goldensoul55: Goodday everyone , I have been married to my husband for 8 years and we are blessed with 3 lovely kids , my husband cheats on me especially when I'm pregnant , I noticed it when I had my first child , the thing is , he does it so smoothly that he leaves no stone unturned , I knew he cheated, the signs were there but never had any concrete evidence .
Around February this year , I noticed that whenever we are about to make out, his joystick gets so soft , (soft like bread ),there is nothing we haven't tried ,the more we try ,the weaker it gets. We attributed it to stress, or maybe erection issues , I encouraged him to go to the hospital , but he never did. Fast forward to last September , I started having nightmares about a strange woman fighting me in my dreams that my husband is owing her and she would take her pounds of flesh on me and my kids , cos my hubby cannot "waste her oranges " I asked her what she meant by "waste her oranges "? She said I should ask my husband when I get home . I woke up from that dream at about 2am , I woke my husband up for prayers , after the prayers , I asked him if he was having any extra marital affairs , he denied , I said ok , at least do you know any orange seller ? Or did you by chance waste anyones'oranges , he said NO . And went back to sleep. Immediately he slept , I took his phone , checked if I could find any clue , there was none.
A month later I had a similar dream, this time around the face of the girl was clearer , and she was fuming with anger , i woke up ,ran to my pastor , he prayed with me and told me to keep praying , I started the midnight prayer programne on 18th of October to 24th December . On 25th of December my husband confessed to me that he has been cheating with various girls but there was a particular girl he slept with, that from the day he slept with that girl ,he noticed that he couldn't make love to me anymore ,he said he is not having weak erection like I thought that his joystick works on any other lady apart from me , he said he tried to end the relationship but he couldn't ,. Then he decided to stop sleeping with the said girl but she threatened him he would weep over his wife and kids , I asked him why he denied it even when God revealed it to me in my dreams , he said the girl is powerful and promised she would torment me ,and that he was confused and didn't know what to do. Lest I forget , my husband and I haven't been able to make love since february this year . Yet he has been making love to other girls everyday of his life.whlie I was busy praying for God to heal hi.m and make him the complete man I once married , I never knew his evil side chick was punishing me and depriving me of enjoying my husband . How do I forgive this man ? I have taken my kids to my mums place to celebrate the new year , I am thinking of not returning back to the house .please Niaralanders I need matured advice on how to handle this situation , I am looking pale as a result of the emotional stress I have been through , I pray and fast everyday of my life for a man that doesn't mean well for me and my kids . Sorry for the long post . .
If he has ever been loving and caring
Pls join hand with him to fight this spiritual battle
Leaving him to stay alone will make his matter worst because no one to checkmate him
Meet the girl in question and find out from her what he did to deserve it because from the look of things, you and the children are the target
But if he has be naughty and uncared for, just fucking around without regards, don't go back yet let him suffer his fate
That is how most men bleeps around, bringing ill lucks to themselves and they want their wives to be a faithful as a dove
sunnymighty: Good evening everyone, please pardon my grammatical errors, i also want to appeal to you to please take time to go over this write up and be honest to tell me where i have gone wrong. I lost my mother in 2010, she left a landed property (on a corner piece) with a set back of a room and a parlour self contain and by the location of this property it falls under two CDA's, i will like to refer to the CDA on the major road where the property is facing as group A, while the adjoining street (just by the side) will serve as group B. Early last year, a network provider came to install a mast (tower) on the said property, after necessary consultations and 'settlements' , group B which happened to be the the group i belong to initially, started agitating for their own settlement from the construction company working at the site, the supervisor called me, i put a call across to the CDA secretary (don't have the CDA chairman's number as at then) and advised that we write a letter to this organization and table the needs of the community before them so they could factor it in as part of their CSR, they refused. Now, to the crux of the matter. (a) During construction laterite was excavated from the ground (10 tippers atleast) the same CDA i belong to came and packed everything without my knowledge and did not leave any for me to fill my compound. (b) A reckless driver rammed into my fence, they claimed ignorance, i had to call a mason to mend it, this happened the second time again and after investigation, a woman (a landlady) who operates a beer parlour on the adjoining street owned up that it was one of her customers. (c) We contracted a young man for aluminium work (window installation) we gave him 80% of the money then, he only came to install the window frame but left the job uncompleted, after investigation i got to know the young man happened to be an in law to one of the landlords on the adjoining street, i approached the CDA chairman, he promised to investigate, he denied knowing either the young man or his in laws who happened to be a landlord on this same street after his 'investigation'. All these and so many other issues made me to review my membership of group B CDA and joined group A CDA. In August this year i approached the CDA chairman of group A which i newly belong that i need electricity, he gave me a go ahead, and in order to avoid trouble, i decided not to connect to the pole closer to my building which happened to be on the adjoining street which 'supposedly' belong to group B, but opted for a pole on the main road even though i spent much on wire just to avoid issues. I was away yesterday when my wife called me that group B CDA came to disconnect my light and went away with the wire. I have informed my new CDA chairman, who is away, but before his arrival i want my fellow nairalanders to please tell me where i have gone wrong. Your candid advice will also help in making the right decision. Thank you all for taking the time to read this. moderators pleade help move to the front page.
Get the elderly one's in the two groups to settle your matter with them
Before then decide on which dude you want to belong and whichever you chose, you can't go back to the former
Mrsprissy: Good evening my brothers and sisters in the house. First , I am not a troll . I've been a member on NL since 2008 and am very active, but I prefer using a new account for my story to seek advice and also learn from other experienced people in this great group. On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.
He was in our room for an hour while the kids and I were still waiting for him , I even sent the kids in their room to play , he later came out he only changed his top but didnt changed the trousers and trainers , I have decided not to say anything for peace to reign , so as we were leaving , I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop. I am so pained because before the incident happened, we were fine , no quarrel at all , I just dont understand his reasons for beating me like this and I swear to God , I didnt say something to make him this angry, he left me there and went out , his friend later called to know if we were still coming because he couldn't reached hubby on the phone , I told him we are coming. I cleaned myself ,change my clothes and I left with the kids to.his friend house , to my surprised he was already there , we acted like everything was normal and I tried hard to stop tears coming because I was in pained.
For the past 3 days he has been acting as if I did wronged him, he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't eat my foods and he left the room and he is now sleeping in our son room. I just don't know what to do again
Sorry for that ugly situation
Give him time to get himself off from the trap he set for himself
St the end, he will explain why he allowed the beast in him to come out
About a year ago, my Dad died, being an owner of a primary school with my mom, thereafter o assumed head of the school, although I run my own freelance engineering installation and maintenance service on HVACs and Diesel engines.
In course of this education line, I'm obtaining my certificate in PGDE( in view).
Now this is the case...
There are some old staff in the school then whom use to collect school fees on behalf of the school and you know Nigerians, instead of remitting the fees to the school, they divert and scam and even go as far as lending money to different people in the vicinity.
However since I took over, I forcefully stopped the collection, and redirected all fees to be paid at the bank. Mhen, it was not small trouble, fight, gossiping, spoiling me at the back etc, but I never listened to such, and right now no one collects these fees again... Everything goes through me coz I'm trying to sanitize it. I also required the services of a registered security company operator (sheriff deputies) for the school
Problems I needed advice
1. Sometimes these rebellion. They gossip and talk evil to people that I'm very harsh etc
2. I have changed 2 security operators because of compromises with these staff. I will give instruction, Buh those they'd do otherwise and bend to what other older staff tell them. Recently, the present security did something contrary and I scolded him toughly. Recently, he had an alteration with a parent and I asked him to just plead with her. He refused blatantly. I was surprised and even my mom too. He said he doesn't like the way I scold him and that's why bla bla bla, infront of all other staff. My mom asked me not to change him Buh I'm skeptical
I already feel like changing him with his company supervisor coz he lives around the vicinity and he now gossips with those old staff who might be telling him I'm too young to order him to do things
4. These old staffs are like friends to my mom and they already carry a lot of influence with most of the parents (which I also cut off too). One of them is wife to my mom's brother
5. My mother has been telling me to be patient even my wife. I do not want to employ an headteacher until I change a lot of things
The school has about 300-350 pupils, and employs 18 staff
Advice needed
Forget about what they are saying behind you
You must be a topic of gossip as far as you ha e taken over the school authority
Employ fresh teachers, after a term, release the old one's to go or select those you think their services are no longer needed
Find a way and give the staff incentives so that they will be motivated
As for the security personnel, you can change the security firm by getting another one
And let the new ones that comes, teach them how to mind their business
Be courageous because you are fighting the visible and invisible
enshi: Pls guys help me with the right words actions and steps to go about this..
Yes I was caught in the act. She had traveled to her village to see her parents and she was to come back 2nd January. She left 24th ..
I was on this antibiotics since two weeks now and it really made me experience extra morning sicknesses (guys will understand) so we kept communication every now and then while she was away.
Today I met a lady in the morning while I went to buy my dog feed.. So I invited her to the house she came and we had little alcohol and one thing led to another we were on the bed pants down.. To my greatest surprise my window were flipped open all of a sudden low and behold it was my gf peeping through.. Omg
She had tried to come through the front door but it was locked . she probably had knocked but I didn't hear due to the generator that was on.. She called me my love and asked for how long I have been doing this then she left.. I was agog likewise the naked lady on my bed...
The lady left just immediately... I have not called my gf up till now.. I am confused don't know what to say or do.. Pls guys.. I love her and I have never cheated on her in a year and four months now.
What do I do
Visit her and apologise to her and promise her you won't do it again
She is badly hurt now but you have to carry your cross of apologising to her
NNFORUM: The drama between the Oluwo of Iwo and his estranged wife, Chanel chin doesn’t seem to be ending anytime soon.
The Jamaican queen, who was wife to the Oluwo of Iwo kingdom, Oba Abdurrosheed Adewale Akanbi Telu 1, was sent packing from the palace last weekend alongside her child. And since then we haven’t had the last of them. https://www.dropbox.com/s/add99ug3214pmoc/75654081_582627629232685_604730461978709548_n.jpg?raw=1 This morning, the estranged wife, Chanel posted an encryptic message on her Instagram page that reads:
“Maturity speaks. Since the Oluwo of Iwo has gone to the media to air his dirty laundry, I have remained silent. He has gone on a personal mission to destroy my character ith fabricated stories….i have remain silent. As a mother of a small baby, all of this is unnecessary and very immature. Out of respect for the stool i have not spoken of what i went through in the last 4 years. Please let MATURITY rule. If a king does not RESPECT himself or his stool….who else will? People of God, let us be honest with ourselves, this is not the Ist or the last time that we have watched this individual fabricate and publicly destroy someone….kings are supposed to uplift and not oppress. love and light.”
And the King responded to her post thus:
“The Horse is waiting but you can’t force the passenger!!! To who cares to listen….ticket has been provided since 18th of December, 2019, 5 star hotel fully paid till date of travel!! And ask yourself a question….can a Canadian be stranded in Nigeria even if a ticket is not provided?? The Candaian embassy and Government is one of the most responsible in the world. If someone chooses to stay back for whatever reason, its none of our business. The needful has been done by providing the necessary travelling arrangements.”
frndfghtr: I am an okada man, operating from Orile to Cele bustop highway, I came across a woman lying lifeless on the road, people gathered around her, no one to rescue her or to take her to hospital, all her cloth was stained with blood, I called some people and they put the woman on my bike, we rushed her to primus hospital ijesha, where the doctor were very rude and requested for card money which one woman transferred 3k to the doctor.
Later the doctor rejected the patient and ordered me to take the woman out of their hospital, that the injury is too much, unknowingly to me all the people that followed me down to the hospital have ran away, I refused to take the woman away, the doctor and the held me hostage in the hospital and called ijesha police for me, they came and Seized my okada, insisting that I will take the woman to LUTH hospital by all means, failing to do so I will be held responsible for anything that happen to the woman.
They started making fun of me by calling me, GOOD SAMERITAN, HERO, HELPER , THAT CANT HELP HIMSELF, that is why will i carry whom i don't know on the way to hospital?
I started crying, luckily to me another good sameritan showed, this one is KEKE MARUWA rider, he encouraged me, full of confidence, that he will support me let's take the woman to LUTH hospital with his kekemaruwa.
For complete 5 hours this woman was seriously bleeding, From 8pm I brought her to the useless hospital till 1am Early morning, that was when the Keke man showed, the police refused to assist with their so called TOLL FREE PATROL VEHICLE, I called 911they answer but not show up, me And the keke man now took the woman to the LUTH hospital around 1am with a police report, KUDOS TO LUTH hospital, they rushed the woman to emergency and commenced surgery immediately, me and the Keke man spent like 10k for the drugs and other things that night, in the LUTH.
To the glory of almighty Lord, she is recovering, and the family have come, I be taking back my okada, from the police.
alimaa: Please I need a piece of advice on how to handle this situation.
I have a very close friend and his wife has asked for financial assistance severally and I obliged. The problem I have here is what will my friend think if he should be seeing a bank alert from me on his wife's phone?
The woman has been calling my line since the beginning of this month which I have continued to ignore. She would later send text asking for financial help and this kind of situation is very confusing because you might report to her husband and they will both turn the whole thing against you.
Please what should I do?
Why is she demanding from you, without the consent of the husband
Becarefull, you can't deny any any thing when the husband accusses you
Mike4S: I came back from the the church on Sunday only to see my apartment rummaged. My gas cylinder that I just filled, my new electric iron that is still intact in the packet, my new stainless vacuum cup, aso ebi 2 each 6 yards and Polish and brush were all carted away.
What really surprised me is my key being intact and no sign of break and enter from any part of the apartment.
Air of mystery still surrounds how my apartment was robbed.
I want to go and just drop statement with the police. Hope that one will be welcomed? Guys I need your contributions. I just packed in there. It's somewhere opposite Lagos Business School along Lekki Epe express way
Someone that have been having access to your keys, made a duplicate copy of your keys, targeted your movement when you won't be around and took the opportunity to do a neat stealing
Ellarhh: I'm 21, a graduate, will be serving in March. I don't have money ooo I'm kinda broke (struggling with my importation business I started of recent). I'm not looking for a guy that'll spend on me tho' (spending on me is a plus but it's not a priority). Still, I need a man that's okay financially. Someone with a legit source of income. I'm inexperienced with sex but I'm open to it if we vibe well. Also, before you indicate interest, I'm not a slay queen ooo abeg. I'm quite lean, a bit busty and *not* tall.
I can really fun to be with when I like a person and can definitely have intelligent conversations and motivate you to do better. I'm not promiscuous as well.
I'm searching for an honest guy that I can be friends with (I lack male friends). As time goes on we'll decide on if we want a relationship or not. If you're between the ages of 24–27, you're fair , fun to be with and smart then I'm your girl. If you reside in Port Harcourt as well, that'd be nice.
Any interested persons should PM me please. Thanks
Cc: Lalasticlala
That age bracket you put on for the men are the people that will frustrate your dream
Look for men who are thirty years and above, they are more matured to handle relationships with its challenges
Massey27: Hello Nairalanders. I have been following the forum and have seen how problems are shared.
I need advice for this and please from matured married people on this forum. This will be lengthy but please read to the end.
I am married for ten years now going to eleven and I will say all this year's, Hubby has been my best friend and closest ally.
We got married when we were in the University and I would say it has been beautiful . Of course we have had the normal quarrels in our relationship. But it has never gotten out of hand. We settle it just the two of us without family interference. My husband is very supportive and very loving and I have been told by different people that I am lucky to have a husband like him and I totally agree with them.
Fast forward to years after our marriage, I suffered three miscarriages which the last one was bad. And my husband has been supportive all the way. Even though I have not been able to carry all pregnancy full term and we don't have children of our own I have never had course to doubt his love for me.
Two years back, I started getting text messages and strange calls form unknown numbers telling me my husband was seeing another lady. I didn't allow that bother me because I never believed them until his close friend went and informed my family about it. My family kept it a secret from me and they didn't let my husband know. But they carried out their investigations and it happened to be true. Still no of them told me. They were afraid of what that kind of revelation would cause to our marriage.
I also noticed that my husband was no longer the happy and lively man he used to be. He was getting lean and older than his age of 40. He was looking drained. He still showed love and affection but I knew he was not happy. And if I ask, he keeps saying he is going through a process and it's nothing.
But it wasn't long I got to know, not from my family but from a sister to that same friend of his. I never for once saw anything incriminating in his phone. So I decided to ask him. Coupled with all the strange messages and calls i was getting and that he was aware of.
I was given the name and every detail of the girl from his friend sister. So I confronted him with that. He broke down and admitted to it and also told me he didn't like what he was doing and wanted to stop but the girl keeps telling him she will come to the house and make sure I get to know if he stops picking her calls and seeing her. So he was between the red blue sea and the devil.
I was devastated because I love and trust him with all I have. He knelt down and wept and he was begging me not to leave him but help him.
He explained that was the reason for his sadness and he really regrets everything and didn't know what he started the affair. The girl in question was introduced to him by that same friend that went and told my family about his affair. Even at that point , my family never told me anything. I left the house with some of my things because the wouldn't let me take everything, with pain and went to my family house. After telling my mom and elder brothers, I was advised to go back to my house and settle with him. That he is a good man that made a mistake. My elder brothers took me back to his own family house and met with my father in law and all that was settled. The relationship with the lady ended for it was already shaky at that time. And she called him again when he was trying to settle his home. Telling him if she doesn't see him she is coming to his house because he has been avoiding her. His phone was on speaker and I heard it myself. So he told her she is free to come because his worst fear has happened. That she has no hold over him again and that his wife knows everything now. She immediately ended the call.
I went back home and he has been remorseful and doing everything to make me happy again and to show me how sorry he is.
Early this year, same lady sent him a text to tell him that, when he ended the relationship with her, she was already pregnant for him and she has put to bed a baby boy. And the child is his. This was March this year.
Another drama started.
According to her, she had the baby last year 2018 November and the child is a year now. Her affair with my husband lasted for six months and ended early 2018.
My husband has not seen the child except the picture she posted on Facebook of her and the baby and she has gone ahead to change her profile on Facebook bearing the name of my husband.
Since the news of her having a child for him came, I have been really really sad and hubby has been trying all he can to salvage the situation but I am still not happy. He has not contacted her and has refused picking her calls or going to see the child and the child by calculating when she said she had him, is a year already.
Now my pan is I have tried to accept this and has even told hubby to go see the child and take responsibility. But he said he is not ready. Deep down inside me, I don't think I can love this child as my own. Am I a devil for feeling this way? And i have alot of trust issue going on now in as much as hubby makes sure I am in the know of everything. He has refused to see the child and I don't want the child growing up to feel his father is irresponsible. How do hubby i get to know this child more and take care of his needs without having the mother come too close to my home?
The lady in question already has three kids for another man who didn't marry her before hubby met her. But hubby didn't know even when he was with her. He got to know after the whole affair ended.
Although she is more younger than hubby and I. She is In her late twenties. I am 36 and hubby is 40.
Please your advice are welcome. Married.and matured people here, I will be following. Thank you all for your patience in reading this.
What your hubby did, is what pressure can push a man to do
But am glad he is loving and even showing signs of being remorseful
That child you are contemplating loving or not loving, his mother will not allow you to have a firm grip of that child
She will continue to use the child as a bait with your husband
I advice you discuss the issues of adoption with him and if he approves, you can go ahead and get an adopted child
That will make you happy and kerp you busy not to start killing yourself for not having your biological
May be, the child can oped doors for you to become pregnant
Keep loving your hubby as he too loves you and your family will be stronger that no one can penetrate
The other woman wants to come in, how are you even sure, the boy belongs to him
He can do a DNA test to put his mind at rest and take responsibilities of the child
darling4real1: This is scaring and I can't sleep well at night. I got a prophecy from a friend to pray against death and since then, I started having a nightmare. Seeing myself chatting with the dead relatives and friends.
Am I going to die? Please I need an urgent advise now. Help a lost soul.
Where is your faith in God if you should allow a mere devil to be confusing you
Tell the devil to get behind you that you have a powerful God who watches you
And the devil will run away if you don't give him room to seat down in your life
Homers123: The kid(s) are the real victim(s) here if there is any because they just lost a Mother and will soon lose a father. It takes a special kind of hate to start hitting one's wife.
bodaola: Last week. I invited a girl to my house and one thing one thing we started smooching... When the smooching is going on. She said, i Dont want to do this. I said why, she said... My wedding is 28 of December.
In shock i was like, so you will soon be a married woman. She said yes. Even should me I.V on her phone. I was wowed. Then i tend removing my mind off this. Not until she said she's already Hot that she needs my dick now... She pounce on it and we ride on. While we were fuvking, her Fiance called and she instructed me to keep quiet. Then i did. During the Convo, the guy asked her where is she. She then replied she's at aunty Hannah's place. She came to bargain about the wedding planner shit. Then the guy said OK and dropped the call. We continue fuvking, but my mind was off it. At that time, i began to feel heartbreak. I felt the pain. I began to think my girlfriend is fuvking another guy apparently. Mehn! As we are talking now! I just broke up with my girlfriend. I can't allow any woman do this to me in future.
See, i Dont think I will get married. I sorry mum, I will do baby mama thing. No! Women are thieves!
If women are thieves, men made them to steal
Even if you do baby mama, you have actually given her enough room to roam about
Don't be supprise, she will impose another man's pregnancy on you
cbrass: Good morning guys and compliment of the season.
There is this beautiful lady i am looking forward to settle with but she is 2years older than me. My younger sister said that it is too risky and i should be very sure of what i am trying to do...i just don't get what that means So guys i need your help on what to look out for, also when is Menopause age?
Thank you
To me, the most important thing is true love and respect for each other
You can marry your junior and living will be hell
You can marry your senior and the maturity will help in so many situations
Just make use of yourself guide as a man and don't loose your grip
Ndubuisipaul1: Its difficult to say this, the girl I want to marry (although I have not proposed to her yet). I showed her picture to my younger brother and he told me he has slept with her. I asked him severely even showed him other pictures of her to make sure it's the girl he slept with and he said it was her..
I love this girl so much that I can't imagine loosing her.( Sometimes you love someone and you can't tell what's so special about them). I have suspended the proposal , and I don't want to disclosed what my brother said to me to her.
Sometimes I ask myself among all the girls in Nigeria why must it be this one that I love that my brother met with..
I would have gone ahead with the decision but what kind of respect will I get from my younger brother by marrying a girl he slept with ? Sincerely if it was my elder brother I wouldn't mind, but being my younger brother it seems to my as a let down ..
Well let me not bore you with long story, what's your thought ?
Look for another one non of your family members have slept with
Lekside442: Good evening Nairalanders...I just need a little advice from you all. No insults please and don’t mind my English.
So we planned to meet today again. Though we’ve being meeting before. She came all the way from ondo to Akure. So when she got there, she called and I told her she just have to wait for me because it’s very hard to see motorcycle at this time of Christmas.
She was then patient, so when I finally got there, she said she has being waiting in the sun since. I then explained to her it’s very rare to get a bike this time, she then said okay.
Immediately we got there, I got Something for her, a cold stone, after sometimes, she was then going through my phone, she saw one of my pictures and she asked when I snapped it I showed her the info which was Thursday and her mood just changed and she asked me to get my phone away from her.
I asked her what’s wrong? She didn’t respond. She then said she’s going back to Ondo. I said I wanna give the bike man the TFare she said if I do she’s gonna tear it, saying all sort of things. I then just have to leave her to go. She embarrassed me there and saying abusing words and that’s how I left her to go.
Pease Nairalanders, what do you think I can do about this shit? I’m fed up of her unnecessary angers all the time. We've being dating and it’s almost 4 months now.
Michellekabod2: I am not going to create another moniker for this,i owe no one nothing!
I have spent most of my life single. I tried linking up with people but to no avail. Why? I will not do the blame game here. Is all my fault. I meet someone, get heed over heels for the person but I lose interest easily. When it comes to commitment, when the friendship is to get to the next level I ghost them. I don't know why. At best out of the blue I lose interest and become blank, not returning calls or replying messages, at worst I become disgusted at the fellow for no reason at all then move one to the next male friend. Nothing serious comes out of it...
So I decided to give up trying. My female friends and I go on an outing, some guys approach us and get our numbers. Months (sometimes years) later they are still waxing strong with the males, one of them even got married to one of them. But me? After a couple of weeks I find myself having to ghost the guy that I was head over heels for.
I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.
I met this guy march this year,we bonded like never before. I have never in my entire life felt like this before. It is so strange that each conversation we have all seems anew like we are starting all over.
It's almost ten months and the fire is still intense. I have never had such a long friendship with a male. People assume we are dating. He gives me so much JOY... He is so awesome, different from all the others i have known. He changed me.
I just figured out i want to end the friendship, I don't know why. I am tired. I want to walk away. The passion is still there but i want to be away. I wanted to get a new SIM but my conscience will not. What has kept me from doing this is because i wonder how he will feel..
I want to walk away. Will i regret this?
Since you have realised that you are in the habit of dropping relationships
Try and talk to your spirit, it's a bad habit being a woman
You can be behaving that way even in marriage
Learn from others and form the habit or committing yourself
Your case us like a student who keep changing courses after a session, that student will never graduate
But keep going from one higher institution to another while her mates are in their youth service and getting settled
Don't drop this Current relationship and make sure you hold it tight
Tell that bad spirit to leave you for you gained nothing so far from the past
Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.
I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.
It happened;
Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.
About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.
Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.
Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.
Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.
To cut the story short;
He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........
He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .
I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.
Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.
Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong??
You did wrong by giving him the impression that he is the only one fit for the job
Stop giving him money, it will get to a stage he won't refund you and you won't do anything to get it back
Pls don't be desperate about relationship you may end up in bad guys hand
Family › Re: My Husband Slept With The Wrong Girl And This Happened ... by frozen70(f): 9:18am On Dec 29, 2019
, fun to be with and smart 
then I'm your girl. If you reside in Port Harcourt as well, that'd be nice.
