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gulfer:
Okafot law will continue to prevail between them anytime the nigga see the girl

Consolation price .

He should keep waiting for the Okafors law and not live his life. The one he has chopped for free is not enough right!

IsellSmartTvs:
It’s called Survival.They both needed each other to survive,but one was smarter

She did it before the guy did it. It happens a lot to ladies, heard of so many, especially when they are from different tribes.

It's not cool if the guy was serious with her. But who knows what he also had planned as a Yoruba guy dating an igbo girl.

mariahAngel:
Maka gini kwanu?

That should be between her and her husband, don't you think so?

Don't mind the kids on this forum. The other day one was asking me if I married as a virgin. He wanted me to announce to the forum

I don't just know what they have filled their brains with that sense is missing.

bukatyne:
Hahahahahaha @ well captured.

Maybe because I met my husband young and before the 'what do you bring to the table' madness, I find the question very irritating.

Serious people don't ask that stupid question. They don't have to ask, because before they chose her, they already knew the space she was going to fill in their lives.

The alphas and redpillers will wriggle on this thread like worms that they poured salt on. They don't like this kind of truth.

arthurwillia:
My father’s experience, people are wicked fam.. just read

We have a family friend, we practically do things together, I and my siblings goes to same school as the other, same class and so on. My dad stood as a guarantor for them for a loan of about 2.5m then in his work place where he has been working for like 30years in 2012, these people opened a pure water factory and was doing well, unfortunately my dad got retired forcefully then in 2013 just about 2/3years to his retirement due to failing economy. The 2.5m was removed from his gratuity and pension. We were left with peanut. My family went from that to sorrow. After about 2 years when the deal elapsed, he went to meet this family friend, pay back this money.

They said they don’t have it, we started begging fr our money oo, my dad reported to their extended family and the family friend turn it to fight. That why are we reporting them here and there

The wife even threatened that if we take this to court, she will tell the court she’ll pay 10,k every month for the next couple of years till she pays finish and there’s nothing we can do.

It was so devastating, 3,4,5,6,7 years later still kept on begging, fighting, we stopped talking to each other, in between the wife bought a car rav4 Toyota 2007 and you claim you don’t have money to pay debt. This really angered my dad but there was nothing he could do. But God pushed us through those years oo.

Fortunately they had a change of heart this year and they paid half of the money this year, after we’ve suffered and they enjoyed, sent their first born out for masters.

Took them 9years to pay a loan they were supposed to pay in 2years and now my heart is hardened never to do that for anyone no matter who

Wow! This is so so sad. People are mean especially in cases like this. Friends/ families turn foe because of money. Terrible.

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

You cannot.love your current boyfriend because you still have your ex in your head. How can you move forward when you are still stuck in the past?

From the reasons you listed, your ex should never ever be an option for you, even the last option except you are ready to live with everything you listed and ear it.

Try to redirect your focus on your new bf for the next one month and see what happens.

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Born2winnx:
I'm not attending, mind already made up.

He might not even notice that you didn't come. And you will still be the one to bring it up because he won't know you are keeping him in mind. There are some things we should let go.

Your case reminds me of a relative in the village that told me he wasn't attending my mum's burial because my brother didn't invite him personally. Someone that benefited from my family especially through my mum.

It was sad and petty and I just blacklisted in my heart since. You miss an important family function over something so trivial. Hope you didn't go.

God1000:
yeah, there's rapid development in Lagos state.

On a serious note, I'm disappointed that Nigerians have turned this beautiful thread into a tribal war

Are there rooms for lodging?

Sweetplum:
Shebi you this Benito that do face like Fanta ll marry. Probably get baby mamas too. You ll be dragged very well. Continue to run your family down claiming I don't care whatever.
Your daddy too is reaping the dividends of his uncultured penni s!
Na wetin I dey tell those rude boys on romance section. One of them wan chop two sisters. Una never see mad problem wey pass Una own. Make all men that likes fuckin g around continue. Karma is available.
Last Drop:
As for Funke Akindele, she entered a marriage with a man with several cracks.
5 kids from 5 baby mamas. Na curse?
That's how the first marriage with Almaroof crashed. Cos that one don get many wives before.
Everyman or woman ll live with the consequences of their choice.
Funke, enjoy your choice.

5 baby mamas?? I thought they were from one woman. And Funke saw this and dived in still. That's just crazy.

Albertone:
The emboldened is damn true!

The op should ask her.She's the one who knows where the shoe pinches.

He needs to, especially if it's a new development after they got married.

You go into a relationship with an expensive looking girl with not known source of income. She's not working or selling something that brings in good money. Then you come and start complaining.

How do you think she planned to fund her expensive lifestyle? With your money of course . You are dating her, you are already owing her

Albertone:
Well,not all women are same.

Guess it's hormones at work not any spirit.
It's frustrating having a woman being moody and irritated easily all day.

I know many women that are not like that. Someone cannot be moody for no reason. It could be merely attention seeking and if it is fed, it continues.

I never saw the benefit of having mood swings like an unstable person, so I never gave in to it.

Albertone:
Mood swings are most times caused by no particular reason.It's just one of the complexities of women.

If I'm the OP, both of us will be swinging the mood together oh.Jangilover things

Mood swings are not general to women. I don't have mood swings. If something is bothering me, I know what it is. But to just be moody for no reason or for my mood to keep swinging, I don't operate that way. I tell my friends that it must be a spirit behind it.

That's why I asked if she has always been that way before they got married or if she has become that way because of events that have happened in the marriage.

emmanuelbrown26:
One thing I hate about some of u female is d way u people judge issues(let me just be a gentleman today by not using d word calling daughters of eve) everybody are after d violence and nobody has talked about what triggered d violence.

You don't read to understand, but to attack and to air your bias views towards women. What did I judge here? Can you point it out?

emmanuelbrown26:
Is she a kid? Hell no.
If she's having any regret, she should come forward and tell d husband than using being moody as an excuse.
I don't support domestic violence but using that method to passage a message is a turn off and nonsense.

It's a turn off but it could have been triggered. That's why I asked those questions.

She's not a kid, but people deal with issues in different ways. If he doesn't know his wife that he fought for, that he has to come to strangers, then there is something fundamentally wrong.

Richy4:
@ bold, I guess he's no longer the man she married.. the one she was willing to fight all her family members for just to be with due to the beast in him..OP knows this and I think he is playing with our intelligence if he act like he doesn't know

Exactly!

If she has always been a moody person, he saw it and married her that way, and should try to manage it. But if she became moody after they got married, it could be some events that have happened in the marriage that caused it. He needs to address this and stop acting clueless.

Cc Kasaliola

Ask her what is causing her moodiness. Is she having regrets that after fighting for you both to be together, it is one chance she entered?

One day you might get back and she is gone with the kids. Then, you will need to explain to everyone how you have turned her to your personal punching bag.

Those that got married at 27 and still don't have a child at 40 should do what? Go and cry at the market square?

Enjoy the fact that you are alive to see your child and move on. Regrets will add nothing to you.

Olumighty123:
I see reasons why my wife won't budge to my children going on school excursions, we'd rather take them ourselves

Seems better that way. Some parents have swimming lessons on weekends for their kids with either mum or dad present.

That I dated, slept with or had a fling with my branch manager.

Palm kernel oil. I could just open the bottle and keep smelling

Ekpang nkukwo

Richy4:
I almost believed it until I saw those pictures..I have seen that pic before but can't remember when

The handiwork of bloggers. They know how to stir the waters

Ahmback:
Na our thing!
"show me joy" dey our blood

It's no more "show me love"?

Welcome back home to your 19yr old virgin wife. Her body count should be more than your "old newspapers" by now.

So if you get a job and your superior is younger than you, you will quit the job? Or when you get to the office, you will expect him/she to greet you first because you are older.

If you are looking for that kind of respect, you should consider relocating to your village where the kids and younger ones will call you bros and uncle.

teeshet:
did you marry as a virgin? please dont lie

Is your head paining you? Please don't lie

takimsipho:
But she can run away and follow boyfriend abi? She is not too young for that? By 18 years you are considered an adult, the age of consent in South America is 16. Some of our grandmothers married before 18. Whatever freedom she thinks she is looking for is an illusion. When those boys start dealing with her she will remember what she left behind. Hunger sabi reset brain no be today. A lot of young ladies that run away from their parents/husband home always regret it. She has not experienced hardship in life thats why. I know prostitutes in their 40s that will not mind to get married to any guy that can look beyond their pasts.

It's ok now. When your daughter is 14, you can give her away in marriage.

It seems virginity was your only criterion for marrying her. Maturity and sense was not important to you. Please enjoy your virgin.

God1000:
Nonsense, the way young Nigerians glorify sex nowadays instead of brainstorming on good things is worrisome

Our society has degenerated so badly with debauchery on the rise everyday

Everything revolves around sex these days.
sex, sex, sex, stupid generation of young people
They can't invent anything good for humanity, black man has contributed nothing to civilization throughout human history, a 10 years old girl is already having sex with numerous boyfriends, our streets are littered with babies everywhere.

It's so worrisome. Everything is about sex. It's not just these younger ones. I remember a time when guys would post here that they just arrived a state/city and that they need addresses and directions to brothels around. It was so rampant here.

People need to put their mind to productive and good use.

PoliteActivist:
How is your 10th-girl friend? Successful? High or low self esteem? Well adjusted?

She's good. Doing well for herself. Met some of her sisters, most are abroad plus her brother.