Sadsoulnow: OK I fell in love with this girl,and I was ready to marry her. Today we had heart to heart discussion and she told me she can't marry me. I asked why and she break my heart with her reply..she said though i am handsome and i have a good personality,but I AM SHORT,..Yes I am 1.73M...sincerely I am deeply hurt.
This life is not far at all...I have done some research online about height enhancing pills,and to be honest I am going to give it a try,even though it will cost me over 5k dollars. I know some risk must be involved, but right now,that looks like the only option I have..
Hmmmm,to the ladies,do you chose height over personality?
I am deeply hurt already pls,guys don't send abusive messages pls.
You are the one hurting yourself not what she told you
Iambatman: How would that help? Can you give me examples of reasons why you would condone cheating from your partner? I’m sorry if I’m too eager but the cheating issue always gets under my skin.
You see this thing called cheating is a thing of choice
Men cheats and when women cheats, it hurts them
You are a man, pls tell me why men cheats and when women cheats it hurts them
ExAngel007: Before I relocated to my present abode, I once lived in an area where a hospital was located.
The hospital was the very ‘classy’ type if you get my drift. Never in my years of residing in that area did I see any patient trekking to the clinic.
The calibre of patients who patronized the hospital was either chauffeur – driven or those who drove themselves to the hospital in porche cars, of course.
You can then begin to imagine the type of doctors working in the hospital. They were very polished, trendy and happy– go-lucky set of doctors.
I must not forget that majority of them were young and handsome, of course, especially when you see them in their white jackets and stethoscopes casually hanging on their shoulders.
Of all the doctors who worked there, the one that really caught my attention was Dr. Amos.
The guy was stylish, handsome indeed, but he was randy.
Dr. (Randy) Amos practically slept with all the nurses and a handful of patients. People were not too quick to judge him because they reasoned he was still single, and that perhaps he was still searching for the ‘Miss Right’.
Well Dr. Amos had a joker for everyone who prayed for him to at least settle and perhaps to make a home with one of the nurses who he was being seen with.
He sampled and sampled and at the end of the day, when it was time for him to get himself a wife, he travelled to his hometown and got himself a wife! Everyone was dumbfounded when he introduced the lady we thought to be his sister or maid as his wife.
It is needless for me to state how heartbroken a lot of the nurses he used and dumped were.
As a matter of fact, some of them left the employ of the hospital. They could not bear the shame. They said if he had chosen one of them, they would have accepted it as fate.
But to dump every city girl he had dated, and gone for a ‘bush meat’ (according to them) was simply unthinkable. For me, I still believe that love is where you find it, but just as a matter of curiosity, does it mean that ladies in the countryside are better than city dwellers? I am also aware that majority of my eastern brothers still indulge in that act till tomorrow.
What is about the rural girls that urban girls don’t have? Do men feel the urban girls are too exposed or too independent? Does it have anything to do with prowess in bed? Do men of these days still prefer, ‘Yes sir’, ‘Yes sir’, ‘bags full’ kind of girls? Because Dr. Amos’s story is very recent one, are village girls prettier? Do they cook better? Are they better housekeepers? Do they make better housewives and others?
I am aware that urban girls of these days are not as timid as they seemingly were in the past. In fact, when most of the urban girls visit their country home, feeling cool, wearing their wares and hairdos, they will be shocked to find out that their so-called trendy clothes are already outdated as the ‘home girls’ are spotting trendier wares.
In fact, a friend recently travelled home to see her aged mother, it was during that visit that an old friend she accidentally ran into introduced to her a herbal soap that she can use to wash and tighten her ‘parts’ so that when a ma ‘meets’ her, she would feel like he is meeting a virgin.
In the villages these days, the type of girls that stare downwards or look away when a man makes a direct pass at them are fast gone. I also recall an old childhood friend of mine, who once dated a guy form the eastern part of the country for close to seven years of her life.
This guy went further to give her an engagement ring, which she wore conspicuously, scaring all prospective suitors away. She was very faithful to her until the day he travelled home to bring home the wife his mother had earlier arranged for him.
Her fiancée kept her in the dark for close to eight months after bringing the lady home to Lagos. He finally let the proverbial cat out of the bag when my friend persistently insisted on retrieving the spare key he had earlier taken back from her with no cogent reason.
He claimed that his mother had arranged the wife on his behalf years before he was even told of the lady’s existence. He also claimed that he could not afford to disobey or hurt his mother’s feelings. My friend’s broken heart is yet to be taken care of even two years after the eastern ‘bros’ dumped her for his ‘home girl’.
I really wonder why this is so. It really beats my imaginations. Don’t get me twisted. I am not in any way trying to downgrade my urban sisters by any chance, far from it.
I just feel that lady’s location is based on privileged and sheer geography, I do not think it is right to date and dump a city girl for whatever reason and run home to pick a wife.
A lady is a lady. There should not be any basis for competition. If you date an urban girl, and it works for you, please marry her.
Same should go for a city girl. If an urban lady is good enough to dine, wine and sleep with, why can’t you just take her to the altar? Or what do you think?
He must have slept into his conscience and his worried marrying a city girl will put him into worries since those once are alread exposed
He will rather marry a rural woman whom he felt has bit been exposed or used by other men . But the so called rural women has there own kind of exposure too
Besides, handsome men gets more confused when it comes to marriage
Ancientbeing: After a lot of heartbreaks and distrust in girls, i made an internal resolution to stop trying to build relationships with females. After sometime, i noticed that i started feeling differently towards any females i relate with . I started feeling this uncontrollable passion and lust and also an overwhelming love and care for girls close to me. I avoid touching myself due to its psychological but i really need to release these very strong emotions. Could marriage at this point be a healthy decision?
One of the reasons if going into marriage is for companionship and love
WhiteNigerian: I had a misunderstanding with my girlfriend that i have been dating for abt 2yrs now. She accused me of cheating on her just because her friend told her she saw me paying for the meal of a lady i met at the restaurant last sunday. The lady in question was my coursemate during my uni days and it's been a while since i saw her last. i think close to 4years now so we were both excited when we saw each other at the restaurant and i offered to pay for her meal. When my babe confronted me with the allegation, i explained myself to her and concluded with dis statement "i didn't mean to hurt your feelings" and her reply was "U're too small to hurt my feelings". i was shocked but i acted kul. I love her but i hate insults most especially when it has to do with my personality. Should i break up with her? pls I need your candid advice. thank you.
You want to break up with her because of a mere statement
Are you new to words from women?
You have explained to her, don't expect her to accept your explanation automatically
Iambatman: Madam there’s no valid reason. If it’s your brother complaining about this ish and you clearly know this woman is cheating, would you advice him same?
You were eager to comment that's why you did not understand the content of my post
I said he should seat her down and find out why.
How else do you think you can handle issues that you don't know why they came up?
History555: I need candid advise pls no insults. I got married 2years ago, of recent i noticed my wife has been spending so much time online. Not that its unusual to me because i know shes kind of addicted to her phone. But suspicion made me pick the phone on several occasions but it was paasworded. Finally i was able to discover the password after many trials and to my surprise she has been chatting steadily, morning and night with this guy. Not only that the guy calls her sweet names and she responds. Even to the extent of telling her he wished they were married. Her response showed she was receptive to the idea. Then she asked him why he did not make a move since and he blamed his financial status. In summary i hve seen enough, though i hve neva confronted her. My plan is to inform my people b4 calling the marriage off.
What do you want to inform your people about her ❓
That she is a flirt or she has gotten a better man than you
Look guy, something is missing in your marriage
Seat her down and find out from her what the problem is
It could be lack of communication
It could be lack of respect, love and absence of peace
It could be lack of attention or affection
Women are like flowers, if you attend to them, they will blossom to your happiness
I am not going to blame her yet until you talk with her
If the sweet words she is hearing from that gist partner is what is glueing her to the guy, start yours
Men are able to deceive women and get into them through their sweet mouth
If you are hard on a woman, she must, I repeat, she must look for a guy that is soft to suppress your hardness
And if you are unfortunate she gets sex satisfaction out side, then consider her gone because you have lost her to another man or men
Newdawn30: Everything was fine BTW us till late last year when she started changing. Our sex life was great till late last year, whenever I make a move to touch her she always say she was tired or not in the mood. It was strange cos she has a large appetite for sex. Then every weekend she hardly spend time with me, it either she had to for her a week training or she had to go home to see her parents which was odd . Even when I told her to stay she refused, it was always one excuse or the other.Then we began having fights even over the silliest things. I was away for a month and I came back early because of the lowdown. I decided to check her message, that's how I learnt that she had been having affairs with other men(3) Including married man she introduced to me as a friend. Same girl that hated ladies that sleep with married men was doing same. I feel so broken cos I never expected such a thing From her . We are supposed to get married by 3rd quarter this year... I still have feelings for her cos she has been begging and saying she regrets her action begging me not to tell her mom. Her mom is the only person I can trust to knock some sense into her. I'm scared that if I forgive her she might do it again. Nairalanders I need your advice. I had built my world around her
I won't ask you to dismantle the world around her but give her time and watch the relationship
There must be a reason for keeping men find out what the reasons are
A married man is woeing my babe o Saying all sweet things to her, promising her different things, although the man is quite wealthy, he said he want her to be his wife
Guys what should we do?
You may lose her if she is the materialise woman
Seat her down and tell her the risk involved in the decision she is about making
If she insisted, let her be, just free her and watch the drama
FeliciaOja: Hi guys, I know the title sound weird but I don't know if it is normal to have this type of feeling. I'm 21 but I often fantasize about dating multiple guys. I can't be in a relationship with just 1 guy I love the feeling of multiple guys all playing Different roles in my life.
I'm scared this might ruin any future marriage, I just can't live with 1 guy the rest of my life. Is this normal? How Should I explain this to my mom?
Don't worry about your mum, with time she will understand your life style and live with it, after all some people are transgender yet their family embarrassed them
You should be worried about your decision to have multiple men at a time
Well your are the one involved
Instead of getting married and messing up, just remain single and enjoy your freedom till eternity
Then make plans for your old age, one of the plans is for you to have children from any of those your multiple men
Mirabellek: Both are not ready to have the baby, my dad is very abusive it will cost our mum to loose her marriage , the guy family has planned to send him abroad for studies , if his parents came to found out he has impregnated they will cancel the plans. My sister lives at home with me and our parents and others. He is a student , his family are not aware. Any suggestion please ?
My dear, all I can say is, you guys must be careful, your sister's life is involve
Mirabellek: My little sis is pregnant we don’t want our parents to know cos dad is very abusive if he found out she is pregnant , he will causes a lot of problem for our mum, the guy responsible has agreed to give her the money to go for abortion we really want to get rid of the pregnancy before her belly start growing big but we don’t know if hospital are still doing abortion in this pandemic time. Does anybody know if the hospital will welcome us on this time ? Please no insult
Perfecttouchade: Weyrey leleyi o..he intentionally did this and hope he is been apprehended..this one is a devil sha
I don't think he did it intentionally
He is not a medical personnel
He was given the dress probably he was an under taker or hired from a funeral home
He residence in Abuja because after that he entered his car
The fault is on the people that gave him and others that robe to put on, they would have collected it themselves and burn, knowing that the clothes are not safe after used on the virus patient
Well, I hope residence of Abuja will really stay indoors because the spread just started with that over 1000 crowd that gathered there for the burial
Some were not even having hand glove or face mask on them, for a virus that is in the air
Please I'm not a good writer I wish I can send a voice note that's the only way I can explain the whole thing
Since this lock down I've been at home reflecting on my life journey so far there's nothing good to show for it, I've tried all my best to be a better some body for myself and my mom but it seems they tie my future put for kom kom, I'm the kind of guy that always advise everyone around me to be a better person I'm a giver I'm a good guy I've never had police case before No bad record I always like everyone around me to be alright All my male friends I always advise them on how to be successful and how to manage their money, But in my own case it's always different I can't manage money Money doesn't last with me and I don't invest I don't smoke, I don't drink but I like women, I hardly go a week without sleeping with a girl unless I don't have money and anytime I don't have money I will always respect myself I remember very well a girl I met in D Dems in Okowonjo Lagos, I took her for a night after the job the next morning we talked, I advised her to leave the runs girl job and do something meaningful she adhered to it and today that lady is doing well in her business that assisted her in opening at idimu, I've done this to 2 other girls too and they're doing well, one married last December self she blocked me after I commented congrats on her fb post(maybe because she don't want to remember her old memories) I didn't bother her though I was happy I changed her though But I'm finding it difficult to change myself, anytime I've money my mind always go to women, women, women nothing else, since this lock down I've been broke no money I can't believe I could stay up to 3 weeks without sleeping with a girl and I didn't die, I don't masturbate either.
My problem now is what can I do to stop my addiction to women
Why is it that I always change everyone around me life positively but my life is full of errors
I don't go to church due to personal experience I had in church since last year I've not been going to church but I do pray and I believe in God
I'm a very very hard working young man, but I've never made any meaningful thing with any money I worked for except sending money to my mom and my siblings
I started hustling since finished my primary 6 in 2006
Presently I'm not working I'm searching for work but I seriously need help on how to manage my life
A little background about me I'm a 27 years old boy, I was born in a family of 7 my mom lost 3 of her kids we are just 4 boys now, I grew up in a family where my dad beat my mom like a kid, we grew up hating my dad until he died last year, because of my dad behavior my mom didn't allow us grow in our fathers house she sent us all out to go stay with people I left my mom at age of 10 that's when I started hustling I served an uncle for 9 years with story coming at the end of it
Lalasticala
You case is not a serious case to be bordered about
It's a simple case only if you are ready to adjust and take some advice
The only issue here is women and sex
Once you get HIV infection your head will correct but by then you would have done more harm than good
Get a girl friend and stop going to slaughter house
Keep her for the friendship and both of you can study your self if you are compatible for marriage
If you think she will make a good wife, then you ate good to go
Make your proposal know to her and keep to your promises
Make love to her as your wife to be not as you do with the hookers
Discuss your future with her and she will contribute to your planning
In as much as you have made up your mind over her
You will learn to concentrate on her and the relationship
Take a visit to her family so that they will know that you are the one dating her
Don't be scared about cost of marriage it will sort itself out
If she becomes pregnant, good look to both of you
The presence of a new born makes a man to be more responsible and organised that ever before
By the time you bear the cost of antenatal and baby items
You will reason home
When you guys have saved enough you perform her marriage rights
Hoodbilonia: Once u are shot. Pls act like everything ja normal Pls . Dont go into panic and shock If u survive the ak47 bullet at close range Once u reciver fully Trace the officee who shat ya. If he stays in a face me i face u Or compound Flat Monitor him Then wipe off the whole residence Spare no one Not even his flat mates,dogs innocent persons.
So every one in that compound should die for one man error
ebohstepn: Good day nairalanders, am 24 years old and I just rounded up my NYSC early this year. I have a girlfriend that I have been dating for almost 7 years now( I will say it's has been a on and off kind of relationship). before we got really serious last two years.
She is kind, lovely, beautiful and she is loyal. but her problem is money, anytime she sees or hear about money, all she thinks is how to spend it and she does not rest until the money is finished. that shit has bankrupt me so many times.
This luckdown has really made me to relax and think, if I make such person my wife in the nearest future, I will not even buy land talkless of building a house.
We will be a couple that has like 4 cars in a rented apartment, and no savings, am tired and I d'nt want to make any mistake closing a life partner. I have talked to her about it several times but she can not change.
I d'nt know, just confused. I am thinking of breaking up with her now that I think I can bear the pain of losing her. I need ur advice guys.. no insults please
sorry about my English.
You detected a very sensitive party of a relationship
Pls free her with style
As you are freeing her stay away from sleeping with her and exchanging love words
You don't have the capacity to handle her finances or financial demands
kozmokaz: � � men Nigeria army tire me ah swear... We dont need all this long epistles.. We need results... I personally want to see pictures of dead BOKO and ISWAP boys... Emmm why him wan make them capture brother shekau alive na?
Abi them. Wan give am amnesty for a job well done?
One bullet on the Mather fucker head will save Nigerian tax payers money
I taught Niger Republic president said that they have killed this cat with nine lives
Made4naijalove: Two men living in the same compound got into a fight during lockdown in Enugu and it was really messy.
The men - Divine and Nonso - had a disagreement and neighbours tried to intervene but it soon spiralled out of control and they took the fight outside in full view of neighbours.
In a video taken by someone living in the next compound, the men are seen only verbally attacking each other before one pushed the other and hit him with a chair. The other reciprocated and they soon moved from chairs to bottles until they were both bleeding.
Neighbours called out to them to stop fighting but no one dared go close to separate them, for fear of being stabbed with the bottle.
Romance › Re: This Life Is Not Fair by frozen70(f): 4:36am On Apr 19, 2020
