₦airaland Forum

Kingcalls:
Thats the entitlement mentality women have...imagine say u decide to de hammer am , she will do worse... thats the difference between guys and girls...if na man u accommodate freely...he will sleep on the floor and still act like house boy to u...he will b going on errands free for u and will b fetching the water without u knowing that the is water problem...men are more appreciative than woman and never forget the help u gave them when they were in need ... women act like entitled spoilt kids

officialmario:
I wonder the kind of people establishing schools nowdays, for you to be a proprietor or proprietress of a school you need to have studied EDUCATION in school so as to have the clear understanding of how to handle your school and the entire staff.

My friend made some comment on some of his students report card and he is in trouble now.
These are some of the comments:
"He is not active in class"
"She keeps gang in the school"
"He is a truant."
"She is rude and not respectful",
those are some of the comment he made, and the proprietor told him to go and apologize to the parent for the comment made on their children's result, the guy has refused and has been fired for nt apologizing.

Whats your opinion on this?
did you get any comment that made your parent to be mad at you while in secondary school?

SweetCunt97:
Dont know what's up with men of today. Shey if d lady was managing in one room, d fool for wan stay with her? The idiot doesn't love her at all. Might even kill her and sell everything

SweetCunt97:
Where have you seen a man going to stay with d woman? Is that how it's don in ur village?

Biglittlelois:
Most women during our mothers time yes, but not now, or maybe a few, but most women of our generation will certainly not give a damn.

Michelle55:
It's not how long you have known someone that determines how happy you will be together, it's how well and the compatibility that matters.

Does this person fulfill 60% of what she desires in her life?
Does he give her the peace of mind she deserve?
Is he supportive and understanding like a man should be?

If he checks in all these boxes then she can make up for the rest as times goes on, no one has it all and that's why we are imperfect.

Many has dated for years yet they didn't marry while some dated for few months and are striving together to keep their home front sailing.

We're all wired differently and it will show in the way we do things as well, grace differs too!

Let her decide what she wants and go for it, besides you can't know all about your partner in one sitting even if you date for decades, a lot about your partner will unfold during the course of your marriage that's where your level of tolerance, understanding and maturity will be tried.

Never forget, marriage itself is an institution where you will never graduate from because everyday that passes you learn new things about your partner and strive to be better for each other.

Get married to stay married!!

wunmi590:
Believe me, when I say they are lovely people, I mean it and I'm not mincing word or here for cheap like.


It was the non availability of job that took me back to my state, if not nah there I go settle down

wunmi590:



Akwa ibom is too big, I served in that same local government, they have a very huge land mass.

When I was first posted there, as a Lagos boy, I couldn't go there, I had to go to NACC catholic house for some month before i summoned the courage to go to the room they gave me... a private school with a beautiful lodge only me in a room.


But believe me, Akwa ibom people are one of the most loving people i have ever mingled with.

That Uruan community I served (Nong ikon obio) that was where I served.

Thank you for the hospitality, thank you for your care.

Thank you Rev. Fr. Samuel Edem for everything you did for us back there.

godfrey02:
Read a post of someone comparing 30k job in East vs 50k job in Lagos, another lamenting for 15k job.

It's a big slap on any graduate who even settle for 30k job not to come even mention 15k, for this economy.

My dear pull that graduate comot from your mind and enter the street.. where I am small boys ssce holders earning 30k , 20k in two weeks, in one month it will be how much 40, 60k and these guys have hope of getting better pay in nearby future because of their location (lagos).

Even machine operators that are not graduate 120k. one person sit down for he papa house and be comparing salary when you don't have bills to pay you won't think of growing.

WORST are private school teachers, 25k in a month, some sef 15k, and they will not pay them as at when due.. imagine two post in one day about salary.

Catfishing:
I got to know this young, handsome guy sometime last month. Two visits in the space of 3 weeks and he was all over me.

But I wanted him as a friend and nothing more. The nigga is 5 yrs younger than me

On Monday he came visiting, we talked, laughed and had good time (no sex) then he proffessed his love for me, and I told him same thing: I don't believe in love blah blah blah.

I asked him for money and he gave me 4k. Today I called him and told him that I wanna travel to see my fams that he should give me 5k. But he sent 3k, and I thanked him.

Later, he blocked me on all available network......what went wrong? Why will he do such?

Insults and bashing are expected.

illicit:
This is becoming unnecessary and probably ridiculous


She needs to get to work like everyone else and make her living and not this paparazzi that may get her being outsmarted, swindled, used and dumped at the end of it all

GreaterFuture3:
(Edit)
When I say "there's more to this", I mean there's more info as to why this happened and that behaviour, 7 years continuously, is very abnormal.
Medical examination on the Suspect, is it Fetish, relationship with the Victims etc.
I am not defending him, he is not related to me, I don't even recognise this "veteran" Nollywood Face. Your comprehension Level here on of some of y'all on this Nairaland threads, shows severe Stupidity, that is controlled blindly by emotions.
So Yes, obviously, there's definitely more to it.

Konquest:
Your 2nd to 4th paragraphs
made sense. Paragraph 2 jumped
right at me!

But then females who have
pre-marital sex in so-called
committed relationships that
end NOT leading to marriage,
still have emotional connections
with their male exes.

An eloquent female NL user
(who has now chosen to be
more religious) has made
occasional posts on here about her
previous pre-marital sex in 2
committed relationships starting
from her uni days, wrote about
her fondness for both and hinted
about a desire to still have sex
with either of them.

What I'm driving at is that once
a young lady has pre-marital sex even in MULTIPLE committed
relationships that do not lead
to marriage, she would develop
emotional attachments to all
the men especially if the sex
was good. This is what is
responsible for some females
falling back into the arms of
their male exes because of
the sex-induced emotional
attraction.


All the best.

PlayMaker14:
One of the beautiful screen goddess of Nollywood... I remember her pairing with Chidi Mokeme when Nollywood hasn't lost it's value.

Stephanie, Genevieve, Beverley Naya, Nse Ikpe-Etim, and Ireti Doyle still remain my all time favorite and talented Nollywood actresses.


What we have now is Destiny Etiko and Zubby Michael painting and dominating the industry with nudity and violence.


Happy wedding anniversary Steph, enjoy your home.

Crummy:
Nigerian idol's audition is more open than that of the voice. The voice does not have judges but coaches, their roles are different.

Neutralobserver:
It is the judges job to be 'harsh' so that a bad singer does not go out on the big stage and mess up big time...instead goes home after being voted off and work on himself or herself...and comes back better

That's life.

iupac120:
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Please there is nothing like faithfulness to one's sexual partner as a Christian. Once you are not faithful to the Faith you profess, then you're not faithful.
If a man/lady is not faithful before marriage (keeping his/her body chaste) how would you expect him/her to be faithful after marriage. Luke 16vs 10.
I might be wrong but your statements are portraying the opposite of Christian virtues as you claim to be one. You lower the standard of God's word.

efficiencie:
Unfortunately judgment is anchored on reason. Judgment is predicated on cause and effect. Justice demands that you cannot eat your cake and still have it. There are several contexts where men and women fall for infidelity and guess what Jesus also recognizes this. The mere fact that He had to die as an atonement for the sins of men is enough to show that sin has consequences that can't be waived and you know the same calm and gentle Jesus that dies on the cross is the same Jesus that will ride on a horse as a warrior to slaughter the armies of men that will gather against Him at the battle of Meggido...it is the same Jesus that will sit on the White throne and judge the nations and this same Jesus will send some to eternal damnation and others to eternal bliss...Justice, like mercy, is also one of the weightier matters of the law and while I believe there is hope for everyone that has fallen I also believe that if many considered the consequence of falling they would be more wary of falling. If we had not trivialized virginity more ladies would be wary about losing it wrongly and fewer ladies would have had to contend with the temptation to fall but because we have trivialized it so greatly it has become one of the root causes of the alarming divorces rates today. Now we have young men saying they don't see the value of virginity and virgins themselves are scared of their virginity because of the extent to which virginity has been demonized...I have also seen and heard a lot of marital crashes to know that every divorce is based on or connected directly or indirectly to an event or behavior that started in the past and in many cases it is sexually related.

efficiencie:
You highlight individual cases by I am highlighting a likely statistical regularity. I am not disputing the existence of exceptions to the rule like the case you mentioned but I am saying that behaviors don't switch off and on like you seem to suggest. Habit formation is a fundamental determinant of behaviour (several theories in Psycology and Economics prove this). This implies that you can reasonably find a large proportion of people repeating behaviors that they engaged in in their past because such behaviors have morphed into habits. The very act of having multiple sex partners continuously over a period of time could render one conditioned to keep having multiple sex partners. This is why very nice, well mannered ladies still fall for infidelity...they fall not necessarily because they are wicked, rather they fall because they have been conditioned by years and years of moving from man to man. This same dynamic applies to men. You can never make a man that is used to moving from one woman to the next loyal to you. If you like be the best cook, have the sweetest physique, be extremely well mannered and be a well rounded wife he will still cheat because cheating has become a habit that he has to keep feeding...there is no on and off switch in our brains for certain behaviors and this is why virgins have an advantage over hoes. I am not saying all women who married as virgins are better than all other women with regards to fidelity rather I am saying most of the women who marry as virgins have a less likelihood of falling for infidelity than the women who have lived a very sexually loose lifestyle before marriage!

Yes, God's mercy applies to us all but God's mercy does not always undo all the consequences of sin. God had mercy of Peter but it doesn't change the fact that for generations Peter's record of denial is available for all to see. I'm sure Peter would wish he could tear out that part of the Bible where he denied Christ. What about David the man after God's heart. God had mercy on David, yes, but God's mercy did not bring back Uriah from the dead, the man that David killed and whose wife David stole. There is always a consequence to bear as far as sin is concerned. A lady that loses her virginity cannot regain it because she became born again. Yes God has mercy on us but sin leaves an indelible scar on our lives and that is why we must advocate for men and women to repent from sexual sin.

efficiencie:
Yes, cheating requires the cooperation of two people and both parties should bear the responsibility of curbing the spate of infidelity...Ladies should learn to close their legs until they are married irrespective of the pressure from men and men should desist from illicit relationships irrespective of the pressure from the ladies. Yes anyone can make a conscious effort to respect their marital vows but not everyone faces the same intensity of the temptation to cheat. A lady that has had extensive sexual activity before marriage will obviously face a more intense temptation to cheat compared to a virgin. You cannot dispute this truism. This does not imply that all ladies who married as virgins will never cheat but it implies that ladies who got married as virgins face a lower tendency to fall for infidelity than ladies who have years upon years of sexual experience. Our world is full of statistical regularities and this means that a rule may not apply to everyone but it can apply to a statistical majority...and I am very confident that if we were to conduct a randomized controlled trial where we subject groups of women who married as virgins and those who did not to the same stimulus - men asking them out and requesting a clandestine meeting - you will likely find that more women who had extensive sexual experience before marriage will likely heed the invitation...

GOD did not put the hymen in a woman's body for nothing. It is there for a reason. You can discount it all you want but it doesn't change the fact that virgins are almost always better to marry than hoes...virgins have private part, hoes have public part, Lol. You can privatize and monopolize what is already private but attempting to privatize and monopolize what is already in public domain is just plain foolish!

efficiencie:
You were literally waiting for this moment, lol...The event I mentioned happened in the first few weeks of me knowing her and I did not have intercourse with the said lady...rather I flirted with her and I called myself out on that. As far as I am concerned flirting is cheating. In the end, I am not saying I am a saint and I deserve a virgin. I, in my previous posts, said even men who have had extensive sexual damage from their past also need healing. I knew this and was deliberate about breaking off from my past and healing all the damage I did to myself...and it paid off because since I started with my wife I have never had intercourse with another woman (particularly my EXs) even though we were in a long distance relationship 70% of the time. I have heard men say they cannot have a long distance relationship with their girlfriend or wife because they are very sure she will cheat but in my case after leaving my woman in one state to further my studies and look for job in another state (more than 800km away), I still returned to her, after spending several months, to find her intact... it was such a great honor to have such a woman.

I do not deserve her but I realize the importance of marrying a virgin for the sake of a sustainable marriage and avoiding stories that end in suicide...this is why I say again ladies should stop spreading their legs before marriage, they should remember that what they call fun leads to sexual damage and a sexually damaged person can only bring sorrow and pain even though they don't mean to. If more ladies closed their legs, fewer men will find the opportunity to cheat but today many men are so confident that with a slice of pizza and a glass of juice he can get almost any lady to spread her legs up to 180 degrees and allow him vaccinate her until her body starts to drip with vaccine...

Aloof:
Yes, they complain all the time.
From one form of heartbreak to another.

If the guy don't complain that a lady cheated on him, he would complain that she has stopped replying his texts.

Always asking what to do here and there and crying like babies.

My question is, don't women get heartbroken too? Why are they not always complaining like guys.

Does it mean they are now more mentally matured and stronger than men?
If so, then I'm afraid to say that The Future will definitely be female.

Godoverevery:
My fiancee is attending a childhood friend wedding this Saturday....We are meant to attend together but it is no reception wedding.(boldly written on IV)

My question is it right to sell aso ebi for a wedding that has no reception because we had to cough out more than 20k for the lace/gele and bachelorette party material alone.

I am feeling this just a clever way to extort money from friends or am I wrong.

efficiencie:
once...but I confessed it to her and repented of it and since that last occurrence it has never happened!

stancydg:
Thanks. Just concerned for the young ones. Saw a musically sound lady from Ondo state get discouraged yesterday for nothing.

efficiencie:
it's been a rewarding experience so far...awaiting the testimony of others though...

Kalatium:
It seems most of us do not know about other states in Nigeria. As such i want to use this arena for us to enumerate the languages in our respective states.

I noticed that most people down south assume that once you are from the North you are hausa (aboki) likewise those up north are ignorant of down south.

In case you don't know Kaduna State alone has about 60 languages alone. Names on the bracket is their alternative names.

KADUNA STATE
1. Atyap(kataf)
2. Akurmi(Kurama)
3. Anghan ( Kamanton)
4. Amo,
5. Aruruma(Ruruma)
6. Atachaat ( Kachechere),
7. Kadara(adara)
8. Atuku,
9. Ayu,
10. Bajju,
11. Bakulu/Ikulu
12. Bhazar/Koro
13. Bur (Sanga),
14. Binawa,
15. Dingi,
16. Fantswam,
17. Fulfulde ,
18. Gbagyi,
19. Gure,
20. Gwandara,
21. Gwong (Kagoma),
22. Ham ( Jaba),
23. Hausa,
24. Jangi,
25. Kaibi,
26. Kahugu,
27. Kanufi,
28. Kigono,
29. Kinugu,
30. Kitimi,
31. Kiwafa,
32. Kiwollo,
33. Kono,
34. Kuvori (Surubu),
35. Kuturmi,
36. Tsam (Chawai)
37. Mada (Mardan)
38. Nandu,
39. Nduyah,
40. Numana,
41. Nindem,
42. Ningeshe,
43. Ninkyop,
44. Ninzo,
45. Nyenkpa (Yeskwa),
46. Oegworok,
47. Pikal,
48. Pitti,
49. Ribang,
50. Rishuwa,
51. Rumada,
52 Ruruma,
53. Rumayya,
54. Shemawa
55. Sholio (Marwa),
56. Siyawa
57. Takad,
58. Tarri, and
59. Lemoro * not sure,



What about you how many languages does your state has?