₦airaland Forum

Toks2008:
This is a very serious decision but I will close my eyes and painfully remove the Egusi soup.

What about you?

ogbono gotta go

sthar:
My husband and I have not had the best relationship. The past two years has been really tough for us, we've had to struggle to make this marriage work. Although we have two kids, My husband talks down on me all the time.

He calls me an ordinary female, a useless creation and believes he owns me. He believes women should not have a freewill and are properties to their husbands. He calls himself my Alpha and omega. I sometimes wish he would hit Me rather than say all sorts to me.
Last week he started as usual. He called me names and Went on to talk about how he would teach me a lesson someday. I really don't know what came over me. I slapped him.

I s.wear it wasn't intentional, I didn't mean to hit him. I thought he would hit me back but he did not. It's been a whole week and he acts like nothing happened. He goes about playing with the kids , he greets me and makes sure we have food to eat too , but it is so unlike him.


My husband always reports to my parents. He tells them everything I do wrong and they always end up calling a meeting. But this time he's silent , he doesn't want sex too which Is so unlike him. I don't know what to do , I feel like he's planning to hurt me really big. I want to call my parents but everyone would blame me. How do I tell the world I slapped my husband?

You slapping him is very wrong, but he has been provoking you. This man is your enemy and your days are numbered.. Apologise to him and tell him that his words hurt you, and the slap is his fault. Report him to an elder he respects for all this emotional abuse.

But start planning to leave this relationship you have with this viper of a man.

Seun:
Students should not be allowed to discipline or demand respect from other students. That is not their job. Their job is to face their studies.

If a student needs to be disciplined, the adult staff of the school who are older, wiser, and have been trained on what to do should be the ones to do it. No exceptions.

exactly.

SportsHD:
They can make a press statement, saying that bullying is not allowed and all but, can it be enforced?

It can.

If the teachers and principals enforce it.

My secondary school had a no bullying policy under our principal then. If you as a junior reported a senior for bullying. He would be flogged infront of the whole assembly. Another report would mean suspension, a 3rd count meant expulsion.

Bullying became non existent because our principal then was an approachable man. When he left, it started to rise again. But I can say with pride that I never bullied a junior student.

Mr Nuhu hassan. I heard last from you in the UK, Wherever you are sir, God bless you.

You are gay aren't you?!

Prettydevil:
So today I realized everyone in my area is talking about how I have no girl in my life for a while. One of them slipped and mistakenly admitted I’m their topic and they feel I cannot approach women.

Now the thing is I’m way beyond approaching women, it’s not an issue of talking to them really more like an issue of me not even replying them. Now my neighbors think I don’t know how to talk to girls but in reality I don’t even reply girls that talk to me. I have a pretty face and I cannot count how many green lights I get from girls every single day, it’s unbelievable..only today a girl told me not to pay for the water I bought from her all cuz I flirted a little with her for fun. It’s that extremely easy for me but the problem is I’m not dating because I haven’t found anyone I like in years.

I don’t know what use a girl will even have in my life, all they offer these days is their body. I don’t see why I should be spending my money on someone just so people can see me strolling with a woman. Why do I need a woman? Why are they emotionally blackmailing me to be strolling with a female by force? Women I have created so many threads about how I think y’all are trying to ruin my life.

Keep gossiping me, I won’t date till I’m probably out of this dead country and then I can meet people who are not seeing me as an “update” to cash out. Rubbish, na by force to date girl?

Faller:
Till Today I'm still grateful to God that I didn't pass the entrance exam into Kings College that year.

Two of my Cousins passed, initially I was sad, after their first term there, they told me that they don't flog students in Kings College, that they do beat dem

Truly there's difference between flog and Beat

the bullying in kings college is terrible

ThierryJay:
Just to point out that this is a naive comparison. Ladies usually express their desire for sex to guys in subtle ways rather than directly like guys would.

Did you not see how he narrated that the first girl was disappointed in him for not banging her when he slept over even after giving him green light? Did she do anything wrong by wanting to sleep with him? Of course No. Making moves to have sex with the opposite gender is never a crime. The actual crime is proceeding with the sex or romance when one party does not consent to it which is rape or assault.

Pls stop demonising the regular preamble for sexual activities.

In subtle ways?! WTF?!

Not every girl gives those 'subtle ways' you guys are looking for. How many of you(men boys) ask a lady if she wants it?
To protect yourself from 'Had I known' always get at least verbal confirmation. Green light is never the same as consent.



What you and I are talking about is two different things. She gave green light, he wasn't interested, she let him go. Nothing spoil.

Some ladies will give red light, but the guy will keep coercing her till they get what they want(no consent here). There's a difference.

saphiere:
I'm not a misandrist. Good evening

you failing to call out a fellow woman watching a child getting raped and keeping quiet about it, is not putting you in a good light

AlphaMale666:
1. She poo just like you! And it smells real bad!

2. She passes out urine and has to clean with tissue when done!

3. Her mess stink bad just like yours!

4. She mensurates and you don't!

Always know as a male, you're the superior one. She's the one that's supposed to chase because you're the prize! Not her. Always remember this.

incel 101

walkbrazil4k:
I saw this on Facebook, lol, I am not a shoe wearing dude, I love sneakers, especially vintage sneakers

https://www.walkbrazil4k.com/2021/12/ladies-avoid-men-that-wear-this-type-of.html?m=1

ritualists?

The shoes look like what kanayo O kanayo and some igbo uncles will wear

Hubeznigeria:
These guys should be made to pay for the evil and wickedness they did to the poor girl.
But honestly I am disappointed seeing the way you are twisting the narrative to protect the mother of those degenerates. I used to admire your tenacity but I am starting to wonder should you be made a judge chances are that you would twist the arm of justice.

Take it or leave it, the silence of their mother encouraged them. @Saphiere I am disappointed. I've lost every respect for you.

*****
May we never be unfortunate

I used to respect her too, but she's proving to be a misandrist

Simran94:
So, you left the most important aspect which is that" Two male adults raped a 9 year old girl and have been having sex with her continously".

The kind of men Nairaland is breeding is really disgusting

yes the men's acts were heinous, no one disputes that,

But the fact that their evil mother watched and did nothing makes her an accomplice.

saphiere:
Men are just terrible.

Your cognitive dissonance is beginning to show on this thread.

saphiere:
You need to get a refund from your English Studies teachers if they taught you that "watches" means "aided".
Well, let me disappoint you. She was the one who called the police on her sons..

no she didn't, no where was that written in the report

ZendayaColeman:
How can kids be this wicked? Is it that their parents/guardians don't show them love abi wetin happen gangan?

it has always been in their nature to be this cruel.

One can only hope as parents to try their best by their kids. The children determine the choices they make.

Queen jezebel.

I have always wanted to know how she made many strong men quake in their boots and made a prophet of God run.

Foodqueen:
This woman again.

No be she say she go heaven and hell the other time, come still de apologize to her members later.

So them still de allow her handle mic

she's supposed to be in a mental facility

Mercychen:
Hi fam.

Something has been bothering me of late and leaving me emotionally and mentally stressed and drained for the past weeks and I'm cut between the devil and the deep blue sea.

There's this bro we're trying to see if we can work things out. though, I never really wanted anything relationship again or at least for now until I'm decided later in the future on what I really want for myself.

Before, I delve into the main discuss , let
me quickly highlight how it all started.

Some months back, My publisher came to deliver the books I ordered for. So while sorting the books, he just got teasing me like " Babes, na wa o. What's up with your romantic life now?. I've never seen you pulling with anyone. It's always work, biz Money money money I see you pursuing. Lol... I just told him, guy, free me abeg and I went on counting the books at the boot of his car.

He now walked up to me and said, on a more serious note, what is happening? So I told him it's a personal choice cos I dont have the strength for relationship brouhaha now. He agreed with me that truly its not easy and even as a married man, he too feels the heat but the good thing is, he married in the Lord. So I should choose wisely from among the brethren.

So he said, he has this family friend, an eligible bachelor, who wants a decent lady and I'm the one that comes to mind each time the guy mentions it because since he's be dealing with me, he can vouch that I'm a very honest, hard-working and decent lady. So he would want the bro to have me.
That was how I got to meet bro.

Now fastforward to the main reason of this post.
There was this particular day we tripped out to cool off and discuss about US. So we got talking and planning on how to build our home in a way that we will not be caught unawares with some setbacks and unplanned responsibilities. So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing. So we tried to look at ways we can maintain that decision and I suggested a vasectomy. citing the possibilities of health risks (as a result of mismatches ) and failures that might occur if the family planning is done on me but with vasectomy, no issues. He looked me in the eyes and said, "my darling" no!

I was dumbfounded.... And became a little worried because, if he has no plans of having more children, why would he kick against the idea of a vasectomy?

If we are going to be one and follow one course, why shying away from a plan that will benefit us as a couple and a family?


Could it be, he only agreed to have one with me and plans to have more else where?
Is vasectomy a life threatening condition?

I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free.
I left the tent and went to the waters prentending to be playing with the water. He came and dragged me out of the water. we strolled without a word and I asked him to take me home. He did.

He called when he got home. I was cold to him so, he promised to call again but since then Ive refused to pick his calls or reply his texts.

The big question is ..
WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?

COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?

IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?

he probably has ulterior motives. Protect your finances

Infolenka:
Who knows the identity of this girl? Her name, social media anything. I'm in love with her boobs. Slim girls with big boobs is one of the best things to happen to mankind. Pls anyone with any info on this girl should drop it.

Thanks.

you are in love with the boobs, not the girl?!

All these indomie generation boys sef

Fremantle:
My second experience: I had this female friend of mine back then in skul, although unlike the first, this one knows how I feel about being in a girl's place. Cos most of her efforts to make me spend more time at her place, all failed due to my stubbornness.

On this particular day I paid her a visit, we got talking, one gist led to another and we lost track of time, it was wen rain started I realized it was late, I decided to step into the rain and find my way home, but she refused saying she won't let me go into the rain, although the rain was heavy (heavy down pour) I insisted I most go, she laughed and said God has caught me today, that she wants to see if I'll die if I sleep at her place or something will swallow me, she will see today.

Her main concern was the rain was much and if I venture into it, I may get sick later, maybe catch a cold, but at that moment my only thought was to get back home. I decided to stay but I wasn't comfortable, after about an hour plus, she saw I wasn't comfortable and the rain refused to stop, she gave the go ahead, brethren, I entered the rain and went home......

there's one thing to note here..

None of those girls forced you as soon as you said you weren't comfortable, they allowed you to travel home.

But if the script is flipped. You were a girl in the house of the opposite sex, 9 out of 10 of them will attempt to touch you, rub your thigh, press breast, some will rape you. No self control for the male gender.

Conner44:
Op I’ve read your three instances and the only mistake you made was ‘not fukin’ the lady

If not sleep won’t be far from you even if you’re in church. a reverend will fall asleep in ashewo house if he didn’t set alarm

this one here is a classic example.

Aufbauh:
The 31 year old housewife is shamelessly pathetic to be .audacious in her immoral act.

Her husband is obviously not satisfying her

Thermodynamics:
If you think Nigerian girls would come here and comment, then you are mistaking.
I tire for our women, shame shame, even in a faceless and untraceable forum like this.

even if she talks, y'all will troll her out of this forum and call her a ho.

Very soon ladies will leave romanceland for you guys so you can date each other.

Datboredberry:
I'm pro-abortion... And I know to a greater extent, you are too...

In Nigeria, even though it's a criminal offence... Abortions are still very common...

I'm not sure if you've ever performed one... I won't assume... Out of respect...

But if you have, was it for a reason other than to save the life of the mother?

I think it should be legal... Young girls should have the option of having a qualified persons such as yourself to advise them... And perform the abortions if necessary... Other than the quack doctors who would risk the life of the mother just to make money...

If it's already being done, might as well do it right...

Thanks.

It should be legal. I just witnessed the death of a 26 year old married woman last week Wednesday.

She had a pregnancy around 4-5 months, we don't know what happened between her and her husband because the dead can't defend herself, but it seems the paternity of the pregnancy was in question.

She went to a quack who did a D&C and gave her amoxil and flagyl to go home. Unfortunately, the procedure was incomplete and the remaining products of conception in her womb became infected and festered. This continued for 2weeks before she was brought to my workplace. Before they could examine and scan her, and by the time she was taken to the theatre, there was a lot of foul smelling pus and placenta remnants. After the surgery, she was alive and didn't improve. Apparently, the infection had spread and shut down her kidneys. She also wasn't responding to antibiotics. By evening, she was dead.

If she had access, this could have been prevented

Pumpumking:
My dik s bigger than yor neck sir!!(no oofenese)

anyways bacccckto serious tipic, di u have anytin sensible to contributes?

I'm a lady, and have a slender neck, so I'll take it as a compliment

In addition to my neck, let's also hope your dick is longer than your height

ChizzyBuna:
No, but someone offered it to me at a party and I refused.

I just found out that acid is the same as LSD.

smartasuen:
Hmmmmmn! This is pretty tough!
Abortion is a coded name for 'Murder', in other words, snuffing life out of a prospective child without it having been formed beyond the embryo level or a bit otherwise. So, I'm totally against it.

But, circumstances where it might be considered necessary include;

Product of incestry.
Product of rape especially by a degenerate.

there's other cases you know?!

Datboredberry:
In Nigeria, abortion is legal when it is performed to save the life of a woman...

I came across a thread asking, 'Would you abort an unborn child if you find out it has Down syndrome'?...

Under what circumstance(s) would you abort an unborn child or encourage someone else to do so?

Why else should abortion be legalized in Nigeria?

Freedom of choice?

Situations where the pregnancy is a result of a crime such as rape or incest?

Cases where the child would have genetic, mental or physical defects?

If the parents can not adequately provide for the child? For example, poverty.

If the mother isn't physically, emotionally or psychologically capable of raising the child.

Criminalising it doesn't prevent women from having abortions?

It would reduce the mortality rates of women who have unsafe abortions in the hands of unqualified persons?

Population control?


Etc...


Note: this isn't a thread for religious fanatics...or those who are overly righteous...

But for those open-minded and willing to contribute meaningfully...

Mynd44
Lalasiclala.

this is an ethical dilemma. I am tired of arguing those.

Usually by the time one is finding out about a child with down syndrome, pregnancy is in 2nd trimester which makes medical/ surgical abortion more difficult.

There's also a small chance that the scan might be wrong.
Down syndrome is compatible with life. Something like anencephaly on the other hand, I would not think twice about inducing labor. l saw a case in an ultrasound I was assisting to do last year. It was quite terrible

I would advise the couple to discuss their options. Are they ready to be caretakers for the rest of their lives and the trauma that brings?!

Pumpumking:
...and is streesin me out. Anyone ever experiense the side efffect of being too hand some? Chicks chassssin me left right & centre....even from nairaland. . Please advise


M.0.D...front page please

as short as you are.

Are you even 6ft?

ChizzyBuna:
All heads are not equal
I have taken acid, mushrooms way back when I was in Netherlands 2009
I have strong mind, so I can control my highness.
Many ppl don't have that type of mind.

have you taken LSD?

I was taught that you smell colors and see sounds with it

No

Sounds like a recipe for diarrhoea

Datboredberry:
This afternoon, I was bored as fu**... No electricity, no one to chat with...

So I took a cup, and mixed a little milk and Pepsi... Just to taste it... I wasn't sure if it would cause some reaction and I didn't feel like using myself as a guinea pig...

Anyways... I kinda liked the taste... Like a malt drink mixed with milk... Except this flavour is cola... But they were a bit similar...

So I poured and entire tin of peak milk and three crowns milk with a full bottle of Pepsi... It's sitting in the fridge...

But I decided to check online if others have drank this curious combination before...

The answer is yes! In South Africa, a mix of Coke and milk is called the Brown cow...

And other people have also tried it... Most think it's gross tho.

But the question..: would you drink this?

If you have, tell me your opinion!

Lalasiclala
Mynd44

Can this reasonable thread be moved to the front page?

cumoverna:
I have this girl...I just recently observe her private part smells very very bad.... please what's the solution to this.... and how do I tell her this information that she won't be offended?

just tell her

Timekeeper:
Dear funmi... Amatarasha has been looking for you ooooo

tell her I say hi.

How is her family?