₦airaland Forum

TriCee:
Okay, he actually did nothing extraordinary.

A lot of men would gladly marry a Queen, a President or whatever title.... in African setting.

Either with the intent of 'gold digging' or with sole commitment to love.
African men love too.

Haaaa, very hard to see, especially in Nigeria where what matters to most men is SUBMISSION and RESPECT for their ego. That ego cannot allow them think straight.

First thing you will hear is "I still kneel down to serve my husband" to help massage the man's ego

Xenry:
Some Nairalanders will call this guy a SIMP!

Meanwhile, they are not better than the shoes he wears

Ammishaddai:
He now accepts he made those statements, so why can't he step down for the sake of honor

Nigerian leaders don't step down.

Nigerian leaders don't have honour.

Gift523:
Akuapim poloo leaving court after she was sentenced to 90 days imprisonment this morning in Accra. This is not fair to be honest.

Source:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CNvAOkqpDWS/?igshid=16w3qdepnyjf8

Watch video here

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gbGj38f81eY

So she took a picture with her own child, so what? What other thing did she do wrong? I’m sure it’s beyond just taking pictures. Somebody might be out for her. That’s all. ��

It's her son doesn't mean she should behave stupid. What was the essence of a nude picture with her son? What does it portray?

She needs the locking up so that she can reset her brain

FalseProphet1:
I see so many Nairalanders unable to answer the questions yet they will claim that there are no jobs. This I have seen.

Which you are clearly part of. I don't see you answering the questions yourself.

i926:
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Hyginus
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Livinus
Nicodemus
Calistus
Anything that ends with "nus".."us"
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Chidinma
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Goodnews
God Knows

Titus

pelusi:
Please at what age should male children stop sleeping in same bed with their mother or is such act okay and normal.

The children have their own room and bed but most often prefer sleeping in the mother's room while the father will be in the other room.

This is such a passion killer for couples.

It will be hard but keep trying to make him sleep in his own bed. If there's a next baby, let him/her sleep in their own bed right from the hospital.

Andersonjr:
After birth

Lol...but true.

From.birth, they should sleep in their own bed. It is quite difficult to get them to sleep in their bed when they have slept on your bed for long.

BLOODYSPERM:
She needs medical intervention not a Man

Exactly!

ibkonekt:
Understood however recall that the girl had 4 abortions. You cannot use childhood trauma to explain way all responsibilities of peoples actions. There must be accountability at some point in people’s action and choices. For a lady to do 4 abortions means she was grown enough to go to a medical personnel that does such acts. There is also failure from the parenting, it is their duty to protect their ward, no matter the circumstances. They failed in that.
Let me give you an example a suicide bomber that believes it is okay to kill others to receive rewards in heaven will at some point question himself if his actions are truly just, or if his family or loved one are to be killed he would panic, showing that instinctively he knows that the act of killing is bad. Its just that they believe that their reason was just. She would have know at some point that acting sexually in that way was bad but maybe no courage or she enjoyed it.

The girl came to “tell” you, which means her instincts knew something was wrong and she made a move to correct it somehow. How can a lady have 4 abortions, why didn’t she tell her parents like this child did to you. I understand fear, trauma and manipulations exist but at what point do we say this person needs to be held accountable for this (it is already established that the man is useless and should be dealt with). However, we are responsible for our actions at some point. We all have teachings given to us from childhood but if we feel it’s not up to par we have the choice to question them. What you say does happen and it does seem like it may have some element in this story, but I also see someone that was enjoying all the pleasures of sleeping around and doing abortions because in her mind society does not condemn as it did in the past.

Before she grew up to the stage where she had 4 abortions, she had already been deep into sex. Being introduced to sex at a tender age obviously affected her choices concerning sex as an adult.

Such people need to see a therapist to help them pull through without using sex as their only cure. I am no psychologist but I know what a traumatic childhood can do to someone.

The 15 year old that came to me already has some wisdom more than an 8yr old

ibkonekt:
It would have been better if she did not sleep around in her past like a worthless wh0re in the name of freedom feminism and my body my choice. That way you wont have to lie or be economical with the truth. But ladies want to have their cake and eat it too. Men are disgusted by high body count. It signifies impulsiveness stupidity and lack of ability to discern the lies of society and feminism. No matter the amount of commercial and indoctrination that media tries to push about accepting wh0res as wives, men of value will not do so. They belong to the street

I would have agreed with you a bit. But we are talking about a girl that was introduced to sex at a tender age when she should have been occupied with being a child.

That kind of experience can break and destroy someone. Her sexual orientation was obviously distorted and played on her later.

Recently, a 15 year old family friend came to me and told me how her aunty's husband was touching her body inappropriately. She was living with them. I was caught between telling the aunty or her mum.

I eventually told her mum which really broke her. But I didn't want her to stay in that house longer. That touching was already traumatic, even for me. Imagine her being introduced to sex by a 60 year old man that's supposed to look after her. How do you think she will turn out?

When someone, guy or girl speaks up about a traumatic experience that affected the course of their lives, it is not cool to judge them with it.

phazotron:
Yes some people can't handle the truth and they should be proud of if

See them......devil senior sister at work

Master manipulator that's what you are

I don't know what you are on about. But, you will be fine.

TarOrfeeek:
When sensible and gentle men toast women, they disregard them and claim those men are 'creepy.'


They want a real man. A man who knows what he wants (whatever that means)

And so, they callously serve rejection to the simple, nonviolent and extremely gentle man. Denying him a chance to procreate in this earth.

When the typical Alpha, violent, boxer (who obviously knows what he wants) comes around. They do everything within their power to bag him.

And when they do, and things go from Alpha wet my pants - Alpha psycho wacko.


They bring the news to FP NL so that all of the rejected men who were simple and kind can come and type RIP or Eyah or Chai or OMG.

Or whatever the Bleep women want men to say.

But really, who says Eya! to the several other men that wanted to marry Barrister and were rejected so she could have the Real Man?

Sorry you got dumped many times but this is not about you. So keep your assumptions to yourself.

You think it is the alpha and dominant guys that ladies should fear most? No. I think it's people like you with hurt and bitterness boiling inside, waiting to be unleashed that ladies should beware of.

It would have been better if she just kept most of thr details to herself and only sieved what she told you.

Many people can't handle the truth. Sometimes it is better to be economical with the truth.

Draslo:
I misspoke.

What I meant was don't you see him as your lord, in the sense of the word, not necessarily calling him 'lord'.

What he is to me and what I see him as...a lover, father, teacher, protector, brother, fan, supporter and a perfect fit for me.

We don't operate the Master and subject relationship.

Draslo:
So you wouldn't refer to your husband as your lord?

It's not that deep. Even my husband will think I have gone crazy if I call him my lord.

Draslo:
I meant the alpha and omega part nawww.

The part I said was from you was the king of the jungle. Read my comment again.

You both don't really know what you are doing with each other yet. And I guess the hair money was supposed to be payment for the sex? No sex, no money.

AishaYesufu:
Is this what you read or you decided to misread? The whole family eat meat everyday but a dinner where only one meat was left, OP decided to use that avenue to ridicule and disrespect the innocent man simply because he isn't financially buoyant. Make Una de validate her...

Ridicle? For his own children again? Please how is meat now part of showing respect or disrespect. Some of you men just like to see disrespect in everything and take offence at every little thing.

Children need meat more than adults.

Draslo:
Now you're just twisting my words.

Haba! Didn't you liken the man to the king of the jungle?

These are the kind of posts that should be taken down. Such falsehood based entirely on one person's imagination.

Mindlog:
This is really sad to read. Just imagining the 500gms of meat used to prepare both stew and soup that lasts a week and how a father feels comfortable with him being the only one eating the meat in the family while his wife and children stare at him, got angry when the meat was given to his own children who needs the protein more than him.

He's the alpha and omega and he is the king of the jungle according to Draslo

What's the small things she wants to be supporting with? Salt? pure water? Or what? She ain't ready to support or she doesn't like the guy, not to talk of love.

Speedy001:
how are you dear

I am good

VeeVeeMyLuv:
ofcourse not,

we are just trying to empathize and reason with the hubby position on the matter. Cut him some slack, he might have projected into the future and found out that the event that might unfold as a result of the issue at hand will not be pleasant.

He doesn't need any cutting of slack. He's insecure and paranoid. Why should a grown woman be given those kind of conditions in her husband's house? A man that is supposed to be her number 1 fan and supporter of her business.

He has trust issues and that is his problem, not hers. She can be sitting at home all day and that hotter man will cross her path right inside her compound. Couples should support each other and not try to make life difficult.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Madam if u see a man more hotter than your hubby in all ramifications both physically appealing and financially in the pocket in the process of conducting your business, can u hold yourself? Can vouch for yourself and assure us the audience that u will not fall into temptation?

So she should stay indoors so that she doesn't meet a man hotter than her husband? This your comment is funny.

D or E. They can't come and kill me

They really need to shut up. No one cares.

Don't take each other for granted and treat your spouse like they will be fine on their own. Still show that love and attention that was there from the start.

Don't neglect each other.

And when the baby comes, don't shift attention and neglect the man. He still needs his wife. Don't use the child as an excuse to neglect him.

Just talk, talk and talk, hangout alone together.

Sleep alone in your bed together.

The way you make your marriage is the way it will be.

AdeOri99:
I wrote how i feel, is there a crime to that? Has there been a restriction on the fundamental human right to freedom of expression?

I am naturally a sincere human being, and i don't lie nor decieve myself.

I don't doubt that you are sincere unless proven otherwise. But if you are really having feelings of depression, you need to talk to a specialist while you are trying to find a way out of the financial struggles.

You can search online and get contacts and talk to a specialist for free. That's my advice. Don't start by putting suicide on the table.

giftygirl1:
See, everyone is not "claiming" depression. Alot of people are actually depressed! That is why we need people to constantly lift us up either through cash or kind words. Nigeria is a really hard place to live in and I absolutely feel what the Op is saying. It's even worse for the men folk who can't find it easy to sell their body for money unlike girl. It's really depressing,the best is to try to talk him out of dying instead of telling him to just go and die cause I think one of his reasons for writing to get help or at encouragement. Op please be encouraged,after the darkest hour comes the morning!

Someone comes to a public forum.asking for the best way to die. What kind of question is that anyway? Is death something to be taken lightly?

We should be able to normalize and differentiate between frustration, depression and other emotions. But these days, people are quick to diagnose themselves with depression. And sometimes to hold others ransom.

Just a few days ago, a family(family friends) were having a rift, and two of the siblings kept threatening to commit suicide.

It's becoming a trend that we Nigerians are abusing as usual. "If you want to be heard, just threaten suicide". Depression is a serious condition, and anyone suffering from it needs to be treated and managed carefully, not creating threads to ask for how to die.

Faithful husband at heart