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MrBrownJay1:
you mean that person should just give up 2yrs of her hard sweat and work, just like that?!

There are somethings you have to let go for your own peace

She has used every medium to reach her yet she is not responding

If you read about the chief executive officer of mesk line that was robbeb and his wife stabbed to death because of four months salary, you will understand me better

Now the electrician who killed her will be sentenced to death

If he had left everything to God, he would have been a free man today

haykinzz:
She is just 16years old going to SS3 now. She is so pretty that every guy wants to date her even some of my mates do admire her but I know the mind of guys, she is too young they just want to have their way with her.
I used to be strict with her before, seize her phone, beats her up whenever she talks with any guy but my friends told me I don't need to do that, they adviced me to sit her down and talk with her.
Now I don't even know where to start with her, what kind of advice to give.

Should I tell her not to date or have any boyfriend??

Should I tell her not to have sex with her boyfriend or go visit any male friends??.

Our parents are old and too busy to look after her, its all down to me to do the job.


I need help please, how can I advice her

Don't mind my English oo, I be youruba boy.

Yoruba ni won fi tor mi dagba

As a senior brother who, sit her down, tell her the dangers of those vultures

Tell her that her waec, jamb and NECO should be her target

Tell her that you are a guy and doesn't want another guy to mess her up

Tell her to be focused and get admission into the university then she will be able to make friends with people who are academically inclined

Im this case, when she gets admitted in the university she will understand better

Stop beating her it won't help the matter

Keep watching her and counselling her, that's a continuous process until she can fight for herself

Lastly, inform her that hiv is real and pregnancy is a set back for her

SpeedyZlatan:
I met this oduduwa girl (Okene by tribe) in late 2015, at age 21 or so. A month after our meeting, one thing led to the other, we knew each other (sexually) then asked the "what are we now?" I sat on the cold tiles of the room with her, held her close and whispered: "we are friends."

I went further to made her understand that I have no keen interest in her that she's free to end the relationship at any point in time. That's fine by me.

She was moody throughout the moment we spent together... I felt her plight; I was her second boyfriend (according to her) since she became sexually active but then, I can't give a promise I won't keep. Life goes on.


To sum it up, she compliments me sexually. Also she's not expensive to maintain but the problem is I am worried about other aspects of life aside sex and her good appearance.

So back to my question about how to end this relationship, will this Okene oduduwa girl hurt me diabolically if I let her know I no longer need her in my life?

Thank you for your time and response.

Just because sex is free, guys will keep a lady for more than a year and in his right senses, you wake up a realise that its time to end the relationship

After 4 solid years ❓

The kogi people I know are brutal when it comes to things that affects their emotions

Honesty I don't know how you are going to free her, but all I can say is, do it in a way amd manner that she will be happier to pull out

Guys stop keeping ladies forong and after she has being with you for years you know decidea to drop her like a refuse trash

Whatever happens to your future, don't look far

Edithevans:
Karma at times is slow. I don't wish her evil but my pay

That money is gone and pls stop thinking about it

Karma can be slow but must surely get to its target

If you do anything funny, you end in jail

Rogosa:
Somebody just came up with this and I was wondering about it myself. Does the squirting of a woman means she climaxed? What is the difference?

When you romance a woman or put her in a romantic mood, she squits

That squiting lubricates her down and stimulate her to get prepared for sex

When she climaxes which normally happens during sex or masturnation, it means you succeeded in making her have that heavenly feelings

That is the major task of a man, that's why you see a man doing extra work on a woman before penetration

Once you can't do that, some one else will do it for you

Women sex nerves are not as automatic as men

Our state of emotions determines if sex will hold or not

But for men, it can be triggered by any thing even alcohol

In summary, when women are squiting, it's like when a man has an erection

When a woman climaxes, it's like when a man is ejaculating

Theirs are homogeneous to that of men

Jewessgratitude:
Hi guys. Please can anyone help me with a link to this movie Abiku" ( can't remember the title now) its an 80s Nigerian movie featuring Sola Fosudo and Lanre Balogun as the girls father. Just want to see the movie after a long time.

Will appreciate anyone who can help with the movie or a link, or better still the title of the movie so I can search it up myself.

Thanks.
Front page please for a wider view.

Leave ogbanje people alone do that you won't attract their agents to yourself

If they come, it's very difficult for them to Leave

Enemyofdarkness:
mehn it's hard seeing someone that loves you genuinely nowadays. Everyone just like pretending, and one thing about me I can smell shenanigans from 1 million miles away hence the reason I never given a flying fvck about naija girls even if I will give, it has to be for my selfish interest

I made it clear that you have to tolerate a woman for your own peace

Edithevans:
I was brought to Lagos in 2014 from my base in Benin Edo State to work as a house help for a woman who is based in the US but has her children here in Nigeria.

We agreed at that time that she'll either pay me monthly or enroll me in a trade and settle me after learning.

I resumed work September of the said year, after six months and nothing was said of either my Salary or the apprenticeship I complained and she promised to enroll me for a trade.

After working for eighteen months without pay nor putting me into any trade coupled with all the maltreatments and abuses I incurred, I requested for me to be paid as time was no longer on my side. She promised to still put me in a trade but never did.

Exactly two years after I resumed the job, I once again requested for my pay, she them said that she doesn't have anything for me that I should go if I want to go or stay if I wish.

I left in 2016 December. I heard she was in Nigeria this year and came to see her for my pay. She took my phone number and promised to call but never did.

I went back to the house only to be told they have relocated. All efforts to get to her was not productive until I saw her on Facebook and sent a friend request to her and her sons. On noticing I was the one, she ignored my request and messages sent to her.

Please how can I get my money from her or at least seek justice. I feel so used, dumbed and abandoned.

PLEASE HELP.

Just leave her to God

She will soon go into an out an investment that will go down the drain, that's when she will know that karma is real

milemimi93:
I used to tink women have brain though ostrich but it has proven that women don't have brain. Below is a prove.

You think women don't have brains

Women never deal with you before

Don't worry, you will experience one either as a bachelor or a married man

Frezhkid10:
Good afternoon house..I have an issue bothering me of late about having a girl as my own. I am in my early twenties and it seems converting a girl to a girlfriend seems like a herculean task.
Each time I get attracted to a girl, I tend to shower her with care and listen to her,chat and talk most of the time and along the line when I ask for dating it ends with rejection...am confused and don't know what to do again...I need advise on these issue cause am about losing my mind
Please ignore all errors.

You are Loosing your mind because of toasting and rejection

By the time you get one and face the challenges in relationship, what will you do

Keep trying, ladies have the right to accept or reject a relationship offer

pascalexmond:
There is girl I like & having been trying to get close to her in d last two weeks.She is a graduate who finished serving last year & don't ve a job yet.

Though,am yet to tell her my intention for her as am still observing her for a serious relationship,but it is also likely that she has an inkling of my interest in her.

So,while we were 2gether with my female cousin thru whom I met her at a recreational centre,we had d opportunity to be sitted without my cousin cousin.

As we were discussing,she made two points that is making me have a rethink due to my past toxic experiences.

First,she said if she will ve to date a guy,that will lead to marriage,it must be a guy who is willing & capable to take care of her.That d guy must not be stingy & that it must not be a guy who will seem to have d money but not willing to spend it on her as she wants,but must know that there is money & see that d money is being spent.

Second,she said it is when d man spends on his woman to her satisfaction,that is when d man can be guaranteed of d woman's loyalty.That it is when a woman lacks her needs,that d woman will be disloyal to her man.

Then I I told that most of our 9ja babes are just greedy & never satisfied with whatever their man spends on them,that sometimes they even demand for what d man can't afford like expensive iphones,clothes,human hair & all that.

Then she replied me,saying that b'4 she goes into a relationship with any guy which every other woman shld also do is to discuss her standard,class & needs with d man & if she realizes that d man can't take care of her adequately,she won't accept him.

My response to her response was silence,while I was thinking why she shld reason that way.

While all of us want comfort,shld a man"s pocket size & ability to provide a woman's insatiable wants be d aim of having a serious relationship or love & companionship?

Does it mean that if d man goes broke & unable to provide,that is a license for d woman to cheat for her needs?

Though d babe talks nicely & she is pretty as well but am confused if I shld go ahead or back out?

I need ur advice pls.

Leave her and search for another lady

She was transparent enough to tell you how she wants it and if you can afford it then go for her

Searchingforbae:
I am 30 years old,
Good looking
Working class
Slim lady
From Edo state
AA genotype


Looking for a man between the ages of 31- 37
Ready to settle down
Not too black like charcoal
Financially comfortable
Not a baby daddy
Never been married.
presentable and sensible
A Christian or atheist is fine .

If you know long distance relationship is not your forte, dont pm me
If you know you are overly religious, dont pm me
If you know your people will prefer you marry a lady from your tribe, don't pm me
If you know you don't like Edo girls ,don't pm me
If you know you cannot afford to raise a family based on your current financial status,dont pm me
If you know you are still not sure of when you want to settle down, maybe you are still waiting on the gods to send you a sign, dont pm me
If you dont fall within the age range ,don't pm me

Why not mould a guy that will fit into your taste

Your criteria are huge

Anyway, with what you desired as a husband, it comes with terms and conditions

Enemyofdarkness:
I don't have a girlfriend, all because of naija girls palava. I never wished myself experiencing that painful shît called "LOVE" so once I feel like playing I will just call a "call - Girl". They full my dm, light skinned, dark skinned, big yansh, moderate yansh all full my dm. I spent 5k on runs girls everyday, I'm a cyber guy so that money is nothing to me cos I can pile up 5k in just an hour. Sad thing. This is becoming frequent, I've tried to fight this behavior but all to no avail. The spirit in me keeps telling me go, go get her you have the money. I need to stop this.
Please advise

Change your mind set about naija girls

That 5k you are spending is an investment without returns

Go get your self a girl friend and look for your category

If you continue this way, you won't see any need to have a woman for yourself and you will remain a chronic bachelor

Women revolves around men, it's either you accept them or not

But getting the right type for you is as good as wearing a ring that fits your finger

oluwaseyi000:
How much minimum should a lady earn before considering marriage

If you want to marry a lady because of her earnings

Be prepared to experience the worst form of relationship or marriage

It's time, we have to understand that, money is nit the most important thing in marriage but understanding and true love

There are people earning 6digists as salaries yet their happiness is not I the marriage but with another person outside

Marriage has so many things that makes it stands the taste of time

A man without job, but loving, caring, understanding and very matured can live peacefully with a woman who her income carry the family till the man gets something doing

But it comes with a price

You can't be in that penny less condition and be fucking around, treating your wife as if she is as good as a maid

Reporting her to your family and assassinating her character despite the load you left for her to carry

Now tell me, if a man humbles himself, who will know how the family is being handled

Thier are other people, earning higher yet frustrating their wives at home

Then she in turn will make sure the house will be too hot to accommodate you

What happens in such situations

39k or not, the major thing is one heart for the two of them

urchcoded:
u were innocent as a day old baby. Den u were taught Christianity.

Funny you

marvelck:
What Flavour is doing is not fair, at all

How can only him be dating two beautiful women, (ex beauty queens) at the same time. Haba na cheating naa

Tuface, Wizkid', and Davido did their own and left. But in Flavour's case,.he has refused to let go. I m very sure, baby number 2 is already loading for Anna Banner

Anna and Sandra really need to move on and find someone else to settle down with and stop the whole drama with Flavour

Love comes in different ways for different people

Flavor may be caring and romantic

Men like that, any woman that have him is ready to tolerate him and his numerous flirts with women

If care is not taken, he will get a third woman to add to them yet he receives will be there for all of them at their our turn

He knows what he wants and he has the attributes of what it takes to keep women

Alooone:
I got married to my husband in 2013, we are blessed with 2kids (a boy and a girl)

In 2017, barely 2 weeks after giving birth to our son I was diagnosed with puepurium psychosis. A kind of mental illness that afflicts women that have just given birth and since it has been from one medication to another..

Now since after my diagnosis my husband has been a source of emotional, verbal and physical abuse... He blames my parents for everything as he feels "cheated " feeling that they knew all about my "sickness " before we got married and kept it from him.....

He felt I was a liability and feels he is too young to shoulder such... There was nothing my husband didn't do to frustrate me...

So around June this year I left my home for my father's house and have been there since, now since I have been there my husband hardly calls when he does he wants to speak with his children. He doesn't call my parents to ask about my well-being or that of his kids.

Sometimes I feel abandoned, now the issue is that the love I have for him is beginning to reduce, sometimes I feel like letting him go and starting all over. Other times I want to stay cos I think of my children's future.

As for the psychosis ALL the symptoms have gone as am typing this now I have a job with a small private school and planning to either proceed with my masters or start a nursing programme.

So please I need your advice. Should I let him go?

Your safety and survival is your priority now

Try and do some work and earn money before you can start your masters or anything that will make you spend

He is feeling the way he is because he is not the one affected

Am glad you have gotten kids so pls focus on yourself

If he likes let him contribute to his children welfare if he likes let him not Contribute

For now, keep him aside and plan how to be relevant to things around you

He may come back to you, he may not come to you

You still have chances of meeting other men but be careful so that you don't take in carelessly because child bearing returns back those problems you do encounter

If he comes back and shows remorse, you may consider him and go back to him

But put him aside a d sort yourself out first

Health is the greatest wealth human needs

Whatever that will happen to you, let it happen to the fish

You are free to even fatranize with the devil its your choice not ours but don't deceive the innocent ones

Even the devil is not aware of this one

Brunosamel:
Hello guys, I have been worried about this issue.
I just graduated recently and am at the peak of my career trying to shape up my life for the better future with my girlfriend, someone that I have been dating for the past 6 months.

We have so much in common and built our relationships with love and trust. The journey wasn't easy but we were able to settle our differences and understand each other.

Recently she met a childhood friend whom she had a crush on when growing up, but the guy never asked her asked to be his girlfriend never said anything to her cuz he saw her as a small girl then.

The guy is into business and has quite established himself. Last 2 months the guy asked her out and she told me about it cuz she needed my permission whether she should go or not and I said okay she can but it will only be first and last time she will go out with him.

To cut the story short, last night I called her line and she was on another call for more that 30 minutes. I confronted her about it and she started crying, was begging me that she was sorry and that the guy is really disturbing her, asking her to give him a chance, to the extent that she should leave me for him, he will give her anytime and even train in the university.

She told the guy she can't leave her boyfriend becuz she loves me so much. I was dumbfounded and I don't even know what to do about it cuz I don't have the resources (money) at this moment

Relationships gurus what do you think about my situation I need your opinion and suggestions cuz I love this girl so much and want to settle down with her cuz she suffered with me and I suffered with her.

Say whatever you want to but just be brutally honest with me....

Prepare your mind to loose her

EsomahJD:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/more-news/370259-man-takes-girlfriend-to-pastor-for-money-ritual-where-shes-beheaded-police.html

Ohhh, God help your people on this wicked earth

Things are not going on for your parents at this your age

That means things are not going well for you too

Even your mother that knows the pains of child birth could not use you for the rituals

These three people should be buried alive pls

baby124:
Let their state governors grant those alternatives. What are they running from in their own states? So Lagos is a rubbish dump where everybody comes to set up dustbins

Have you ever asked yourself why after graduating from the university

When it's time for NYSC, why are people not posted to their state of origin ❓

habeeb246:
Too Lite, over priced advanced Moruwa

This your mouth

Biafrareform:
Good evening all. I need your honest opinion on this .

My elder sister was put in a family way 16 years ago. The guy responsible, his family rejected the pregnancy Infront of my family .

We took her in, cared for her and she gave birth to a lovable baby girl . Dam, she is so pretty and was well loved.

She grew to become my pet . I loved her with all my heart. Infact we all loved her .

My elder sister is married . She has told her daughter that her present husband is her father when she start asking questions.

She is done with her secondary school and currently running a fashion design program . I planned on sending her to the Uni once she is done with her program .

Just got on phone with my sister now and she is telling me that , the dude that got her pregnant family has been disturbing her to allow them access to the girl . That they are ready to train her to any level .

And she is considering telling her daughter the truth about her birth .

Can you imagine the nonsense. I have warned her not to do that not to talk of giving them access and I am currently furious right now . After 16 years of loving this girl, someone is now claiming father .

Please how do I handle this .

Just be calm please

He has the right and access to the girl despite hus stupidity with his family to deny the said girl of her rights

Pls she is matured now, let your sister sit her down and tell her that her father denied her and because she doesn't want to abort her, her family took her in and gave her life

Tell her tgat your current dad accepted her and took her as his own daughter and he made sure she never felt the absence of a geniue dad

Tell your sister to write down all she spent on her from antenatal to her present status

She may not get the real figures but she can even inflate it to her satisfaction and give the bill to the man to pay

That is his punishment for being stupid and if he refuses to cooperate

In her entire life, let her daughter never gives her dad a penny even if she is the only hope

At times, we teach the stupid ones senses if they act as if they don't know

I have no pity for that man

Infidelity is one of the greatest problems of marriage, men can't even be satisfied with just one wife or woman

Just because they want to taste every pussy

Even women too have started tasting different dicks just because the men can't satisfy a woman sexualy

While the men like having different pussy the women just want a satisfying sex

Chef2000:
I don't know why but I keep seeing this guy in my dreams, though we were so close when he was alive (we usually go to set trap for bushmeat when the two of us return to the village when he was alive)

Before his death (a truck hit him and he died at the spot) I had a dream and I saw the two of us walking on the road, I hit my feet on a stone and fell down and he was unable to lift me up and I was asking him to lift me up but he was unable.

He died in June 2018 since then I have been having dreams about him which I do forget immediately I woke up.

But last week, I saw the two of us clearing weed in a farm and this morning I had another dream where we (his junior bro and my elder bro) were laughing and joking together, eating and drinking together.... he later went and wore my clothe in the dream, he wore the inner side of the clothe..

Could this be a message or a coincidence.

He is trying to pass a message, but it's not connecting

Pls inform his family about your encounters

Probably there is something they will do about it

vickydankal:
As harsh is this may sound, this is the raw truth..

Thanks for verifying it

paintadvice:
Paint Production Training in Port Harcourt and environs

Good evening, pls I need your advise in painting

I want to paint my interior building

I contacted a painter and he gave the following

He needs to Sam paper the walls where need be and apply emulsion paint mix with black cement as primer before the actual paint

Of what use is the primer

Can I still apply emulsion or matt or satin and get my smooth surface

What if I decided to go for normal emulsion paint because of budget which of them In lagos is a better choice

Why does paint brings out chalks when you rob the wall

Is it because it was over diluted or its a poor paint from the market

deltateam:
The title is clear. Is it possible in Nigeria?

It depends on you and your partner

Once both of you agrees, irrespective of what your families will say, you will achieve it

The Economic situation in the country warrants it

uninspired07:
I know this my thread might get some people angry but it’s a subject that surprises me whenever I think of it. How do normal Nigerians who are educated have more than 2 children in a country like Nigeria with all the poverty & hopelessness? I am still single but I have it in mind to lay a ground rule that whichever woman I marry must agree to family planing methods after the birth of the 1st child whether male or female. And if the 1st baby is male, we can as well wait for another 5 years before having a baby of either sex as the last.

But I wonder when I see Nigerians that are not so wealthy giving birth to 4 - 5 kids in the midst of grinding economic depression and in a nation that has clearly failed. Don’t these Nigerians know that the country can descend into war anytime due to the instability that is so palpable? I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

The educated rich one's, cather for the future of their children

They can have one or two kids and that's all

They make sure they struggle to give them the best of life

Because of the way they struggle to meet upto the standard they created, sex for procreation to them is not an idea

When they think of vacation cost, their sex urge goes down, all they think and plan of is to maintain their stand

They are not comfortable releasing their children to people to avoid polluting them

Then the poor ones doesn't think beyond their private part

They have no hope and can't kill themselves

Sex is the only cheap thing that comes their way and they engage into it to comfort themselves

They don't have any standards to keep, once their children can finish secondary schools, that's the height for them

They are ever willing to give out their children for house help