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If you marry the right person you will enjoy marriage but if you marry the wrong person you will hate marriage.

Someone up there said that "all the benefits of marriage can be obtained outside marriage" I will say nay, nay and nay.

What deceives both gender is the available sex life outside marriage. It offers them benefits without responsibility. But benefit without responsibility is fake.

Every fake has a time lag. I'm not advocating that it's compulsory that everyone must be married. But make up your mind in time. Take the decision that suits you and carry the cross attached to it.

@Calitoscassius
What does a demonized lady mean? how can one recognise a demonised lady?

You are not making any sense.


@me
Spiritual things are not physically discerned. I have seen several. I have heard demons speak from the mouth of very beautiful ladies such that some of their husbands were afraid to go home with them.

Spiritual things don't make sense to the natural man. Acts 2:12

Fornication is bad enough before God. Doing it with a demonized lady takes it to higher level.

Flee from fornication.

If you love your children then you should make the sacrifice.

@ethicallyright
It is instinctive for a smart mammal to put his/her offspring first.

More Cubs die of infanticide perpetuated by big cats and other carnivores of their kind than any other reason because these animals can never raise another Cat's cub.

This means that no matter how kind a step-parent is, they can never love a step-child more than their biological child.

If step-kids are maltreated and discriminated in polygamous marriages where their mothers are still present, what do you think will happen when they live with a new wife who knows that their mother is no longer in the picture?

Smart parents try to resolve their differences for the long-term good of their kids and it is an intelligent step towards self-preservation. [/b]

But if the marriage has broken down irretrievably, the separated spouse who takes custody of the children must place the safety and comfortability of the kids first.

That means, the separated parent must make it clear to the new spouse that he/she will not tolerate abuse of her existing kids in the new relationship. The parent must act on his/her word if the kids are abused.

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[b] Disclaimer

As a bachelor avoid marrying a single mother who makes it clear that she values her existing children more than you because she'll love them more than your own children when she gives birth to them.

As a bachelor avoid marrying a single mother whose ex-husband or baby-father is still alive because she'll always be attracted to him because they share a child.

As a bachelor avoid marrying a single mother whose ex-husband is dead because what killed the ex-husband may kill you too.



@me
Wonderful submission. Fully agree with you.

This life and many stories. Chop mama and chop pikin.

@ityP

Many educated illiterates on this thread. So, after your secondary school, you didn't know what menu is abi? Na for uni dem start to teach you English? How do seemingly educated persons look at a secondarians as illiterates? Like how? I was already very good in speaking and writing English before I entered the university. And if you've been to the university yourself, you of all people should know they don't teach English there. Even GST 101 didn't go half deep into what I learnt in secondary school. In fact, that class was so unnecessary, I barely attended. As someone who've been to the university, I can authoritatively tell you SCHOOL NA SCAM. The only reason I dey enter school na to use the degree find work. If I see something way better to generate income later, my certificate would be totally useless. I know many graduates who can't speak good English sef. Why? Their educational foundation was faulty. You only need primary school and secondary school education to be able to speak good and sweet English. If you think otherwise, you're more likely an illiterate yourself >:


@me
Oga calm down. That statement was used to show the typical behaviour of an illiterate or semi-illiterate man. In the 21st century a school cert holder is at best a semi-illiterate person. I will not allow my son/daughter to marry such no matter how rich the person is.

Those that went to school and still claim that "school na scam" are those that went to school for certificate and not knowledge. Nothing polishes and emboldens a man like sound education. Money or no money.

@pocohantas



When I talk, one redpiller will start quoting me with terrible English.

Despite the fact that our mothers married early, if you come for their 20yrs old daughters in 2021, they will pursue you! Affliction shall not rise a second time. They will tell you to allow her to graduate. Next they’ll tell you to allow her to serve. Then they will tell you to allow her to get a job. All this is to buy time!

The major exception is if you both are relatively young or they are so broke they need you to elevate. If not, they will look out for their daughter because the kind of men you would meet when you are working in KPMG is different from the ones you meet as a broke undergraduate.


If you are a man above 34, you must bring more to the table. If you want a very young educated girl from a middle class home, you must make her very comfortable. She can’t be trekking under hot sun and jumping Obalende bus with a man that conductors would mistake for her uncle/father.



@me
Poco... I agree with you totally on this. Education na scam na when you no get am. A lot of educated young ladies that married illiterate or semi-illiterate men whether rich or average know what they are missing. They don't just flow no matter the pretence.

When she is with the man in a restaurant and he shouts "I will eat menu like you" and the whole people turns to her and her husband that's when she will know the difference between abakaliki rice and foreign rice.

Very complicated. If you get a very good lawyer many of the actions of the woman can be reversed. Sale of property where the seller has no legal right is void and/or voidable.

That a person is mentioned as NOK does not give the person the legal right over the deceased estate. Check if your dad had a will. If he had the content subsists. If he died intestate other rules apply which will grant you and all your siblings right over his properties.

For the pension, get in touch with the paying authority and they will tell you the necessary papers to file so that his one-off payment will be made to you. The same applies to his bank balances.

For the documents in her possession, if she refuses to surrender them, get a lawyer to initiate an action so that the court will compel her to surrender them.

Good luck.

@Blessing185
Holy gram
What a responsible man already handling his responsibilities..



@me
Longevity is the true test and not wedding show.

Good write up

Do you mean reading or studying? You can't do serious study with loud music on. You can solve problems involving calculation with music on.

Hahahaha.....this one na learner. This is not how madam use to bath the baby. Remember to give breast milk after bathing.

I can understand the pains of a true Christian father that the son has fallen off the faith. He feels that he will be judged by the Christian community as a failure.

This is always the experience of true Christian families because of the caged life of true Christianity. Most of their children can't deal with this.

Let your father relax but always remember him in prayer after all no one comes to Christ except He draws the person to himself.

Aren't rich. In my house I know that we are not the food food type. We can chat and do other things up till 2 pm and we have not eaten. Most relations complain about this when they visit. My wife tells them to try and eat without minding us. You know say dey go dey feel somehow.

Once your system is developed to get used to food food all the time that's what your body will crave.

If I'm alone I can take my bread and coffee (God bless Maxwell coffee) for two weeks as food. If you are a heavy eater and you stay with me nobi die.

My son sees men as a tough father and sees the mum as a moderate. He prefers to pass his requests to me through the mum.

He is now a graduate. The highest warning that you can give to him is to remind him that "your dad will hear this". This has helped build him in everyway. Assuming that I was not in the picture what happens?

I have softened now ooo. We are now paddy. The child needs both parents. Any girl raised by a single parent will have to work so hard to convince me to sanction my son marrying her.

Village ke, what is village? The man is just being protective of you and your children. There are some arrows that can be thrown at a matured body but can't enter but can easily enter the bodies of young ones.

He had said that you can go alone which means that he's not denying you contact with your parents and village people. If you miss any of your siblings so much invite them over.

Very good. Problem recognised, problem solved. Be conscious of this trait of yours and anytime it wants to come up in your argument with him walk away.

Overtime you will unconsciously experience some changes.

So olisa get mouth to talk about super eagles. That guy no get shame. He's the Pep of Africa let him show us championships he has won in Europe.

The man that insults everybody.

Some married women are like this. My wife is one of them. She will keep her phone somewhere and be somewhere else. I will always tell her that the phone is called mobile phone.

Even I, when I'm in some activities I don't like my phone around me. In some days I don't receive calls for half of the day but as soon as I'm free I'll begin to return all the calls. Even unsaved numbers that called me twice, I'll return the call.

Try and change the habit hence it's an issue. Cultivate the habit of calling him when you are free even when he didn't call and tell him that you are using the opportunity to let him know you're missing his calls were not deliberate.

Different wahala for relationships.

Just overlook this. This is minor. Maybe she wants to pick something personal that she didn't want you to know. Hence it's the first time leave it at that.

Some women once in awhile are like this. I'm lucky though.

Congrats madam. God is faithful

@Sergio101
Conduct a referendum to save life.

What do you gain in ruling a country you know can never be united??



@me
Referendum my foot. I have shown the world how we will organise ourselves in Biafra if given.

@pstemma1990
I understand u, but check my account, I didn't register it today... If I need help I'll gladly ask... I posted with evidence, if u see a made-up story u can easily tell...

I went to 9mobile office, they said there's nothing that they can do about it... I met someone outside that said he's going to buy it... I ended up selling it to him for 9000 naira .. so I lost 6500 minus my transportation....



@me
Very sorry my dear. The Almighty will replenish you.

@ahnie
Why do you always love quoting me?


@me
Oh I didn't realise that it's an offence to you. Never again. Have a lot to do with my time.

Pool betting. Police like gambling plenty.

@kollinz1234

"they will kill us, we will kill them; but at the end, Biafra will come".

I will rather die fighting for something than leave and watch my children become slaves.



@me
And you are here typing. Others are killing them and they are killing others.

Amen

The world is a confused place. You don't know what to believe

Story

@greenie77

Haba! Your memory of me is tied to a fight......it is not a good something o!



@me
Not really. But that was how we got to know each other. Again people like us live a caged life. We fear that we might easily be misunderstood.