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waleshakur:
they should freeze giving visas to muslim northern naijas immediately at least for the next 10 years

And the same narrow mind you used to make that statement, will the the same who are preventing visas to the whole population of Nigeria. It's easy to think of segregating a group as long as it isn't you, but what happens when the power is taken away from you, and even you are included??

See above

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Wow. . I can't believe the ego of some Nigerians. Stubborn to the core. I watched the video, I am a Nigerian, I grew up in Nigeria, but thankfully I was also able to experience the world outside. We are NOT the best country out there, we have our own failures, what you should expect is that you can be criticised and so you are therefore able to criticise others also.

He didn't say anything disrespectful, this is how Nigerians will be blinded by sweet words from other leaders, Americans are extremely honest and I love that about them, they say what they think and usually because of this there is a general air of ease within them.

They are the same people who repeatedly made fun of their own president.

I repeat there really wasn't anything to get defensive about in the building, he just said what he saw, and isn't it true, there isn't that much greenery in Lagos city, maybe on the outskirts, he is probably comparing this to other countries he has been able to see by bird's eye view.

Let me give you an example: Amsterdam (below 1st pic) would you not agree that this is much greener than Lagos, and so are many other countries, he didn't state this as being a bad thing, he basically said what he saw!!

Okay how about another example Barcelona also has a sandy terrain and hot climate, but look an effort to maintain the greenery.

Then see Nigeria's coastline. See how green it is. (3rd pic) then see Lagos (4th pic). I understand a lot of people here live in luxury and they may see beauty everywhere they turn, but Nigeria as a whole does not reflect this, it is a country that you will see extreme wealth next door to extreme poverty. We could be better.

Now, I don't say that we shouldn't defend against unfair justice, but w really have to accept free speech, of course it works both ways, we are free to comment if we don't like what someone says, but if we are saying that they should have no right to say such things in the first place then we are not really abiding by the whole idea.

Now go on. . attack me. - I'm ready!!

I have heard this said many times by different guys that a group of strong and confident women is highly intimidating, it can also be off-putting for a guy who is interested in one of the women in this group because he could feel like she'll go running to all her friends to tell them everything, especially if the women are very outspoken. . not in a crude way.

So what do you think, does this say more about the women in the groups or the men afraid to approach these womene?

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=371081.msg5207160#msg5207160 date=1262073290]yes ma'am.

topup, what sparked your interest in architecture?
h2h2, u haven't answered my ques.[/quote]One question only. . sorry those are the rules. .

Pretty picture of a pretty girl who needs no artificial surgery.

Vanity is a self-induced killer. .


Cute hat and makeup, love it

Why is there no private messaging section on Nairaland, it's causing a lot of threads to be taken over by random chit chat, which aren't even responses to the topic.

If the bosses at Nairaland really detest the idea of private messaging, why not have a section for chatting a chat board that does't require you to create a topic, but you are automatically entered into a chat-room like page (be it with word filtering).

It's really getting annoying now.

I am sure I saw someone requesting PMs but I can't find that topic.


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Thanks for reading this in advance.

Chrisbenogor:
What does bad police, 419, armed robbers et al have to do with the botched bombing? This is you being short sighted, was this boy raised in Nigeria? did he get radicalized in Nigeria? Did he get the PETN from Nigeria? Did he get any tactical support in Nigeria?
Why are people so damn short sighted  

When I mentioned the examples of areas where Nigeria could improve, I was focused more on its reputation which is what is being discussed in this topic, not so much "who is to blame" in this particular scenario.

Unless we are perfect, we have perfect laws, a perfect society and every Nigerian is a reflection of this, we will always have things to improve upon. I am taking this whole 'event' as a reason to point out that I believe we are focusing on the wrong thing. How can we blame the log for spreading the fire when the building was already alight to begin with.

As a parent raises a child, when a small child is saying; "silly woman" to its mother, don't be surprised if when the child is older and has acquired greater knowledge and a larger word-pallete, that now when he/she is furious with her he/she calls her a "B****".

If we really zoom down to scale, surely a better security network and justice system would if not prevent would highly reduce the chances of crimes being committed and so despite these anomalies, 'non-national bombers' you say would be OBVIOUS anomalies, the greeks are seen as peaceful people, if a bomber came from there they would still be able to salvage their reputation because they have maintained the quality of their national services throughout.

I am aware now that the 'bomber' in question spent a lot of time abroad, but he was born in Nigeria and spent his formative years there, as someone mentioned earlier, this balance of 'good versus' bad was not installed into him at a young age and I did not read that 'a British attempted to bomb', I read that a Nigerian did.

WOW!! The first page was the best, the rest was a little filthy for me lol. . Hillarious still!!

Of course, it becomes easy for us to use this as an excuse or a target to dump all our worries upon, but I doubt that many countries really respected Nigeria before this. In fact I am pretty sure they have been suspecting this for a long time now, ever since they cancelled the "miss world" contest due to fear for Muslim protestors and their possible attacks. (Nigerians are not the only ones who know about the inter-tribal wars, the bombings, the fighting, Shariah law etc, Yorubaland and Igboland conflict, Delta state crisis etc. This is the 21st century, there are government researchers everywhere, check GoogleEarth, they are now Profiling Lagos and beyond).

I am annoyed to be greeted practically everyday by another Nigerian either posting about their disagreance with the act or that they are no longer Nigerian. Well it's all publicity, some people won't know about it until they come on facebook, and then the fear rises.

Sure it's a HUGE thing, and I am not saying that we should sweep it under the rug, but the best thing for Nigeria to do is to SHAPE UP, and really crack down on their law enforcement, this means everything from accepting bribes, to letting people carry various things in their suitcases in favour of a bribe abroad to ACTUALLY IMPRISONING CRIMINALS!!.

I AM tired of Nigerians being short sighted, this will probably not be the last time a Nigerian will embarass itself, and of course the obvious thing is to say that the man is not a 'true' Nigerian and claim that we are peaceful people etc, but nothing in our country is peaceful, how are we expecting to support that argument with NO examples. How can we say that he is a one-off bomber, when it is so obvious NOW that there are probably thousands more like him, how can we say that we are peaceful when everyday there has been some or another form of tribal assassination or the fighting that we don't batter an eyelid about.

Nigerians need to stop speaking these words and start doing!! Just mastering the 'english language' and using it to our advantage to convey concern, remorse etc is NOT enough. Action is a universal language.

I am not advocating that all muslims from the north should be assassinated because surely we would be even worse off, or anything that is too dramatic. I am simply calling for a plan of action, that should be broadcasted to all Nigerians. It's time to crack down on 419, bad police, armed robbers etc. They should not be an everyday life 'accessory'.

We tend to have this impression of; 'if no body finds out' it's okay, or 'if the injustice isn't against me or my family' it's okay - but it's not. Let us prove that we have developed in our way of thinking from animals who only think about the next quick meal, to the greater good of our country.

I am proudly Nigerian, before AND after this whole debaucle.

There are lots of questions in this topic, at least 3 directed to no one in particular, asking whether 'you are real or fake on this forum' asking 'why you come on Nairaland' etc. . .

Anybody is free to answer those.

As for [quote author=oyinda. link=topic=371081.msg5200449#msg5200449 date=1262004559]haha cool topic.
I have lots of questions for ppl but none of them is important at all or worthy of this open display we have here. but just in the spirit of the topic, I will ask topup a question.

topup, how would your best friend describe you?
u have an interesting personality to me and most ppl on here is why i ask.[/quote]I've actually asked my best friends this before (I don't have ONE best friend). I have 3 close friends instead. .

They say that I am truely genuine, generous, kind & loyal. They explained each point more thoroughly, but they seemed to believe that I hold rare qualities (but I can see these qualities in my mother and I believe she passed them down to my sister, brother and myself). At first when I met my friends, they always used to say that I was too nice and too soft (basically a push over) - but I ignored this (as I always have). I strongly believe that I will NOT let the world change me, I don't want the hard manner of the world, to make me put up a barrier. I would always rather be the one who has been done wrong than the one who has done the wrong - it's a matter of conscience.

I think this is what makes myself me different from a friend of mine. When she broke up with her boyfriend, she was very rash, she broke his heart because she was proud, and for a long time, she repeatedly advocated the same for me, explaining how easy it is to 'just cut people off' and how it is possible to completely grasp hold of one's emotions. But something in my heart refused to believe this, so I cried and poured out my heart and soul and pain to anyone who would lend an ear to listen to my heartbreak (including Nairalanders) - now that we are much closer, her guard has broken down, she started acting strangely around me - I was recovering from my heartbreak - joking about the past, but she withdrew. I asked her what was wrong and she came clean that she was really sad and depressed at the way her relationship ended, and she now realised why I was so emotional during mine. She is 'strong' in mind, but not so strong in heart - someone who always reasons with logic - rash at times - but you know sometimes it's good to reason with your heart too - she tried to rationalise with her heart and it didn't believe the lies she was feeding it, and now she is still getting over her break up almost 4 years later, 

I thank God for my heart, is the last I will say - some people come to Christ and then adopt a new outlook on life and manner, I feel like I have always been this way. However he continually strengthens my heart so I don't have to become hard.

Renz:
Hey u two what are u doing?

One question only.

Questions questions questions!!

ancel:
@topup: What is the question, (and the corresponding answer) that you feared you might be asked on this thread? 

GREAT QUESTION!!
Question: Where do you see yourself in 5 years time??
Answer: I don't know, I'm pretty mixed about which path I'll take, because I battle to balance the urges that make me feel like life is like a cage, and also the opposite that life is a lot of choices (and I just have to make the right one). I want to accomplish a lot, but I don't know where to start, I have already begun slowly, but will that be enough. Will I attain my goals or will I look back and wish I had done more. It's not the me in 5 years I'm afraid of, it's the fact that these next 5 years are very important in shaping the rest of my life, if I succeed, I will be closer to obtaining my goals, if I don't it'll be an uphill battle from here.

Yes, there needs to be some greater goal for keeping these Obas. As for this one, I respect the fact that he wrote a letter asking to be restored to Grade A, as he could have used force, or he could have been very stubborn, but instead he humbled himself, and he returned the car, which I have to respect, why accept gifts from those you are unhappy with?

Anyone stating he should have kept the car is probably thinking about the here and now, how will the Oba be able to make his case if he was driving around in the 'pacifier' or 'bribe' ??

Ujujoan:
Well, I have a question for y'all . . .  what are u guys doing here? Dont you have xmas celebrations to get to

Yes, and I am still enjoying the celebrations but now in a much more relaxed setting.

henryhemon:
@topup,do you have a boyfriend?a beautiful xmas to you all!oh what a christmas,so beautiful.

Nope, Merry Christmas. .

sweetpie23:
why only one question?

That's a question am afraid. It's only one question but as you can see, there are a multitude of answers for that one question. It's a game, games have rules. There are thousands of members on Nairaland and hopefully this will put everyone on an equal level, those who like to speak a lot will be restricted to one question and those who don't normally say anything, can come out and just offer something quick.

Roliks09:
Here's my question, to all - Are u your real self on NL or just put a front to feel among?

Definitely real.

megacity:
Don't some folks hav anything to do with their time other than posting on NL. some folks have thousands of posts to their credit and i wonder how they are able to do that. , does NL pay these folks salary or is it they don't have any other thing to do or what? my question to all these folks with over a hundred posts

Forums are interactive in nature and in order to engage you have to respond, you can choose not to though you're correct. Nairaland is fun, it's an interesting forum, where similar category people (Nigerians and people interested in Nigeria) can gather and share ideas, challenge each other etc.

Discourse is very important in order to develop, the more different types of people you encounter who challenge you and make you think about your ideas and beliefs the better, the stronger you'll become against defending them.


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[size=20pt]ORIGINAL POSTER SAYS:

PLEASE DO NOT DISRESPECT THIS TOPIC, IF YOU HAVE ANY PROBLEMS WITH BEING FESTIVE AND PLAYING A GAME, PLEASE TAKE IT SOMEWHERE ELSE. THANKS IN ADVANCE [/size]

Questions people questions!!

@ henryhemon - you still have ONE token, because that wasn't a question

As for H202 that question is a GOOD ONE!! If you found it hard to ask it, think how hard I'll find it to answer it. .

H2O2:
[size=28pt]@topup[/size]

Who on Nairaland would you date and why? And if you say none, then answer why not?


It's kind of hard narrowing it down to one question   .

This is difficult because 1.) I'm not as current with Nairaland as I used to be, and 2.) also I don't just look at the way a guy speaks to me or about me, but also the way he speaks to others, 3.) I don't like naming names, if you had asked me at the very beginning (almost 2 years ago) I would have said nobody, if you asked me last year I would still have said nobody this is because most quys here try to conceal their true intentions and nature, they hide their sensitivity whilst others hide their brashness - claiming to be rational. . boys will be boys. . etc.

For now, I wouldn't date any guy on Nairaland though I can see certain qualities I like in certain guys.

I wouldn't date any guy, because I don't think I really know anyone here, I see a new side of everyone everyday - male and female (well except iice of course, who has always been reserved).

Naomi she's not fake like Tyra, she's ACTUALLY a supermodel (and works) and not so much a celebrity because of shows or who she knows.

I prefer Naomi's features, because I think they are quirkier.

But I like Tyra too, just prefer Naomi.

So you wouldn't wait unless she was a virgin?? So her virginity is like some sort of prize - typical.

If you are basing your ability to wait on such a trivial thing, then don't you think you might be weaker to temptation along the way, I mean you waiting for her is not solidified on deep mutual love - like you claim - but instead on her hymen being in tact.

Secondly, you could end up ripping up her hymen when you're 'checking'.

Thirdly, if she wasn't a virgin, would your love not be able to extend to abstinence, in favour of her conditions for the relationship.
How would you be able to guarantee that after marriage, you won't want to stray once you've acquired the 'prize'?

Since I'm not a guy, I don't think my opinion would count so much to answer this, but it's pretty selfish thing to make it all about the guy. Painful menstruation can be horrific (likened to contractions of child birth for some women), and to think you risk losing your man, all that stress is just going to make it worse.

Most women are aware of their dates, so this shouldn't be too hard to avoid, but if it does happen, there really shouldn't be any forced consequences, it's awful enough as it is.

I don't think anyone appreciates what they have until it's gone, luckily for some we learn the bigger lesson from a much smaller mistake.

I mean it's a male poster, who made a topic about him losing his girlfriend because of all the lies and cheating, and that he's only just realised it now that she's changed and is no longer showering him with unconditional love and affection.

She probably liked you from the get-go initially as a sort-of forbidden fruit that distracted her from the problems in her existing relationship with her boyfriend.

And whilst you weren't too keen on starting anything, she probably liked you, and then whilst your feelings began to grow hers might have faded over time.

The reason why I say this is, if I really liked a guy, and he finally began to notice me, I might get shy, but I would NOT start misbehaving for fear of losing his affection and attention. By misbehaving it either means she is really afraid of getting really close to you, or she is not really bothered anymore about putting effort into maintaining the 'friendship'.

I suggest that you try and obtain a rational perspective on this, you are starting to become addicted to chatting to her online (and maybe also on the phone) and because she is distancing herself away, it means that you are intensifying your feelings for her to compensate.

I may be wrong but this is probably a case of a girl being really confident and forward and then when it comes down to it, shies away when met with the same confidence, or maybe she's bored and is speaking to someone else.

It's really difficult to tell whether you're on the same level as the other person when talking online, you can't see facial expressions and everything can be faked, from the profile pic to the accent you hear over skype, so whilst the girl might have seemed very keen at the beginning, it could have all been a game.

With this in perspective, please try and know that if she is worth it, she will make things easier for you, or at least respond, if you find that it's like fighting a losing battle, try and reassess her qualities, not just what you saw at the beginning, but balance it with what she's like now.

Unprotected sex isn't an efficient way of telling if you're impotent or what type of impotency it might be, it's best to get yourself checked out properly by a doctor, who knows you may not even need to tell anyone, if they find a reason/cure for it.

You already know the risks of unprotected sex right?

Sex is just sex?? Hmm?

No!!

Sex is more, can you imagine, when she has kids with this guy, looking into her kids eyes, knowing that you intentionally had sex with their mother, not because you loved her but because you felt to conquer her.

I don't get the impression that you love this woman, since you are planning on having sex and then kicking her out of your life.

There are warning signs written all over this, it's obvious she is trying to move on, who knows maybe she's a game player and she expects this to be the time that if you loved her you would fight for her, and break the engagement, but since you don't seem to, why not just let bygones be bygones.

By tying her to you with sex, you risk jeopardising your future relationships, once you break the boundary of matrimony, nothing stops her infiltrating your house where your future bride sleeps and wanting more of you.

Are you casual about cheating?? - Would you like it if you were her fiance and the ex boyfriend wanted to hump and dump your to-be wife??

H2O2:
458 points, so you achieved position 970 of 346119 on the ranking list


You type 609 characters per minute
You have 112 correct words and
you have 3 wrong words


I'll give it a rest for the night, since I have halved the previous score like I said I would.

Wowie, you have a gift for typing!! - and I never received a friend invite. I don't connect my facebook to my nairaland account, intentionally.