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Gemineye:
Candidates filling for DE and UTME same time nkor

Anyone that have anything to do with Jamb should get National ID card

You can drive without scratches on Sundays

dauddy97:
Good evening Nairalanders.

I am dying in silence

I discovered that I had pile during my secondary School days (2014). I didn't even know this has been on me for long, until I went to defecate with a friend of mine in the bush. Immediately he saw that red flesh coming out on my anus. He shouted "What is this!!". That was when I knew I had PILE.

I told my mum about this. She said she noticed something like that from the day I was given birth to. She said, she didn't keep quiet, and she asked the nurses what was in my anus. The nurses replied that, "it is normal" That it will still leave there. Now, I am in my twenties. This thing is now paining me seriously. In fact , I can't defecate easily.

Please, nurses and doctors in the house, come to my aid.

Note: I noticed that, I ejaculate within 3 to 4 mins during sex. I don't know maybe it's because of the pile?

Also, I have used and inserted some drugs (Anosoid or so, I can't really remember it spelling) recommended by a general hospital doctor yet, this thing is still stubborn. I have also visited Alagbo (herbal). In fact, The money wasted can't just be mentioned.

This night, I discovered the that its now out itself. Since all these while, it has been in, I only feel or see it while defecating.

I can't just imagine what people have been saying. like, "I wont be able to impregnate a lady" and all sorts of things like that.

Pls, help your boy.

Help for wider view .

I will appreciate all comments, remedy, solution, cure etc just to get this out of my anus.

Sorry for this

Some can be removed through surgery but it's 50/50

Go to government hospital, it will take you time but keep up with your appointments and you will attended to

Find out foods tgat makes you get hard stooling and avoid eating them

Stop alcohol entirely for six months let's see if it will go
down

As for you not being able to pregnant a woman as been told, go for sperm count test so that the result will keep your mind at rest

Eat soft foods and fruits to soften your poo

Avoid sugar for six months, even minerals

All these mentioned could be triggering agent

The bus belongs to the state government hence Forth

Wayne4uall:
https://thenationonlineng.net/breaking-angry-youths-burn-sotitobire-miracle-church-in-akure/

That's a good one from the youth

babyfaceafrica:
As for the wife, just let sleeping dogs lie?



Are you serious at all?.. Four kids for another man in over 24 years of marriage and we should let sleeping dogs lie?. THIS is the highest form of betrayal.... Never ever will I sleep in the same house with such fellow again.. If heavens will fall, let it fall

If you consider the age of the parents and the effects on the children

The out come will be to difficult to control

Do you want to advice the man to chase her and the adult children away and start afresh from pampers till when

These are the things I considered before saying that

In as much as their biological father is no where to be found and he is not in the picture or making claims

What else ❓

Their father has invested so much in those children, some families have them but the secret remains secret

Forward77:
Good point

Thanks

LadySarah:
he is buying

OK thanks for clarification

Jman06:
"Love" is NEVER equal!!!

If you're waiting for equal love before getting married,,, you go wait taya!

And in my unbiased opinion, I think the man should be the one to love his wife more because his has the responsibility to provide and protect the family.
If the lady is the one who's more "in love", the man may abandon his responsibilities along the way leaving the woman to cater for the children.

When you see true love, you will feel the equality

UyaiIncomparabl:
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Mehn. Ignorant women full this forum o! Madam abeg, just take several seats.

Just as ignorant as you are, bitch

The three of you are all actors

Damilolacoker:
Hello everyone I'm 24 years old and I have been married for three years. last year we had our first baby . Prior to our wedding, I and my husband decided I'll be allowed to work once our baby is old enough to attend day Care. Now our daughter is almost 2 years and he has refused to let me work. We've had countless arguments about this and it always ends with him saying women who work are not always submissive. I cannot be a full house wife , I am educated and cannot sit at home all say.

He recently told my parents I was being rude to him and they're all saying I should do whatever my husband wants. I love him but on this issue, I refuse to agree with him.

The other part here is he doesn't like me correcting our daughter. She's almost 2 and it irritates him whenever I try to potty train her or scold her. He insists I go to check up on Her at school during break hours. I understand that she's quite young but as her mother, I want the best for her.

Now he's changed towards me, he doesn't care or pamper me like he used to , sometimes he refuses to eat at home and when I try to speak with him, he's always very cold. Please help me, I don't know what to do anymore.

Stop being fastidious because of your age, you lack the experience of what you are clamouring for

As for work, keep it aside and try to have the number of kids you guys want so that you will be done with child bearing and start working

Raising kids is more difficult than working even

Go to him and calm him down and assure him of your loyalty

Remove shakara and pride so that you can humble yourself

If you think you need to be busy, get pregnant, it's enough to keep you busy

Time will come, he will be the one to give you options to take from getting a job and having a store

Don't try to run faster than your shadow, the main race is still ahead

Alwaysachick:
I've been seeing this guy since we got introduced to last May. First off he asked me if I was in any relationship and I said no. So we kicked off got intimate within 2weeks. Happened he was a virgin and that was his second relationship.

He is into me for reasons I can't figure out, but he is very unstable and unsure. Before we got intimate, I felt we were already dating, but after that the constant highs and lows made me ask him again and he said he cares about me, but he is not ready for something serious now. I love to respect peoples decisions and not clingy so I let him be.

He kept coming around, he always needed one help or the other cuz he was new to the area. Sometimes when he ask for help, he says he will pay but for where, I just felt he didn't want to raise my hopes.

I told him off severally, but he kept coming, same high and low, we get intimate once in a while. Personally, I love this guy but couldn't say if it was mutual.

So fast forward to last week, he gave me his tab to help him do some work. So in the course I playfully went to his photos and saw nothing but as an old girl in the game, I went to his recycle and saw romantic pictures with a girl at the beach. The only thing is they didn't kiss but everyother thing termed romantic was in the pictures. That same beach event, but alone, he tagged it on Instagram as " create time for love".

I asked him who the girl was and he told me it was his friend from Abuja that just came him so he was showing her around town. I'm an outdoor freak, I've suggested to take him to the beach but he turns down that he doesn't like the beach.

He also claimed the girl is his friend's girlfriend and that his how they all play with their girlfriends.

Another, was a post of a delivered cake on Instagram to someone in Abuja. Quote" I owe you roses for every breath you take" he said it was to his cousin that she was having a bad day.

At the peak of the argument he said i should stop calling him a liar and I can think whatever I want he doesnt owe me any explanation.

I even had to call his close friend who introduced him which I have never done before to know if he was in a relationship but he said no ofcourse I didn't expect him to say otherwise.

So later the day I sent him a text of appreciation for the decit because he never wanted to commit and never wanted to go.After reading, he blocked me. Its three days now, he is yet to unblock me.

I really want to know if I should just move on or apologise for calling him a liar. Or was I wrong to have concluded he was in an affair.

I want genuine suggestions please I'm still heart broken.

Do you think this guy is a virgin and in a second relationship

Stay there, he will use your tender heart and gamble

This is an opportunity for you to pull out

He will unblock you when he finalises his next strategy, then come up with a cooked story

That guy you are referring to is worst than a cheat

Go and think about what you just read now

Djbond:
My 1 and half year old cries a lot. I don't know why. Please is there any drugs I can buy for her

You didn't tell us what makes your baby to cry all the time

However, the following canale a child of that age to cry

Hunger
Neglect
Beating him by another person
Friends around who are not friendly
Heat
Not giving him the attention he needs
Headache because he can't talk

In the absence of all

Do the following

Take him out for evening scrolling

Give him the attention he needs

Pay attention to him

Keep him close not too far away from your eyes

Register him in a near by school where he will be under observation but you have to inform the teach

Get gift items for him

Feed him his favourite meal

Lastly always take him to church service where he will feel the presence of God

If after this he continues, find out if you or your husband behaved that way when you were at his age

Or he reincarnated and some things needed to be done to recognise him in the family

You guys must have made her something in the past that gave her the leverage to do so

Pastor or no pastor, every one needs money

You are selling items without pictures

How do you want us to believe you

Or you prefer to collect money then present it, it's called blind market

IyaTola:
This is from a radio station program "Who cares" 99.3fm Sunday 15th December, 2019
His 52yrs old Civil Engineer his wife a Pharmacist 50yrs old met in 1993 and married in 1995 both raised four children 21yrs 19yrs 16yrs & 13 yrs respectively to the best of their abilities

Until October 2018, he discovered that all four children are not his biological children after DNA test proved that his not in any way related of the children that meant his world to him

On the 20th September 2019, my 3rd child who happened to be female was critically ill in the hospital, the doctor informs us she need an urgent blood transfusion, my wife and I were in the hospital and we both decided to get our blood tested inorder to know who had the same blood group with our daughter, but none of us had the same blood group with our daughter, fortunately for us our first son came in and he happened to be a match. I was innocent of the whole thing because I didn't know the implication of a child not matching the either of the parent's blood.

After the whole thing was taken care of the doctor called me privately to ask me if I was the real father of my own daughter, at first I was furious at the question but I calmed down to answer the question of course why would you be asking me such question, he went ahead to explain how a child can have either of the parents blood group. I was confused and ask what he was trying to tell me and he said is either am not the father of my child or my wife is not the mother because one of is suppose to match, but since none was a match there is problem. I didn't take it seriously because it was sounding odd to me. When I informed my wife about it her answer was "don't mind that stupid doctor".

After 3 days, our daughter was discharged from the hospital, my mind was no longer at rest because I didn't know what to do, I went back to the doctor ask for advice on what I should do, he told me if I want to be sure of everything I should have paternity test done on my daughter, when he mentioned that to me I almost collapsed because I know what that means, it was too much for me to handle, I had to be a man and face whatever will happen. I ask if I could do so for the remaining three he said that would be a good idea if I can afford it. I decided to take the bold step even though it was not easy. He advice me of two places and the cost and their prices. Confidentially, a friend had told me of an advert of DNA on Facebook about a company where they offer the cheapest DNA paternity test in Nigeria.

I booked an appointment with my four children with the doctor. I asked her how accurate the result is 99.99% if I am the father and 0% if I am not the father. When we all arrived at the office, she told me to come in alone and asked me of my story and if I was ready for this because the result could be either way and especially 4 children involved, the eldest is 21yrs old, at first I was scared and she asked me of I wanted to take time to think about it before making the decision. I was surprised and asked if she does doesn't want money, she answered with a smile "Sir it not all about the money I think of my clients physiological well being first". I had to be man and told her I was ready and asked her when the result be ready she said, "it will be ready in 5 working days because she was yet to start the analysis in Nigeria so for now she send the sample to her partner company in Canada"

The waiting period seems like a forever me, when the result came in she told me to come for it. I was scared but at the same time wanted to know the truth. When I got to her office counselling began even before I was given the result, I just knew the worst has happened but I didn't expect to it be all my children that I have laboured for all my life giving them the best in Life.

Unfortunately when I open the result all children were not mine three sons and one daughter. I couldn't hold it as a man I broke down in tears the trauma was too much for me. When I got home I called my wife and showed her the results she denied evwrything, to make myself happy. I called the doctor with an angry tone and told her if she was sure of this results she was calm and told me she was very sure of the results and referred me to other places I can do the test. I didn't know what to do and went to the doctor that advice me to go for the parternity test, when he saw the result he said, "it can't be a mistake because DNA can't lie and that the 22 locyle region is the highest in paternity test". I was more convinced and went back home and told my wife if she doesn't tell me the truth that I will go to the church pastor and show them the result, after hearing me say that she broke down in tears and confession started. She had all my suppose-to-be-children for the same man that was why our son has the same blood group with the sister. She has refused to tell me the man and the reason why she did was she did.
We are yet to tell the children and our family. Am in great shock and don't know what to do, the doctor that did the DNA has been of helpful with counseling.
Men out there you need to be vigilant.

At this critical stage, just weep over it and move on

Don't tell your children and don't break your family by telling

The effect on the children will be worst than what you passed through and at old age, non will look after you since you are not their father

As for your wife, just let the sleeping dog lye

This is a top secret both of you will keep for you to be happier on earth

It has happened it has happened

Protect your family by keeping the secret

Yummymummy07:
I Am a single mum of 1 daughter. She is 4 years old. I came from a family of 4 children 3 girls and a boy and me the last born 24 years. Our parents separated when I was 9 so we stayed with our dad who later got sick paralysed from one side. Due to illnesss he didn’t have any strength controlling us and our eldest sister was like our mother but she was busy too with school and working because we were very poor.

When I was 13 she introduced her boyfriend to us, he was so nice to us and he became like our first brother he will buy me and my immediate sister clothes and take us out and me I had a great bond with him just like brother and sister and his place was just 5 mins walk to my school and that day I finish school and went to greeted him and he was watching telly inside when he served me drink and food I ate and told him I had to go home he said to me not to worry that he will drop me that was how he slept with me and it was my first time since I had friends who had already had sex and when they were telling me how sweet it is and they felt like big girls it used to makes me jealous and I wanted to try too so I didn’t felt bad that I slept with him and to me it wasn’t rape. I went home all excited even next day at school I told my friends that I had sex but didn’t tell them it was with my sister boyfriend so we continued having sex behind my sister back and he will buy me gifts he even bought me a phone my first phone ever.

They got married when I was 17 and I did abortion for him a month before the wedding then another one at 19 years and the third one was my daughter I refuse abortion and I had her at 20 years and we still sleeping together and I had 2 more abortions for him.

Now I’m pregnant again almost 5 months and he wants me to do abortion I said no because the fourth one nearly killed me he said i should keep the baby and give her to my sister since she haven’t conceived since they got married 7 years now and I have told him it’s okay but I want to stop the relationship and moved on with my life and I’m not sure if the baby belongs to him because when my immediate sister who got married 3 years ago had her first child early this year and I went helping her and I have slept with her husband 4 times so am not sure if the baby belongs to elder sister husband or immediate sister.

I’m in a big dilemma but the biggest problem is elder sister husband doesn’t want to end the relationship with me he beats me twice just because I stopped picking his calls and he is threatening killing me, our daughter and himself. I don’t want him anymore , I want to give my life to Christ and relocate far away from both my sisters and I won’t tell any of them the secrets.

Please I need your sincere advice and no insult I beg you in the name of God.

Just go and write this thing and other things you know down

Seal it with all forms of steple and celotape and gum

Give it to your elder sister to keep for you and never to open it as long as you are alive

Give your children to her and relocate to start a new life

This time around stop fucking any how, its only dogs that behaves that way

Stay away from abortions, it may take your life

I won't say stay away from men because you can't do without being bleeped

You just messed up, your parents, family, yourself and the society

If you like, keep a woman let her not work be paying her salary at home

The one that will mis behave will mis behave

Why wouldn't a man want his wife to work, is it because he does want her to be richer

Is it because he doesn't want other men to see her

Is it because he doesn't want her to get exposed

Is it because he doesn't want her to be westernised

You men should not allow insecurity affect your future establishment

Abetterperson:
Hi guys

I made a topic here about how I keep thinking my family are about to die a couple months ago. A lot of people email me but I just felt too ashamed of having those thoughts and I still do.

I really don't know how to put this because I feel very ashamed of having this thought but I can't help my self. I suffer from depression and panic attack, have had it since I was 14, almost everyday I sit at the back of my house crying and wishing I was dead. I keep myself awake thinking how death will feel like and how peaceful it may be. I don't like going out which my mom usually praise me for but she doesn't know it's because I don't want to be around people, I don't want them to see how vulnerable I am. I feel so ashamed of having this thought has I hear my peers talking about how good life is but I don't just feel it. My siblings keeps calling me a sadist because I always want to be alone. I tried talking to my mom about it but she doesn't understand, she just absent minded. I tried looking for antidepressants online, saw a couple ones but couldn't see any one in pharmacist and chemists stores. I know it's wrong to be taking drugs without a doctor prescription but I just wanted the pain to stop. I need help. I just keep facing one problem to the other. I read online about how joining activities help ease depression but it didn't help either. I want to stop feeling this way but I can't help myself, I keep doing things to make me sleep so that the pain can go away but once am awake it comes again. Am tired please help me

You are the architect of your problem

Though interesting speech but was very lengthy and people get discouraged for epistle

Weldone, it's a true fact

masternoble:
I initially approached her during my 300 level first semester last year, though I was not straight forward letting my intentions known to her. Then as we entered second semester same session I shot my shot and she accepted my proposal. Throughout the three months we spent during the session, we only had wonderful romantic moments no sex though which I never demanded from her because I did not want everything to happen too fast despite realizing she keeps numerous guys around.

Fast forward, we entered another session our final year. And my birthday happened to be on the 26th of April, she got excited to celebrate with me and came for the first time to my new lodge. As a nice lover, I served her her favorite food which we ate together then proceeded with our normal romantic gestures till I got to her panties and her mood changed all of a sudden, I still never mind and tried all I could to relax her mind for the act and she resisted and begged me to stop for my good sake.

I got angry and enquired why I should not have my way into her and her response still got me confused till now. She told me that am one of a rare nice guy she has met in her life, that she doesn't deserve me because she is not good in health and would not want to see me suffer like most bad guys she had come across, also that it will be more better for me to just enjoy friendship with her with no sex attached.
Ever since then, my mind has been pondering why she made those statements. Why she considers me nice and not deserving? Or is she giving me those excuses to deny me sex?

Please fellow Nairalanders advise me concerning the situation. Should I quit the relationship with her and move on?

Tell her that you want to take her for medical check up for both of you to know your genotype, hiv status and blood group

Tell her that after the test, the results should be read to both of you same moment

If she refuses to the test, just friend zone her for your own safety.

And if she agrees with it and the result comes out good, then go ahead and if she maintain she can't sleep with you, use style and withdraw from the relationship

nanauju:
Women, when you begin to buy things for yourself, take yourself out, and shower yourselves with gifts, you will see that most men have nothing more than material things and food. That's all. It's easier to know a man of value when you have some level of financial stability. When you are broke or hungry? A plate of food seems like love. 5k from him will even make you start thinking marriage sef.

Hustle o so that you will have your own money and men will have to prove why you need them beyond money

Being independent as a woman, give you an edge over other things

You independent nature will make a man to see you as a valuable asset not a liability

When he knows that you have something to contribute, he will talk to you in a polite manner

When he knows that you can afford twice of anything he wants to give you, he will seek your consent before taking up any decision

When he knows that you are capable, he will build walls around you because his marriage is secured

Though the low esteem men among this category, will be intimidated about your capabilities

And if you depends on a man to even buy your sanitary pad, pray not to be a slave in his hand

Spiritfun:
I met this beautiful girl sometimes two years ago. She's intelligent, smart and well mannered. I professed my love for her some two months into our friendship but she outrightly said NO.

I decided not to give up on her but to show her more love and care. As days went by, our friendship grew stronger, my love for her grew as well. Our life's goals are so similar that I find it very difficult to let her go.

I made sure I took the center stage in her life by doing everything necessary to help her build her dreams and its working perfectly.

I started showing her off on my social media handles just to test her reaction but contrary to my expectations, she loved it. I was proud that somehow I have perforated her defences.

Along the line, she started professing love to me too and that was the best moment of my emotional life. Then I decided to propose to her again but alas, she said NO and I was very sad and frustrated and she noticed it. At that point, I decided to give up on her and focus on other goals in life. She pleaded with me not to let our friendship die because she's afraid of losing me. I didn't bother to ask her for explanation on why I should still remain her friend without knowing where it will lead to in the end. I didn't also bother to ask her reasons for turning me down two times. I just agreed to her plea and ended the conversation.

I tactically started avoiding her to enable me heal but she would complain and plead with me to keep the friendship. I sucumbed because this girl has almost all the qualities I need in a wife and because of my standard, it's really difficult for me to find someone else that matches my preferences.

I know almost all her secrets and she knows mine too except my plans to travel abroad, preferably Canada. I made sure I did not let her know about this for some reasons.

Then, I found myself being obsessed with her again and she's been all over me too.

Now the crux of the matter is that I have perfected my plans to travel on or before February next year and I want to give her the last chance and propose to her again. I've conditioned my mind to accept whatever response she will give me and move on with or without her.

My major problem is whether to tell her about my travel plans before I propose to her or vice-versa. I know she also nurses the dream of living abroad. I'm afraid she might accept my proposal if I let her know about my Canada plans if I let her know about it before proposing to her.

Kindly advise me on this please cos I don't want to make any mistakes. I LOVE THIS GIRL and I'm certain that will make a good wife for me.

Left for me, don't propose to her, let her be

Inform her of your trip few days to your departure, she will query you for not telling her, just let her know that you proposed to her twice and she turned it down so you feel, this is the right time to tell her

Emotionally, she will be affected, but assure her of your love and communication when you get there

Through out the period you will be there, it's either the love grows stronger or fizzle out

If it grows stronger, on your arrival, give her a flower, when you get home, watch her for some days and propose to her, if she rejects it this time, use withdrawal system on her by pulling out without her knowing

In another way, you may get there and meet someone mire better than her and if you feel the person you met there is better off, you will be free to engage that person why because you didn't engage her here before travelling

If she reacts to your proposal to another woman, remind her that she turned you down twice and you have to move on

Ekele22:
Please,I would like to have the house opinion on this matter. There is this girl in my school I teach,I think I like her and want to date her.I told her my intentions but she said we will start dating next year,I should give her time.I don't really get it,why will she postpone it to next year.she told me that she don't have a boyfriend and she is very cool and descent in her ways.my problem is that she allows me to touch her sometimes but sometimes she won't and she don't want to come to her house only till next year.she sometime get close to a guy in the same school and it makes me jealous and when she discover she will act and move to me so she could please me.please I want to know if I can get her or she want to play me.

Are you talking about secondary school or higher institution

BarrElChapo:
Now she's pregnant according to the OP. love isn't unreasonable. sex is not love

That pregnancy is their business to keep or not to keep

You can't be walking under the rain without rain coat.

goldenpenny2:
Fellow N/Landers

The future is unpredictable but nobody is praying for bad thing. This question have been bothering me for long. I thought it wise to it with good people of Nairaland and seeking for helpful advice.

As a man, is it advisable to marry the lady who loves you more than you love her?

please advice

When love is equal, the scale balances well

When love is not equal, there will be issues like,
Nagging
Everything becomes a fault
Anger
Frustration on one side
Unhappiness
Depression
Hatred
Dislike

Then what happens, separation comes in leading to broken home

Love must be equal for you to feel exactly what and how she feels

vikono:
How A Retired Teacher Was Robbed Of Ten Million Naira By betting Agent In Delta

A retired teacher played 9draws in the early hours of Saturday and was having a potential winning of ten million naira.

Around 7pm when all the matches except one had played,he got 8draws remaining a Sunday match which happen to be Celtic vs Hibernian

He wanted to cash out in that Saturday evening but was told by the betting agent that the game doesn't have a cash out code.On Sunday, the said game played 2 to 0

My question is this,is it possible for a ticket not to have a cash out code( or has but it won't cash out)? Or could it be that it was the betting agent that scam the man?

He did not play bet game when he was active and his brain is at optimum performance

How come he is playing game at retirement

Them swear for am ❓

qualityGod:
A friend of mine paid 700k for a piece of land for poultry business but the payment was made by hand not bank deposit.

The issue now is the person that received the money switch off his phone and can't be trace please how can he go about it .

The mistake have been made

Keep calling the line, you may also know someone that knows him or so

Land doesn't involve only one person

Give him time and calm down yourself

If after expiration of patient he doesn't come back

Don't treathen him, you may be his target

Do midnight prayer just the way God created you

He will never ever succeed in life until he returns the money and ask for forgiveness.

The courses alone you will throw in him is enough to make him miserable in life

adewumiopeyemi:
Which one be this again today. Before it was in the shoulder we saw this morning. Now it is chest

I gues this is a. Symptom of hiv
Pls don’t quote me am not realy feeling fine I have an headache

That headache may be a sign of HIV

Stop making jest of sensitive issues

dobaduro:
Waiting

No suggestion yet, Doctors we need you o

I am not a doctor but I will give you advice that I feel will put your mind at rest

Tumour can develop with just little under lying cause

If the only option left is surgery, please let him go for it but hand everything to God in prayers

Someone can die with just little complaints from headache

We are not responsible for our own life and we can't predict our own safety if not God

But it must be done in government hospital where experience surgeons will handle it in the most professional way

Now is the time before it gets late

romeorailss:

You are indeed very frozen .

Lol