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You can only experience that if she is financing the home for you and you are there still doing am the boss and you are not useful even in any domestic chores

She will blow it out

supercase1:
Am entering the new yr with a part of me feeling burned,my girlfriend dumped me for another guy with a 2010 Toyota Camry chai!!!!!! women are very wicked,heartless,and uncompassionate.when we broke up she stopped picking my calls,replying to my Whatsapp chat, only to call to tell me that she don't love me anymore well as a sharp guy I've moved on,girls are so impatient.please niggas just comfort your guy
One love!!!

For whatever reason she left you, us the same reason another girl is still managing with her man

Assuming you are handling her well in bed, she won't leave because she gets satisfaction from you

Genesiszero:
when i insult you, you can insult me back, hit me first I might never even say a word, the day any lady will hit my mother, I'll beat the shit out of her and she'll regret ever knowing me! cuz these shows that you don't have regard for your parents, but I have for my own parents. #peace! never hit a woman my foot.

What do you think will ever made a girl or lady to hit on your mum

If you present your mother in a respectable manner, she will be respected by any woman

marvelck:
I used to like a girl, but the first time I saw her not wearing a bra, my interest in her dropped instantly.

A lot of naija girls are used to scamming guys with their packaging. Imagine, using bra to push up your boobs and yet, they wont allow you to enter the place or touch until the wedding night.

This is a big scam!

Do you know that if not that the pussy is fixed by nature to be centered, it would have looked fallen like a dick that is flaccid

There are so many things that can make a lady breast to fall

I don't need to expose our secret here

In as much as she has nipples, that the only button you need in that breast, be it standing or falling

After all, it can't stand forever

Merrymen1:
Dear All,

I have been a member of NL for sometime now, though I have to create this new account for this purpose.

Am happily married with 3 kids (2boys ,1 girl) for 9 years now, equally work as an Engineer in one of the Oil and Gas companies.

I met this Young lady, 2 months ago (Oct 2019), she is 19 yrs (except she tells you, you will doubt it with the last drop of your blood that she is 19 because she looks bigger than her age), though she works with one of our contractors as a causal staff in same company. We started getting along .I was Frank to open up to her that I am married because I don't want issues on the long run in my marriage, she said no issues. Actually ,reason for knowing her, was not for anything trust me, I just wanted someone I would always chat with it or something. I love my wife / kids so dearly that I wouldn't wish anything to cause issues in my home. I have been faithful to my wife ever since we got married.

To fast forward. So at a point, the girl stated telling me that she is having issues with her BF, she sent me screenshot of argument she had with him , how the guy insulted her, calling her names, that she always cheat on him. So I called her and she explained , of a truth, she cheated on him because he wasn't taking care of her. She said the guy stays in other State, while she is in other state. Feeling remorse, she did everything to see the guy each time he comes to town, but he wouldn't want to see her.So I advised her to pls make up with him, it could be he doesn't have the money or something. For the fact he doesn't take care of you, does not mean you should sleep around. I told her the implication of premarital sex, that God frowns at it, and that if she needs anything , she should talk to me than sleeping around, she accepted, and promised not to do it again, and ever since then, I have been there for her financially, but haven't slept with her. I told her she's more of a sister to me than a friend, I do want I do not because of sex but to see her grow as responsible girl with Bright future because she just got admission into higher institution. We've had the opportunity of being all alone in a room, I didn't sleep with her, even though we had a slight romance, I was so conscious. I always tell her I wish to see her grow as a responsible girl with Bright future.

My pains, recently , something happened, I was questioning her, her told me she slept with a guy just last month, I was pissed off, I told her is this how you wish to appreciate what I've been doing for you? you promised me provided I will be there for you financially, you won't sleep around again. Am not pained that I didn't sleep with her, never, afterall, it's not my intention to have it with her , mind you , I love my wife,;rather am pained that she seems not to listen to all I have been telling her about living a good life, sticking to her Bf if at all and quitting such life style.
Though she appolized for her actions, but then I am yet to respond to her. Though she is getting on with her Bf.

Please I need your candid advice on what to do. No abusive language pls.

There is the tendency that, she will Bleep you if you don't take time

She is in her prime and her hormones are pushing her up and down

Don't blame her if she tells you that a guy had sex with her

Her body is seriously demanding for it because she has abused sex and all she wants is a man

By this new year, you can decide to start with drawing gradually, if she makes demands, use your children school fees as excuses

You have a good intention for her but she has her own interest too

kmst:
So i was having doggy sex with my girlfriend
She is slim ,her ass not big since she has small body and she didnt shave too and i was feeling bruising pain but also at some point i felt like i was going against bony structure which caused sharp pain anytime i thrust in .
After i went back home my dick skin was bruised
Took about 5days to heal now am afraid of trying dogyy again with her since she likes it ,that was the very first time we did doggy.I told her i bruised myself maybe due to the friction with hair but didn't tell of the other thing
I like to know if anybody here has had such an experience, any solutions or explanation that may help me

The woman body structure or frame, is designed in a way that which ever way you want to sex her, her vaginal canal is so soft up to the womb

That she us slim is not the problem

The problem was, you weren't gentle when trusting her pussy

You were a bit rough and the penis head suffers it you bears the pains

Next time, fashion a way of being gentle and steady so that it will worth the fun

humility100:
There is this lady in my neighborhood,she just finished secondary School two years ago and she is 19 years of age, this lady respect me very well to the point of calling me Uncle, she has never addressed me by my name,we normally gist and talk very well,her mom knows me very well because I normally gist with her mother, I am a graduate and am currently 25yrs old. Recently I started having feelings for her, but I don't know how to ask her out, this is the lady that normally calls me Uncle. I have discussed this with my friends, some say I should ask but others said I should forget about it. I need quality advise from expert in relationship matter on how I can ask her out successful without loosing the respect she has for me, even when she says No. I like her alot, please help me

Sex is where men buries their respect

You can't be sleeping with her and still expect that same level of respect from her

The moment a man makes love to a woman they are already mate

Back to your question

You are a family friend to the family and baes on that, she respects you and calls you uncle

Respect her to, she is a teenager and might even be a virgin

You are supposed to be mentoring her not taking advantage of her

chiemmanuel:
Davido is entitled to as many wives as his preek can handle
None of your business.

No he is not entitled to many wives, what's the fun

He is entitled to many women in his life and that's it

He likes women and he has what it takes to keep them

He may still decide to pregnant another woman

Money can make someone to do silly things

If he is a poor man, he must have been planning of how he will be stable to take care of his wife

For the sake of those kids they had for him

They are baits to him

He can't collect custody of those kids because their mum's are not even willing to release them to him

He wants to show his love to his kids and by so doing, their mum must be there

If he now decides to make love to her in that circumstances, it's very OK

Sofia too need sex and Davido knows he has to do it for her

Chioma is more concerned about being his wedded wife nothing else

He also must seek her consent to take them on vacation, though she may be pained but the roaster will surely come home

Gallant12:
I just feel for chioma bikonu

Why are you feeling for her

She is the one at home and owns him

The rest must also be taken care of

She was aware that his man is a chronic womaniser

Besides men cheats, its no longer a big deal

Fearcom:
She doesn't have brains.

If her husband suddenly collapses and dies due to exhaustion, she will blame God for his early demise.

That's not being smart; that's being sly.

If she's smart let her apply her intelligence in handling and managing her home, family, work and business with wisdom.

Her "smartness" will backfire when he eventually snaps.

My wife was once like this; even telling me that she's older than me upstairs.

Then when she talks and shouts and argues she knows she's talking to a wall. I don't get into any arguments with her whatsoever: I won't be pulled into one. She knows.

When I've made a sound decision that's all. If you go and do otherwise there are heavy consequences

You can make a sound decision but he can't

So is she not smart for being able to manipulate him

englishmart:
Fraternize

Thanks

Biodun1929:
I can now conclude that women really don't know what they want.

What they want are many so it end up jaming itself or clashing

healthserve:
My sister see as your comments the past few days dey make me teary. You're a wise woman. God bless your husband. No worry I go throw some cases come your side make you fon chop small meat

Thanks for appreciating my contributions

tete50:
the stress is too much

You called that stress, pls cheer up

tete50:
Tonight everything ends. No job, no money, no place to stay, mom sick, dad retired, only son. It would be better if I just end it and go in peace.

What's your problem or what's bothering you, that you think will be solved in the grave

Daviddson:
Nothing disgusts me about a lady like emotional manipulations.
You know yourselves very well and strangely you were honest enough with your comment. But my mind is telling me you're a guy .

Am a woman, I hate pretence and decit

I don't like taking advantage of the good ones

She is lucky she got a good man, but she might loose that firm grip on him, when the man wants to act as a man

Look, you can't cage a man, he can only respect himself if he wishes

Biodun1929:
If the guy was harsh on the wife, girls would still be here complaining. So it is odd to see a female condeming the guy for doing the opposite.

You did not understand the tone of the message

I did not condemn him, he allowed himself to be manipulated

Have you ever seen a man that satisfies a woman ❓

If he can't use his head another person will use his head for her own usefulness

godlyguy:
We've all been mad at our parents at some point in our lives.

However, one 27-year-old guy has taken it to another level. Seriously

Raphael Samuel is planning to take his parents to court for bringing him into this world without his consent . He holds a belief called anti-natalism which is that humans are considered a destructive force to the earth and it’s wrong to reproduce, especially if the child did not agree to be born.

He wants others to know that there are clearly two options when deciding to have kids, either you do or you don’t. Hence, we should ask our parents for an explanation as to why they thought giving birth to us was a good idea.

He also runs a Facebook page where he routinely posts anti-procreation messages like “Isn’t forcing a child into this world and forcing it to have a career, kidnapping, and slavery?” or “Your parents had you instead of a toy or a dog, you owe them nothing, you are their entertainment." No word on how potential parents would obtain consent to begin with...but hey, everyone's got their thing...

Do you think he's got a point or he is just another wacko?


https://ebeanonews..com/2019/12/man-is-suing-his-parents-for-giving.html?m=1

He has no point, just leave him alone

He will soon wake up from his dreams and face riality

CrushedHeart:
Dear nairalanders I'll try to make this short as possible.

I'm a single mum who's schooling in one of the northern school in Nigeria, January 2020,I'll be in 200 level,i was laid off from work, I've exhausted all my savings and by January I need to pay my fees,and cater for myself and my son.
I'm tired of working with nothing to show for at the end of the month,and coupled with motherhood and education,it isn't easy on me,I'm just 22,but I don't want to continue my life this way,nothing is really working out for me.
Nairalanders,I'm not here to beg for "fish".No,i want to learn how to fish,i want to have a comfortable life for myself and my son.
come January,i don't know how I'll pay for my fees, a friend introduced me to forex but I don't even have an Android phone (I'm using a friend's phone to type this),please if anyone is willing to teach me I promise to be at my best and put in 101% effort..
Also if anyone can grant me a loan to get a phone and start either forex or affiliate marketing while I pay gradually I'll be very grateful.
I'm willing to show proof of my documents. Please,help a sister out.Thanks.


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Royalblak007
Twaci
lalasticlala
divajade

Take your son to your parents to look after for you, while you sort yourself out

zmpp:
what is wrong in being a housewife in this modern time?

men, do you place more value on non-housewives more than housewives?

The present economic situation is the wrong reason for a woman to be a house wife

SwhtJesusbaby:
I got married in 2015. The problem started in 2016 when I had to resign from my job in Uyo and move in with my husband in Lagos. He most times won't sleep at home and blame it on his work. Sometimes I'll call more than two weeks and he won't pick up. Even while at home, he wants to be alone with his phone.

Going through his phone one day, I discovered he's been keeping affairs with lots of women, I also found out that he has a child before he met me of which his family members were not aware of. I had to inform his family members when he started maltreating me at home because of what I found out on his phone.

Just when I planned to leave the marriage in 2016, I became pregnant. I gave birth to my baby in 2017 and ever since then, it's been war. He'll leave home for several weeks without informing me where he is, if I call, he won't pick and any time I report him to his sister, she'll shout at me that I cannot endure.

I lived off my friends and relatives during the period I was nursing and sick and couldn't find a job. He won't provide for the baby and yet won't bother to call to know how we're fairing. If I call, he won't pick and when I complained to his people, I still get blamed.

This morning I got tired of everything, cried to God that he should make him deserted to the extent that even his seeds would flee from him. Told God that since he's decided to abandon me with his child, God should also abandon him when he needed him most. Even while he's alive, God should replace him in my life and my child's life.

I wouldn't know if my actions were wrong but since I made the prayers, my heart became hardened.

It's not the prayers that made your heart hardened, it's what you went through from him that hardened you

You have already cursed him

He will realise his stupidity and come to his senses where he will be told to go and make peace with his wife

Stop reporting him to his family, he will always get their support

You don't know what he is feeding his family about you

At this stage, start struggling for your self and your son

If you think you can't cope in that house, take a break

Every woman needs love and a man's duty is to make sure his woman doesn't need another man

Biodun1929:
Hmm. Are you sure you are a woman

Why did you ask ❓

juiicii:
I married last year. My wife is a choleric just like myself.she is the type that will not tolerate mistakes from me, if i don't keep things in their position, then hell will let loose,she hardly 'respects' me, she behaves independently and when i threaten divorce, she will say i should do it fast, because of her attitude i hardly give her money, when she demands for money, i will ask her, what of your salary, she will tell me that its my responsibility to give her money for somethings irrespective of her personal earnings. Meanwhile she never brings any money on the table for the family upkeep, i foot the bills :rentage,food,nepa, etc. I stopped buying clothes, etc for her since she put up those attitudes that piss me off. Infact i just don't love her again, we argue a lot except i just lock myself up in one room which is my new method now. Pls experienced advice needed

She wasn't like this before marriage

There must have been some thing you did to her that she bent in taking her turn

A marriage without respect is like rival's sharing same apartments

You guts need to be separated for a while and see if you think you need to come back

She us nit scared of divorce because probably she is not even enjoying you irbtge marriage

If you are tough on her, you can only build her tougher

But then sut her do and ask her what's the problem, she has a lot to say and be ready to listen to her

Not just listening, there are some things you did to her years back, she is still holding it against you

If after her complaints, it's something you can treat, pls do and you guys will move on

Stop taking her for granted , she needs respect too

Treat her like a woman and her madness will be tamed

OgunLaakaye:
Amadioha will bless you!

You hit the nail on the head!

True but bitter

Thanks, it has to be bitter because he made himself a hired slave in his marriage

An average woman is a manipulator

Fred2020:
Dear family section members,

Please I need matured advice on an issue that has bothered me for almost two years now.

I got married about two years ago, without the support of my mum (my dad is late). She strongly opposed the wedding without any reasonable justification but I still had my way, thanks to family members (maternal and paternal) and my bride's family who stood firm in the face of the obvious animosity she displayed throughout every stage of the wedding. My mum is a fairly domineering person, and somehow I feel she was greatly offended that the wedding stuff was not her call and she wasn't the one calling all the shots. During the wedding planning, my mum picked issues with almost everyone that supported my marriage and every action that was taken. She made a lot of nasty comments that I never imagined a mother will make to her child. To be fair when it became unbearable for me (because at a point in time, I was getting psychologically depressed with her aggressive quarreling with anyone connected with the wedding), I confronted her and we had a heated argument. After the argument, she became calm, but kept mentioning that I'll regret. I have money and that is why I can talk when she talks.. I took note of this particular comment among all the ones she kept saying because I wondered how my mother who was a major beneficiary of my success will keep saying such.

hmmm, people truly, over the past 18 months, I have gone from a net provider to someone who scrapes to earn a living. I have worked for more employers than I am willing to admit because, each time I joined a company something happens and the company folds up or lays off staff. I have had several instances where offer letters for employment was issued but at the last minute, the HR person just goes cold and rescinds the decision without any explanation. In fact in one instance, I had an insider who informed me that one board member just refused to sign my offer letter without any real reason.

I have tried business too, and at the last step when I am to be awarded the contract, everything just falls apart in a manner that is difficult to explain. I have a failed at so many other things over the past 18 months. I used to be this kind of person with a sterling record at almost everything I did, so failing at so many things was difficult and I lost a lot of my self confidence and even the willingness to explore things because I was becoming deeply embarassed at hw I was failing.

I am not one for superstition, but honestly, I tempted to believe I am impacted by a curse and the timeline and incidences suggest, it's my mum.

Please any one knows how I can go about dealing with curses, I just lost my last job this Dec because company lost a key contract and failed at a bid it was expecting to secure. I enter 2020 unemployed and getting more and more depressed.

As for my mum, we are cool now, although things never went back to the way they were before. Some friends and family members facilitated a "reconciliation" we both said she has forgiven me for my wrong doings and she holds no grudge (in my culture the elders are always right o, so I just played along and asked for forgiveness). She doesnt call to know how my family is except when I visit. She is even a grand mother now, and she doesn't call to know if the child is fine or not. to cut the long stry short, she cares less about the family, even though when we visit, she puts up this appearance of being happy with us.

PS - I dont regret the decision of marrying my wife or our kid, they God's blessings to me in my darkest night. I just want to know if there is a solution to my predicarment, and I also dont want to do anything fetish.

This one is tough and am glad you know where its coming from

She is nit happy with you and she us not done with you yet

You are not her target but your wife or the entire marriage

Take out time, visit her, take out for shopping of her choice or if there is any particular thing she needs like washing machine, go with her and get it for her

After that, when you get back home, at midnight, sit her down, cry for her to forgive you and ask her to bless you, also promise her you will never disobey her or neglect her

At this stage she will be speechless but you have to press on

Look, you can't fight your mother that breast feed you, you can't


As for your wife, she must play the fool, "it's better to call a mad man a king and he will allow you to pass than reminding him that he is mad and should give you space to pass"

She will assure you of her words and she will release whatever she has that must have been stumbling your way

kelvee:
This is the second time after my Dad passed on two years ago.
The first time it happened, it was to go be with a guy that promised to take her to Benin republic.

This time around, I suspect she's pregnant for this other guy. . She ran off yesterday evening and sent a text this morning that she did so because she didn't want to perform the abortion.

About the abortion, my mum took her to a pharmacist yesterday morning after she said she missed her period twice. The pharmacist gave her a drug to take, that after taking the drug, she should see her period the next day or in two days time.
But that if she doesn't see it, then she's definitely pregnant.

She's just 18yrs old, the most troubling is that this current guy stays with his parents, we got the guys number from a pastor friend, but he's not picking up the phone and no calls have come from them. What kind of family does that!?

Please Nairalanders, what do I do?

Leave your sister, she has made up her mind for the guy

I don't want you guys to be blamed in future if she fails

Leave her to be, it's either it favours her or not

At 18yrs, once they test sex, it's difficult to tell them that it's tastless

Just visit the guy for him to acknowledge the presence of your sister and her safety

But, it's going to be a game of suffering for her because both of them are ill prepared

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic, she always claim she trust me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her site, I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refuse to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go. She goes through my phone every 3days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she insist we sleep with light on, Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4. I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she will might go to my parents which I wouldn't want. Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

Are you that weak or you are too soft to take a decision that will give you freedom and happiness

I laugh when men says women don't have brains

Am average woman knows how to handle her man

She choses not to drive so that you will always be there for her

Smart woman, that's what she is

If you can't take a bold decision now, once those kids gets to teenage age, it will be extremely difficult to pull out

You think you are doing favour to her, Mr man, you are creating burden for yourself not yer

She is on her game and she has mastered the act

Why are you afraid of her reporting you to your family

Is it that you want to remain with it or that your family will disown you

Use your brain that's why it's in your head

If you don't know, fear women, they must do things to their advantage

socialmediaman:
Many parents believe the 'good old way' of flogging and inflicting pain and fear on kids and nannies is still the best way of achieving discipline in them, while other parents have moved on to other 'effective' means, claiming the 'good old ways' are either no longer effective or never were and should have not been used by our parents in the first place.

My questions to guide this conversation are:

1. Do you consider flogging an effective way of achieving discipline on a child? Why?

2. Do you consider flogging an effective way of achieving discipline on a nanny? Why?

3. What other method(s) do you consider effective for achieving discipline on a child or nanny? Why?

It's okay to focus your response on a child or nanny or both.

Due to the frustration on people especially parents of this days

I won't encourage flogging because it will be done out of frustration with Wickedness

To me, the best form is constant talking and counselling

You can tell a child something that will give him sleepless night for a period and such child will think about it and take advice and correct it

But when you flog, such child will develop the ability to endure cane and the more you flog him the more he prepares to endure the pains

You can even deprive him of a thing that will hurt him more than flogging

Rogosa:
Waooh. Thank you for this deep explanation of the topic. But there is another saying that goes, 'not every woman squirt'. How true is this too?
From your assertions, if squirting of a woman lubricate her down, getting her ready for sex. What about the urine-like woman that comes out during the intercourse from the woman?

The issue of urine like liquid could be that her bladder was close to full

Every woman squits, it depends on if she feels the sensation or not

The squinting is the wetness down there, some feels it while others don't

That's why men who knows how to handle a woman, do inset fingers to feel the wetness before penetration

motionarena:
Sorry for posting this here i just feel it will get faster attention.

Of late i have gotten Facebook request from guys and ladies telling me to join some kind of online investment business.

That if i pay a certain amount of money i will get 100% paid back. They come in different names (2 so far), they sound convincing on the business legitimacy that i am tempted to join.

Has anyone done this business before.
Pls signify.

Becarefull, don't fall into wrong hands

Ilekokonit:
Men, if you want your marriage to last, marry an illiterate.

Thank me later.

Illiterate women are more amenable to peace and are more open to being corrected and have a teachable spirit compared to the stubborn educated vampires who think their education gives them the right to be first class neurotic psychopaths.

Whether you marry a career woman or a stalk illiterate thst sells tomatoes

Women are just what nature made them to be, they give joy they also give problems

But you as a man, if you are not domineering or putting so much authority at home, you will enjoy her

But when you want to be tough and stubborn, even if you marry a virging, treat her bad and she will still do what an educated woman will do if not worst