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giftygirl1:
You are a very mean person!�

PrimadonnaO:
Your mum isn't cool. These are the kind of families I know I can't marry into. Instead of OP to have respectfully told his mother it wasn't right of her to expect his girlfriend to launder her clothes, he was there saying he'll talk to her.

Talk to her about what, oga?

It pains me when people see the truth and still remain blinded by sentiment.

Raalsalghul:
I can't believe you just asked the bolded.

Anything wrong in wanting the right partner for your kids?

Go ahead and criticize the MIL as you like, but in about 25 to 30 years from now, you would likely do the same.

Her approach might be wrong, but she has the right intentions.

1F30M4:
Your mum should be more bothered that she has 6 children right under her roof there and none of them could assist her with laundry but nooo she'd rather look for faults in your fiancèe and then tell you how she isn't the one for you

Omolomo went the first time, helped her with the laundry, even stood while washing, as per wife material 1000yards Mama still talk sey she no wash am well (to her own standard).. Sisi Iyawo decided to visit Mama again, this time alone so she can bond well with her dear Iya oko but she "apparently" forgot her "home training" at home and Iya oko isn't having all of that.. Matter don turn to "she DISRESPECT me ALOT" na wa ooo.. Naim be sey, in future, if something as little as not having same views with Mama, wahala go shele.. Today, your wife offended me o, tomorrow your wife offended me sha, next tomorrow your wife offended me ni, everyday your wife offended me ni sha but don't tell her o, she must find out on her own and apologize to me.. Edakun werriz the peace tori oloun smh I don't envy you at all at all.. Waiiit for the one that will pass all Mama's tests you hear, just don't be tired of waiting.

Cleanworld:
And you think that the mother is a fool ? ofcourse there are plenty ways to catch a fish

Anigreat:





It sounds so ridiculous bro, but again, the girl didn't try at all. She should atleast try and help in the washing. Those are the things our mothers looked out for in a girl. Some will deliberately go to kitchen and start cooking, just to observe and see the girl's reaction, if she'll join them there to help. Failure for the girl to do so, they instantly mark her X . All these things are simple test, if the girl knows it, she'll just be playing along.

descarado:
I blame the desperate girl who want to marry by all means.
Eye service has killed many young marriages cos u will start hearing stuffs like" she or he changed after marriage
Mbok.


Why will I visit the mum in the first place?
Don't I have self respect?
Visit with your guy officially and go your way.
The way you present yourself is how you will be treated.
Full stop.

jadeliyi:
a word is enough ....

grossintel:
I can't respond to everyone nor modify the post so I pick a few and hope others see it. No, they where not expecting any money and even if they where certainly not 100k. When I finally spoke to her Mom the following day, I gave them the benefit of doubts and paid close attention.

She said they where expecting money from a man, but this man hadn't been picking their calls so even after the money was transferred to them, they tried calling this man again but he still didn't pick. So technically he was avoiding them! Remember they said initially its a friend from abroad? But now she said it's a church member who promised to send them money sometime ago when they reached out to him. This was after I asked how they could make calls to the US considering you'll have to add country code and all and how expensive it can be.

Then she went on to say, they concluded he wasn't the one. And thought maybe it's the same angel who randomly sent them 10k in December. So technically this had happened before and they didn't hesitate to spend it without verifying the source. She also stressed the fact that there was no food for weeks now at home, and she's sorry for taking what doesn't belong to them that her husband and suggested they wait till Monday but she insisted they use it because they are in desperate need for money.

I asked her what's left, she said 40k. But they can run around and make it 50k, then later she said they can make it 60k. I just knew they still had a lot left but I told them not to worry and send the 40k so they don't go borrowing. I took the blame, told them I agreed someone was supposed to send them 100k for food items so it's understandable they thought it was from this person.

So people saying am wicked and shiit, like I'm trying to harrase the family didn't read or understand my post. I never even spoke to them until the next day when I was calm because I knew speaking to them at the heat of things won't be a good idea. Till today, her dad still owes me 50k for their last child school fees he borrowed a year ago which he promised to payback the following month when he gets his salary. I wrote it off instantly, and initially planned to tell him "Daddy don't worry, use that to get yourself something nice" when he tries to refund me. He even used the word "I promise you" He never called to let me know his challenges or make attempts to acknowledge he borrowed money but couldn't pay. That one died like that, so when they started telling all these stories I knew it wasn't true.

I love their daughter, else I won't even be in contact with her family to begin with. It's not worth crashing our relationship and future together, but I'll definitely be wary of her family when it involves money. Anything I'm going to give them has to go through her, never saving their account number again. It's not justifiable to spend what doesn't belong to you because it entered your account. If you think it's perfectly okay, there is no difference with you and an average Yahoo boy because that's exactly what they do.

Foodqueen:
Her star was linked to her husband's and since she decided to leave him.....well

Seeing too many movies on Africa magic will not kill me

CapedBaldy:
all that's left is for him to create percentage for himself as payment for creating the formula.

Silentgroper:
News reaching me nw abt most nl females is dat dey've got shallow thought plus no sense.

judging by dz comment i quoted.

austin2all:
Truth is good girls are rare and very hard to find. My own girl will do those and even more, I remember when she will insist we lap in a bus from island to orile to iyanoba just to save a few naira notes, other passengers go dey laff us but she would never mind. Give her 1k for food and you are so sure to have some change back. She so adjusted and practically turned to almost a village girl then. Supports me when I'm down and about givin up. She ofcourse is not perfect because no one is. We all have our flaws, but the beautiful thing is her good deeds and heart outshines all other negativities when measured. Just an ordinary average guy like me, even when the mighty are falling head over heels just to have a talk with her.
Any girl that can go through such hurdles is worth doing anything for, but unfortunately they are so very few.

doggedfighter:
You go fear sharing formula

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Sixfeetbelle:
What if the confirmation was done and marked as sent from the sender?

Sixfeetbelle:
It's not greed. You're saying that because you're viewing this from one angle but I'll show you another angle to thing.

Two months ago, my mom asked me to transfer money to a man who did manual work for her. Normally, once I do the transfer, the receiver gets it immediately, but that day in particular, network was from the devil. The man called almost every hour wanting to know what was holding the money. Something I started trying around 11am was finally sent around 7pm. Now imagine if sometime in the afternoon, a mistake transfer had entered the man's account and he assumed it was from me. Would you say he's greedy for spending money he was already expecting?

firstworld:
The HR person is at fault I am in HR and because of these kinds of reactions, I usually start my calls by introducing myself first so the other person knows who is calling and is at ease. He could have simply said "I am John D calling from bank. That wouldnt hurt. That said, the lady should have been cautious as a job seeker that was just interviewed and expecting phone calls. Lets call a spade a spade please.

lilvicky68:
If money enter your account and nobody call you to acknowledge the money..you no go spend am?

twoMcfemad:
This Happened this Morning

My wife looked over our balcony and somehow she saw our Neighbour's Kids- a boy aged 4 and a girl aged 7 of the same parent having sex behind the house close to the fence.

She came to call me and what I saw was unbelievable; we were upstairs so they didn't realize someone was watching.

For like 10 minutes, we stood to watch in amazement the acts the kids performed- it was purely an adult scene as the kids performed different styles to an extent that the girl had to rub the boy's Joystick and force him to suck her nipples when he couldn't maintain an erection.

I wanted to stop them at first but It was like I was dreaming but at one point called the girl and the two were shocked to see us. They quickly put on their clothes and ran.

I am thinking of telling their parent what we saw but I am afraid they'll defend their kids and take it to be false.

Our relationship with the parent is just Good Morning and that's all.

I don't know where they saw what they performed as this morning show wouldn't be their first time, but I guess they saw their parent doing such.

Shall I tell their parent or... ?

Exmilitant:
It doesn't depend on how you raise them! Discard that thought. Recently, an 11year old girl was rushed to a teaching hospital. Did you know why? The young girl use the handle of a kitchen knife to deflower herself. Did you know why? Her father, a millonaire allowed her all the toys money could buy. Imagine a well guarded 11year old with an Iphone! Shun that mentality of, 'my children no go smell poverty'. Discipline in the long run pays off.

Jmw2kblogposts:
Did you see the part where i said i didn't want any feminist wh0r£ on this thread?
Because you all will always be gender biased, of all the things i typed about my awful experience with her because i did what i felt was right, all you could pick out was this stupid thing you just asked?? ARE YOU SERIOUS?