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You said "relocate" and then you said "traveled and come back". Which one exactly? If she's going on a business trip or for studies with the plan of coming back afterwards, that's not relocation.

That said, has she agreed to marry you? I am asking cause it takes two to tango. Whether you'd engage her before she leaves or not is not just up to you but a decision you both have to take together. And quite frankly, no one can effectively decide your own part for you cause we don't even know the lady in question and what she's worth to you. Your cause is situational. Y'all should sit and do some planning without emotions. Will her visa type allow her bring her spouse over? If not, what are your options?

I don't really subscribe to the idea of men always coming here to ask questions about things they should discuss with their partners.

Good luck.

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Jollof noodles and fried egg


Something lite

How is it made?

donestk:
Immature tweet

Very childish.

Very childish ranting...

True or not, you don't just wake up and start calling someone ugly. If you don't think she's good looking, keep it to yourself. We all have our own eyes. This is the man who spends all his day talking about Nigerian girls.

madjune:
That's Madam Angela Onyeador.

A high class society networker in the 90s Nigeria.
She's the one that connected Kanu Nwankwo to his wife.
I'm sure she rocked deals with Tinubu as she's a sharp biz woman.
Onyeka na her girl then, so I'm sure they were discussing biz there.

I see. Good to know.
Thanks!

Righteousness2:
Oga Father! You need to be more specific.

Inasmuch as there are fake pastors and Prophets who make merchandise of people with fake stuffs, there are also Real servants of GOD that GOD ALMIGHTY is using to do impossible things. MIRACLES are real! I have seen People get Miracles and I myself have been hit by Miracles.

If you want to see Miracles, not just in people but also in your own life! Then save this date.
12th & 13th of February 2022 @ The Lords Chosen Charismatic revival Ministries Headquarters at IJesha, Lagos.
From Sorrow to JOY!
After this Encounter, I guarantee you that you will look for me to thank me.

Lol... He said things like "on tv", "most", "at the back of flyers", etc.. He's not doubting the one you saw, bro. I think he was specific enough with his post. You just ignored the specificity because you were probably more interested in replying and advertising your church. No attack here in my opinion.

Happiness is too encompassing to be in the list. It could mean anything and by choosing it, you've chosen every other option.

nairaman66:
You gave a nice advice and recommendation. Yet you can’t stop being a lady, can you? You also found a way to justify the comments by the ladies.. What a wonderful species the womanfolks are

I am man.

Now, think again and update your comment.

Sad... I think the right thing is to tell your brother and let him decide what to do with that piece of information. I'd also tell my sister if I catch her man with another lady cause she'd never forgive me if she learns later that I knew about it and kept quiet. To those above calling out ladies, I hope y'all now see how ridiculous it is when men rush to defend cheating men? Those ladies in the comment section just served you a dose of your own medicine. If this case was reversed, most of you would be typing exactly the same thing.

phemmyfour:
I know you will see something else

Lol... don't you like it?

The lady in the middle, I like her hairstyle.

dnawah:
this is an old picture/video naw!4-5 years ago,I downloaded the video and it vanished from my phone.

Lol... wow

So your story makes him innocent? I'm struggling to understand some people's thought process. It's just mind blowing. Why not let the police do thier work?

Swarming is a natural behavior of locusts.

Nigerians will never learn to live and let live. You enjoyed your football and it wasn't a distraction. But you want BBN to be suspended simply cause it's not your thing. Why do Africans always think it's up to them to decide for others? Why is everyone trying to make everyone's else be like them?

If they cancel the program now, young people will participate in the election and probably, one of them will become the president? How long has Nigeria been like this and how long has BBN existed? You obviously don't know that entertainments like that make life a but bearable for some. If BBN is not your thing, don't watch it. You're not any better than those that do just cause you have other preferences. You guys should learn to appreciate differences.

Y'all screaming immoral act open your eyes widely to watch both Nigerian and American music videos where women dance more or less nude. But here you're playing the paragon of morality. Tell me one part of BBN that is really dirtier the mainstream music videos y'all watch with pleasure. You don't have to kick against things you don't like. If you don't want any distractions, cancel all sporting activities too and let depression have a field day.

gazeup1:
She doesn't seem hurt, but sometimes she reminds me of those words, I have never officially told her sorry neither have I really changed because I am just like that, I don't mean evil. I wanted her to braze up and never stay low.

@bolded, it's obvious the only reason you're considering saying sorry is because she now earns much more than you do, and you fear she might hold it against you or start treating you the way you used to treat her. Sir, you were evil to her. You probably put her through series of depression phases, and you would have been doing that up till this moment if she was still earning less than you. And you're telling us you're just like that. You're just like how? Just naturally wicked? How would someone that treats his wife like this treat strangers? You can't even bring yourself to say you're sorry to your wife of over a decade. And please, don't say you just wanted her to braze up (whatever that means). That's what you tell yourself to get rid of the guilty conscience that's obviously eating you up. You obviously know that's not true and that's why you feel this way. Acknowledge your wicked acts without excuses, that's the first step to your peace of mind.

I pity the poor woman. People like you hardly appreciate others. So if you're saying she's such a nice person, then she must have really endured so much to the extent that you're even surprised yourself. She might not tell you this, but she hasn't forgotten how you made her feel. People forget what you say or do but not how you make them feel. The apology you're yet to give started losing its value the moment she started earning more than you, and if you wait till she officially brings up the past before you eventually apologize, the apology will be almost valueless. You are a lucky man. This lady has shown you love that even your hardened heart cannot deny and it's unlikely she'll stop now. So just go and apologize whichever way you know how to, she is obviously at peace with her fate.

Two important things:
1) For the sake of your mental health, don't give yourself excuses for treating her the way you did. Saying things like "I only wanted her to braze up", "that's just who I am", etc. might make you feel better temporarily but the guilty conscience will always come back.
2) Your attitude after the apology is more important than the apology itself. Anybody can apologize but it takes a genuine heart to make changes.

shortIGBOman:
Eyahhh. This is the worst time to be from the East. People just dey use them dey catch cruise everywhere.

Them?

She told you she wasn't ready. You somehow managed to convince her, but you're seeing now that truly, she wasn't ready. It's up to you decide if you can deal with that or not. Nobody will blame you if you decide to leave her. But I don't really agree with you asking her out of your house cause she opened up to you. Such reactions are the reason people don't communicate in relationships. The truth is, relationship is not a do or die affair. If she's not fully committed and that's not working for you, you communicate that and part ways without a fight. It seems you're also not sending a clear signal yourself. Asking her to leave unceremoniously, not calling her on her birthday, liking her pics online, etc. What do you want? What are your conditions? Communicate that and be resolute. Don't leave each other hanging or wondering what the other person is thinking.

Good luck!

How will the apologists defend this one?

Cevife:
He still hasn't said the truth

Lol... Cevife, you seem to know the truth more than the person that had the experience. Why not just tell us?

YinkaOlusesi:
Some women mumu no be small

This is just a default response y'all give whenever there's a relationship issue no matter who's at fault. Let's look a this logically, OP didn't mention he ever told the lady he didn't like the item in question. She mentioned it to him before buying it. He didn't register his displeasure. He didn't say anything, no communication. Then she went ahead to buy it and he started giving her attitude.

He's here telling us she started giving him attitude but the write-up makes it clear he's the one that first started giving her attitude. He just didn't see his own as "attitude". There is nothing wrong with a peace of jewelry but it's okay if OP doesn't like it. He only had to communicate that instead of keeping silent and expecting the lady to magically read his mind. The fact that she was really interested in turning him on means she would have had a second thought if OP had told her it was a turn-off for him. If it was a lady behaving like this, you you would been saying "women have issues". It's as if the strategy is to blame women first and read the article later.

Sonnobax15:

No be to get land for Abuja be the problem,but na to develop am

Any ways, congrats to him

Actually, depending on the location, the cost of getting a plot of land in Abuja could be more expensive than the cost of developing it. The owner decides the kind of structure they want, so things are somehow within their control when it comes to development.

Cousin9999:
Bad idea. The tech isn't there yet. And any large gambling company will try to hack.

Well, the tech will never be there if it's not put to use. Every great tech today started off like this and got refined over the years. The possibility of being hacked has never really stopped any tech advancement. Countries moved to e-voting, automated surgery, etc. despite this possibility. We just have to deal with it if the system will bring better accuracy/efficiency and reduce cost.

Tareq1105:
It's obvious from your contribution that you must be one of the useless Princes. Prince my foot.

Lol... Prince? That dude isn't a prince, I believe. All his comments seem to be a desperate attempt to give the impression he's one. He's just trying too much. Even his username seems desperate. He's delibrately typing rubbish so people would notice him and possibly acknowledge him as a prince. The only take-away from this is that he's a young guy with fantasies.

Winornothing:
Okay, the thing is I don't know shi about coding of a thing, I just want to get started with it.

Here's what I want to learn;

Web designing
Building of Mobile app and games
Then probably learn cyber security or ethical hacking or the two if possible

And again what are the chances of one getting a job without a degree in computer science.

The thing is I have another course I want to study at school so I just want to learn coding myself though videos,books and any materials I lay my hands on.


Once more what tools would you recommend me to install on my laptop in order to practice coding.

Thanks for you input so far

I anticipate your response

It's normal to want a lot especially when you're viewing them from a distance. However, it could take a while to learn one and build experience in it. Like I stated in my last post, my advice for you is to get started and see how it goes. For basic/vanilla HTML/CSS, just install VS Code and code away. When you are ready for JS, you can experiment with different frameworks and see which one works for you. Just do it one step at a time so you wouldn't get overwhelmed.

You love programming, you want to make a career out of it, but you have another course you want to study in school? Just curious, why is this the case? What's the point of studying a course that does not align with your career goal? You just don't love programming enough to influence your choice? Many people don't know what they want to do with their lives even after thier secondary school education. That's why they end up studying one course only to start seeking skills in another field years later. I'm sure you have your reasons but you might want to discuss this with your career adviser just to be sure.

Yes, you don't need an IT degree to get a job. Even if you were to go for a degree, you'd still have to do a lot learning on your own. But of course, it might be easier if you had one. Some systems do the first automatic filtering of applications based on predefined criteria and degree could be one of those. A degree in IT also depicts passion. Above all this, a degree in Computer Science and/or Mathematics would give you a solid understanding of software development theories/practices and industry standards.

mattmogan88:
Are you for real

Just ignore him. You have other things to worry about.

@OP, my text is long. If you can't read it all, just read the bolded sentences/clauses as if other parts don't exist. That will give you a good summary.

I think the first thing to ascertain is why exactly you want to do this MSc program. You obviously don't have the luxury of doing an MSc program just because you want to have a master's degree. Therefore, I'd like to believe you're gunning for a degree in this specific course of study because there's a skill set, a career or a particular industry you're looking at. Master's degree is great especially for career oriented people. I have one in software engineering and the knowledge helps me in my day-to-day activities at work. I know people who got their master's cause they wanted to do a career switch. Some do it to get promotion at work (a master's degree could facilitate one's promotion in the public sector). Others did it to boost thier profiles for economic migration. The point here is, there should be a goal. Some people just randomly go for any course in their undergraduate program. That is not ideal, but it would be ridiculous to do the same at the master's level.

To be sure there's a goal, ask yourself these questions: has your job application ever been filtered out in the past cause of what you studied? Have you ever seen jobs specifically requesting for master's degree holders? Have you ever seen one asking for an academic background in this field you want to go into? Will the skills you'd acquire help you in a particular field you really desire to go into? If you answer no to all these questions, then it's likely that the MSc won't drastically change anything for you in terms of job search. You'd likely still be looking for a job the way you are doing now. And in that case, I'd say, whatever you want to start doing after getting your MSc, start doing that now.

On the other hand, if your desire to have a master's degree is targeted oriented like I described above and you believe there's a chance you could survive the hardship you might face while in school, then go for it. Life is all about planning and this MSc could be your own strategy. I believe you must have thought of this before seeking admission to do a full-time program. But if there's really no way you can work while studying and there's no one to help, then I don't think you have a lot of choices at the moment. It's sad but the reality is, there are millions of people out there who would have loved to further thier education if they had the resources. The only possible option for you would be to keep doing whatever you're doing now until you've saved enough to sustain you while you study and earn less.

I sincerely wish you the best!

Belial06:
First of all, the most important thing to consider in this before making any decision. To be able to advise you I need to understand whether or if . Okay tell me this....
Are you beautiful or ugly ?

What are you suggesting, sir? Seriously, the way you guys treat women is just not fair. This is excusable if you're a teenager but as an adult, it's just shameful. If this was a guy, you'd have started "my brother, focus on this or do that...". But here you are already gearing up to make mockery of this young lady's endeavors. Tomorrow, you'd be the first to say Nigerian girls don't bring anything to the table. Pity!

Looks delicious. I'll try it!

jonandez:
No one is supporting his actions ..
And on a personal level due to football reasons I personally don't like him.. but if u are to post something like that.. own up to it stop trying to hide behind something or someone.
I don't like two faced people..
How can that picture and voice note get out and u said they hacked ur phone...
Where the hackers waiting for u to record and snap the evidence before they decided to attack..
Wat greenwood did or didn't do is bad and very wrong... And if he is found guilty he should be punished

So this justifies focusing on her and not on the culprit? Is not owning up now a more serious offense than rape? A Nigerian adage says, "chase away the kite before blaming the hen for exposing its chicks". If the guy did what he's accused of, the whole owning up or not owning up thing you're saying becomes inconsequential. Rape is such a big issue, so I find it appalling that faced by this kind issue, our guys are more inserested on how she leaked the information. What does that change if the guy is guilty? She can leak it however she wants to leak it provided she gets justice. If she's not owning up, she has her reasons and whatever those may be, it's not enough to justify victim-blaming.

This is fake. Why can't you guys spend this energy on the campaign against rape? The extent to which most of you would go to defend rapists is just alarming. See how passionately these people are defending the guy calling him innocent talented young lad while the victim is called all sorts of names. Does sexism remove your sense of sympathy? Are you guys beasts? What's wrong with y'all?

popesco123:
These toothless stray dogs will not call the government in order when the unleash suffering and hardship to the masses.

Deeprooted:


These guys would never come out to condemn bad but will be quick to hypocritally condemn an attempt to resist those bunch of greedy politicians!

There's hardly anything they can do for you against your politicians cause you practice democracy and your politicians are democratically elected. You alone can help yourself. Let's not project blames. They only get involved when a certain group of people forcefully take over power.