₦airaland Forum

tope2000:
The girl needs agony aunt not me

help her before topup and her group come around pls. it is good for young minds like her to help her out of this silly boys hand.  i dont know how they bring up boys today. cant imagine drinking a womans fanta in my time let alone asking her for money.  some people are a disgrace. poverty of the mind

ifyalways:
date a girl for 2 good years still no idea of who she is,where she lives/what she does?
@Poster,do you even listen to yourself?"she said shes a student . . . ." shame on you 
you might as well be sleeping with a ghost.tufiakwa some men.tsk !

please someone help me with that song  sleeping open eye.  this is the kind of sleep i don't like. leave this girl alone oga and please take her pics down or i will personally send this link to the police tomorrow morning.
she could be somebodys wife. please i beg you take it down

  admin@police.gov.ng    Telephone: 09-2340868

@tope2000 your people need your services here please  

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=187542.msg2989934#msg2989934

tpia:
so what is the truth?

Danke:
the truth is-------------igbo ,yoruba,edo,hausa,calabar r all one

i refer you to the answer the fabulous lady has given you.  the fact is people are just breaking their heads over irrelivant issues here.  my great auntie the agent provocateur is somewhere probably sleeping. sister nwando playing some music and some people taking other treads wahala here.

we are all permitted to see the world differently. i come from benin and yoruba land. my dad people insult my mum people and you guess right my mum people do better than them at it. we dont go to war over it. that is life nigeria style.  i dont understand why some kids want to cut their life short for things they dont have control over

PepERSprAY:
them don give you chop?

you se somebody dont go wake my auntie now

tpia:
you know, when you say these things, you should also add a side note explaining that you're half-Igbo ( Igbo mom). So people understand where you're coming from. Nothing wrong with admiring Igbo women, if your mom is one.

But before people start jumping up to say: "oh look- even a Yoruba man agrees that Igbo women are better than Yoruba women" or some such tribal mentality. Its all about tact and sensitivity.

Never mind the fact that Igbos will still see you as Yoruba anyway. So the stereotypes still apply to you. Believe it or not.

you peeps dont do war in NZ?  point well made

plus_Queen:
make I go drink water from my baff

have compassion on them as they say

DavidDylan:
Igbo girls are some of the best chics you can ask for. yoruba girls come a close second.

An igbo woman knows how to pamper her man well.

bro david. you want to cause another ethnic war on nairaland. the truth must never be said here.  you know there are some temperamental kids let loose on NL looking for people to abuse.

well you are a child of light so the light of truth is permitted to shine and where possible cause offense and injury to the lawless

funny how people ask questions above their pay grade as the lovely obama would say.

is  God responsible for the tribalists and zenophobic murderers in the middle east, africa and europe?
is  God migrating  the hookers and prostitutes from africa to europe today?
is God responsible for all of human decisions?
is God behind the myopic misguided people trying to prove there is no God in this forum?
is God responsible for all the immoral earnings people are living off today?
is he responsible for the drugs and illicit sex people indulge in all over the world?

some of youwish there was no God. have you imagine how you are able to breathe and how easily the gift can be taken away from.

when i get straight answers to these we begin to talk.

you are not as immortal as some of you think. you are just a breath away from your last breath but for the mercies of the God you so much hate with your small minds.

why do you strive with your maker o mortal man? dont you see what His hands and will created and be in awe?

see how innocent and better people than you and i are going to face eternity in a twinkle of an eye yet people who have no clue sit on NL asking questions


Tributes paid to family of six killed in motorway crash
Police given 36-hour extension to continue questioning driver held on suspicion of causing death by dangerous driving



Members of the Statham family who died in the M6 crash

Elouise, Michelle, Mason and Jay (front) Statham, who all died in a crash on the M6. Photograph: Cheshire Police/PA

Neighbours and colleagues today paid tribute to a "model family" of six who died when their car burst into flames after a series of collisions in congested motorway traffic.

The tributes came as Cheshire police were given a 36-hour extension to continue questioning a driver held on suspicion of causing death by dangerous driving.

Officers can keep Paulo Jorge Silva, 46, who was driving for a Spanish firm, in custody until 11.45pm tomorrow.

A police spokesman said the process was going slowly because an interpreter was needed in interviews.

The Statham family – including three children and a baby – died in the crash between junctions 16 and 17 of the M6 at Sandbach, Cheshire, as they were returning to their home in Llandudno, north Wales.

Chef David Statham, 38, his wife, Michelle, 33, a financial adviser, and their children Reece, 13, Jay, nine, Mason, 20 months, and Elouise, 10 weeks, had been visiting family in Birmingham when they were caught in a collision involving three lorries and two cars.

One of the Statham's neighbours, Vince Collina, 49, said he had felt a horrible sense of worry yesterday when he discovered the six dead came from Llandudno.

"My heart just sank when I found out and my mouth went dry. Then the confirmation came and it has just knocked us for six.

"They were a wonderful, model family, just six beautiful people. The kids were so polite and the parents hard-working, they were really neighbourly.

"They were always pleasant and chatty and really contributed to a sense of public spirit on the street. Everybody is really shocked and traumatised."

Statham had worked as a chef at St David's College, a private boarding and day school for 11- to 18-year-olds, for two years.

The school's bursar, Judith Leslie, said: "David was a well-liked member of staff, always had a friendly smile and would lend a helping hand - nothing was ever too much trouble.

"He will be very sadly missed. He made a huge impression because he was so amiable and cheerful."

Mrs Statham worked as a financial adviser at Beresford Adams, where her boss, Mark Slater, described her as a very warm woman with a strong personality.

"We are all devastated. Michelle was a very popular and well-respected member of staff, not just with her colleagues but across the branches. She was not just a colleague, she was a friend to many."

At Reece's school, John Bright Secondary, teachers and pupils said prayers for the family.

The headteacher, Irene Perry, said Reece was a "model pupil" who was courteous, cheerful and always positive. He was an avid Aston Villa fan who was proud of his Brummie accent, she said.

Statham grew up in Sutton Coldfield, West Midlands, where his mother, Angela, still lives. Neighbours there said the family moved away for "a nicer quality of life" in Wales. Next-door neighbour Judy Alexander said the family had been visiting Michelle Stratham's parents and did not believe that Angela Stratham, who was recently widowed, had ever seen her granddaughter.

David and Michelle Statham had desperately wanted a little girl and finally got their wish when Elouise was born 10 weeks ago, said Alexander.

Angela Stratham had been "shocked to the core" when she was told the news.

The mayor of Llandudno, Bill Evans, said plans would be made for an official remembrance service in the town if the Stathams' relatives wanted it.

Police said the scene on the M6 was "like a war zone", and that emergency crews who had attended would need counselling.

Inspector Brian Rogers, of Cheshire police, said: "There was the utter devastation of this vehicle." The Stratham's car was so badly damaged by the collision and fire that it had to be identified by its chassis number.

The collision happened less than two hours after the former Wigan Warriors rugby league star David Myers, 37, died when his van hit a bridge support on the same stretch of motorway.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2008/oct/22/transport

ilurveit:
Ok first of all I know this is going to sound like poor me ooo, I'm really suffering with my upper middle class background and I don't want it to come across that way at all because I'm really greatful to God for my upbringing.

I'll admit I'm someone who grew up comfortable and ok a little ajebota-ish. My family is small. I have only one sister so my parents were really able to take care of us because they had good jobs. We weren't at all spoilt like we never just asked for money or took everything for granted like that, we always were grateful for everything we had and was given to us and we realised that none of what we had really belonged to us as in it was God's grace and our parent's generousity. We were expected to excel in school and in everything we did which we fulfilled.

Anyway, to my question. I recently returned from the US after finishing my bachelor's and I've been at home trying to organize my service (NYSC) for the next cycle. Since I've been home, I'm noticing one thing. Random guys in church and at my job keep toasting me. So at first I was flattered because I'm someone who's very honest with themselves and I know while I'm ok-looking, I'm not THAT fine like that. So I started talking to this guy, and like after a week of like really good conversation, he was like asking to borrow N90,000. I was soooooooo taken aback because I'm there like work experience so he knows I'm earning less than him so that means he must have been expecting me to ask my parents for that kind of money which of course I can't. I know they are working very hard for the money and I can't just ask for that amount like that. So when I refused the guy became very cold. This has happened again like 3 or 4 times with other guys and I'm getting really disillusioned.

I've never talked about my background with anyone at work or at church, when people ask where I stay, I try to be vague about it because I just really want to fit in. So it's not as if anyone knows me like that. But somehow they've judged me and made assumptions about me based on my parents (at church) and on Godknowswhat (at work) and now I can't even tell who wants to be friends for real and who wants me because of my parents financial situation. I'm not a snob at all, I'm really friendly and I'm the kind of person who can hang out with anyone.

So Nairalanders, my question is how do I trust people/guys who are trying to get close to me? And what can I do to get guys to like me for myself not my parents background.

be very carefull. it is naija thing to ask people for money knowing they wont ever pay back. i smell being taken advantage of. you dont need to tell anyone how rich you are. nigerians are smart and dig for unnecesary info. i have been there done that pulled off the T shirt some yrs back. it makes you think and work harder to find the right relationship. coming from your background and being grounded should help you make a better choice than the typical users and free loaders.

guys still like girls even after they know that the girls are only with them for their money

true but have you noticed that in majority of the cases too it gives the men great power of choice too?

topup, gamine, tope2000 and co this is your territory so come help one of our own out

KunleOshob:
Pastor huxley, you mix u issues again, in the verse you referenced to the term "adultery" was used. In other wards Jesus was talking about lusting after a married woman and not a spinster. Adultery can only be commited if at least one of the people involved is married. So the issue of future partner does not arise within that context.

a very confused rev, dr this huxler is. he claims he is not interested in God's existence yet cannot stop asking all these confused questions.

naomijt:
Stupid post . . .
And sure, one area I can agree with the poster is that it is a sin to lust after your partner or have sex before marriage.

the godly struggles with this daily. just imagine how the ungodly sorts this one out

Gamine:
Again, i say. Big deal!
I just gave out my number some minutes ago.
I don't know if dey kill pipu through phone o!!

you are def. something else young lady. our people wahala over silly things too much. how much does sim card cost that you can't cut into 2? all the business magnets are going to rush here now telling how important their numbers are.

you make us laugh

darfur:
after u guys call white people racist. 

PLEASE SAY THAT AGAIN.  some fatherless kids here are worse than nazis and racists. seun gave them a free access site to come rant their stupidity on anyone they come across. i don't blame them. i blame the buy now pay later culture we have in the west that gave them access to a PC. some people should never have been allowed to leave the shores of nigeria.

ask your husband help in sending them away nicely, make sure you explain to themvery well that it is your decision to build a better marraige. i am all for helping family but against people who are inconsiderate to young couples

ignorance is bliss and very expensive. a world where people can sit behind a hire purchase laptop and abuse people older than their mum and dad is a very pleasant world.

thank God for phillipinos and scandanavians

gamechange:
Also it is worth noting here that for those who take on  children of school age as domestics, please , please please, give them a chance at education or vocation.

thank you

it  can work. get yourself a good job. save money. make loads of calls, emails and travel to see her as much as necessary. if it is already serious, make sure the parents know you are on scene. more importantly,keep yourself pure. keep your word and be faithfull

jay bee:
d same reason why i normally go with the line:
let me give u a missed call so u can have mine

clever.

you wish you get taller and better being abusive. enjoy yourself

your problem is yu bring every irrelevant past into new threads. i dont particularly like mentioning any name but i think there is no need for insults over the silliest of matters. tribalists are as ugly as the racists and the nazis in my book

@sister nwando, how do igbos say silent and ignore pls?

good you know something is iffy about this. if there is one medicine i would like to give nigerians it is one that would make us leave young couples alone without crowding their houses and relationships.
we now have phones so dont need to be in peoples lives as before. let alone go and stay

having got that out of my mind, i would recommend you ask yourself how you 2 of your people got there. was he happy about this? is he happy now? put yourself in his position i.e having 2 of your in-laws with you at home

Ifygurl:
@pepperspray
DON'T YOU EVER INSULT MY MOTHER. If i didn't insult yours; don't ever insult mine.

na somebody auntie all of una dey yab soooooo! this is not good.

@karma this is a small matter. you could easily get a masters for this research effort. on a serious note, lets calm down this is a small matter

KarmaMod:
Half truths galore!  don't know why I bother since I know she's going to ignore this thread now despite screaming for "proof"
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-65629.0.html

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-72102.0.html - source of IykeD quote
- https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-89470.0.html

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-18580.32.html#msg541705 - abi you no be babyosisi again?
- nwado

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-87065.0.html

Like funmi, you are always "hearing",,abi you no be nwado again?

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-175950.0.html

-by osisi's friend ikeyman.

etc


shio yet I'm the one with "issues". don't make me laugh

can you guys go back to the topic pls

the days you do what you like are gone past its sell by date sir. if you want to like what you did what is the use asking people opinion

spikedcylinder:
How can a car made in 2003 be 8 years old? Or is this some kind of auto language that I don't understand?

spike why you dey put wahala for my bros maths na? the bobo wan make him point you dey draw his leg out

To be honest closure is for people who are in a relationship and they broke up over vague reasons. Cheating in relationships don't require closure because it means giving a reason for the demise of the relationship

I wish life was this cut and dry. it is always good we advice people. lets learn not to take this things too personal. nobody owe us a duty of doing anything we suggest/recommend. i believe we will do more good if we dont let our emotions run into issues that are very distant from us

dying young is in vogue by the look of it.

yimiton:
Really can't believe people still go around having sex with such carelessness and utter indiscipline. This guy was having it as it it was going out of fashion.
And one thing I noticed, you're not doing the screwing here, you're being screwed because you lack total self control, and you call someone a bitch  ? Oh my gosh! See the pot calling the kettle black.

Finally, instead of deciding to use condoms, decide to abstain until marriage then, you can have it with only your wife. Remember, even condoms are not 100% safe.

condoms is naija cure for promisquity