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This is a food thread for Christ sake. Let's behave.

@ OP

Werey. I hope you're serious sha.

On a serious note, move closer to God and develop a PERSONAL relationship with Him. Lazy people will prefer running from one prophet to another apostle but we are all drawing from the same well. Let us boldly come to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in the time of need. This is your time of need now: when different animals are chasing you left and right, and you see yourself back in your village etc.

Join a bible-believing church and be a serious Christian. There is no shortcut to overcoming the devil except knowing God personally. Draw close to His word. Read your bible. Pray for yourself. Stop looking for prayer contractors or one prophet to see visions from familiar spirits. Eph 6:12: We wrestle not against flesh and blood bro.

Good morning Holy Spirit

allabs:
Help!!!!!!!!!!

Please any Nigerian January AOR group??

I am tired of these indians. They can worry for nothing.

"White GSD?"

*Laughs in tongues*

Cute Agege Shepherd.

SangoOlukosoOba:
Told a friend about powers and he said it all lies
That nothing like Juju. So I brought him to my house on a weekend and told him to go and buy Eko/Agidi. When he got back, I praised the powers that be and Demanded protection for the Eko/ Agidi. Gave him fork, Knife, Cutlass and Axe to pieces the Agidi/Eko

He couldn't cut through.

You'd better accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. Only He can save.

RIP Sir.

Richy4:
There’s a fine line between being lazy and an Ego as high as mount Everest.. what u have narrated in my opinion is not what I can call being lazy…

Or sometimes, people hide their laziness behind having an ego.

There is a point where your hardworking attitude (or hustling spirit...if you are TRULY not a lazy person) overrides your pride when one sees what is at stake and who is bearing the brunt. But this OP is not serious. Not everything should be brought to NL.

Awon eeyan o gbadun oo

donstan18:
So the fact that people liked my comment is eating some people up in pains?

People liking it are grateful that I'm saying the truth, the truth they are afraid to say.

So kindly die in pains!!!!

You are derailing the thread ma.

McCoy662:
Good morning Nlanders, I have this very issue bothering me. I have been in a relationship with this girl for about 3 years now. I love her so much, and she loved me until of recent when she told me that she's no longer interested in the relationship. She told me the stern truth that she was seeing someone else.

It's not like I don't take care of her, because I have given her almost everything she requested from me. I bought 90% of her clothes myself as she can't even buy for herself if I give her the money. I pay her bills too.

Just about 2 months ago, the said guy called me and told me that his gf (my gf) said I'm her ex, and they are now together. This guy is not that rich, he's just on average income scale, he's not super handsome and the worst is that, this girl calls and comes to my house for sex anytime she feels like. But that's all, we are not friends like before, we don't go out together, she don't even oblige my requests anytime I ask her for anything. She doesn't even visit on a regular except for sex.

Right now, I'm fed up; I'm tired of being in this love triangle, though I love her so much.
My guys advised me to beat her up and warn her never to come close to my house again, but I just can't. Though I feel used as a sex object, but I just can't say no to this girl's request.

I don't just know, am I being stupid?? Is there a Best way to handle this in a more diplomatic way?? I really love this girl.

Didinrin is still asking...you are not just stupid oh, you are foolish even. You'd better repent and focus on Jesus so you can take charge of your destiny before it gets lost in a love triangle. Cutting her off won't be easy but it is the right thing to do. In fact, you may be stuck and it might be too late when your eyes become clear.

Embrace a life in Christ...that's when your brain will be back to full function because it's like the girl has scattered it with attraction.

I cried reading this.

The God of all joy, I worship you.

The truth is...it isn't. Of course, Christians are to live in love and harmony with those from other religions or with other beliefs. But we are not to be equally yoked with unbelievers (2 Cor 6: 14- **). What fellowship does light have with darkness?

I know it sounds harsh but only an unserious Christian will marry a Muslim knowingly and with freewill. Allah is not Jehovah in my book and I'm not ready for Allah to be my father-in-law. But I can be very good friends with Muslims. Marriage is another thing entirely.

cococandy:
Honey-mustard oven roasted chicken and vegetables. Served with honey-mustard dipping sauce. There were no leftovers

This oppression is too early for Monday morning here.

*Licks lips*

And this is the FIRST FOREIGN FILM TO WIN BEST PICTURE AT THE OSCARS!

It also won BEST DIRECTOR, BEST ORIGINAL SCREENPLAY AND BEST INTERNATIONAL FEATURE FILM. So well deserved!

Nollywood, take note and watch this film!

adolfHitler1934:
So because your father didn't pamper you like the spoilt child that you are, that makes him a bad father.

He didn't submit your CV perhaps he he wants you to be an independent man and not some mummy's boy hiding under woman wrapper waiting for everything to be served "Food is ready"

And how come you know that your father has side chicks....eehn?

It's very obvious that your mother have brainwashed you and pressing you "pin po pin po" like doll.

At 27 I already had a car of my own which I bought from the money I made selling used shoes from Lagos to Calabar.

Go and work hard.....Lazy youth.

You are M.A.D.

@OP...Stay strong and forge ahead. Pray to God to touch your heart so you do not hate him no matter his actions. Try to think of the little ways he was good to you. And giddy up to take charge of your destiny. In the end, na you go carry your load alone in this life, even if you have very supportive parents. Don't mind the silly poster I quoted, a father is supposed to serve as a shoulder for his children to stand on so they can stand taller in life. That's different from spoiling a child.

cococandy:
Fear God na.

What’s all this temptation?

So, you can also be saying this?? *Laughs in Canadian accent*

Ezeanna:
Hey guys,

If you know you are not dropping at least ₦50k per month as cooking expenses for your household( of not more than 4 people), don't come here and start talking rubb.ish about your relatives living with you and your wife.

Many wives have turned to book keepers; calculating, balancing, adjusting and rechecking household budgets just so there can be food on the table, month after month.

When you want your relatives to visit or stay with you long term, make sure you have the financial capacity for such visit; don't just say my brother/sister will be coming to visit for 2 months; ask madam what the extra cost for those visitors for that time period will be, and provide it.

We all are sentimental about the people that helped raise us to who we are currently, but it does not mean we should not try to build our own families, away from them.

If you, as a married person, sincerely feel that your extended family has got your back more than your spouse, then I truly feel sorry for your situation.

Sounds fair and reasonable to me.

Liposure:
As 4 me O, B4 marriage my family comes first. After marriage, my wife comes first. Nonetheless, my relations can live wit me as long as dey dont disrespect my wife

Intelligent comment.

And in addition, my wife should not in anyway disrespect my family even though she comes first.

victorian:
Leave families and cleave to wife, doesn't mean cut off completely from one's family forever and cleave to one's partner. Leave means to move out of from the family home and create a new family wit ones partner not outright cut off.

Sighs I was once engaged 18years ago and my ex wanted just me and him all alone. He doesn't want my only brother or mom near his home but his own family can come visit and sleep over. I felt lost, I felt alone, his obsessive love was not enough to make me happy. I was very young back then. I felt he was very wicked trying to cut me off from my family. And that singular act with other things that followed broke us up.

I can't cut off my mom and only brother, hell no.

In fact it's unhealthy telling anyone who has close ties with their parents and siblings to cut off from them.

Now my parents and sibling is no more. And It hurts. I envy people with moms and siblings. They don't know what the have around them, until they loose them to the hands of death. No need cutting off from your families, don't worry Death will take them away naturally from you. Just be patient and try to make use of any quality time u have to love and care for them.

They will definitely leave one day through death. So women and men making all efforts to cut off their spouses from their parents and siblings. Relax, they will die one day.

As most of y'all, don't want to see your parents again immediately y'all get married. Please be patient wit them. They will die one day and y'all will be free from their pestering and visits.



Sighs, people sef


If God ask me to mention only one thing I want in this life next, is God please bring back my lovely mother and brother. Bring them back to me, that's all I want in this life I miss them like mad.


And some people are trying all their best to cut off and alienate themselves from their parents.

Na wa o.

The Lord is your strength. Touching post.

I think some people are getting a part of the story wrong. The younger brother did not come visiting, he is LIVING with them. While this may not be the best arrangement for a new couple (I blame the husband), how can this woman expect someone LIVING with you (your BIL for that matter) to take permission every time he wants to eat? Jesus!

OP should just ask herself in all honesty if this was her younger brother, would she have the same reaction? Your husband's family is now yours as well. Don't just pick the part that says both of you are one. Madam should exercise more tolerance and ask God for grace to overlook minor things. Tables turn in this life and you do not know if this pot-dipping brother-in-law may be your saving grace in the future.

Be wise.

itsMrIke:
Dear OP, I hope you get to read this.

What you have described is not a problem. The problem is YOU.

You did mention that your BIL lived with his brother, before he married you, so you have to understand that he is used to dishing his own food whenever he is hungry. Do note that the only thoughts in young boys minds are food and girls.

He is living in your home, but you want him to feel like a stranger? Dips his hand in your pot? Don't be ridiculous, the food was cooked for everyone in the house, so how is it your pot? Is the young man not a member of the household at the moment?

What you want is to have control. I don't understand why women do that when they get married. Outright control will backfire in this case.

If you don't like the idea of him dishing his own food, then tell him, not Nairaland. It is fine. Just let him know he can ask you anytime he wants to eat. And remember you can complain that he is disturbing you. And since you know he likes to eat at night, you can also dish out some food in a container and inform him to eat that if he wants some food later.

Leave the bot to enjoy his holiday and allow your husband o rest. Believe you have more problems in front to deal with, stop creating silly ones for yourself.

Well said sir.

cococandy:
I’m sorry I don’t know what to tell you. I’m trying to be sympathetic because you must be troubled to have brought it here.

The question is: Can he not eat when he’s hungry? Does he have to ask you first? If finance is the problem, Maybe ask your husband to discuss with him on how he can contribute. If he’s not in a financial position to contribute then that means you and your husband must provide for him while he’s there. In which case, only have guests that you can afford to care for.

I don’t think it’s nice to expect him to ask permission every time he’s hungry. Unless he’s a minor. And even then I wouldn’t do that. But it would be a bit more understandable since a minor might not be very hygienic in the kitchen and stuff like that.

Food is such an important aspect of life that I’d hate to restrict anyone’s access to it. I think he’d be more comfortable and at home if he can eat whenever he’s hungry without asking permission

God bless you. This was exactly the part that irked me as painful as the situation might sound for OP. This is exactly the way I see monitoring someone's access to food. May God provide for us all.

Help me Father, Help me Son, Help me Holy Ghost...to comply.

Blakpot:
Lol would be dope if Kunle Afolayan directs it. These one of the problems of our movie industry(if I can call it that), is that there is no recognizable system, that is structured in a way movie can be done with ease. Whereby directors, producers, screenwriters, can have access to access to each other(if it makes any sense).

U can also try Mo Abdu(good luck with that) or indirectly through producers she's worked with. The woman have got taste and very professional. The series Castle n Castle was dope. The amount of work that went into it is unbelievable.

If all else fails, there is always Mary Njoku �

Pls connect me o. It's like you know these people. I have disturbed Afolayan on Instagram to just give my script a read (he doesn't have to necessarily accept to work with it). I will reach Mo Abudu and Iroko as well once I'm sure I have a good script. Thanks for your support. I will like to also read something you're working on. We used to have so many scriptwriters here but everybody just disappeared.

You can also read the short film scripts I have on my profile (some even made frontpage).

Blakpot:
Looking back at my statement - "Overall i think its solid (in my amateur opinion lol)" wasn't intended to a backhand compliment.

Again I think its a solid script and with a bit of foresight on how the plot progresses, I wouldn't have brought those points. Still u took the hits like a champ.

I look forward to seeing more the story. Even if it means I have to wait till it gets made into a movie lol. When ur finished are u gonna sell to a producer? I have no ideaidea it works in naija.

Abeg help me contact Kunle Afolayan oo

I plan entering into some scriptwriting competitions sometime later.

Blakpot:
Good morning. I read it last night. Overall i think its solid (in my amateur opinion lol) but a few things stood out for me, some things I wouldn't do if it were me writing.

Minor n Supporting characters: Too many of them. Moji, Femi, Ms Maureen, Mr Thompson, Alice, Segun, Jamiu... If it were me I'd take off a few of them, if their absence don't affect d story much. Also if they should exist, some shouldn't be given names like Me Thompson n Ms Maureen can be called interview #1 n #2.

Flashbacks: I know a Nollywood movie isn't complete without a flashback scene but maybe u use dem too often.

Also, I expected abit of tension wen Kemi mentioned her ex to Lanre. But it sort of fizzled out wen he brought up his application to FIRS. It could be he was trying to impress, by convincing her he's trying hard to get employed.

Finally the most important one: A lot of the scenes n dialogues is about jobs, jobs, jobs.

Tho I liked how u pointed out the flaws in recruitment process. Ethnicity bias, recruitment scam...

Again its just my opinion, doesn't mean I'm correct. Just things I would observe if I were watching the movie.

I sincerely appreciate your feedback and I will put all you suggested in consideration. Though, I will like to explain some things since I have written the script further and have the ending in mind.

Most of the characters you called minor such as Femi, Jamiu, Moji etc. become important roles in the latter part of the story. It's either they directly influence the plot or justify organically the actions of the lead characters. Also, I can't represent Ms. Maureen as Interviewer #1 when there are like two separate interview scenes (of entirely different companies) in the script. It would rather lead to confusion for the reader.

I love your comment on the use of flashbacks but I'm not entirely sure you got the intent of them at every scene. This is not the "typical Nollywood flashback" wherr we just dump a load of info on the audience to reveal who is behind a problem. The script first appears being told chronologically but as we flashback to past events intermittently, it gives more context to the present and even more meaning. For example, the scene where Kemi left an interview devastated and crying on the road. I could have continued that she then ran into Femi. But that scene gets more meaning as it was shown as she narrated it to Lanre in form of the flashback and Lanre's response to bring up his govt job application. The subtext was Lanre was jealous a bit but from the story, Kemi didn't give Femi her phone no and so, no reason to get furious. The flashbacks subsequently tell us more about the relationship all the Contact 49 employees once had and what losing a job means as a whole: it's sometimes more than just losing money.

You got the subtext of Lanre was trying to impress her by bringing up the job. Most times in scriptwriting, it's all about what the character is saying AND not saying.

And yes, the theme of the script is survival as it relates to finding your place in the labour market as technology advances. But to reduce the script to "jobs, jobs, jobs" is like saying most Martin Scorsese mafia/mob movies (Goodfellas, Casino, The Irishman) are the same. The mob is the medium of these movies but the true story they tell are different. Job is the way to convey the themes but underneath, the true story is a happening. Also, the latter part of the script focuses less on jobs and more on 'marriage, marriage, marriage'.

Thanks very much for your feedback.

Oluwa e se!

cococandy:
Gizdodo is ready:

Come join us . Very yummy

Ahhhh!! There is God oo...how can I eat this via laptop screen?

cococandy:
Gizdodo coming up

*Carefully cleans cutlery*

donstan18:
Your egg sauce looks more like those primary school red popcorn. Not enticing.

Seriously?