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AbdulMagaji:
The bolded is very scary, Some women get mind Sha!

To be honest this matter hard brother!, But this is a typical[b] American lifestyle[/b].

You go fear Trinidad and Tobago bro

Nazgul:
Dating a comfortable guy isn't the problem most guys have with girls. The problem is lacking the intellect to relate with him on his level.

Most comfortable guys are exposed, so they have vast knowledge about things. They go to places, they keep up with recent happenings in the cooperate world. Now imagine finding an average regular girl who has made up her mind to date rich guys. Obviously you cannot discuss work with her, you cannot discuss happenings in the IT world with her, she basically wouldn't be able to relate with him on his level.

All she would have to commune with him is money, sex and outing... nothing more. Sooner or later, the guy in question would leave her to look for someone whom he can easily relate with on his level.

I can basically tell you that if you meet 50 average Nigerian girls, 30 would have no idea of what LinkedIn is, 18 would have heard it before but don't have a profile there, only 2 would tell you that they have a developed profile on LinkedIn.

The solution to all this is to date someone within your league (whether you're male or female). That way, you two can work towards developing each other and not taking advantage of each other.

Brother, don't be fooled by ladies who can create a profile on LinkedIn or are IT savvy and all that rubbish. Be more concerned about a submissive woman who will give you peace of mind. Dating someone within your league might put you in problem, and most ladies who seems to know about corporate world and IT shit and all are too egoistic to allow a man lead them.

Put character above everything. Have you heard of rich classy men who married a woman with less education? Them know wetin dem dey do o. Look for who can keep a home, who can respect you and raise your kids properly. No be LinkedIn go keep your house o.

I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

I just discovered this post.

A lot of people here will tell you to stay, don't mind them. I have a brother who gambles and I know how crazy it can be. Your hubby won't change and will destroy himself and you together.

Oh, this post was made last year March. How is it going now?

God1000:
Hmm, but why do coaches and players resign or retire after losing matches at football tournaments?

If you've done your best, then there's nothing to be ashamed of.

They know they will definitely be fired, so they resigned to save face

Akpacha:
U are joking, I guess!

Nah, I am not. I have eaten other ones I failed to mention even.

olisaEze:
Over a thousand NL members proudly displayed their foolishness on this day seven years ago. Some have paid for their error with their lives, while some living by God’s grace still persist in their stupidity to elect a worst candidate than the General!

Baba, I still dey regret am o. No vex

I have eaten snake (cobra, puff adder, and python) , grasscutter (You can call it rat), cat, dog, toad (You can call it frog), patas monkey and chimpanzee, tortoise, pig, monitor lizard, duck, antelope, bat, homing pigeon, hawk, and vulture.

There is not a single animal I can't eat.

Anon4509:
I opened this anonymous account because I really need to know how to proceed with this. Before I continue I want to state that every single thing typed here is true and is currently my life story. Please, this is a long read and names have been changed to protect my identity.

I am not from a poor home and the reason why I think it’s necessary to say this is so people can give me a balanced advise without thinking money played a role in my decisions, my parents are middle class and doing well, I’ve never in my life struggled financially and I grew up with the best my parents could provide.

Few years ago I started meeting white foreign men online, I would talk to them, send pictures, chat and just spent time together. This slowly developed into these men sending me some money to take care of myself, this wasn’t a case of yahoo or leading these men on but they just simply provided when I complained about something, I took the money because why not. I would like to note at this point that I wasn’t dating any of those men and we were just friends I was also dating in Nigeria so for me it was just a friendly engagement with these strangers whom I’ll never meet, things also evaporated after a while and when the heat turned cold with these online men we would stop texting.

This was how I met Tom, he is a white man who is a shy guy who was new to dating or meeting women, he is a nerd. I’ve met and dated nerds before so I was used to the personality, to be more specific my type of men are nerds, Tom fell instantly in love with me, he slowly became obsessed with me and thought since I’m African then I have to be poor and struggling, I didn’t correct this assumption but instead fed into it as I considered it funny at the time.

We started talking everyday and few weeks later (I think a month) Tom asked me to be his girlfriend and we started dating, before we started dating Tom sent me money once or twice, nothing major just about 300 dollars or so.

Immediately we started dating, Tom started sending me money, I was in in uni and Tom began sending me about 1k dollars(sometimes more) every month because he got the idea I needed the money to take care of myself, after uni he rented an apartment for me, bought me a car because he said I’m too pretty to walk under the sun, paid for the furnishing etc I could tell he was in love but with his love came obsession, he wanted to always talk to me and I would give excuses, etc but I still provided balance because the money was quite sweet and I didn’t want to lose it, I do not love Tom in any way, and I believe I was giving him companionship in exchange for money so if he wanted to believe we were dating that was the little I could do.

I met Jerry a few months after uni, he is the sweetest most thoughtful man I’ve met, I instantly fell in love with him and he was the first man I had sex with, I spent a lot of time with him and we were so in love. I was still dating Tom at this point because I mean the extra money I was getting from Tom meant I could live extremely well, at this point I had stopped asking my parents for money and was dependent on Tom and the money I was getting from my job, I was earning about 200k.

I told Tom I was jobless so he wouldn’t stop taking care of me and I managed Tom, Jerry and my job well to ensure everyone was happy. I am also very big on my career, I just love money and living well too much, I like to buy expensive thing and I’ll rather not use my money for it.

Jerry was also taking care of my needs, He was earning extremely well, is a young millionaire so he sends me money monthly and bought anything I needed.

We are boyfriend and girlfriend and have plans to get married in a few years, Jerry has met my parents and knows knows about Tom but doesn’t care because he loves me and the relationship with Tom has been entirely virtual so he doesn’t think there’s anything there (to be fair Jerry doesn’t know the extent of my relationship with Tom or that Tom sends me money regularly) however Tom doesn’t know about Jerry.

I’ve been dating Tom for almost 3 years virtually, we have never seen each other but Tom wants us to see in a year’s time, he sponsored my relocation, paid for every single thing, I only paid for my visa processing myself from money I saved up, Tom also paid for my rent, and still sends me upkeep monthly. He says he loves me and wants to support me I don’t trust anyone so I save all the money he sends me for a rainy day.

I am still dating Jerry who sends me money monthly and we are planning our future, I want to end things with Tom but I do not know how to do it, I am scared he will track me down and kill me because of everything he has sacrificed for me, he’s also obsessed with me and has tried knowing my address multiple times but I’ve been wise enough to never release it.

I’ve thought about disappearing (deactivating the app we communicate on) but he knows my social media accounts and I really don’t want to have to deactivate my accounts as I struggled to build it and currently have a lot of followers. I also think disappearing won’t work.

Please, how can I successfully break up with Tom without losing my life ? I also don’t want Jerry to be aware of the complexities of my relationship with Tom, he might get very angry because Jerry loves me too much and gets jealous easily, He hates other men he perceives have feelings for me being around me.

Paying Tom back the money he has spent which runs into thousands and thousands of dollars IS NOT an option because he willingly gave me every thing and I will not put myself in a negative financial situation because of him, Tom also has my nude pictures and although he’s a sweet person I know will never do anything like leak it I really don’t want to take that risk.

I’ve slowly began fighting with Tom so I can use that as an excuse to end things but so far it’s not working. I also do not want to get arrested, even though I believe I didn’t commit any crime I’ll rather not be arrested and have my parents reputation ruined because they’re fairly popular.

I feel no guilt for this nor do I have any remorse because I did nothing wrong and I provided companionship in exchange for money which isn’t a crime but more of feeling greedy.

Please, I need tips and practical solutions not judgement. I’m not a saint and will never be which is fine.

Go to Google and search "Romance scam"...That sums up everything. You are a scammer; a criminial

tee59:
You're a spoilt little kid. You're with her to learn and she has every right to caution or disciplined you. You even have the gut to report her to her husband? Sit your Bleep ass down with her and apologize for your wrongs. She is your custodian known by your parents.

You took the words out of my mouth. Bless you. He is a stupid child

What

pikomamamusicwo:
Good pm niranlanders, how una dey?

I married very early, that Is five years ago, immediately i started working. Immediately we gave Birth to our first child, I was sacked from my place of work in a mysterious way. All our house equipment was sold, we left a comfortable apartment to a single room.

At a time, I was doing menial jobs just for us to feed. One day, in the process of seeking for solution to get my job back, I got to a church, and the pastor asked me to come with my wife, which I did, to my surprise, the pastor asked my wife, why are you afraid for your husband to have money? You are thinking if he makes money he will marry other women, he said pls pray for your husband to succeed, he is bigger than this.

And he asked my wife to come back for deliverance, but she refused.

Secondily, I went to another place, a spirituallist, and a female, she said I married wrongly, that the girl I was supposed to marry I missed it. She said I should come with my wife, and I did, she said my wife has another spirit, that she feels the marriage will not last...but till today, nothing I put hand dey work, most times we live together but never discuss together, we just live like strangers at home, and most time I regret getting married. I don't really know what to do now, I can't support my parents like before, they are not happy with me...

pls I need advice, prayers and support.

You are a very foolish man and your wife has more sense than you. Those spiritualists have destroyed your life. Goat!

I have never had sex physically with any body since I came out from my mother's womb.

@Pray4meJC
Bro, I can tell you with everything in me that this is the source of your problem. Every of your problems will disappear the day you fvck a woman.

A friend of mine had this exact problem. His own might even be worse and I helped him out of it....And guess what? I helped him out easily in just one month.

Your problem is 100 percent psychological and not Spiritual. In fact if it was spiritual, your numerous prayers and fasting would have solved it.

All the porn and masturbation and creeping on people you did in your formative years have piled up and caused some things in your brain. At the age you got exposed to it, your mind was young and fertile and the wrong things were planted on it. Those wrong things started growing and having branches with thick roots.....Baba, things plenty wey I won talk but better if I can speak with you.

Now I am willing to help you. If you want me to help you, reply to this comment and indicate an interest and I will share my phone number with you.

Okay

Is N-POWER still a thin?

Righteousness2:
One of the Greatest lies and scam of devil to humanity is that you have made it or enjoying while swimming and whining in sin and Iniquity.

Ladies and Gentlemen don't let the devil deceive you! Any lifestyle of so called balling and living large outside JESUS Christ is you Gathering Firewood to Burn you in Hell.

What does it Profit a man/lady to gain the whole Earth only to lose his/her soul?
It is not Worth it Folks! It is a waste.

Stop spamming NL with this Nonsense. Fvck you and Jesus

Not deserved. He was not spectacular in this tournament. Abubakar deserves this award.

Well....Awards favour the winners more

Weyrey never become president, he don dey show tyranny

He no go betta for Tinubu.

When I met the Fuji maestro, he blew me off my feet with his intelligence. He is an erudite indeed. I was in his house; he showed me his books shelves and I was amazed at the kind of materials he reads. I even pronounced an English word wrongly and he had to correct me. We argued about the pronunciation and he just typed it on google for me to hear.

Na correct niggaa!

Crypto is the biggest Ponzi.

Know this and know peace

tobxy:
Am once like you same thing happens to
me, I've loose close to 3m withing the last 3 years but I zero my mind on December last year that I ain't going there again & I thank God for my life this year that things has been changing gradually not that am not playing it again but is not like before that I used to put my life savings to stake, just zero ur mind & when you're less busy try to go to bar or be with ur friends jus to keep u busy or whatever virtual bet as nothing to offer you may God bless our hussle

You need to stop completely. Stop Now!!! No dey talk say you don reduce am. Soon, you will find yourself in sh1t again. Stop totally!

Austinboy:
I purposely opened this thread so i can let out all I'm passing through and feeling because I've been having suicidal thoughts. Right now as i speak, i can't even use my own original sim as a result of constant threats from people i owe.

Let me start this way. I used to be a very upright person who detested gambling. Even back in school when my then room mate used to, i looked at him somehow. Fast forward to after NYSC, just by hearing a discussion of how someone made 300k with 100 naira. I decided to try. I started out with 100 and then when 1 game cuts it, i will say i have hope. 100 sooned turned to me staking 1000 then i went out of control from there.

I started gambling on dog racing and before i knew it, u did the one which eventually wrecked me. I started gambling on instant virtual first on bet9ja before i moved to sportybet.

Last year was the worst. I made millions of naira but all when down the drain on virtual bets. There have been days when i can finish 500k in just an hour on virtual.

Right now I'm indebted to so many apps. My name has been broadcasted severally and people who used to look uo to me are wondering what went wrong. I don't know if i can ever build my image again. I'm so ashamed of myself that i don't know if i should live again. The problem is anytime i have money, even after saying i won't go back. Once I'm credited, i go straight to it. It won't be an exaggeration to say i have lost over 15m within the last 5 to 6 years I've been into this shameful habbit. Please i need help, i need advice maybe from someone who has gone through this phase successfully because I'm at the verge of ending it all. I used to be so responsible and now my life is not worth emulating at all right now.

Mods please help me move this to front page as i need someone, just anyone to tell me how i can move forward from this mess.

Hello, I hope you are not dead yet....

Okay, the reason why you keep going back is because you want to settle the debts with potential wins and this will keep putting you in bottomless pit of debts.

Count your loss and move on.

Find another way to pay the debts or escape the debts aside betting. You no fit take betting money to sort the debts wey betting run you into.

Don't ever think you will make back the money you have lost. You will never.

Count your loss and move the fvck on!

Them just beat Super Eagles and you are posting this... you dey ment?

JiniBula6:
Help me!
Is this still gonorrhoea?
I had unprotected sex with a girl in September and I got gonorrhoea.
I treated with some harbs for long time and later went for injection in a phamarcy with some drugs.
After treatment the gonorrhoea symptoms left leaving my penis hole open without pain. For some time now... I complain to the pharmacy and I was told it will close up by itself but up till now it hasn't.
I didn't have sex since September till December 25th when I started again but now I'm steady on a condom.

The whole of my penis is wide open. Today I noticed a little purse coming out again as it became wider. I'm worried.
I've searched online and I learnt it's Gonnocal Urethritis.

But I want to know if anyone here experienced this before... Please help.

Mature Minded Please. No insults

A friend had a similar issue once and only confirm herbs cured it. I introduced him to the herbs guys. Go to their website and check www.mofelas.com

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

You have been fvcking him already, oloshi

How can you even process this sh1t in your head

E no go betta for you

Petty Boko boys, always going for easy preys

pargelenis:
Why did Tunisia get a red card?

A player from the bench got the red card. The outfield players are complete.

Starzo:
any body we meet,them go collect

Baba mi, e better make we meat Gambia o. Tunisia dey always give us problems.

Kobojunkie:
I hope you have grown wiser since then though.

Yes. I grew wiser to understand that I still need to marry, else when I am 50, 60 years old, I will look back and bite my hands. It is sweeter to think about not getting married when you are in your late 20s and early 30s. Na time go teach you lesson.

AlphaMale666:
I'm 30 years old now and frankly speaking, I know I'm never gonna get married!

Even my father sent me a Whatsapp message some weeks ago with a bold text saying "never get married my boy!" " you're my son, and I'll never lie to you". He's living a miserable life with the stupid witch he put in his house. But nobody forced him to get married! So he's getting the taste of his own medicine!

Even if he didn't tell me any of this, I already knew my destiny. I knew I was born to die single and nobody will take this wonderful single life away from me!

I created a thread about 4 years ago on this topic. Read it here: https://www.nairaland.com/4142854/why-everyone-must-get-married

Osinwin president

Dana!!!

Preciieux:
You wey your preek no fit stand

Bring your sister come, make I use am do test