I think the moderators should ban copy-and-paste threads here.
I mean stories featured elsewhere that people lift onto Nairaland without their intellectual input.
It is simply plagiarism.

I had to go through this post thrice to convince myself that a vital information was missing here.
How can one write about a graduate of distinction, or any graduate for that matter, without mentioning his/her course of study?
Even the primary source was silent on this info.

If one tells you a mutual friend bought a car, the natural next question would be what kind or make of car.
Everybody must not post something. Read others until you have something meaningful to post.

Gluthatione:

That's very good of you brother , I really like your analysis on the matter. Seriously family section is one of the best sections in Nairaland , also I do visit religion section occasionally but d place have been invaded by the atheist so for me is not worth visiting again.
I also like travel and science and technology these sections are also nice too

It's true what you said about religion. Have you noticed the unnecessary arguments in that section - some times running into several pages.

Actually, my first contact with NL was in the Technology section, when I was researching DIY Free-to-Air satellite installation. That place also attracts serious minds.

I posted similar thread in the past (https://www.nairaland.com/3218157/which-sections-nairaland-visit-why).
Interestingly, only one person had something to say.

Most Nairalanders do not respond to posts that require rational thinking.
But if it were pictures of women's body parts or celebrity gossips, they will wake up.

Family section is where you get more serious minded and mature people discussing real problems.
Also Properties section obviously for those who are building or about to build.

I have not been to Romance in months because it is full of immaturity.

MsFaith:


I feel so excited reading this. I wish I read this before I gained admission. Knowledge is indeed power

Indeed. You said it all.

At lectures, you get the concept, scope and depth expected in the topic.

Some lecturers are good with analogies and you would miss out if you were absent.

Reading is good. It is during reading that you compare and validate what you heard in the class. Also, you will come across even better and simpler explanations of issues.

**I must say that threads like this are more useful and realistic than throwback pictures and what a lady wore to Church**

My first post in the Properties section.
This is not about those gleaming gigantic structures of corporations and the government.
Rather it is about those family houses we put up after years of working hard and saving.

Building designs and finishing are ever changing and we are under constant pressure to identify with what is said to be the latest in town.
In most cases, the new trend does not add useful functionality to the house and only notch up the cost of building.

What prompted this thread is that our family building has reached the leveling stage and we are debating which of concrete, aluminum, or polystyrene roofing parapet to use. Obviously, concrete parapet is a no-no because of the weight and cost implications.

I took time to research roofing parapets, and materials that popped up were mostly on Nairaland.
I am a practical person and I don't just go with flow if it is not better and improve functionality.

I am particularly impressed by the contributions of Spyder, Benovals, Brabus, etc, on the topic "Parapet Roofing Questions & Answers - Properties - Nairaland." See link here:https://www.nairaland.com/2637134/parapet-roofing-questions-answers

I am not saying that a beautiful house is not good but much of the money spent on the exterior could be applied elsewhere.
What is the essence of a beautiful house that does not function properly?

Even now, people still design buildings with stepped up dinning room floors and stepped down sitting room.
My building plan had these and I had to level up everything. In other societies, they avoid them because they are a fall risk.
Besides, they make moving furniture and appliances around the house difficult.

Most family houses have generators at the back of the house plus other activities that warrant going there from within the house.
At pegging, I discovered that there was no provision to access the back yard except one goes out the front door and then round to the back.
We had to convert a toilet and a bath space into a passage and create a door that leads to the back.

Fancy may not be functional. There was a post here sometime ago on the mistakes "architects" make...
Sometimes I see too many appendages affixed to a building and I wonder what purpose they serve.
Like Brabus said, they only serve to increase the cost of building without adding much function.

I understand the vogue now is rectangular frontal pillars instead of the twin circular columns.
I tend to favour the the latter because they don't go out of fashion and I like the gothic appearance.
Now my wife is pressuring for the rectangular pillars because they are the latest design and they can be marbled.
My fear is that such designs will soon go out of fashion like the penthouse and the very steep roofing style nicknamed "send-down-the-rain."

What is the purpose of POP on the ceiling? Is it better than sandtex ( I hope that's the name), that gritty surface that looks like sprayed concrete, Lol)?I may sound old-fashioned but my drift is that we should not encumber our finances with structures that do not add values to our building merely because others are doing so. Keep it simple and functional and do not be quick to use designs that will not sustain.

I may draw a lot of flak from some readers. But then, we need further enlightenment. We need to be convinced. Experts, please come in.

ourema:

I thought it has gone through clinical trials before the announcement. Nigeria government and their policy

I thought so, too.
Much ado about a substance that had some effects on mice.
Such info usually should still be within the confines of the laboratory until the drug is ready human use. It's not worth the media hype.

Money, money, money...
It is very important to be able to balance one's spending against availability.

As a guy, are you going to wash down every meal with beer/wine and take your babe out to expensive restaurants when your resources are lean?

Or as a lady, do you think you need that designer handbag for lectures or that expensive wristwatch?

You do not have to run back home asking for more money earlier than expected.

Is this a draft or the finished product?
Looks more like a plain poultry farm.
Aesthetics is poor.

The Bible asks "Does a man gather fire in his bosom and not be burnt?"

It beats me how some people, here, advice that a matter that requires pure rational decision be taken to God in prayer.

My sister, please refer to one of my posts about AS genotype individual marrying a fellow AS. It's as if i wrote that piece for you.

Like others advised, you should not marry the AS guy because when the reality of a sickler hits you, there will be lots of nagging and regrets. The love will then fade.

You are good with AA guy.

metallisc:



stop sounding stupid even though you think you are making sense. this same scenario has happened right before my eyes in the estate where i live, the guy in question doesn't talk to/interact with anybody in his family anymore! because you haven't seen/experienced something doesn't mean it is not in existence.. the world is bigger than your backyard!

Now you are cooking up another story just to support yourself!

Gten:
Hi, first and foremost are you her next of kin? Or did she die intestate (without a will) If yes, please approach a lawyer to help you facilitate a letter of administration from court. Take the letter to the bank, you have all the legal backing to access her funds. Please ensure you retrieve the money your mum would want you to have it. Best of luck!
Even if you are the next of kin, banks would still demand a letter of administration, it is a tactical way of shifting liability from themselves in the event dispute arises.

You said it all.

Some guy above said the "money is a gonner."
It shows how very little he knows about how systems work.

raumdeuter:
Most likely a fake story and a product of the twitter users imagination just to get attention

Indeed.
I am surprised that most readers here believe this story.
Even mad people don't hurt their own.

Some stories are so nakedly ununbelievable you can see the falsehood in them.

Must one post a thread?
Read others if the idea is not there, please!

What is the probability that a man squanders money
his son sent him to build a house? Almost zero.

And to think that some people, by their responses, believe this April Fool gimmicks beats me!

Some Nairalanders do not digest a post before commenting; they are only interested in just saying something or to be the first to comment as if it is an achievement.

kerryjossy:
Pls of what use is this thread to me??

Really, it baffles me what people think is worthy of serving the public here. Is this the best the OP can do?

Power outage is not a new phenomenon in Nigeria.
The OP must be from another planet.

And it made news here!

Those attacking this post or making negative comments obviously are victims of the MMM scam.
They are only trying to muster some hopes and optimism by justifying their unintelligent investments.

In the world of financial investments, interest rates are not such a windfall...
Even a typical illiterate great grandma knows this much.

The scheme just uses money gotten from Mr A to pay Mr B, and from Mr C to pay Mr B.
When the chain of payment breaks, as many as have not been paid lose out.

I am baffled that there are people still arguing in favor of MMM.
Such people have lost their brains!

doctorregular1:
save ur casket as well b4 the end of 2016. Animal in the form of an e-rat

Did I detect a tinge of frustration here?

Are you one of those whose money is surely going to be trapped when the time comes?

No pity for you.

Hahahaha....
It just became obvious to me and I wonder if you saw it:

Did anyone notice the shape of these corpers' bellies?
Nice and flat, huh?

These same bellies will soon "blow up" when the money starts coming and life becomes much better.
If they are lucky to get a job, you would say. Never mind if it is well-paying or not.

My thoughts just wondering about....

It is a pity that greed, poverty, hardship, and the rush to make quick money has blunted the rational side of some Nigerians.
Recall the now-forgotten "Wonder Bank" of several years ago.

MMM will crash soon, just as the wonder bank did.

Most subscribers don't even know the history of MMM or the meaning of those letters.

For an indept analysis of MMM, see Adeola's YouTube video "Keeping it Real with Adeola, Episode 242 (The Truth About MMM)"

Save your tears before it is too late.

And this appeared on the front page?

Sure there were times when Jim Iyke dressed OK but nothing special about this one, a man in casual Jean shorts.

I have see men in better fitting shorts.
Talk of idle minds discussing people..

san316:


She's a student. Not working. That's another thing sef. After supporting her studies, the mom too wil be bringing hers

I sense that you are reluctant to proceed with the marriage.

It is your choice between the girl you love, I presume...
and the supposedly expected requests from her mom.

Discuss with your woman and then decide.

san316:
guy just check this out now. One major discouragement to guys getting married is the feeling of additional responsibility. I'm not earning much but what I earn can cater for my immediate family. My parents are not that buoyant but they are okay. All what I don't want is for everything to come back to my head. Because when we are married, they start demanding n not requesting. I wanna have a family without distraction from outside. Daz I'll.

I understand your concern but know that some measure of financial responsibility is inevitable.
Every married man shares in the financial burden of his in-laws.

Attend only to reasonable requests , not demands, for assistance if it is within your ability.
You may have to deal mainly with assistance for feeding, hospital visits,
Rarely will one be asked to help set up a business. Some do if they can afford it.

I am not sure I get an idea what your fiancée does; does she work?

Which issue worries you the most:
The fact that the relationship is a distant one...?
Or the matter of your fiancée's mom asking you for money?

If you love your lady enough to marry her, you should go ahead.
You only give that which you have and when it will not inconvenience you.

dfrost:


Nice tips. I know of a colleague who started a family on 45k here in Lagos. Meanwhile those on 150k are still complaining that the salary is not enough.

OP your priorities should be paramount in life. I know of someone who started working on CBN as low as a clerk back in the 80s. Got married amid the little pay he was receiving. Fast forward today, he has retired. 3 completed bungalows, over 6 parcels of landed property and 3 cars.

Plan your life with your family. Move to a low cost area. Finally, never, never and never try to impress anyone. Ciao!

Well said..
Many public servants with families do o earn that much yet they survive.

For a start, he needs just an affordable 1-bedroom accommodation .
Better if the wife earns some income.

It's all about setting priorities right and doing away with extravagance.
Without planning, even 200K/month won't be enough.

fullofregrets:
I am full of regrets and I feel so suicidal right now , I am really depressed

You need not worry yourself over what happened..
The breakup was no fault of yours.

See my full response elsewhere on this thread...

Having had an abortion in the past is hardly enough reason to abandon one's fiancée.
How are we sure this man does not have a fertility problem, otherwise why would he give the condition to get pregnant before marriage?

The effect of abortion- damaged womb, won't be able to conceive, etc - is a bit over-hyped.
I have seen/know women who had a few abortions that are happily married with children.

So long as you are healthy with regular menses, I think you are fine.

The experts say we should not worry about infertility until after 2 yours of unprotected regular intercourse.
You did not tell us how long and how often two of you have tried for you to get pregnant....

Since your fiance has called it quits because of your past, there is little you can do about it..
Get on with your life asap.

Maybe you should keep this abortion thing to yourself next time.
Once beaten, they say, twice shy.

Abegi, when did it become the responsibility of the father, even the mother, in-law to dictate in which Church their daughter weds?
Bros, unless you want to convert and remain in that Church, you may accept it...

Weddings mainly have always taken place in the groom's church and the lady anticipates it.
Harmless as it it seems, it is disrespectful for the groom to be handed such an order.
Better take a firm stand now than wed in that Church and pull out after, causing another kataka.

In order to dismiss it quickly, condition #3(do not lay hands on her) is not an issue, period.

Further studies is a good thing ad you won't be the only person whose spouse left behind for further education.
However, the decision should entirely rest with you and your wife, taking into consideration the following factors:

*length/duration of studies
*Opportunities for visits home - exists at least once a year
*Plans for starting a family - can be put on hold for 2-3 years or more.

It is presumed that trust/mistrust is not an issue and that both parties will "respect."

It will be interesting if the OP would tell us what is the opinion of his woman on which Church to wed in and traveling out for studies.

Macdove02:


I object that. I think the industry has improved than it used to be. Story wise, Technicalities and sorts. Check out; Dry, Black November, The Arbitration, The CEO and some others that i cant remember. Then compare.

I will surely check them out...
Maybe I will get back to you after watching them

But what do think about the script, the story line?
Aren't we witnessing lots of recycling - everything is about the palace, princes and princesses, etc.

Yes, the tech has improved but that alone does not make a movie interesting.
It is the right dose of suspense, relevance, and twists and turns that do.
For most of them, 5 minutes into the movie, one can produce the script even before they end - too predictable.

KevMitnick:
Bros what are you trying to prove? It's not necessary and stop making your wife insecure, you think she doesn't notice?

Please ask him...what's the purpose of this post?
Is there a gold medal to be won?
I tire o for some kin' posts person dey see for here.

Do not allow the desperation to lead you into proposing to the wrong person.

For me I never felt like I was late to marry...
I was busy working and pushing my bank balance up to care.
In fact, it was the elderly women in our family that hinted marriage to me though I had began to think about it.

Go out more to public places and functions and try and start non-committal conversations with ladies that catch your fancy.
I met my wife at a Corpers Week where I was invited to give a talk.
After the ceremony, I joined a group of female corpers to walk back home.

We chatted, joked, laughed, etc.
I spotted her in the group and then brought out all my "ammunition."
She later confessed she felt a certain chemistry when she saw me in the hall.
We are so so happy together.

The thing is, first, be friends, then lovers if they meet with your ideals.
Please do not give a lady ideas or make promises in the beginning so nobody will say you dumped her if the friendship didn't work.

Good luck.

It appears to me that some people just mention any movie name they could remember.
The task here is to select a movie for World view that projects our film industry in best creative light.

I would consider such criteria as relevance, focus on theme, language and expression, sound and video quality, costume, etc.
I have seen Papa Ajasco mentioned somewhere here, but that's the reader's opinion, anyway.

I have watched lots of home movies and these stand out according to above criteria:

1. Mr & Mrs.
2. World Apart.
3. Submission.
4. Violated.
5. Glamour Girls 1.

I may be wrong , but these are movies I can watch over and over again.

P/S: I think the Nollywood movie quality is fast deteriorating in many respects. Yesteryears were much better.
Correct me if I am wrong.

Pavore9:
Communities need to make effort to follow up contracts awarded to uplift their communities. It should not end up at flagging off the project but vigilance should be the keyword and with easy access to social media we can be uploading the progress of work regarding such projects thus making the contractors and the awarding government agencies know that they can not lie that the project is on-going if in truth nothing is going on there!

You are right ...
It didn'teven occur to me that the social media could be a useful forum in this regard.
Thanks.