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Phoneworld:
Maybe, I am over expressing this love to her or maybe it does what it

Anyway good luck

Phoneworld:
If I tell I hate that statement, she may turn it to another thing...

OK, so you are scared of talking to her about things you don't like

How am I sure you can take charge of this relationship in a cordial way

Godblessyou4321:
the teaching job alongside home lessons here and there goes for
roughly 20k each month, it not fixed sef, late and delayed payments
most times
housekeeper 40thousand, which one abeg, work for rich egomaniacs as a house girl or face my
teacher job jeje

why am I asking

which is safer, self esteem worthy...blablabla...
just need a wise decision I won't regret later....

Go for house help at least you are sure of accommodation and feeding

Stay there save money and plan on what to do with it

They may even take you along as they travel out, you never can say

Eastside22:
I'm creating this thread for my mum,needed a place I'll get more audience hence I had to use here
Please pardon my grammatical error just incase you come across any

After the death of my dad,my mum have been focused on raising myself and my younger sister by the Grace of God I just rounded up my decree program last year.
Now to the main issues, all this while my mum have been alone without any man this has really given me so much concern especially this period my sis just gained admission nobody to stay with her anymore so we both decided(I and my sis) we going to help her get a man,someone that would love her and take care of her and also make babies together lol. She has always told us she want two more children
Nairaland was the first place that came to my mind this evening,so this will be my first point
Here are some basic information about her
1 she's 45
2 Educated
3 hardworking
4 very pretty too
Interested persons must possess the following
Must be Godfearing
Must have some level of financial freedom
Not older that 55years
This is my WhatsApp number 09024523029 text and calls are allowed
Interested persons only!!
Mod please�

I think you can tell your mum to free herself so that she can get a man to date

Bear in mind that she may me married to such man and you will be alone in your family because your sister will marry too

So who is going to stay with you in your father's family

Phoneworld:
Please no insult

My name is joe and for a very long time, I always have feeling for mature single mum because of the rate of maturity they bring out in a relationship is very high and they are very lovely to be with, they are the definition of rest of mind, but the only part of them I fear is the anger side, currently am dating a single mum who I love so much but anytime she get angry, she always use this statement ''I don't want to marry any man, married is not my problem all I want is to take care of my me and my child'', her child is not the problem but this word.

Pls my lovely ladies in the house in need to know the meaning of this when it come to the woman side and how can it affect me in future, because u know that marriage na forever thing oh, I hope am not making any mistake

Most single ladies do have mood swing and it can trigger up any time

If all she wants is to take care of she and her child, then you are at lost

Be sure of the love you share together before committing yourself into it

She too will bear child for you so there is no need for her to be repeating that statement

Just seat her down and tell her how you hate that statement

Needadvice200:
Sorry I had to create new account to remain anonymous.

Please men of the house I seriously need advice. Straight to the point, we've been married for 6 years now and I love her so so much, our compatibilities is 100%. We have a beautiful baby girl and we are still currently living together at the moment.
Since we married things has been extremely bad for us unlike before we married. Though I myself was down with sickness for years that almost took my life but God revived me and she stays with me. My business doesn't require my presence (networking) because currently am still getting money but not much. let's say 20k average which of course not much for the family.

Now here is my problem, from 3 or 4 different CONFIRMED sources we were told that my lack of money it's from her that she belongs to a spiritual evil cult (Elegbe omo) that her own is spiritual rags group (egbe akitan, or alakisa) that whoever sleeps with them, their things will going down for them, finance wise and all. I hope I described it well tho and that even she herself is not aware but they do tell her severally. and she has been praying yet things keep getting worse for us.

in fact sometimes ago a pastor saw a vision for her that whoever sees her physically putting on a good cloth that she's beautiful but spiritually it is rags on her body. That she will Pray and fast for 3 days (deliverance) which she did yet things keeps getting worse for me in fact right now I am begging to feed.

When I realized this I stopped having sex with her for months and my business really really improved.
Throughout last year I can count how many times we had sex not up to 4 times and I did not cheat on her because I love her so much but for how long? It's not easy to be on the same bed with your wife and not want to have it but anytime we have it we must suffer for it for months.
The loan sharks on my neck are up to 7. Am just collecting loan to pay another to avoid their embarrassment. One is even threatening my life now (LCredit) as I could not pay the overdue loan.

My head is full with many thoughts. I love her and my baby which is just 2yrs. i want to succeed, I want my family. how long can we be staying without sex? am so so worried. Though I was told it's not her fault but what can I do because it has been affecting us for years now until now.

I don't know if anyone had a similar experience to please share. I need help because I am seriously considering leaving her but I will take full responsibilities of my baby.

I will be in comment section if case of any questions.

Thank y'all


Lalasticlala

You didn't mention where you ever made it a discussion with her

Seat her down and tell her your findings

Let her know how you love her and your child

But you guy have to work together to get it right

Yes she is not aware, but if she is willing to come out of it, she needs your help

Both of you can wither the storm together pls

If you leave the one you know, how are you sure the next one will not be twice of her

omolasho:
Good evening house, need your opinion concerning something that just happened to me yesterday.

This is the thing, there is this young lady who happened to be my colleague at work, not the same office though. I can say we had only spoken once.

She walked to my seat posing like she would tell me something in the ear only for her to kiss my cheek with a smile on her face then walked away.

Other people were around but I guess none noticed. It was weird because nobody had boldly flirted on me like she did.

Please i don't want to just jump into escapades with her, rather I want to know the whys behind her action and what I should do.

Thanks you.

What other sign do you need to understand that she likes you ⁉️

Error401:
Urgent pls
Is she really pregnant?
I think the line is too faint to proof pregnancy damn
She insisted that she missed her period but this result isn't convincing enough!

Pls help me urgently

Try again after two weeks

Meanwhile Wether you continue to make love to her or not

E don enter, start preparing yourself for fatherhood

Make sure you register her for antenatal at early stage

Frank2021:
Good morning guys, please I am a confused situation. I have a girlfriend but her attitude towards me can really be annoying so I met another girl and she has another guy who wants to marry her but she is not ready for him because of his fetish background.

She tells me everything, I lied to her that my girlfriend and I are no longer in contact and she believes me. She comes to my house so do I, she cooks and we eat but I never tell her that I have feelings for her because I don't know how she will see it because she is still dating the other guy.

Yesterday she came to my house in the morning, we are watching film and she slept off in my bed.

To my out most surprise because I talk with my girlfriend early she told me she was going home from school, so I text to her on WhatsApp that I cant wait to see her not knowing she mistook it to "I have something for you" omo this girl come to my house by surprise, I was dumbfounded when she saw the girl on my bed sleeping, she continued watching the movie on my laptop. I was so tensed I was sweating, the other girl woke up and saw her. She prepares and left.

My girlfriend was angry. I tried to convince her that nothing is happening between us she said no problem but inside me she is not happy, i later called the other girl she didn't pick my calls. Please what should I do because I am confused. My girlfriend said the day I visit her and see another guy laying on the bed that I should know how it feels.

You try, now you have lost the two look for the third one, by toasting another girl, keep counting until you are tired then you settle down with one

Goodvibes8:
My girlfriend is a Banker at GTB (not a contract staff). I just love her unconditionally. I thought she was different from other ladies. My girlfriend is cheating on me with an elderly ugly man.

She switched off her phone for 2 days, since on Tuesday. The first day I noticed, I was scared for her safety because she don't behave like that.

I called her very close friend and she said she haven't heard from her too but I shouldn't worry that she's fine.

Then I knew something was fishy. I live in Ogun state, so I went to Lagos early this morning as at 4:45am hoping to see her at home before she go to work.

When I got to her house, I saw her neighbor (she haven't seen me before else she would have lied to me as well) so I asked after my girlfriend and she said she has not been around since on Sunday.

In my mind, I was like since Sunday? Well, I know since last week, she has been acting strange. I noticed she's always quick to discharge me whenever we're on call.

I just went straight to her office at ikeja. I met with a security man and i asked if miss Lydia (not her real name) has come to office this morning? He said no but she will soon come afterall work starts by 8am and it's just 7am.

I just sat inside my car looking angry and curious. As at 7:25am, a car dropped her. I came down from my car immediately to approach her.

I was like so this is the ugly slowpoke you have been staying with since on Sunday that made you switched off your phone abi? She even have guts to ask what am I doing in Lag?

This is a girl I have never cheated on her before. Despite I am good looking, dark and tall with a good physique.

I don't know what to do. I'm heart broken . She hasn't even call me till now. This is a girl I have sacrificed a lot for.

Is Good to trust people until they prove you wrong

You have tried coming to Lagos at such deadly hour just to be sure she is fine, only for her to come out of a vehicle with another man

Now e don happen, she has chosen her part and you have to let her go

She will still come back to ask for apology, accept the apology, yes accept it so that you will be free from the heart, then block her for life

No time to be wasting time on a time that is meant for another man

HenryIgwe01:
My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.

Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.

I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.

I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.

Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.

I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.

My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.

My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.

I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.

God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.

Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.

You are just a perfect creature but you are the one looking down on your abilities to be great

Show love to yourself and your low self esteem will go off

Depression kills faster than sickness but you have to come out if your shell

Don't always be in a hurry to talk or pronounce any sentence just say it calmly

Be nice to people especially girls, they will definitely make you comfortable especially if you are nice to the one that seems close to you

As for your father, behave as if he doesn't exist

Ignore his presence, don't be too close to discuss anything that he will respond with a negative reply

Don't be too far from him so that he won't understand that you are avoiding him

One more thing, God is perfect and take your worries to him, give him time and he will make a way for you

Iyaebe:
I like Peter and hate Paul,I hate Jude as well.I don't like Lola too and hate Jude's wife.They should leave Peter alone

You are full of hatred, I hope you get same in return

CALEB1590:
Hello romancelanders, doctors and nurses in the house. I need you all to take me through dz with your professional thought.

I met this girl in November of 2021, asked her out and she gave in. We started our relationship life without sex up untill 7th January of this year. We had sex on 7th January and today her scan result shows that she is 10weeks and 2 days pregnant.

Please docs and nurses in the house, considering when i had sex with her and how old the pregnancy is, am I the father of the child? NOTE; I have accepted it, but I want to be sure that I ain't gotta father another man child.

Honestly we can't say
Accept the child, don't do anything about marriage yet till DNA

When the child is delivered take time and go for DNA test

If its your child then you can formalize the marriage

Don't allow her to rush you for the marriage rites

Simply tell her that you will want a DNA after the birth of the child

If she looses the pregnancy then it's not yours because she can go and flush it out

Then if it's yours good luck

Raalsalghul:
If that's the case, then I don't advise polygamy and would be the first to chastise the man for cheating.

Since you gave up your hypergamous nature to build with him, it only makes sense he gives up his polygamous nature and stick with/respect you.

I also support you being vengeful in this instance.

Lol

Iyaebe:
The female kids but not the make kids.Haven't you observed that male kids always see no problems with their cheating dad,they'll even tell their mom to stop nagging and allow their dad have some rest.

Why not practice what the topic is by marrying two wives and tell me your experience

Whatever feelings or support the daughters have over thier mum

The home still belongs to their mother

Iyaebe:
lol but what if your kids frowns at your vengeful actions, you'll have no option than to let go.

Which kids will frawn

Don't you know that the kids you are talking about cares much about thier mum

Incase you don't know, when a man marries another wife on top of his first wife, the kids becomes more loyal to their mum

Sheleads:
I met this best friend of mine early December last year, since then we have bonded very well. The truth is that I am already loving this guy, but it looks like he is interested in another woman out there... I don't want to come out desperate or a "do or die affair" he watches me get closer to another guy, but he speaks ill of the new guy I want to date. Right inside my heart, he is the guy I love. Since this guy isn't reciprocating my feelings, should I discard our friendship and move on with my life? Or reduce our closeness? I don't want to be hurt or look desperate.

If you don't Have anything reasonable to say don't comment.......

It's fun having feelings for someone but it hurts when the person you have feelings for is having feelings for another person

Just be calm and enjoy the good closeness you guys are having

But bear in mind that, if he dates you, it's a 50/50 thing

He may drop you for his former babe or pick you to replace the said babe

Men have the ability to change mind depending on joy they are getting when they have options

Iyaebe:
Thanks for been truthful, you come as a vengeful person sha.

I have to be truthful but nothing like being vengeful

He married me when he was poor and we worked hard together and now he becomes rich and the best way to appreciate me is to get another wife

Do me I do you, equation balance

No time to tolerate nonsense

Enosa1:
Just curious to know and also as someone that will like his wedding to be conducted at his church.

Is there any reason why the bride Church must be the one to conduct the wedding.

Has any guy here successfully done that?

This is done to honour her especially if she has a post in her church

Mostly, wedding is for women than men

You can convince her let it be your church but you can still do it in her church, just to honour her

Iyaebe:
Your husband becomes very successful and takes a second wife or He remains broke and keep only you as his wife. Which of the options will you go for?

Let him take a second wife
Rent an apartment for her and shuttle both homes

By the time he is done fooling himself, me as the first wife has already settled my children

And when he is old, I will make sure he gets the same emotional pains he gave me when he married a second wife

Emuf:
I have noticed this uncontrollable rejection Anambra men have towards Imo women. Hardly can you find an Anambra man who is indifferent about settling down with an Imo state woman. I saw this during my days in Awka and it was so obvious. They don't even hide the rejection.

Anambra men, why do you find it difficult to settle down with Imo women?

Marrying from Imo state is very very expensive

Even many of their men marry outside their states

Most Ibo people you see married to the yoruba's are actually from Imo state

Emuf:
Just imagine. Read what you wrote

She wrote her mind

So many women are regretting getting married to their spouses

Once behavior or attitude is enough to make a woman regret such marriage

Same with men

Sebastine1994:
Why oh God why

Rip Ma.

See you at the other side.

Do you want her dead ?

Pasima:
Good morning everyone, please I need your suggestion on this situation.

I have a female friend who always shares things with me. She tells me everything about her and I also told her mine. She is in a relationship about to enter marriage but she is not certain she will marry the guy because he is in the force.

But I am falling in love with her, she comes to my house we watch film together and eat together. We snap pics together, she even sat on my laps to snap pics. I felt like telling her that I love her and I want her as my girlfriend but I am scared she might get angry with me then on second thought I was thinking maybe she was waiting for me to say the word.

What do you guys think?

All what she has been doing with you, is a true sign of love

She loves you more than the guy she wants to be married to

If you know that you won't marry her, don't toast her and don't advice her to leave the other guy

Let her decide her fate
Just tell her that you love her and her presence around you makes you happy

GuyWise101:
Nna mehnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

As conji would have it today I decided to masturbate in my shop, I was almost caught by a customer, my only saving grace was that I was doing it behind my desk......

I have also masturbated in a commercial car, after I traveled to the village and spent two weeks without masturbation conji wanted to kill me got a little chance in the car as the driver wasn't around and there was no passenger with me, I did it quickly within 4min I poured and felt relieved, took my handkerchief and cleaned up but I was almost caught by a fellow passenger who wanted to join in the vehicle.

I have also masturbated in the bush, it was during a festive period all members of the family were around, I had to port to the bush and relieve myself This time I wasn't almost caught.

You seems to be starving yourself of sex, when you have lovely girls around you

Untill you strangle the nerves in your groin, you won't know what you are doing to yourself

gforce5:
Nothing else to be said. OP should have processed his son's Nigerian Passport while he was waiting for the lad's British passport to come through. The child is a dual citizen and is entitled to hold two passports. Use the British passport to fly out of Nigeria and Nigerian passport to visit or come back to Nigeria. In this day and age, one should never limit his/her options.

Honestly ❗

seyz91:
You said it all

Thanks

otipoju:
He can still get a nigerian passport for the child right there in the UK at the Nigerian embassy.

Yes

deepwater:
you facts are based on assumptions.
who told u the kid is also a nIGERIAn?

So far one or both parents are Nigerian

dialfa:
It's easier to get visa than to get nigerian passport.

I don't think so, but that won't stop you from processing it

gistmega:
My wife has been waiting for this said Nigerian passport for over 7 months. Where is the passport in question?
You have to

That's too long a time, your wife can go there and make a complain about that, probably she has a NIN issue yet to be resolved

lesson44:
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What stopped you from processing Nigeria passport for him while processing the UK passport

He is a dual citizen and supposed to have a Nigeria passport

Well, in the absence of that, be ready to get VISA for him in that UK passport anytime he is coming to Nigeria

Nigeria Passport is optional. They don’t have to apply for it especially if the child is not coming back to Nigeria is the next 5yrs. Who want to pay for a passport they may never use?

Your last paragraph was a wrong statement

Put me to debate about dual citizenship and the documents associated with such a person, I will defeat you

What do you really know about obtaining a passport and the benefits of having both nationality documents