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ednut1:
with this age disparity she doesn’t see a future with you. Before una go balance get papers 4 to 5 years don waka. You are already too old for all that . Sorry sir

Ha! When did men start becoming old?

Men don't grow old.
They grow younger everyday.
Man is the prize.

Women are the only people who age.
The lady is 2 years away from menopause..

Fineman2:
So I met this lady 2 weeks ago in school, she came for her project work.

She showed a lot of interest during our conversation which made me to collect her number, thereafter we continued chatting on WhatsApp and calling


She later said she will be coming to school and I told her to let me know so that I will meet her in school because I live very close to our school, infact I invited her to my place but she later postponed it and said she won't be coming again and said I should visit her instead.

I wasn't prepared for such outing that day so I told her to wait till Sunday and she agreed, we continued chatting on WhatsApp till yesterday Sunday morning, she called me early in the morning to inquire if I will still visit her and I said yes, she said by 12pm because she will first go to church.

When it was 11:30, I called her and she asked if I had left home and I told her very soon, she now said I should call her once I get to a particular location and give the phone to bike man so that she will give us the direction to her place.

I left home 12:10 pm, got to the location, negotiated with okada man, called her number but she didn't pick, I called the second time, she didn't answer so I thought maybe she wasn't with her phone.

I waited for her to call back but she didn't, after waiting for awhile without reaching her, I told the bike man to carry another passenger.

The last time I called her, she switched off her phone, I returned back to my house.

She hasn't called to offer any explanation after 20 hours and I'm just surprised.

Here is my question for ladies on this forum, is what she did okay? What do you think made her to behave that way?

I'm not the type that run after ladies up and down, I hardly do such thing, I've avoided women for most part of my life and such ugly experience will surely affect the way I relate with them anywhere I find myself

This guy,you funny ooo.

You wan go woman house for fvck her?
And maybe,even rob and kill her

The lady is smart

Gerrard59:
GBAM! There's a financial reward for ladies who dress in such ways. The men who complain are most likely poor men who can't afford to knack these women. These women are simply selling their wares, and even the groom doesn't complain.

Mr Kingsley should advise Nigerian men not to reward ladies who dress in such ways. As long as Nigerian men reward these ladies, more ladies will dress in such manner. Women make themselves beautiful to be attractive to men who can afford them.

Basic biology and economics.

You have said it all.

The other time,I saw a trending video.
At a wedding reception, the groom shunned his bride to dance with and spray money on one of the ladies in the bridal train who wore boobs revealing blouse...

Men will always reward scantily dressed ladies.
The ladies know this..and hence,dress that way to sell their wares.

Some men married the women they married because their nudity attracted them to go and knack..from there,they got trapped.

Nudity sells



Nudity is seen as classy.

Men like ladies who expose sensitive body parts.

That's why no groom has ever complained about his bride's unclothedness

Barbados20:
Goodmorning house. Family and friends are pressuring me to marry but this is the dilemma am going through.

Genotype has become a major barrier for me to get married to lady whom I love. We are tested both AS. My fiancee is from the same ethnic and christian background like me.

On the other hand, I have this female friend whom i recently ask to know about her gnotype. She told me she is AA. Like joke, i ask for confirmation and she brought all d test results frm different lab. The issue is now this female friend is not from my tribe, she from a muslim background although she does not seriously practice it.

My fiancee from my tribal background, but genotype did not match with me. And the other lady from different background, she is AA and match with me. One girl I dated then was AA but the love was not there between us.

Its really frustrating to be AS if you are a Man that want to settle down I am really confused right now. Am above 30. How do i handle this issue of Genotype, ethinc and religious issues? Pls i need advice.

Surprised this is coming from a man.
I actually thought it was a woman...

Wonders shall never cease..
The gender that brags about 7 women chasing each of them is now sounding so desperate and frustrated

vickydevoka:
Is a scam yet ladies go to shilo n do several dry fasting to have a man

Because of societal expectations.

Most of them just want to answer Mrs.Somebody

The truth remains that if society can stop mounting pressure on women,many of them would not want to get married.

vickydevoka:
.do you know your husband wish you are dead. So he can have everlasting peace

He can even kill me,if he has the chance to.
Marriage is a major scam.
Any opportunity he gives me,I will divorce him

Hassanmaye:
blood of Zachariah! What if he's banging bitches?

That's his business.
I'm done with childbirth.
We rarely have se.x

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

Reality sets in.
"See finish syndrome ".

Personally,I can stay for weeks to months without seeing my husband and I'm fine.
I even prefer his absence.

There are more important things to bother about,abeg

[quote author=Smith414 post=120499795][/quote]At least,you got the message.

See pain because the rape victim is his mother

If it were to be an unknown female,he would have started making excuses for the rapidt, looking for ways to blame the victim and even make some joke out of it.


Nigerian men cannot take half of what they dish out.

Perfect all round recovery to the poor woman

BATified2023:
N some people will still pay exorbitant bride price for this?

They will even pay her brideprice before the so-called "decent" girls.

This life no balance

After graduation comes the main hustle.
She is advertising herself.
Nudity and Bleep sells.
These are the kind of things that men can like and can "invest" in

SmartPolician:
Look at the last comment from that Ayomiposi! He says that Frank Edoho is an Igbo man. 🥱

These guys think nothing else apart from Igbo this, Igbo that! How can the druggie command a large number of educated ignoramuses? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

In the South West,if you are not Yoruba or Hausa/Fulani,you are Igbo,to them.

They don't know about Efik/Ibibio,Ijaw,Urhobo,Kalabari/Okrika,Ogoni and other ethnic groups in the South South

Persephone1:
You have a terrible upbringing and you fail to culture yourself to be a better person.

Nl is really an enabler that allows nitwits and uncultured juveniles to display their foolishness at will at the detriment of other users. What was wrong in her comment that prompt such an abusive, ill thought response to her. Oh because she's female you believe you can type anything at her. Such an uncouth young lad you are! I don't even care how old you are offline.

You can do better! Who knows that woman you quote with your nonsense can be as old as one of your aunties or even your mother judging by your comportment!
Tsk! Tsk Tsk! So mannerless! Who raised you?

Wow! Seems you are new to this platform.

I doubt there is any other platform in the world where men insult and degrade women ,they don't even know,like nairaland.

He is just one of them.
You will hardly fine a man type anything nice about women here.

At least,she died a MRS.

A woman being buried and only men surrounding to the place .. Islam!

God1000:
As a young woman, when last did you go to farm?

Lol..I have never been to a farm.
The most I know about farming: the small garden behind our house where my mum planted vegetables whenever she remembered.

My parents were civil servants (an Engineer and A Nurse)

What will I be looking for in a farm?

Gben5:
I have a townhouse with three bedrooms. My office occupies one of the bedrooms, but six months ago, my boyfriend of two years moved in. To protect his five-year-old son and also two elder daughters, our plans to get married have been delayed.

He came to me to tell me that his ex can no longer afford her apartment due to the drastic rent increase and is preparing to leave Accra and relocate to her parent's home. According to my boyfriend, he doesn't want to stay far away from his children and doesn't want to keep his children away from their mother.

He is proposing that they move in temporarily with us. This will mean I give up my office, or he moves in with his ex to help out financially, and both of those options will destroy our bond. What do I do?

Why some of you women decide to complicate your lives amazes me.

What are you doing with a man with all these baggages?

Tueh!

Ebubu:
why does everybody in abia state answer kalu? even this commissioner is kalu likewise the two past governors, and son of ta orji kalu also answers kalu, just why

That one is small.

Abiriba..a village in Abia state..
Everybody answers the same names.
Kalu is also very predominant.

I know 3 cousins who all bear same first names.

Person no well..he wan contest election and bece the number 1 citizen of a state.

achimendy:
On otherwords, You're looking for made men abi, billionaires and millionaires??

Even if he is the richest man in the world, what does he do?

"Entrepreneur" is not an occupation.

It's like me saying "I'm in the medical line" when I should clearly state..I'm a medical doctor.

It's not always about being wealthy.
Some women are interested in knowing the real source of income /occupation of a man

1Sharon:
Sharap there.

Because I don't want a man with an unskilled occupation doesn't automatically mean I want a millionaire. If it's not black that doesn't mean it's white. There are other colours.

Before you start, even your red pill doesn't encourage men to stay basic and average.

Someone would just say.."I'm a business man"... What does that even mean?

Hassanmaye:
Nawoo I thought most women like them because they believe wearing uniform makes you a Man! What I know sha you can't seperate military men with womanizing!

Most women like them.
I don't!

Same way,most women would like a man who is rich but with unknown or questionable source of income.
I don't!

Hassanmaye:
Why? Military

Choice! I never like military men..
I then did my NYSC in the Navy..
That was when I swore by everything that I will never have anything to do with a military man.

Someone has said he doesn't like people in medicine /health.

I am a medical doctor.
I didn't ask him why..
It's his choice.

Same cheating they brag abound even boast that they are polygamous in nature ..
He killed a man becaythe victim was his sister,not some random woman.

Life!

Military and Paramilitary,esp police ,Army,Navy, Air force.

Musician

Actor

Artisans and unskilled labourers

mignone:
So what does the woman get? Was if the woman was d patient one? Weren't they in it together? Even if the inadequacy was with the woman, they're already one in marriage.
In fact, they could have had d "male factor infertility".
Pls when issues arise in marriage,let's not shift blames or praise one over d other.
It's easier to pull through as one.

As a medical doctor who has seen such cases ,I can bet that the reason for this infertility was male factor!

Nigerian society thinks women are the sole reason of infertility..without knowing that male factor infertility is real and a much bigger problem.

Kajaard:
The husband needs to be given the Nobel prize for patience 🤯

Why won't he be patient?
He is the most likely reason for the infertility.
Once a Nigerian man can stay with a Nigerian woman in Nigeria for up to 3 years without a child,it's most likely make factor infertility.

gfelo:
My lady neighbour brought a guy last year November to live with her, introduce him to me as her boyfriend, we were even looking for a way to get this guy a job, but anytime this lady is on night shift the guy brings in another lady, this has becomes often, and it irritate me.

Pls how do I tell the lady what the guy he introduce to me as her boyfriend is doing.

Mind your business.

A lady who brings in a man to live with her is already a condemned and very useless person with no common sense.
Such people don't even listen to words of caution and advice.
Stay on your lane.
She must learn a lesson

UnfairLife7:
My pregnant neighbour has been so restless and sick having discovered she's carry twin


This neighbour of mine is pregnant with 6 other kids. She has been finding it difficult to feed her family including her 6 children. Her husband is an electrician and plumber but he hasn't been getting job inorder to take care of his family. The children had been out of school for several years

I live with my aunt who's a widow. I saw my aunt stressed out yesterday and worried and i was wondering what could be the problem. She was the one who told me about the woman predicament. My aunt has emptied her little foodstuffs because of this woman and her children. My aunt is just a poor widow who's managing herself and kids but she can't stand the sight of this woman and her children hungry.

My aunt told me the woman's friend advice her to inject the pregnancy through abortion. She's six months gone and according to those her friends even nine months pregnancy can be aborted provided she has the money and her state of mind is willing to not forceful

According to her friends, they felt that's the best decision she could consider due to her condition. She cannot even feed the ones on ground, they are not going to school and she's still carry twin right in her womb. She hasn't gotten any baby things. It was my aunt that took her for antenatal when the pregnancy was in 4 months stage. She has been so confused on what to do. My aunt wasn't in support of it though, same time she doesn't have money to support her and her children.

Nigeria isn't saner climes where government support the less privileges. She will be having 8 children in total if she chose not to abort it. What will become the fate of these innocent children? How will she survive with these children in Nigeria? She fainted yesterday and was rushed to the hospital. It was confirmed that she has been thinking so much and she doesn't eat well. This has affected her health conditions.

Her family and that of the husband had been so helpful according to her and it has really taken a toll on them. She even lost one of her uncle who has been supportive. This woman is sad, she's broken and shattered into pieces. I'm even scared of her life because she's not getting good medical attention for her condition. She doesn't eat well for herself and the foetus. I'm even bothered about her life, I sincerely hope all what she's going through wouldn't tell on her on the day of delivery.

Please what's your advice for this woman and her family

No advice.

She has chosen her cross..
Let her carry it.

Poor people tend to have many children.
They reproduce carelessly and claim God gave them the children.
I planned myself and have only 3 children(would have been 2,if not that second birth was a set of twins) despite having some financial stability,am I stupid?
Definitely NO!

ebubeson:
Do you have a beautiful character, good manners, beauty or handsomeness, yet you are still single and unmarried? Or even if your character is not too good, yet those whom your character is better than are married with kids, yet you are still unmarried..

I will show reasons why you spiritual Reasons why you are single, and solutions.. (Make sure your repent and follow Jesus first)

Reasons
(1) Being Caged By the power of self-marriage. Some people may be married to themselves spiritually, and this may cause them to loose interest or might make them careless with pursuing marriage.

Solution: Fast between 12pm in the afternoon to 4am midnight, then pray and destroy the covenants, curses and foundation of the power of self marriage(pray for at least 4hours). Complete solution.

(2) Marriage to spirit spouses (spirit wife or spirit husband). This is a common issue known by many. It sometimes come with regular or periodic sex in the dream with a demon appearing with strange or familiar faces. This hinders marriage alot.

Solution: Fast from 12pm in the afternoon till 6am in the morning the next day....Prayer point: Break covenants, curses and spells linking you to spirit spouse, and destroy every dedication and foundation created for you with the spirit wife or husband.

(3) Power of Marital Delay: This may be caused by spiritual padlocks, witchcraft powers etc.. It may lead to undue wait or failure of marriage fulfilment, or may cause lingering wedding process..

Solution: Fast from 12:00 pm in the afternoon till 4:00 am the next day morning. Prayer point: I destroy every mystery of darkness of the power of marital Delay. I destroy the foundation of marital delay (4hours prayer)...

This insight is gotten from experience and from spiritual person or persons.

CAPITAL rubbish.

Is marriage by force?

Everybody will not marry.
Everybody will not have biological children.
That's the reality of life.
All these your spiritual jargons don't mean anything

Kajaard:
It has to be an igbo woman. Very wicked women that do harm to their househelps.

I think there should be a law banning Igbo women from having househelps.

Igbo men are usually very stern ,strict and ruthless to their wives..Hence their wives take out their frustration on their maids