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CuriousStudent:
Exactly. But the person that will marry this struggling guys doesn't have to be me or females in my life I hold dearly

Definitely...there are women who still marry and will marry them.
They are usually also struggling and even in worse circumstances..so they can manage

smalldivk111:
I'm so depressed right now and wish I could die
Have just been diagnosed with an incurable infection herpes

I wish I could just die

You have started reaping the reward of sex.

Congratulations

CuriousStudent:
the question is that why should a poor man be thinking of marriage?
Why should that be his priority rather than becoming rich?

Everybody will not be rich.

Some people will be poor now,later comfortable/rich
Others will remain poor forever.
Such is the reality of life

CartelKenneth:
That one concerns them
Do you want to be married with 50k?
Try it Na and see how SWEET life is

Just saying the bitter truth.
Are you saying that poor men do not ,should not or will not marry?

I was earning 300K + when I got married about 5 years ago.
My hubby earned a little higher.

Edizzy:
Hello people here's a quick question

Considering the importance of finance in marriage, what should a man be making monthly before considering marriage in Nigeria, someone said 50k but based on the economic reality in the country, 50,000 is too small to sustain a home.

I believe a minimum of 100k per month is a enough to take care of a matrimonial home with just one child and this also depends on your location.

I might be wrong or right, so over to you what's your opinion on this topic!

Depends on your social class and the woman you are marrying.

Nothing is fixed.

Many men in Nigeria earn less than 50k and are married with children

MaryAye:
Happy fathers Day to all Nairalander's fathers and upcoming fathers.

What are you going to get for your dad as a present today? It is not only our mothers we should celebrate. Our real heroes should get something too.

I don't like my father.
We haven't seen or talked in years .
So I'm not getting him anything.

But I sent a token to my father -in-law and called him .
Good man!

He advised married women to be careful...


And married men can be carefree

Lol

He asked me for money.

I stopped seeing him immediately.

leanonme82:
He looks like a 30 yr old kid. Wonder what his experience was before he got appointed. Good genes though.

Advantage of being slim.

Slim people seem to age backwards

EriMma1:
I've been observing this for some time now. Once a couple has lived together for ten years,
the closeness between them reduces. As in.. the man no longer sits with the wife to gist or even play. Meanwhile, you'll still see the woman trying to bond and wanting her man to always be around her.

I noticed this in one couple. In fact they are pastor and Mrs. The woman always follows the man every where and wants to sit where he's sitting but the man would clearly avoid her and go out of sight completely when the tailing becomes too much and only come back when the woman is no longer in sight. Why?

No man born of a woman will try such with me, I'll blank you like you're not there.

Women, you too should wise up and stop making yourselves too available. Make yourself a bit scarce and they'll value you.

Idleness is not good.
Find a job or handwork that will make you productive so that you will take your eyes off other people's businesses.

Marry your own husband first before you brag.

Women like you are treated like thrash.. Because you cling too much.

ashewoboy:
That is the question.

What do your colleagues say that hurts you?

All because you are all by yourself. You are not as outspoken as others are.

How have you improved?


How are you improving?


Tell us.

Very simple.
I go to work.
Go about my normal duties.
Close and go home.
No time or need for chit chat and office friendship especially in this Youkay before they will say this and that.

We move.

melonsgroup:
Please I need a romantic name to call my husband.

I think romantic names for a spouse is all SCAM.
I call my husband by his first name and he calls me by my first names,as well.


I only have pet names for my children.

Jodha:
This one is yet to give up totally o....he still follows me anytime he sees me...

Don't accept oh cos the moment he knacks and releases,his brain will reset..

Chidolalar:
U enjoy sex far more with someone u are sexually compactible with Dan masturbating

I don't enjoy sex.
Don't like the feel of an iron rod poking me.

As for me...I will continue to masturbate.
That's how I get my own sexual satisfaction.

PS: I'm a married woman.

Rtk4:
I met this lady on Facebook and before you say jack we started dating. As time went on i decided to invite her to my house on a particular day....

That was our first meeting and we had sex. I was suprise to see that she was a virgin, infact real tear rubber wey be say na me open am. She cried and left, after some time she informed me that she hasn't seen her period ooh, so i told her to run a pregnancy test fast cos my mind don dey beat uncontrollably.

After the test it was confirmed that she was pregnant hmmmmm, God of mercy, i was so confused and devasted. To cut the long story short i went to to see her family with my own family and informed them that i would be fully responsible for the child but i wasn't ready for marriage.

After deep conversation with both family we left. But what struck me was during the conversation i sighted a HIV drug on their dinning table(I'm a doctor), immediately my mind was not at rest again. So upon reaching home, i started interrogating her on WhatsApp and calls about the drug I saw until she opened up to me that all her siblings were HIV positive including the father and mother and that She was the only one who was negative.

From the moment she told me that my mind hasn't been at rest again because i wasn't sure she was telling me the truth about her own status. I started running HIV test from that day every month until a year later before i confirmed I wasn't infected but you need to see the way i lost weight due to depression.

Please guys be careful out there, AIDS IS REAL. Though she later gave birth to my lovely son but unfortunately he died before clocking a year. I do not wish to remember the pain I passed as a result of his death.

You are a shame of a doctor...that's if you are not even a quack doctor .
Having unprotected sex with strange women.
You try

Hathor5:
Every woman experiences pregnancy differently. What was yours like? If you already have several children, how were the pregnancies different/the same? What did you enjoy about being pregnant? What didn't you enjoy? What were the challenges?

1st Pregnancy..Single Birth..It was uneventful.

2nd Pregnancy..Twins... Was complicated by hypertension(Pre-eclampsia)...I had to opt for CS to save my life .My babies were nursed in incubator for a while.

Luckily,I took them home alive..
2 pregnancies..3 children..within 4 years of marriage.
I'm so done with childbirth.

CuriousMind2022:
It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.

My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.

I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.

We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).

I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.

I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!

I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.

I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.

Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.

She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.

I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

First of all..Men and their problems always start with SEX...Once a man begins to complain about his wife,the next statement will be that she is denying him sex.


Also,they say "wife" is not their family.
How come a man feels he is part of his wife's family?

1Sharon:
Do randy lecturers pester girls that know their onions academically?

I doubt.

Most of these girls who are victims to randy lecturers are unserious students.
They don't read.
And go about seeking favour to pass their exams from lecturers

manee2:
I really can't give the best advice to my 24-year-old sister struggling with the frustrations of a married professor in his late 40s who wants to have a sexual affair with her.

The lecturer handles two different courses, each having a three-credit load and she is afraid of being failed for not complying with his sexual advances.

Having given many excuses for not meeting up for a date and refusing his gifts, tonight I found her crying after talking to him over the phone and it seems he is upset about the whole situation.

Is she the only student in the class?
Why is he on her case?

I studied in Nigeria..2 degrees..
Never had any encounter with a lecturer.
Never had a lecturer's phone number..except my project supervisor in final year.

I usually think a lecturer will not harass a female student if the student doesn't give him a reason to.

Most of these girls don't read.
Hence,requiring favour to pass exam from lecturers

Omihanifa:
This man has been sick for a while

https://www.nairaland.com/6444121/sick-adewale-adeyemo-begs-fund

Imagine taking infusion at home...
Most likely set up by a quack nurse

He married late and still married wrong.

Meanwhile,why didn't he throw her out and marry 7 women in one day?

It's always easier to make noise on social media but in reality,trouble is eating them up

Keep2gether:
London court should be brought to Nigeria

99% of parents, especially father's would be jailed...Staring from my father who used to stone me as a form of discipline

Smartguyboy:
Do you know any girl you are chatting with and you tell her where are you let me come and pick you up even if she’s not interested once you use that line she most surely pick interest.



Why is it like that ?

I used to ask myself this question until I bought my first car.
The comfort ehn..even though it wasn't a luxury car .
I promised myself . NEVER will I stay without having a private car.
Now,I have 2 at my disposal.


PS : I'm a lady.

Benki003:
My question is if it was a guy would the celebrate him like this

Yes..A certain white money was celebrated and loved for cooking which won him the grand prize

donbenie:
The question is?
Does praying make you to live longer than the Atheist?
Why is it that the countries with the worst life expectancy?
Are generally the most religious and prayerful nation's on Earth?
The African Nations, Pakistan,Yemen , India and their ilk,are the most short lived people on Earth and yet na them carry religion for head..😂

Don't mind them.

Let them keep deceiving themselves

Amuluonyenaego:
I don’t know if it normally happens to another person, I don’t pray often but any day I pray before leaving my house I feel so refreshed and whole compare to other days I didn’t pray. God is wonderful

Pray ALL you can and will.

What will be,will be.

Throwback:
Shame on you.

I don't recall that any Akwa-Ibom person was chased out of anywhere, except if the man who voted APC in the SouthEast and was assaulted is from Akwa Ibom.

It is better you answer the name of your tribe so we can tell you your own history.

No fakeness or mincing words.

We know ourselves.

And you think the Yorubas know the difference between Akwa Ibom and Igbos...

Exmilitant:
These foreign names wey una dey call children dey vex me. Wetin be Charles and Daniel?
Whatever happened to Izuchukwu, Uwem, Adebola, Ovundah?

God help Africa!!

Very irritating, honestly..
Foreign names that most don't even know the meaning.
I had my 3 kids in Europe where we are still resident and they all bear native names.
First ,middle and surnames...All indigenous.

Fabulozz:
As titled above. I made the worst mistake in my life impregnating my baby mama for the second time. She and her mother had given me so much trouble in the past. I don't even know what came out of me to start sleeping with her again. Boom she is pregnant and has refused to abort.

She want me to pay her brideprice or else she will tell my wife. If only I had control my manhood I would have not found myself in this terrible situation.

What should I do now mature advice please?

Lol..Typical of people who have baby mamas and baby papas as well as divorcees.They ALWAYS continue having sex with the father and mother of their child (ren) given the opportunity.

I always advise people...If you cannot bear your partner sleeping with his or her ex,don't marry someone who has a child or children already.

Famundpropertie:
And the good neighbours are from what tribe?
Just stop the stereotyping already.

Any of the female good neighbors can also maltreat the girl if she lives with her as a maid.

Igbo women and maltreating their underaged househelos..5&6.

How can a child of this age take care of a baby?

Human beings are wicked oh