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adoreyou:
Who is also percieving this? Did you smell lies?

nautybride:
Hot blooded woman. When would women stop disturbing themselves over cheating bastards? Protect yourself and throw-away face.

CeeJay9ja:
A Muslim lady by name " Haya" took to Twitter to vent her experience with Rapist during her visit to Umrah. Some of her Muslim brothers said she was lying but other Muslim women said they experienced the same thing.

Here is a screenshot of the story....

https://twitter.com/hayasaleemi/status/1265787140153237504?s=19[/quote]Sorry about your experience.

Report to the appropriate authorities with evidence and fact.

Dignity5:
Both sides of this are quite wrong and so this problem will persist but am afraid the AA's will be on the losing end. Losing out on development, image , just about every thing worth losing.

Trying to promote revolution like this is the worse possible thing that can afford to do. The AA image has been bad from the onset and bad apples have given no reasons for these already highly prejudiced folks to try and table differences. People selling drugs? an AA is probably involved, a robbery? yeah representing as well, violent crimes? can't be left out. African's in Africa are not much better, leaders to street dwellers. The economies, cities and streets, standard of life, it's just really telling of who they are. If black people do not sit down and act like human beings others won't.

This mindset that others will go out of their way to accommodate blacks is also naive and hasn't even been earned in my view. Call for this guy's head but two more will spring up. Emotional responses like this would also muddy the road to a lasting solution which is to put up their portion in society. At the very least If more AA's were in legislative, judiciary, executive roles a more substantial impact would be at hand, their fate would be in their hands.


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liberalchick:
Not all marriages are contracted for procreation.

scoundrel:
Watching the guy on BBNaija showed no characteristic of him getting physical on a woman. He seems more the type who’ll sleep with your friends, sisters, cousin sisters (the regular Nairaland saying) and even one’s mother if enraged. Then again many people change, most times for the worse.

liberalchick:
No, I didn’t marry the wrong person. I am just being realistic, living with someone for the rest of your life will not always be romantic and easy. There are different stages in marriages where it’s excellent, good, bad, sometimes ugly and then neutral.

Also, when people say their marriage is easy, sometimes it’s one sided, they are probably oblivious of their partner’s sacrifice to make the marriage an easy one for them.

Dyt:
What is Before, In Between and After?

Yeah we all know marriage is an institution between 2 persons with the aim to have offspring and companionship, but is this all we see and make of it?

I am a person that believes in relationship/marriage and tries to go far in making it work well except when it starts to affect my mental health (i cant go mad all in the name of i want it to work)

Some say marriage is easy while some say its a hard work, we all have different opinions..
I for one been married before, it didnt work not because i couldnt try but (my choice anyway)

I am considering going into another and all the things that we do that counts now may not in few years, I mean the sexiness, the kamasutra and all, well ofcourse i am not just gonna be offering just sex, we both got more to keep us going for a 100years to come (my favourite part is the friendship and companionship)...

I am scared sometimes waking up to him every other day and same way it excites me

How has it been with those married for 5years and counting? the joy, feeling, the tears, the arguments, the sex, I mean all of it....

UjuJoan2:
I think you have to know me personally to truly understand what I mean. I am 100% committed to my marriage if that's what you are asking. But I'm also not one of those I-must-stay-married-even-if-it-kills-me type.

I don't lash out at my husband, if anything he makes marriage more bearable for me. I knew I had no choice but to get married if I wanted to have kids, and I love love love kids.

But I also love my solitude. I've lived alone for like forever and I think I got too used to being alone, being free, being independent .

Ingriid:
Mr Samakus, be a man and stop dragging Dyt. I have been following this post, this lady has been one of d most civil persons on this post and she makes a little joke out of everything.
Just tell me what u will gain by dragging her? Why are u using her past experience which u know nothing about to judge her? Pls stop already!
Dyt, if u can read me, u are doing well. I like u!

ibkayee:
Some people always say this as an automatic response to a marriage not being painted as a bed of roses, but how do you even quantify this objectively?

I feel that there are too many possible factors and things that those looking in from the outside aren't privy to, to always automatically run to this as the explanation. People have their own different experiences

coolhuster:
My brother, no one is making marriage look scary. It is easier said than done. Nobody ever planned to go into marriage to divorce. Everyone envisage a happy home but when things don't go as planned, if care is not taken, that's the END. So, it is not always about getting married to the wrong person or being the wrong person.

I am a social worker, I have seen best of friends become worst enemies. Close pals to the family wondered why everything got so awkward early. If not for confidentiality purpose, I would narrate a recent case. In my agency, we have even concluded that it is not about the right people getting into marriage, it is about matured and prepared minds.

Johntemmy:
For better for worse
is love enough to sustain
marriage?

Oya share your opinion biko....

zeb04:
At one point in marriage, the hot sex and mushy mushy disappears what is left is Respect and Friendship.

I use to worry about this word FRIENDSHIP. I wanted to force it on my husband coz I heard a lot a out it.

In my head friendship is talking and laughing 24/7. But my husband is "fluent in silence" content in just laying down and saying nothing.So I felt we didn't have friendship. But now I know better.

2ndly I believed only a Christian man can give you a good marriage. By Christian i mean going to church 2/3 times a week, participating in church activities, doing morning devotion and all,

A man with a good moral compass and also give you a good home. Don't force all of that on your partner. I still do devotions with my kids but go to church every Sunday (with my husband but I don't force him for this one. Secretly I think he is doing it as family bonding time not really for anything else. I will take it)

your marriage must not be like everyone else. I and my husband separated for 6 months when we hit our rough paths(every one said, in marriage you must stick together to work it out blah blah blah. ) how can yoh work it out in the same situation that is choking you. Even at work they give you leave days.


You cannot work it out in that situation. You need to take a break and look at it from the outside. If not you will completely get irritated and start to hold a grudge.

Thastie:
We are in a world where;

Decency is ashamed
Virginity is ashamed
Marriage is ashamed
Loyalty is ashamed....

youwanbanme:
How about we start with, what exactly dd the women in the bible enjoy that women of today are deprived.
Talking of "doormat" i think you shuld av stick to "slavery" a bit fair tho ... from genesis to revelation can you point to places .. wives assign domestic duties to there husband, upon say uncle solomon naa woman wrapper, how many times did he enter kitchen 4 a breakfast in bed
how many brides in d bible got honeymoon, how many of those ladies got a vacation, val gifts, a car to pickup there kids frm school or even had the opportunity to manage there home finances.
It pisses me off when women use words like "slavery"

funmisticqueen2:
there are also virgins looking for the fruit of the womb.

Motherhood is not just carrying a pregnancy for 9months. Motherhood is not defined by the status of your womb.

Vikky1425:
I have a previous thread about this man. We started dating like a month now. When I was at his place one time like that, he wanted to show me something on his phone and a whatsapp message popped up from MY LOVE, obviously I wasnt the one that sent the message.
I didnt say anything immediately, I got home and asked him about who that person was, and he said the lady is his ex. He is not in his twenties anymore and it's hard to see a man in his 30s that is actually VERY SINGLE, so I asked him if there is any woman in his life and he told me about a ex that his mum said he cannot marry.
This same ex was the lady that sent him the text that day, they are still in touch and constantly talking.
I was surprised last week when we saw again, fortunately I got to see that he saved my own name as VICTORIA BENIN. I didnt say anything either.
I got home and talked to him about it then he said "with time that will change" what's all that? He knows am not too happy with him, then two days ago he said he called his mum to talk to her about this same ex, whether he can still marry her or not. He then said his mum said NO that am the only lady in his life, that he just called to co firm things from his mum.
This is crazy

Enoch07:
to all the hundreds of children on nairaland, I say happy childrens day to u

Biisorla:
It’s a video of you eating food

sassysure:
And the cycle continues

GreaterGraceGG:
My sis, he is educated (MBA) and he has been working for 5years even bfr the wedding.

sassysure:
U forgot to look at the quality of the man u want to marry.
Some may live in self con but frugal and ambitious so it won't last.
Some will live in self con riding 3m car and living fast life.
Some live in self con and are just contented with that.
Look at what stuff he is made of and see if it tallies with yours.

I got married in Julius Berger container converted to house

traihit:
So sad people have committed atrocious activities using the Bible. Anyways, Satan used the Bible against Jesus so it depends on how you use it.

Whether you're religious or not, misogyny will find a way to express itself but if you want to use the Bible as your backing of misogyny, I'm here to burst your bubble.

Nowhere in the Bible did God or anybody told men to treat their wives in husband-servant relationship. Sarah treated Abraham as her master but the same Abraham listened to his wife and did her wish, then that balanced it.

Finally, while women are told to submit to their husbands as if they're submitting to Jesus, husbands are also told to love their wives to the extent of giving their lives for their wives (as Christ love the church and gave himself for it Ephesians 5 vs 25).

So if anyone says that the Bible supports misogyny, then they're looking for somewhere to hide.