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DispatcherLagos:
To think I had wanted to put the engagement ring on my girlfriend's finger this Easter before I started seeing various threads against marriage......Omo Na postpone till further notice. I can't come and kill my happiness

If you're not happy to marry her, please let her find another man ASAP.

gameova:
Agreed what the husband of late Osinachi did is evil and he deserves no mercy in every sense of the word. But coming to think of it, this woman left behind four young children that still needs their father around. He didn't kill her intentionally. It would have been better if they where divorced but the deed has already been done. I'm still thinking of the punishment that doesn't involve taking away their father from them depriving them of a father figure at this early stage in life. I may be wrong but that's my opinion. Thanks

That is how they will keep supporting their kind.

siofra:


Anytime he tickles me I always laugh and I hate it.

I've hit him, slapped him, kicked him sef etc. But I always end up laughing in the end.

Could this be voodoo?

I hate it when people touch me. I feel uncomfortable. Even when I shout at him, I end up laughing and my threats seem like a joke

I'm thinking of suing him for sexual harassment. I hate nonsense

He not only tickles me, he also touches my waist. This is the one I hate the most grrrrrrrhhhhh

Just slap him once.

DanseMacabre:
You wise.

Thanks jare. You sef get plenty sense.

MALIGNANTGuest:
You were there too, to monitor the crisis..
Hmmmm
What an analogy!

Go back and read from the same place you got your information.


David's son raped his daughter, his other son killed the rapist, another son took his throne, pursued him from the country and raped his concubines, another one crowned himself while he was alive, everything happened in his old age.




Solomon's wives turned him, the builder of God's temple into idol worship in his old age.


Who else is your role model?


Type their names and let me remind you what to look forward to in your old age.

Jman06:
And women mostly marry for that same selfish reason!

That's why I said everyone.

MALIGNANTGuest:
Same Pussy, men like Solomon, David, Swaziland's king, Ned Nwoko handled with levity.

And they all spent their old age in crisis.

VictorUSA:
Ma'am, we didn't defend men as to whether or not men are cheats.

Continue naw,



You are only hurting yourselves.

saintbillion:
name sake dey para

Let everyone drop evil and start doing good, then everyone will reap happiness in marriage.

It's not the job of women to keep a sham of a marriage going.



Everyone who married for selfish reasons should enjoy their cup of tea.

VictorUSA:
No, I'm not hurt by any lady.Instead, I'm disappointed seeing many married women cheating with other married men or single guys.I've been a victim of seduction by married women.

And 99 percent of married men don't cheat?



Hypocrite.

Articul8:
Hey! With allof these things about marriage trending, should people not just marry and stay happy? Cos for me,I think it is impossible for 2different people to come together and not have issues at all. So should we just leave at the slightest issue?

I just need clarification. Where do we draw the line? I understand abuse isn't just physical,it can be emotional too. Shouldn't we try at all? Is it guaranteed our spouses wouldn't do anything closeto that at some point?

Marriage is possible of course, even with the madness some people are exhibiting.


It's just that, whenever there is a disagreement, everyone should learn how to express themselves respectfully and still get their needs met.



You see, some people still have this mindset that their grandparents' marriages are the best, even with the suffering they watched their grandmothers and mothers go through, they know that many women will no longer tolerate those shenanigans.



So, they pick carefully through women, they look for the most pliant, the weakest, the potential doormat then love bomb them, isolate them, and turn them to ghosts and shells of themselves.


But these women can't leave, because they already have a picture of the perfect man they have stored in their heads through the Love bombing phase, so they think the abuse is a mistake, that he will change, so they keep suffering until either someone gets them out or they bring their dead body out.



Google narcissism. You will see that those traits are so common but lots of people are unaware of them, they are even unaware of the danger they will face in the future if they end up with men like this.

Phew. We have screamed and shouted, but, alas, they call us feminists. Now we are alive and thriving but virtuous woman is in the poto poto.

MadamVanessa:





God gave me the wisdom to quit mine since. Though blessed with two lovely kids, but I have no regret that I made that decision of leaving such a worthless idiotic marriage. Poor him, he's walking around with just one ball in his scrotum. I destroyed one with my fury kick he nearly died that day o.

That action of mine towards him till date I am not regretting at all. I have lost so much in the hand of my ex husband which time won't permit me to say it all. I wouldn't say I was a perfect wife, no, I wasn't, I have my flaws too, but despite my flaws I tried all I could to make my marriage work. I am not happy because I am a divorcee, it's not something I am proud of. But sometimes something doesn't worth the stress,the abused and insults so one had to let it go.

I won't say much regarding this, but the bold step I took to quit the marriage save my life till this moment. The second wife the he took would probably not give birth again in this life because he hit the poor lady and damaged everything in her tommy, it was a miracle that she survived it and she too kissed the marriage goodbye after she survived. That was wisdom on her own part.

For you to post this on Nairaland, you are very strong.

This life is not perfect, and we have to live it the best way we can.

MrLondonder:
one babe call Nmezor say I should stop toastin u coz her yansh is 8time bigger than yors....can u imagine she as no respet. Anyways was yor nomba again please i have moiney?

I fully support her, try her naw.

Dorwadora:
My work is just to take order, document sales and expenses. Literally I manage the business money.... I've only been there for 6 days and the man Is the owner. @the bolded.... I'll take my chances till they finish fasting.... He's fasting now and quite a devotee so I don't think anything will happen now but I'm on a look out for another job

Look at you sha, fasting can not stop him if he has ulterior motives.



All he needs to do is take his ritual bath and you'll be shocked to see him on his prayer mat in the next few hours.


See, he needs a quasi-wife, he has already roped you into the position, it's just a matter of time before he lures you.



You need to ask yourself before going to work tomorrow, what do you want for yourself?


Then it's either you stay or start looking for another job because you will be chewed up and spewed out if you stay.

chiommy123:
So a Godly wife should just behave like a robot? Well that's a lie. You don't treat people anyhow and expect them to treat you like a king. You guys always highlights the submission part and total ignore the love part

Of course naw, these people are twisting the Bible to control women.



Just like the colonialists did.



Never forget, it's all about control.

ellaV:
lol...your so single, I came here for solution not arguement, kindly check the next topic...tnxs

I really felt for you, but the moment I saw your post shaming and insulting someone for being single, I realized that you are not deserving of my gold pieces.



The same situation, and the type of man many ladies foresaw and avoided, you went and put your head inside.



Now you got what you wanted, and you're now whining, and you still have enough space in your heart to scorn others. Eeees okay.


I will drop no advice.

udomonday:
people always talk about nymphos,but i never really take them seriously until yesterday night.am always attracted to girls that are big and curvy with big backside,infact if you check the long list of my sexual partners,they always fall into the big and curvy category,slim and tiny girls dont really attract me.but yesterday night i was practically seduced by a very slim and tiny but sexy girl in my office,it was when we were fucking that i knew the difference between orobo and lepa.she was fire,i bleeped her for more than 45 minutes and she was wriggling like a snake,she kept moaning like someone that is possessed,asking me to go harder and faster,i bleeped her with a lot of energy for an hour before i reached orgasm,after that she grabbed me and asked to use my hand on her pussy,damn i fingered her vigorously,sucking her breast,she practically had her pussy in my face and wriggling like a spirit i put four of my fingers in her pussy and everything went inside and she was really in another world,i ended up inserting my whole fist inside her pussy and it was so wet and open that it swallowed my fist and wrist i bleeped her with my arm for about 30minutes more before she squirted, yes she actually squirted, my shirt and my body was wet with her squirt.after everything she told me thank you.i have slept with a lot of women and am always the one that wins the match,but yesterday i met someone that floored me,right now am warming up for a rematch.and am going to take my sexual game to the highest height.

You are the nympho Mr man.


She simply used you.





You will understand when you're 70.

Angela1996:
I'm just depressed over this situation, I'm tired of him, he snapped me while I was naked and threatened to release my nudes...I've told him to sign the undertaken and leave me alone but he has refused...
Please I don't know what to do again!...Don't judge me or insult me because no one is perfect

I almost posted what you could have done but it's brainwork you should pay for.

saphiere:
The FUTURE is FEMALE.

Women lead men follow.

Welcome Back.





Modified:
Now, leadership should be based on performance, not gender.


If a woman is doing well, let her lead.

McLizbae:
It takes wisdom to associate with wisdom.

Thanks.

I'm still learning.

chioma134:
This post was triggered by an earlier post I saw where the poster was having long talks with his friend's wife. I've been in a similar situation. I changed location and had to be separate from my family due to work. I was lonely and needed a friend. I talk with my husband regularly, but his interests are not my interests, so I find that besides household and family matters, we have little else to talk about. I found myself talking to this guy I met when I went for an official assignment. We started as friends, but we became attracted to each other. So when I travelled back to base, we started these long conversations. We're both born-again Christians and both married, so we kept to certain boundaries. I enjoyed conversing with him more than with my spouse. I became consumed with thoughts of him. He also expressed his desire and attraction towards me, but we laughed over it as jokes.

My husband noticed the conversations when I travelled home and became suspicious. He forbade me from speaking with him. He had never seen me have long talks with any friend, talkless of a male one. I informed my friend and he said no problem, he would wait till I travelled back to work base before he would continue. He later travelled to meet his family and conversation became scanty. I realized how much I was addicted to him when I couldn't talk to him as much as I wanted. He returned to base and we continued like before.

I started praying for God to help me overcome these desires. Maybe he also felt the same, because for some reasons I don't know, he reduced the frequency of calls and chats drastically. I didn't try to find out why, just thought the time-off would help me clear out immoral thoughts. But I got hurt when he acted indifferent on one occasion when I felt he should have shown more care. I asked him about it and he pretended not to understand what I was talking about. I read the writing on the wall, and decided to play along. So I said "bye. It was nice meeting you." Part of me was grateful it ended, another part was wishing I could still be with him. I love my husband and children, I cannot come and scatter my home.

He thought I was joking. I was no longer responding to his chats, and when I did, only with monosyllables. He became hurt and accused me of going silent on him. I told him he started it. He wanted me to become defensive, but the Holy Spirit whispered "keep quiet ". So I allowed him rant without saying anything. I thank God I didn't, because I would have exposed how deep my true feelings for him were.

Right now, he chats once in a while, just general "how are you". I say "fine". My feelings have healed and I thank God we didn't continue because I wouldn't have been able to stop myself from an affair if we had eventually had any physical contact. I can categorically say I'm no longer in love with him.

I penned these down for those struggling with similar situations. Just cut off the relationship. Stop conversation, chatting, or physical contact. Then pray for God to help you overcome those lusty feelings.

Hmmmm. Kudos.

McLizbae:
What about you yourself, what do you carry? Do not believe that relationship with anyone can override the omens you personally carry.

Starting or ending a relationship (either with a man, woman or anything), is a physical, mental, psychological and spiritual [/b]turn[b] in your life. This new turn in your life can easily affect how you unconsciously handle other things in your life positively or negatively.

In short, if you love how your life is going, be very cautious to make any alteration to your physical, mental, psychological and spiritual routines.

Ire o!

Wisdom. This is wisdom.

We live to fight another day

emmanuelbrown26:
Person wey never maintain her relationship dey gv advice to married woman, inside life

That is how you advice women to maintain their relationships and marriages.


Look at them all, suffering everyday, dealing with cheats and crooks, liars and horrible husbands and boyfriends in the name of maintenance.



That is how your type will drive them into the ground with evil advise, make them spend all their life savings on people who have the same character like you.




At the end, you will call them old cargo, the same name you called your own mother after they have spent their youthfulness on worthless men.





Any woman who listens to your type will only waste themselves over nothing.





From your post you think you know anything.






Mr Maintenance.

emmanuelbrown26:
Mum na old cargo na, en papa need somebody younger than mum

How can you describe your own mother, the woman who birthed you as old cargo?



Her old and exhausted body, was it not due to working so hard to keep you alive during your dependent years?


Even if this is a place where no one knows anyone, is it too difficult for you to place some honor on your own parents?



No one is asking you to respect strangers, but man, the name you gave your mother is horrible!



I was expecting you to insult me thoroughly just because I mentioned your mother but see what you replied with.



Well, I am not your type o, I value my parents above everything and I avoid people who don't.



So, abeg, stay away from me and my posts henceforth.

seunadebisi:
https://thenationonlineng.net/olu-jacobs-daughter-in-law-makes-u-turn-says-soji-and-i-happily-married/

It was a publicity stunt.

emmanuelbrown26:
He can get u for d dad

Give him your Mummy.

princeemmma:
My dad was someone that did a lot of work to earn some properties, and he is always proud of that, before i got married i was staying in one of my dad's house (3bedroom flat), so when it was time for me to get married i decided to rent apartment for me and my wife, because my dad has made it clear to me, not to rely on his properties, to create a life of my own. So i was planning to rent an apartment but my dad insisted on me and my wife taking the apartment and that he will be moving out to another apartment at Lagos.

After a lot of talks, i agreed i got married and me and my wife moved into the house, but my dad did not move out, he still continue staying with us for almost 2years. I can't ask him to leave, the house belong to him, and if he is not leaving as he said, i can't force him. So we continue living with him, he was using a room and we were using two rooms and everything was going fine.

But after i gave birth to my daughter things get different, my wife got occupied with taking care of her daughter, and she is not active as when we got married, but my dad won't understand that. My dad started bringing some unusual attitude like, complaining about my wife unable to cook for him just because she was late for work, complaining about the taste of the food, complaining about her not being helpful to me. He was bringing a lot of complain to extent that my wife was frustrated and tired of living in the house. We tried severally to settle all this issues, inform the family elders but every idea to settle things is not working.

My wife said if i want peace, that we should move out. So i inform my dad of parking out and he reacted badly, he ask me to leave if i really want to leave, that my wife has washed my brain that i was not seeing thing clearly again, so i parked out and rented an apartment. Its been 1year now.

This is now the issue, my dad has left for Lagos since i parked out with my wife, the house is empty, he tried renting it out but nobody was able to rent the apartment. Yesterday he called, he begged me and ask me to move back to the house, that the house belongs to me, that he was working all this years because of me and my brother, being the first son, i need to claim the house, that the community association were complaining about leaving the house empty is not a good idea.

My wife is not in support of moving back, and i feel i should not go against my father's wish. Please help out, what do i do?

Abeg where is the apartment, someone wants to rent.




@ topic, get your Dad a wife, he's lonely.

Cheerycherry:
This is not the first time! I'm very open! I'm not an SU, I'm not a wrapper tying wife, I've talked to him, done all sorts even when I'm dead tired I give in to sex in different forms! Is there anything else?

Is your name on the land documents?




If not, you have been played dear.



Stop spending on anything that has to do with him, home expenses, building project, every single thing.



You have spoilt him by rising up to financial challenges, now he's using your money to spoil small small girls.



Sorry ehn.

MYDEBBY:
The only thing I did wrong like shouting at her misbehaviours which she did not display prior to our marriage and not wanting her to be keeping singles who are not responsible as friends. That's all. What other wrong. Pls believe me that this might be spiritual or negative influence from secret friends. I need to have my sanity pls.

All I see is an idle husband.



You have too much free time on your hands.

Richy4:
Sorry to jump in but I really need to ask you some questions.....What did you study in the university in Nigeria that gave you half a million a month with 3rd class?.... or have Nigeria changed what it used to be?

Just asking because we have read about so many First class graduates on this forum who couldn't make head way even with their grade and I think no one will be more focused as they are.... or don't u think so?...I want to talk about Nigerian reality/ practicality that I used to know and not motivational speeches of drive and focus ...

At least, those days when I graduated long time ago, I have seen so many job advertisement excluding those with 3rd class... In fact majority of the advert does that those days... they specifically pinpoints the grade that they wanted... so where and how will they ( 3rd class) be focused when they were excluded and prevented to prove themselves...

If you can't pray. Oyo is your case in this country no matter your grade.