forward when they’re dating but who’s to say he’ll stay like that? Am I just confused and not giving him a real chance? Or is just the reverse that I’m just not into him? Then the dilemma becomes do I let this great guy go and regret it afterward?

Can you give some advice on this? I have no idea what to do.
No insults please.
Thank you.

From my own side, I will advise you, base on my thoughts after reading your post

We humans, sometimes like crazy things, but for how long do we continue to go crazy ways

Because circumstances have mad you a single mother, it has also prepared you to be independent and that's what you now use to protect your feminine guard

At 28yrs, you are still young and need more exploration, assuming you are around the age 40s, you will appreciate this very guy

But bear in mind that the kind of guys you really want, will break your heart

Left for me, relax your speed of life and let this relationship penetrate

He doesn't disturb you from being crazy,
but you will get tired either by age or by timing

Slow down and try to understand how the relationship will be

To me he is a good guy, I am saying this because of the qualities you mentioned about him, at least he have your time

Attention is what matters more to women

onthehill:
Girlfriend Of Man Killed During EndSARS Protest Narrates How His ‘Ghost’ Gave Her His Password (Photos)

Derin, girlfriend of young man killed during EndSARS protest, Okechukwu Nathaniel has taken to Twitter to narrate an encounter she had with his ghost, IgbereTV reports.

Oke was stabbed to death by hoodlums who attacked his home during the EndSARS protest on October 21, 2020.

Derin said that few days after her boyfriend passed away before he was laid to rest she needed his SuperHI password and mysteriously got it in her dream.

Affirming that spirituality is real and unexplainable, Derin also recounted how after Oke’s death he visited her to bid her final farewell.

She wrote on Twitter;



https://igberetvnews.com/1396193/girlfriend-man-killed-endsars-protest-narrates-ghost-gave-password-photos/

Evedence of true love