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bobkezel:
i have asked you several times, since u sabi book pass the writer, tell us wey be olodo mek we learn. If you have nothing tangible to say just park one side and stop rigmarolling.

I have answered it more than once already on this thread. Read up!

crackkhaus:
Listening to a song? Nah.
I might develop some kind of emotion with the song, but never cry.

For movies though, lol...
I might get watery eyes, still NOT cry, if the movie hits me hard enough.

The last one I saw where this happened was titled Harriet, the true life story of the abolitionist, Harriet Tubman... a woman who single-handedly walked miles just to rescue slaves when no one else believed she could succeed.

For a minute in one scene, I felt my eyes getting watery...then I remembered someone was beside me, so I quickly received sense. She still suspected me though

Cry cry

lozanni:
The method of teaching for primary school children has changed so much now.
The fact you were not taught that way does not mean teaching methods will not change.
Some schools are now teaching computer programming at the primary School level, but am sure you were not taught that and might then think to yourself that it is not possible for it to be understood by students at that level.

That's why when children from different places gather, some cannot speak and match up to others. Because their parents have taught them their heads are for carrying load when the others have been told it is a processing centre; houses the brain.

bobkezel:
good, then tell me, what is head used for?

Let me ask you

What do you think it's used for? What would you tell your child it's used for?

bobkezel:
my brother be frank with me, tell me the first thing that comes to your mind....
What is head used for bro?

In all honesty, carrying load is not the first thing that comes to mind

One time my husband and I got carried away and were arguing. Our 2 year old shouted and said "mummy stop talking to daddy, daddy stop talking to mummy".

We both stopped.

We swore never to do that in front of kids.

lytech1:
moral lesson: dont condemn others when you have nothing to offer.
shalom

This your moral has no head in our discussion.

I guess you couldn't just resist the urge to use it regardless.

What you teach your child is what sticks. If you want to teach your child that the head is used for carrying load, no problem. I will teach mine that it houses the brain and works as processing centre along with the organs like the eyes, ears, etc for the body.

lytech1:
you've said that before.

what is ur own universal function?

Why not research it? Google, textbooks, papers....

If you find anywhere where it says, the function of the head is for carrying load, let's start from there

lytech1:
good.
what is that universal and acceptable function of the head?

Not carrying load

BluntTheApostle:
No, I don't have my answer.

What would you have written if you were the writer of the book?

That is the answer I am looking for.

In Europe, backs are used for carrying loads. I am sure that at a certain period in their education, the pupils don't immediately get taught that the back houses the spine. Children learn about uses. It makes it easier that way. The textbook says functions, but the pupils are to learn by the usage of the specific body part.

Learning is a gradual process.

Item: Head
Function: It houses the brain

lytech1:
nt necessary the primary function,bt what they can get easily.

as times goes on,they will be expose more

Since it's not all children that have used their heads to carryoads, it can't be a function especially a universal function. Except you are saying African heads are for carrying loads.

I would rather expose my children to the universal and acceptable function of the head from scratch, rather than what one village headmaster says.

BluntTheApostle:
Alright, what do you believe to be what we use our heads for?

Mind you, what we use our heads for is funcdifferent from the functions of our heads.

For example, we can't use our heads to house our brains. However, one function of our head is that it houses the brain.

So, how do you teach this to kids of that certain level?

The textbook says "function ". So you have your answer.

BluntTheApostle:
Imalma, the head is used for carrying loads

If we want to become great as a nation, we should teach our children based largely on our own realities.

Heads are used for carrying loads in every continent except Europe and North America.

What are our realities?

Not all Nigerian children have carried load on their heads, so that cannot be a primary function of the head.

My issue is with the man in the picture. What kind of run is that? Same hand, same leg

lytech1:
you knw nthg or little abt teaching.
am sure d text is for pry1 or pry2 class.
for their level,thats the best their brain can assimilate easily.
the author needs to come down to their level

Never underestimate children. They can take in a lot of information. We always assume that they don't know or cannot assimilate. That's why some children are more exposed and intelligent than others. Their capacity has been tested.

bobkezel:
All of you saying you will sue the school. Pls answer me, what is head used for?

If the first thing that comes to mind is to carry load, there is something fundamental wrong with my people

spartan117:
All you have said is very correct, it takes two to make a marriage work.

However the reality we face today is that many husbands in some homes are immature very stubborn and egotistical. My initial comment which you quoted wasn't directed to them, their own matter is for another day.

Back to the topic, the op mentioned that her husband has been displaying some of the characters I mentioned above hence my response was directed to her and not her husband, also my response below is directed to the female folk alone not men.

Having two strong heads in a relationship is never going to work! Now that your husband has decided to remain immature what will you do? Will you nag him to death or abuse him? How will that help your marriage.

You don't demand love from your husband if you feel he has absconded from this responsibility, you show him love and honour. I'll repeat this again love conquers all things Jesus Christ is the perfect example:

Romans 5:8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.


Christ didn't wait for us to love him before he loved us. Even while we (his bride) were living in sin he loved us. This is the love that makes us accept Christ and today many have even died because they refused to denounce him. It's all about love.

A virtuous woman is one that respects, honours and loves her husband not because of his actions, but because of the love of Christ in her heart.

I'm a man and I respect women, and I honour virtuous women. Marriage certainly is not an achievement, but marrying a virtuous woman is certainly one of the greatest achievements a man can ever attain.

Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

So it is ok to allow the man to be immature, stubborn and egoistic. But the woman has to be the Miss goody two shoes. A man has a big responsibility in marriage and he cannot be encouraged when he fails in that responsibility.

You say love conquers all. From who? The woman alone?

Marriage is mutual...between two people. It's not only the woman that takes vows. It's two of them. So they owe each other. A husband should also be held accountable. He is not immune to being held accountable for his actions.

That's why husbands bully their wives...because the wives don't know what they are entitled to as wives.

spartan117:
Of course not.

There is great power in submission. When a man knows that you respect and submit to him, he will love you and be willing to do anything for you. Learn from Queen Esther of the Bible, she was a virtuous woman.

Submission has never meant apologising for his own wrong plus yours.

Do you know that it takes two people (husband and wife) to make sure their marriage works? It is not the burden of the woman alone.

Many of you women use the "virtuous" woman mantra to limit yourselves and take a truckload of nonsense form your men who are supposed to love you like Christ loves the church.

Do you demand love from your husband? Or you only submit and submit until you become a shadow of yourself?

Read Esther chapter 8, submission wasn't the only theme. There was love and respect from the king.

spartan117:
Lol.
Only virtuous women will understand.

Cheap blackmail.

Being virtuous doesn't mean being a doormat.

Many

Where feet may fail
I wanna grow old with you
Book of Love (First dance at my wedding)
Turning Page
To be loved by you
You sang to me

Music is soul food

spartan117:
First of all I must state that I don't in anyway support the behavior of your husband, but what I'm interested in is your marital bliss.

Having two strong heads in marriage is a recipe for disaster, from what you wrote it seems your husband has a bruised ego, hence his need to constantly remind you that he is the boss(this is wrong). However the solution to this is not to withdraw or nag him, you need to be the mature one of the two at this point.


If what you really want is for your marriage to blossom then put pride aside and do this:

Firstly you need to get your groove back! Start dressing nice and gain back your beauty. Having a family of six is no excuse, there are people who have gone through worse and still remained beautiful with the little they had. And always wear a smile.

Secondly never argue with him, if he keeps nagging you being unappreciative, just sincerely apologize and remain calm.

When he comes back from work, hug him, kiss him, ask him how was his day. When you wake up in the morning, greet him, call him sweet names like honey,sugar etc.

Always take his side in any argument he has with anyone in public. In private you can respectfully advice him.

When you want to serve him food, go down on your knees and serve him, try to do this not only in private but in front of his friends or visitors nothing else will endear a man to a woman than this.

. ..the list goes on and on, but I trust that you get the gist by now. What I'm simply trying to say in one sentence is Show him love. Love conquers all.

Finally and most importantly, get close to Jesus, he's the only one who can heal a broken home. You need to develop a personal relationship with the holy spirit, if you have this relationship ]every other relationship in your life will be blissful.

I will recommende these two books to you written by Pastor Yonggi Cho and Pastor Benny Hinn. They will help you build a relationship with the holy spirit, and they are available in all Christian bookstores nationwide.
Shalom

...and OP don't forget to clean his bumbum when he poos

vanida6:
To those dat get time for it

Exactly. Never been my thing. I guess I was skipped in the talent sharing

Suzzi23:
Hi guys. Please I need advice.

There is this guy in my department. Let's call him Joe. He is good looking and very intelligent. He also has this very nice voice and good vocabulary. Initially we were just normal casual classmates, we greet, exchange notes and all that, nothing serious. I've always found him attractive but have not found him special in any way because I've met lots of guys like him in my University.

But few months ago he started becoming more friendly towards me. We got talking and we realized we shared a lot in common. He asked me if I was single and I told him I was. This was the truth because I wasn't dating anyone then.

Few days after another guy I was very close to asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed. I'm in love with this guy. He is very jovial, intelligent and he knows how to treat me well. I know he loves me because I've known him for a while and he has treated me with love, affection and respect. It's always fun being around him and I enjoy his company.

Despite now being in a relationship, I still continued spending time with Joe. We shared a lot of deep intimate info about ourselves with each other. I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone before. Talking to him always made me feel good. I felt I could be vulnerable with him. He was very honest and didn't hide the dark aspects of himself. He wasn't the type to pretend he was a good person. And he wasn't. He had done a lot of bad things in the past and he wasn't afraid to talk to me about them. And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about. He said things to me that made me begin to explore myself and my sexuality in ways I didn't even imagine that I could. He was always fond of teasing me and never hesitated to correct me if I did anything wrong. I loved that kind of honesty.

As we talked more Joe opened up to me that he was attracted to me and had feelings for me. He would flirt with me and I'd try my best not to flirt back but I enjoyed his flirting and I enjoyed his company. He asked me if I felt the same way about him and I was honest and I said I had feelings for him, because I did. He is an attractive guy and even though I have a boyfriend I can't help being attracted to him..

He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I was already dating someone. He was surprised by my response. He told me he was under the impression that I was single and that's why he had gotten so close and intimate with me. But he didn't appear angry or sad. He even told me my bf was lucky to have me.

The problem now is that since that day he hasn't talked to me. When I see him in class, he doesn't even act like I exist. He doesn't reply my messages, doesn't pick up my calls and doesn't check up on me. Throughout this lockdown he hasn't even texted me once. This is unlike him. I feel very bad about the whole thing. It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him. I want to still be friends with him.

You want to date one guy and enjoy flirting and attention from another. Doesn't your boyfriend know how to flirt or share intimate and deep feelings?

Please stick to one guy and stop complicating things.

realdickoflife:
the funny part is when I got the court date and we appeared the judge was african american and her fi al words where, ‘your character itself throws a shade on your case, plus you come her with no evidence to all your claims’.

And you still want to go back to such a person? Or what exactly are you asking?

Is it until she holds a gun to a head at midnight that you will have a wake up call?

She adds nothing to you. Please look for a woman worthy of your love.

Biglittlelois:
Ma'am, a sly will always be a sly, ignore and let it rest, those that understand your points, understands completely, have a great day.

Yeah, thanks.

He can't help himself. Let me not indulge him further.

crackkhaus:
I'm shooting myself in the foot and doing damage control from not answering a question you asked?

Or you don't know the meaning of damage control?

As I asked...Was I under any obligation to answer your questions? No. You cannot beat me if I don't. You can only release steam like you have been doing.

Not everyone will give in to your wimps and tantrums. So get used to it. You are not the only one that has an opinion.

crackkhaus:
If you really felt no obligation to answer, you would have ignored and not bothered trying, only to end up still failing miserably.

This one you're doing now is just damage control, take it easy...

Guy, you keep shooting yourself in the foot. Because everything you are saying I am doing is what you are doing...damage control for instance.

Nigga rest...you like fight and quarrel. Everything hot hot and serious. Abeg bother someone else

crackkhaus:
Getting emotional by asking you questions?

Every comment to you was a question...questions which you kept doing Tom & Jerry with, until you had nothing else to say than to tell me about how I show love.

Abeg go away...

Am I obligated to answer your questions? No.

It is when you had nothing else to say that you were telling a stupid secret about what you imagine love is.

crackkhaus:
1. I wasn't telling you because I think you need it.

2. I don't know how the conversation suddenly became about me.


If you can't keep yourself and your emotions in line when having conversations with strangers, that's your headache...
It never takes very long to get y'all to start hyperventilating, lol

Check our conversation. You are the one who has been getting emotional and trying hard to prove a point.

I made a comment and if you decided that it's your business, that's your business.

Timileyin1234:
Pls I don’t have energy this evening

Neither do I.

No one forced you to quote me.

Timileyin1234:
Not all of them takes their mother side. Madam e read again

Ok. Don't be close to your children now. Let it be your wife's job

Timileyin1234:
Women will always have upper hand on children when it comes to parenting. Wake up jare if u are sleeping while typing this

You are the one that needs to wake up. Parenting is not only for the mother.

Men have learnt because they don't want to be left out. Instead of conveniently leaving the task of caring for the kids to the woman, it's better to get involved and get acquainted with them.

Out of the Op's 5 children, all of them take the mother's side. That says a lot.