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victorian:
I'm. Not saying she should treat men badly.

I simply said she shouldn't use Her money to feed a guy.

If the guy wants a meal, let him provide the necessary ingredients for it with his own money, then she can cook if she want but not with her money.

Does it now mean that's treating badly?

It's not.


She will simply protect herself from being used as mother Christmas and sucked dry.

There are many good guys out there who are only not yet lucky with getting jobs and making enough cash. The problem boils down to the kinds of guys you ladies like falling for. You fall for the players who are out to play games and yet you complain when you're played and tag all men as evil.
Choose your men wisely!

SweetCunt97:
My dear that was how I decided to to give a broke man a chance due to the nonsense these silly frustrated men post here and I entered bush o... Better one chance. I won't try that nonsense in my life again!

One thing you ladies should know is that just like you have a desire to marry rich and comfortable men, such men may also not desire you on so many grounds like age, bad attitude etc


Rich men also have choices!

victorian:
Phadg :

Word of advice: please stop feeding men or else they will take u as maga and suck you dry
Most naija men are insecure, they prefer women they can spend on. Forget the I'm independent and all. They appreciate and marry women whom they spend on.

Secondly don't ever tell. A man u live alone or else your once peaceful home becomes his lodge. Don't try it pls. Always claim u live with relatives.

It's good to lie sometimes, so they won't take advantage of you.

Cos men these days, their hearts is hardening more and more to destroy good women and make bad woman psychopaths. Later they cry foul online and say fear women. Whereas they are the ones who recreated the kind of women we have these days

Be very careful whom u fall in love with.

Be extremely careful. Times have changed drastically.

Always use your brain and not your heart.

Las Las u will see someone who complements u and not ready to destroy u, all. In the name. Of I love you.

Too many destroyers out there. Be wise.

Why do you ladies have a penchant for blaming men in everything
Just like we have many bad guys out there, we equally have many bad women who treat good guys like trash! Should we now start treating women badly while blaming our actions on the experiences we had with the bad women

This was one of the reasons I cried so much the day my dad was buried... I loved my dad so much but he never knew how much I loved him till he died.

Hearing from the guys that dumped you might reveal the real truth about your personality and the reason why they left you. Typing all the epistles about how great a person you are is not enough to convince any discerning mind.

In a nutshell, check yourself and see if there are some inexcusable faults you have which might be driving men away from you. If however there ain't any such faults, then I'll advise you stop dating irresponsible boys on the grounds of some emotions, but wait for real men to desire and come for you. While waiting, make yourself that kind of lady you'll encourage your brothers and future sons to marry.

Good to hear that your brother is back!

faithfull18:
You aren't nice fa. He refused to give his wife the Y-chromosome and he is complaining.

Or he could be giving the Y chromosomes but the wife's body isn't accepting!

The sex of the fetus is not exclusively determined by the man's contributions of sex chromosomes. Feminists and women apologists have tried to make the world believe that sex of a baby is solely determined by the man, but those of us who have some extra knowledge of science and reproduction know that a combination of factors from both the man and woman come into play in deciding sex.

Meanwhile, personally I don't discriminate between the two sexes. I love both male and female children equally.

When you advise girls to stop dating and opening "nyash" for irresponsible jobless boys, they'll think you don't know what you're talking about. Next, they'll start talking trash about being in "love" and bla bla bla.

Girls generally don't know how to make decision of whom is good for them in a relationship, they tend to base their choices on ephemeral things like looks and other inconsequential things. Op clearly stated it in her post that "those who want her, she doesn't " love " them while those she wants usually don't want her " Imagine such nonsense!

A man who truly want you would not abandon you with pregnancy! In most cases of men who run away after impregnating a girl, if one digs deep, one would discover that the girls were the ones practically forcing themselves on the guys in the name of yeye "love". While noble men would be honest from onset and tell such ladies they don't want her, players would only " chop and clean mouth " before abandoning her.

Wise girls wait for the guys to be the ones "falling in love" so they can condition the relationship properly in a way that their interests will be protected, but foolish girls fall yakata for fine face and physique of a player, hence they get played with pregnancy and a child/children out of wedlock as the outcome

CeterisXVII:
Who cares? Does that add one naira to anybody's pocket?

NFCS does!

CeterisXVII:
That is your own headache. Another man who is far better than you by far, will pick her up and treat her well.....

OK ma'am... but I have got myself a "psychedelic babe" (borrowing your phrase) who is also a virgin to marry!

unmask:
I am not interested in marrying a virgin.....most are usually not adventurous and socially awkward.

Me I'm honestly interested in marrying a virgin.

I don't need any adventures in my marriage and my sociability can serve the two of us.

Story for the gods!

Meanwhile, we know that virginity doesn't guarantee stable marriage but CHANCES are higher that marriage to a virgin lady would be more stable than that of an overused hoE.


Thank you

bukatyne:
Let us both keep wondering.
Wonder, wonder, wonder, wonder...

Yes o
Of course, WONDERS shall never end.

bukatyne:
I am assuming the virgin is the wife because it can be easily proven.

If the husband married the wife JUST because she is a virgin and it is spelt out:

Finding out the wife is not is marriage under false pretenses.

Is it grounds for divorce, I do not think so as the marriage has been consummated (they have had sex) and the wife did not cheat.

My wonder:
1. Why would a wife lie to a man she wants to marry/sleep with about her virginity?
2. What man marrys a woman just because she is a virgin?

You wonder what man marries a woman just because she is a virgin
Me too, I wonder what woman marries a man just because he is rich?

All the while I have been raising alarm about the poor state of our health sector, some people thought I was complaining because I hate Buhari.

Now, Coronavirus will teach you all some lessons and I pray that those that would survive the pandemic would learn how to be proactive and not reactive in dealing with issues relating to healthcare.

Imagine owing health workers salary! Where else is it done if not in a hellhole called Nigeria

This story is not true

And the unfortunate ones that shot God catapult on his assz had to pay with their lives!

What a partial God we serve!

Joystark:
One minute, they say "woman up and shoot your shot".
The next, "So na she toast the guy? She's so cheap"

Abeg wetyn world pipo really want?

If you shoot your shut by proposing to a man, would you also shoot your shut and pay for the marriage, rent a house for the family, take the man home and provide for him

Only a man should propose marriage when he is ready to meet the marital responsibilities of a man.

sweetdude001:
Nigerians r so stupid, attaching sentiment to every little thing, she successfully painted d guy bad, right I even feel d husband didn't really refuse as she claimed, maybe d man jus ignored when she suggested bringing her corrupt boy... D man's action shows wat his was trying to protect in d 1st place n if u all blame a man for protecting his own den Oyo is ur case..
Madam ur boy is now back home, do d needful, if DAT boy corrupts d oda kids den u go no say ur husband get werey

But honestly speaking bro, a 12years old boy shouldn't be described as a thief. He's just suffering from juvenile delinquencies which will pass with time. We all passed through that phase.

I'm not against the boy at all even though I'm against marrying a single mum. My initial anger on this thread was with the man who married a single mum despite knowing her status and even agreed to accept the woman and her baggage but is now trying to renege on the agreement.

Blessing642:
What is the brouhaha about a woman been a single parent. There are single fathers too.

Some women were victim of circumstances, some were in an abusive marriage, got divorced/separated and chose to be single. Some are even widows.

If she's a widow, then that's excusable.

But so long as the ex husband is still alive, someone like me won't have anything to do with a single mum.

Digmygold:
Sh*t happens.

There's one Ubunja moniker on this forum. He gets women pregnant, dupes them of their hard earned money and takes a walk because senseless idiots will always think it's the woman's fault. Good thing is Karma is teaching him a lesson. Worse thing is this animal was brought up by a single mother, hates his father like hell yet his past time is the raw wickedness of turning innocent women into single mothers.

And the single mothers were DUMMIES to have allowed themselves to be impregnated and used by the irresponsible man

I'll start taking ladies serious the day they start taking responsibilities for their actions and not blame men for whatever happens to them

And this man is supposedly a medical doctor
Religion has really done more harm than good to humanity!

Op, it depends on the kind of lady you married. It is good to study the background of any lady you plan to marry.

If a lady is raised in a decent home where the mum and dad live peacefully together, chances are high that the lady would have learnt from her mother how to keep a home.

Also, the kind of friends a lady keeps should never be overlooked when deciding whether to wife her or not. This is because it is hard to find a lady who reasons on her own without being influenced by her friends. If a lady is surrounded by pseudo feminists, men haters and gold diggers, brother such a lady is not good for marriage.

In summary, marry from a decent home. Maintain close and friendly relationship with your in-laws (mil especially) and you'll see how successful your marriage would be.

Though I'm not rooting for him for presidency yet, I know very well that those publishing articles and social media posts against Sanusi since his dethronement as emir are mischief makers who are out to tarnish his image for whatever reasons.

I also know that many northerners benefited and still benefit from Sanusi even from when he was CBN governor to the period he reigned as emir.

nahzyla:
Lol @ bold

Likewise men should stop complaining when women look for rich husbands that can provide for them and keep them as trophy wives instead of co breadwinners.
Enough of the 'liability' and 'gold digger' insults thrown at such women.

lol...I edited when I noticed you did same.

Of course, we ain't bothered about the kind of man ladies choose to marry provided they don't disturb us with the consequences of their choices. It's a free world

nahzyla:
Problem is that men want women to share their trtratrtradtrtratrtraditrtratrtradtrtratrtraditional duties but try feel too big to share women's roles.

Either too big or too proud or too inconsiderate.

Men are different my dear. while some men even do more of those traditionally women's roles, others may not want or are simply not cut out for such roles. Just find yourself the kind of man you think is good for you ok

nahzyla:
Add more sarcasm to this your comment na, the way you added sarcasm to the first one so that I can truly know that you agreed with me

I wasn't being sarcastic in my comment joor

It's the age of gender equality and we must be equal in all aspects

nahzyla:
Lol,
Very funny
Tell men to do housework they start getting angry and offended but they are perfectly fine with women working like Jackie to feed them and the children and join in paying houserent and other bills.
Men are not too superior to spend their wives sweat but they are too superior to be responsible for housework.

Ah!! But I agreed with you nau

nahzyla:
As long as una gree to be entering kitchen to cook along with wife and wake up to take care of baby, go shopping in market for food. sweep, wash etc.
Then well and good, women will take up all these responsibilities.

Yes!

We'll even draw up a roster indicating the days of the week each partner should do the cooking and dishing.
We'll equally get our own wrappers with which to tie the babies on our backs when going out.
In fact, we'll even share who should impregnate and who should be impregnated each time we want to have a baby! Wonderful!

Lmaoooo

nahzyla:
Men who cannot cook and clean and care for kids should not get married either.

Enough of the idiotic double standards.

And even wedding expenses and family expenses should be shared equally between the man and the woman.

In fact, enough of the double standards!

egopersonified:
Imagine being rejected at 12 by every single family member you know. I feel pity for the boy. This damage may never heal. I wish I could accommodate him. I can never trade the safety, love and peace of my kids for anything.

You only wish Of course you can accommodate him!

Ehiscotch:
But a woman can marry a single father right?
Such double standard.

If it were the man's child and the woman rejected him because he's stealing what would y'all say?

Oh, the usual bad stepmother narrative would follow.

I no even blame una, na the people wey dey carry personal matter dey come nairaland thinking they have counsellors here naim I blame.

I have seen children live without their parents before — with friends, relatives — and it's bad. They tend to be very rebellious due to a feeling of rejection. It's not very easy growing away from one parent not to talk of two. The child is only twelve and shouldn't even be called a "thief" or even suffer jungle justice.

I can't blame the woman. I don't care what happened in the previous relationship and we should all stop trying to be experts on this because we are not. People make mistakes; this is real life, shit happens.

People make mistakes by opening their "nyashes" for irresponsible men to impregnate them and when they're dumped they look for another foolish man to hang their baggage on I only blame the man who married her in the first place. I don't blame the woman at all