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Buje1987:
Has the 2nd wife given birth yet or she never born?
Number one let the 2nd wife born first before telling the first wife due to some experiences.
Has the 2nd wife got pregnant � yet?
What have you the assurance the 2nd wife is fertile also?
Giving babies is not in the power of the first wife. God does that and don’t you have faith in your wife or God anymore?
Don’t you read news of couples staying together 10,20,30 years and no kids and still love each other and later God does wonders in their lives?. I will advise your friend wait until the 2nd wife gives birth first. He can’t face his wife but he can lay cheapishly on another woman. He should face his consequences by himself and tell his wife but if he be Yoruba the first wife shouldn’t know until ur new wife gives Birth

VictorUSA:
Insult is deliberately comparing something that's actually bad which isn't, but my opinion about women isn't an insult.I'm only describing them.

Lamanii22:
I swear ma’am so accurate… it gives you the sweetest feeling when they newly start to walk but then you have to really watch them at all times…

midehi2:
With the 2nd woman opinion, now I know no wonder I had Episiotomy


Op, mind you, it's not a choice, it is the ability of the hole, if it is not wide enough, definitely it will cause a rigorous tear or a doctor perform Episiotomy, but the sewing back na die

That is why when days of delivery is near, na continuous nacking o to widen that place... Fact!

Mystery2020:
1. Extraversion
You must be an extrovert, period. The Nigerian banking industry has zero tolerance for non-outgoing personality types. If you are not, make sure you are well connected both within and without.

2. Small talk
You must like small talks and gossips, and actively engage in them. Otherwise you yourself will become the subject of gossips by your colleagues and it will be difficult for you to change the narrative.

3. Flirty
This is very important especially if you are male. The women in this industry, both married and single are sex-starved and they always appreciate men that have regular erections. The last thing you want is for all the ladies in your office to gang up against you.
As a lady, you must be ready to receive anything from a hug, hands on your waist, neck or shoulder, to a kiss, even dick.

1, 2 & 3 are very important to avoid being tagged "lifeless". Once you have this tag, everything you do will be irritating to your boss and coworkers.

4. A$$ Licking
The industry is like a mafia. You must constantly show your loyalty and assure your colleagues and superiors of your loyalty, otherwise they will see you as arrogant and will begin to plot your dismissal.

5. Toxicity
Banking has one of the highest toxicity scores according to the Nairaland Toxicity Index: https://www.nairaland.com/7103678/toxicity-score-various-occupations-sectors
You must be a toxic person, and must regularly dish out you venom to both colleagues and subordinates. Else, you will not survive.
Bankers are like sharks who can smell blood hundreds of miles away. Your inability to dish out your toxins will give the rest of your coworkers a signal that you can be preyed upon, which they shall surely do.

6. Political Correctness
Your opinions have to be in sync with those of your colleagues. You must always agree with the majority publicly, but you can express your disagreement in private with 1 or 2 colleagues.

7. Team Work
Team work is useful only for those in operations (branch or elsewhere). Forget it if you are in sales (marketing). Here, everyone is on their own, it is dog eat dog!

8. Relationship with surbodinates
The banking industry is a frat house. Avoid relating with security men and cleaners if you want to climb the corporate ladder fast. The exception here are female cleaners; you may service them occasionally.

kayperry:
Every gurlfriend as a weak spot, whether she is now an Ex or married does not mean the password will change
life is a cycle whether i join in or not las las everybody go chop breakfast

kayperry:
chicks don't know hawk naa mother hen sabi Eagle. so far so good "Happy Mother's day"

Edyice:
When someone split due to long distance or without any insult or fight . The law works like magic ,when you guys cross path . ( you can get wet fast and easily ).

You are saying not every ladies fall for okafor law but i will tell you this for free ( its some ladies that calls their EX ) if u doubt me ask Pocohantas , she will tell you .

kayperry:
An experience that does not usually exceeds two its not enough to generalize, every gurl i have dated no dey get pass two boyfriend/bodycount is that even a coincidence or accident, the one that even claim three, said i am the 3rd guy why

Tbh,i can't relate with your aspersion on yorubas, from my family to my friends i don't see anyone wey their mama be the dictator of their life, maybe the guy doesnt love you enough n just use his mom as cover up... works perfect.
when a man is in love nobody can safe him, unless he wants to be safe. pele dear

Daestro3:
Everyone is special and I don't think I made mention anywhere that introverts are special.

Secondly, no one is asking ladies to open their legs on the first date. I say first date, second or third doesn't matter to an introvert even though it might mean something to you but to an introvert, it means nothing.

Thirdly, being an introvert is not a cover. There are some people who see it as a disability. For instance, yourself and you feel introverts should work on themselves to become extroverts. They are not disabled or lacking in anyway.

And you think introverts go on to become sociopaths because of their nature?

That's the impression I am trying to correct with this post not to make introverts feel like they are special.

In fact, most people like you are so ignorant about the nature of introverts that you fill the vacuum of their silent nature with 'what you think they are thinking about themselves. Hence you say they are aloof, proud, and 'too full of themselves or think they are special.

Whereas an introvert doesn't think along those lines in one bit.

kayperry:
We will get back to you

kayperry:
i am on the last floor, can you step up to reality. Tbh ki lo je "serious"?? the only thing that can suspend the igbo culture is Serious money & affluence as we've seen in the case of FFK & davido.
I'm surprise @ your aspersion, maybe you rolled with boyz, lemme ask do igbos not idiolize " mary mother of jesus" ... does it look like igbos are doing her bidding relative to decisions made

kayperry:
i don't know why you ladies are obsessed with "Every" from the otherside "Most" is enough. gurlz love to laugh why should we stop

pocohantas:
Your neighbour is Yoruba,
The girlfriend is Igbo,
Her husband is abroad.

Pretty cool and imaginative story that touched all sides. I am sure if we check well, she is also a single mother. You can add that for more spice.

kayperry:
Is it really about what a yoruba guy plans ... you forget the igbo culture is stringent towards inter marriage.
The times i dated igbo gurlz they are usually the ones giving the signal "this r'ship is ending nowhere" cos an igbo gurl know her life is subjectable to the igbo rigid culture las las. just saying in most cases the culture is the impending barrier

pocohantas:
Yea. There was this thread they said 90% of women return to their Ex after marriage and I asked which one of them have experienced such. Nobody gree raise hand.



Nah. It is not tribalism at all. I don’t do tribalism, definitely not with Yorubas. They are my close neighbours, but then, we know as e dey go. Some Igbo girls do not date them, except for cruise or for money. If you aren’t dealing with the very educated and enlightened ones, na one-chance you go just enter. Low sense of responsibility, highly polygamous, no root, etc. Time to marry and the Igbo girl would fall back home. Normal normal…

pocohantas:
Yet I asked how many of them have slept with married women (their married EX) and none said yes on that thread.

pocohantas:
Serious indeed. That is how a lot of Yoruba guys are when dating Igbo girls in Lagos. It is either they are very serious or they are unserious. She simply beat him to his game.

pocohantas:
Some of them, their ex-gf’s can’t stand their sight, but no, Okafor’s Law must be propagated.

purehustle101:
She saw no future with him, But deep down am laughing because of okafors law. She will be back as usual to collect gbola, these i have seen.