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uboma:
Will you pay up their hospital bills? Or do you prefer the private hospital to provide medical treatment to them free of charge?

They should be amputated one hand one leg each

Then. Allow them to go and treat themselves else where, idiots

Neoteny:
Madam born pikin first, abi na human beans do you?

Stop � it,

God gives children not human

You don't even know how yours will be
Learn how to guide you speech

Neoteny:
Madam born pikin first, abi na human beans do you?

Stop � it, it's only God that gives child not human beings

You don't even know how yours will be

Stop reasoning like that

salimbaba664:
Am not understanding this news. The last time i check, Chris Ubah was PDP Candidate

After he won the election, he switched to pdp

Look at who was giving a child to look after even when she herself needs to be taken care off

Every one should train their own child instead of putting an innocent girl through turture

Women and their way of behaving as if another person child is different from their own

Mrsoundoro:
Veteran musician, Muma Gee and her estranged hubby, Nollywood actor, Prince Eke seem to have worked out their relationship.

Their six year marriage packed up in 2017 and a series of social media call-outs and drama ensued. The ex-couple however spent the weekend with their kids at a Chinese Restaurant in Lagos

https://www.instagram.com/p/B6GvvCBpfOH/?igshid=1qe3t60nvxerk

When a man wants to run away fro responsibilities, he runs away from his family and calls it separation

When the woman suffers and shoulder it alone, he sneaks back to know how far

God pass them

Floryangel8:
I've been using this for 8 years now

Pls tell me the performance of this machine as I need to get one for myself soon

Bojack:
check out the LG roller jet

Pls tell me more about the roller jet, what has been your experience and for how long have you been using it, can you poer it with Elemax generator and what size did you buy. Pls reply

What you will understand is that, non of all these are fire resistance

They all catches fire once the wood holding them is on fire

The most important thing is let there be no inferno

I was even wondering how it would have worked out in the first place

Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

Calm down

You have been hurt badly

Relocate without his notice and start another life

You are responsible for your own happiness and don't allow any beast to determine your happiness

Don't tell any one of your plans

Carry it out and inform them when you think it's necessary

Hide your address from every body for the time being

You can live a solo life for the time being but don't hurt your sexual feelings

Keep any marriage proposal away and have a joyous affair if you get healed

As for your husband, he will meet your family to tell them why he was frustrating your life

If he requests for reconciliation, tell him to invite his family to your family so that they settle whatever the problem is, mind you he will refuse that, then tell him that life is better for you now without him

Don't ever agree to settle with him alone, he will pretend to be good and do worst than before

But the moment his family and your listens to what he did to you he will be blamed and warned against treating you bad

No woman can be happy living with a man that is putting her through emotional trauma

Be strong and with God, you can make it with out it

Only few are enjoying their marriage others are just pretending and dying in silence

ebyjoyken:
Thank you ma. I have been loyal and respectful to him. He has been abusing me emotionally but i refused to break. But he found my weekness and that's my children. Every little thing he will threaten me that he will take my kids away from me. I have been good with his siblings and mum. If he sees my children around me, he gets angry and ask them to leave my side. It is beginning to really bother me. If he does something wrong and i correct him or tell him to treat people with love, he becomes very angry and starts threatening me with my kids . Telling me that i will soon run mad. So many things but i can't bear my heart on a public forum.

This is serious

God into prayers, I mean midnight prayers, speak out to God and tell God exactly what you want from him

Mention names of people you think are responsible for this traumatic situation and mention his name that God will bless him to the extent that he won't have time to be picking on you

Tell God to keep Mr (--) mention his name to his hearing, busy by making him to be successful that he will have enough to give his family and be focused on his business or work that whenever he sees you, he will be happy that you prayed him to success

Look be strong, if he is maltreating you, his source of income will shake and he wouldn't want that

Stop correcting him let him keep showing people his Wickedness

Very soon, he will fight himself

Olannajewel:
Please pardon my very long post. I also had to open another account so as to post this.
I am in my mid 20s been married for 5years with two kids.
Have been in a long distance marriage since I got married due to the fact that I have been running a degree programme which will come to an end by next year.
So,I practically see my husband when we're on holidays or during strike. But we talk every time, I'm in the east schooling and he's in the south. My husband provides more than the basic needs,he's a great husband and a good father.
I know I sound selfish, but he doesn't satisfy my emotional needs,and he agrees to it.. whenever we call it's just about the kids and my school, we don't talk personal stuffs, he's not passionate, he finds it difficult saying "I love you " unlike before. He doesn't indulge me when I say it also... when I try to sex chat with him, he shifts it away. Whenever we're on holidays and am home, he doesn't also give me time, his work is not flexible but the little opportunity he gets he would rather go out.
No woman calls him in my present, but there's been incidents that has prompted me doubt his fidelity. After I gave birth in March,I went back to school because the strike was called of.i became depressed, I will talk with my husband yet I felt he was emotionally distance from me, sometimes during argument he would flay up and rain abuses on me... during love making with my husband, he cant even keep an eye contact or reply the "I love you " I say to him during sex. Ps:my husband is in his mid 30s.
He doesn't notice any effort I make as a young wife to keep the spark in our marriage. In July,guy chat me up from a group on telegram.. I haven't seen this guy, but I would have seen him if he's close.we have been talking every day for 5months,chatting, sexchating, video calls,he tells me everything a woman wants to hear. He doesn't know am married. I'm in too deep, how do I stop loving him, I love my husband too,but he's not making any effort towards romance in our marriage.. please I need advice, insult, anything that can get me back on track. I know am cheating emotionally on my husband, but talking with this other man has kept me sane amidst all the challenges I have. How do I stop this, cause recently I noticed I cant stand conversation with my husband, not that we discuss anything that makes me feel like a woman. Please help!!

Your body is demanding for something that fulfill love in your life and thing is a man that will profess his love for you verbally

Telling you sweet words and lovely words that will make you feel Hot and get wet

The guy that has taken your attention for the moment, may have sex with you ant time he sees you, if you don't restrict your self

Count your self lucky that you have a man that plays the financial roles of the family

But have you ever thought tgat the financial responsibilities on your husband and the hustling he us making to keep you guys going has taken away the time he would have used to tell you those pep and sex talks you desire

If I were you, be focused on your children and marriage and your education so tgat your mind will not be searching for a man that will rub your mind with sweet and romantic words

Some men ate really goid at getting women pinned down to them that's why they use their mouth to sweet talk you into their own life

Such men are loving to be with, but they are casanova

At the end, you will be with a broken heart because they will lure you to spend the little you have for them and your own case, you are married so he won't marry you, but he will give you the sweet words and attention you need

Also your distance between you and your husband is part of the obstacle that is creating that lack of sweet words

Very soon, you will be through with education and you will return home, will you still keep tgat guy or you will get another one ❓

Just chat with him and end it on chat to me that's on, any thing aside from that, you both may have sex because he is already turning you on just on social media

Then what happens when you get to see yourself ❓, sex must take place

After adding all the above ingredients, why won't the moi moi come out with full taste even if the mixture is disarranged

lilwetdick:
yes ooh.. she really knows what she wants ooh

38 years old female still living in her parent house even if she is not married

do you think that type of woman knows what she wants??

she is already an old maid.

That's your thinking not her's

Besides it's her business

shugaboy6102:
This is my story and I will appreciate if the mods can push it to front page so that others can read and learn from me, and I also need your honest comments and advice because you could be saving a drowning man. Am 29 years of age, a civil engineer by profession and a sanguine by temperament. Before my youth service @ age 24 I got my girl friend pregnant and I was scared of abortion so we decided to keep the baby with the full support of my mother and she agreed because I was an only son. After that, we proceeded to see her people with my mum and relatives to my girl friends village and we paid something on her head but didn't complete the whole traditional right, but this was not even the traditional wedding proper. After that we saw ourselves as husbands and wife and we were living fine for sometime. After sometime, the relationship took a different turn as we were always fighting and didn't agree on even the slightest matter. I remember vividly one occasion we fought over a female colleague @ work who sent me a whatsapp message and why we fought was that she came to my work place and fought the young lady openly embarrassing me in the process in front of everyone. There were times I would try to reconcile but she would blatantly refused, sometimes she will tell me she is fed up of this thing we call marriage and that she's looking for someone that I too should look for someone else.
Fast foreword I met a lady and one thing led to another and I started picking interest in her. It was never my intention to be with another woman but I don't have peace of mind and I feel I am loosing my mind. Note: I haven't wedded in a church before of done a full traditional marriage. Here comes the question: would it be considered a divorce if I quit this union and marry this new lady?
I am full of unhappiness and pain and I don't want to live a life of endurance and pity. Pls nobody should pressure you into getting married, marriage is not a license to live a happy life. If you are single, I envy you.

Don't allow your happiness and joy to be determined by another person

Inform your family that you have had enough of her and wants to quit

Your family will go with you to inform her own family

If it works out, don't drag that child with her for its the last thing she will ever compromise with

Make sure you give her upkeep and move on with your own life

Relocate from your present place by getting another accommodation

Start another relationship so that you don't allow the past to weigh you down

In your next relationship, don't be in a hurry, take your time and an extra time to study her before you commit yourself

If you don't know how to withdraw, use condom to avoid another trap

That she is 38yrs and not married yet doesn't mean she should fall inside well

She knows what she wants and she hopes to get it

Not every woman is crazy about marriage

Even those in the marriage are already tired and looking for a way out

ebyjoyken:
Hi! Good morning all.
I have been married for 10 years, and i have never had any serious with my husband, i have never treated his mother badly. I love his mum just like i love mine. I lost my dad last year and my husband never showed any concern towards my family, i didn't call any of my siblings or my mum till date. But recently each time we are having a discussion he keeps saying that anytime i challenge him that he will ask my children to insult me. This breaks my heart because i was never rude to my parents as child even as an adult. I have never spoken ill of my husband before my kids, so i don't understand why he keeps saying that to me. My children mean alot to me, i have invested so much in my kids and they are lovely children. I am scared that he might start poisoning their minds towards me. Matured advice needed please.

There is no smoke with out fire

You didn't tell us exactly what brought about this stupid issue

However, God will not allow your children to disobey you

Children are bonded with their mothers so he is just showing you how wicked he is

Then on your own side, avoid anything that will trigger rancour between you and him but don't accept maltreatment or intimidating behaviour from him, if he does that challenge him

See his family exactly the way he sees yours

If he doesn't call your mum or siblings forget about it "salutation is not love"

Be strong and be loving to your Family

Worst case he will pack you out, that's not a big deal

Don't ever allow your emotions to weigh you down, all he is doing is to pull her down (PHD)

When you want to pray, involve your children by so doing it will be difficult to get them against you

Just because your father is late, he feels its time to strike, that's how some idiotic men behaves when their father inlaw dies

Don't ever show up with weakness of emotion, be strong and he will be too weak to handle you

I decided not to advise you to beg him, for him to open his mouth to instigate the children against you, shows that he sees himself as a demi god you should worship

obavalen:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/pastor-defiles-impregnates-16-year-old-pupil-in-ogun/amp/

Prophet of doom, castrate him

Jueds:
Pls I'm a student of Microbiology in one of the Nigeria universities. I had 2.80 as CGPA in my first semester in 100 level. And first class has been my goal. Can I still make it to the Top? Pls I need your advise. Because it is a technology school where I'm using 5yrs.

You started well and you can do better since it's just your year one

If you double up, you will get first class
Just be focused and determined

ElonEmpire:
I met this girl online, we happen to come from same LGA, We got talking and later became friends.

Months later she complained about having accommodation Issue. Now, me am hardly around because of the nature of my job so I felt is OK letting her go stay there at least to keep my apartment warm and clean.

Though this is not the first time am doing that,
For over 5 years now it has been people staying in my house because in a year I don't even sleep more than 2 months in my house.

The last person that stayed there was also a lady the few times I go home during her stay we are OK, more like brother and sister. In fact neighbors actually thought we were.

Now come this new girl I don't know her before, infact she has spent like 6 months in my house before I went back.

During those times she was catching feelings for
me weda she is serious about it or not I don't know but I told her point blank that I'm into a serious relationship and she should maintain her boundary when ever I come back.

Months later i travelled and see her in person..
To say that she is beautiful is understatement, she is definition of beauty. She is irresistable.

I have traveled couple of time after the first time and each of this time I try so hard to maintain my dignity, self respect and not to misbehave.
We sleep on same bed, though i have decide to be sleeping on the floor or another room. She changes in my presence.

I'm seriously going crazy right now about this girl..
Infact I see my self getting Jealous about the guy she is seeing recently.

I don't know how to hand the situation, I can't afford to misbehave because, 1st she call me brother.

2ndly considering the circumstance that brought her to my house I can't afford to misbehave because am this one person who don't like taking advantage of women.

And lastly I can't cheat on my girl.
But I can't ask her to leave because for now she have no where to go.

Please how do I handle the situation?!

You are in a serious dilemma

You have given her an accommodation without given her expected time to pack out

You are already in a relationship and you are already falling in love

The real truth is that you will definitely sleep with her no need to pretend over it

But at the end, you will have to choose between her and your girlfriend and be ready to break one of the two hearts

Oluwadamilare118:
Clear thraot.

(Inhale and exhale)

Am glad I read this...na where and whom to practise be the real koko now.

I know some may quote me wrong and still don't understand.

Lol

Lol
You don't need to get bothered about who to practise it with, there is one around you start from somewhere where but with respect and decency

mechanics:
It can be discussed on a personal counselling, after all they are several challenges facing couples, why should that be only in her mind, I understand your point, discussing sex with my wife is on a personal basis and not for public consumption.

That place is one the places regarded as a public place where you will get audience

mechanics:
Is she truly a pastor, this is not what she should be preaching to her congregation.

You got it wrong, sex must be discussed, be it in the church, home, school anywhere

Look if you don't discuss sex with your partner, you won't know where you are getting it right or wrong

denjjy:
90% of mums do not like to scream or moan anytime their calabash is being smashed by dads , no wonder our society is full of dullards that prefer suffering and smiling rather than fighting tyranny and ineptitude of our leaders ...thank you ma, I've just learnt a great lesson tonight. from today, I will always urge my wife to scream very loud so that our children will not be generation of dull/inactive adult like Buhari.

When you tell your wife to scream very hard, what will you tell your children when they come to her rescue when she scream out loud

She is telling women to stop hiding the feelings of having to moan

The culture doesn't allow women to express their selves only few does that and the one that does such does it in a crazy way for being bold to attempt it

Soo, if you want her to scream, close the door if there are children in the same apartment

dedons:
What are the advantages of moaning?

The good thing about moaning is

It helps the woman to complete the circle of sex

It signals the man that he is getting it right

And if you can make your woman moan, she will find it very difficult to search else where

Not the fake moan ohhh

The real moaning makes a woman weak and helpless at that moment because of the ecstasy

Real men, appreciate and look forward to that point as the game is on

Kapilta:
This is a fake news.
It's a lie.

Butchered for what exactly?
Are you people cursed with fake news in this country?

They'll just butcher her, just like that? Haba. It's not as if they are ritualist, and even cultist don't butcher themsleves that much.

Haba. NL becareful with all the fake news you allow on your front page.

How else do you want it to be if you don't believe what you just saw

dollytino4real:
must everything be made open on socialmedia? that is discipline

May your children be disciplined in such manner behind you

And by the time you get to know, it would have gone beyond your expectations

TheFacelessMan:
Maybe the wife finally washed off the makeup on her face and he died from shock

RIP, man!

You are too old for being stupid

You people are lucky that there are no poo there

Gang90:
Last time I went to hospital, the doctor said I was having gout, in itself gout is not a sickness but mainly as a result of other things, I feel like I'm having kidney issues because, I feel pains on my sides of the stomach, the I fall really sick regular then when I got taking drugs I didn't know I was ulcer prone and I got taking NSAID which got my intestines whole on the damaging part, now i can't take most drugs and I can't get a relief

You have so many issues to bother about

Concentrate on how to improve your health challenge

Besides, at 24yrs,you are still young to talk about marriage

Get something doing and get some money to take care of yourself

When it's the right time for you to get settled down with out hoping on any one to assist you in taking care of your family, your parents will accept the woman you will present to them ogbanje or no ogbanje

If this type is done here, lunatics and area boys will take it over, unless there are security guards in there