₦airaland Forum

ibkayee:
The roots of the problem are both the culture and the laws.

A culture that normalises rape and treats it as a misdemeanor
And laws that barely punish the perpetrators or don't punish them at all

Rapists are enabled and sometimes even coddled, something needs to happen man, it's toooo much

skuribeebo:
Stop visiting men in their house .

oyeb15:
Pls stop lockdown too. It promote rape.

philip0906:
Clowns!!

Sit behind their keyboards and jump on the bandwagon to look cool and sound woke. I have screened through social media & comments of many of the so-called celebrities and just shook my head. Not even 1 single post, to request and demand for the right thing.

Since the advent of twitter and social media in the country, we have lost count of the number of hashtags that have been created. Many of the hashtags, have been lost in the dustbin of tweeter & facebook but the problems & challenges, still remain.

You expect a rapist to reason? Or you expect a rapist to see the "say no to rape" hashtag and decide " Okay, I won't rape again"? Has any one ever asked why these rapists are on the prowl and moving unabated? Why are they so emboldened? They know they can easily get away with their crimes, because;
1. The country has very lax & porous security apparatus to even track & identify them
2. The judicial system is not effective.

In saner climes, these societies know that rapists do not reason and so they have created an enabling system to checkmate them. What Nigerians should be asking for are;
1. Reform of the judicial process to expedite cases as well as become more efficient
2. Complete overhaul of the security apparatus even if it means state policing
3. Ask the authorities why we do not have a central repository of DNA & finger prints. Millions of Nigerians have finger prints with the banks, Immigration service, National Identity, but there is little way to tie them to an identity. This is what societies are using to checkmate crime but it's rocket science here.

The crime scene where the girl was murdered, clearly had tons of evidences & leads lying around but because of the above issues, getting a lead on the perpetuators of the crime, is a tall order and hopefully, innocent people are not paraded in the coming weeks as the ones behind the crime.

otokx:
There is more to this story.

Heavensent01:
she was obviously killed because the person na insider or perhaps member of the church because I don't see the confidence someone we have to do this rubbish in a church


people used to be around church, where are the people that stay around it? all should be arrested for questioning, the fire extinguisher should be screen thoroughly

Amanee:
Abroad of course


And I disagree with your second pro for Nigeria. We lack discipline and morality as a nation. Take that anywhere

ImaIma1:
Meaning he doesn't have a mind of his own or what? How can his family influence him for something he doesn't want to do?

Are you sure he's not with you because you are the breadwinner? If he hammers today, will he stay with you?

ImaIma1:
No.

Especially telling them how much you earn.

Or telling them every detail in your marriage

Reporting your spouse to them.

Etc.

oebakare:
Male

oebakare:
I'm sorry for any typo error...

Well I'm an undergraduate of a federal university, but I have been home with my older sister for a while now due to he pandemic and all... I've also been trying to secure a job for the past two months as I'm not someone that likes been idle.

The problem is my sister has a friend who stays with her, well I wouldn't lie she has had her good days too.. but recently I noticed she just switched up on me (mood swing kinda).. one minute we're vibing and the next she's keeping malice or giving irritating attitude...

PS : this is like the longest we've been home together... I don't know if it's familiarity or just a lady's thing.... and it's tiring seriously.....

I need to know what to do please....

oyetpel:
Thank God my cousins are not iike these complainers.

They will refuse to send people money here (when they know the exchange rate is favourable to foreign currency), and then they mock people still stuck in Nigeria.

Despite the struggles my cuzs go through, they always have good things to say about abroad, and i hope i join them soon.


Continue complaining with the little change you send or not sending again, money you can make in one day.

Since you are not sending again, did they die?

saphireadoo:
I have been married for 9 yrs now.I earn more than my husband, so i settle most of the bills while he supports. Some body called me last month and informed me that a lady in the village gave birth to a child for my husband and his family has gone to bring the girl to my husband house in the village. I couldnt believe it because he has been faithful, so i thought. I went to the village and confirmed the story to be true.When i asked him the reason for his actions, he said it was excessive pressure from his family to marry a 2nd wife because iam not their tribe though we are from the same state. I have had 3 miscarriages and 2 still birth @8 months, God in his mercies gave me a child last year. When this incidence happened, Close family members told me that the attack on my child bearing is from the family because they dont want me to bear fruits in their family. No bride price has been paid on this village girl who has a child for my husband but the lady is living with his family in the village. My husband said he wants to collect the child, he is not interested in marrying the girl. We love each other so much before now and have not had any major issues before now. Pls sincere advice no insults, am so confused right now.

sweetmelanin:
Every diasporian must watch the below video. You are not abroad to slave away your youthful years for entitled friends and family back home!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iC2KmoyTlv0

missimelda01:
Diaspora or Nigeria, people will only ask for money when they think you're doing better than them, it's up to you to set your priorities right and give only when you can. I'm not against people(friends and family) asking for money when their in dire need, people are going through a lot and we should all agree that life abroad is way better than life here in Nigeria, so if you're in a position to help others, do so... It wouldn't stop you from saving or having a retirement plan.

Rozz:
What of our G.O's? what would say

Juliusdaughter:
Thank you.
Traditional in the sense that it is the upmost duty of a woman to run the home(cook, clean, laundry), maybe once in a while assistance from the man. I feel as young couple these are things we should be able to do together. And he does not mind me being in charge of the finance(his salary)

rentAcock:
Its not always about instilling confidence in your children. Some of the most successful scientists, innovators, inventors etc are shy introverts. Just let your child know you are there to support and guide them. For example, stop telling an average looking child that he's cute when he is self aware that he's just average. I see so many people on social media typing things like "aww such a cute baby" when they know rightfully well the baby is just average. Falsely boosting your children's confidence with lies will make them not trust your words.

BobbyHammar:
Anybody who still believe in the scam of no sex till marriage needs to get their head checked. If only you know how many marriages have been destroyed or are still suffering because of this, you will never think of falling for such a scam.

What baffles me is those who keep going to church but yet don't know anything about bible and will keep deceiving themselves that sex before marriage is a sin (WHICH YEYE SIN).

Many will say it's formication but they don't even know the true meaning of fornication as referred to in the bible. Take for example when Joseph was dating Mary, yes we agree she was still a virgin because it was their own decision not to have sex yet but how many people realized that there were other young women that existed then as well. Many had boyfriends too and some had sex with their boyfriends while some didn't because Mary wasn't the only virgin.

The bible never condemned those that had sex with their boyfriends before marriage but it was just the divine choice of the Father to select a virgin rather than a lady that had sex already.

Let's stop all these brohaha low African mentality of calling sex before marriage a sin. God only sees a clean and a pure heart, not who had sex when or how. You all should better respect yourself and save the doctrine of marriage by testing the waters to ensure you are ready to sail on that water for the rest of your life. Not after marriage you start looking for divorce because penis is too big or too small or maybe Virgina is too tight or too wide or its always one minute sex.

Haba.

Juliusdaughter:
This is what my boyfriend said to me when I asked about his relationship status before I went into the relationship with him, he said hes recent ex is the daughter of his mummy's friend and the only reason his mummy does nor want them together is because she is not about to let their relationship(my boyfriend and the lady) ruin the friendship she has with the mother of the lady in case things dont go as planned between them.

I recently got to find out he is still talking to the lady and because of that I have not been in talking terms with him. I dont know what to do, he keeps saying he loves me and he is not with her anymore because of what his mum said.

I dont want to break up with him just yet for this, he is the only guy that I have been with that knows how to say he is sorry, he always asks what the problem is and want us to talk about it. He doesnt come across as a proud person, he listens to me but I find him a bit traditional.
I have also told him no sex until I get to meet his mum and she gives her approval, he also do not have a problem with this.
What do I do please

ValCon888:
You know how girls have daddy issues from not having a father figure in their lives? Yeah, but this time these men have baby issues because they want to compete with the baby.