ageraGT: A little history…I’m 28, divorced with two young kids, they live at home. He is 37, divorced with one teenage. Here is my dilemma…. I can’t figure out if I’m attracted to him or the fact that he’s a good guy.
You wait and pray for there to be a good guy left on this earth and finally one comes along and you find him boring or at least not challenging.
What is that? Am I crazy?
He is completely into me. Calls, writes me letters, texts, takes me out, does family outings, asks about my day, washes my car, is clean, is fit, responsible, understanding, compliments me, etc, etc. We’ve been dating two months. We don’t get too much opportunity to spend alone time so we’ve only slept with each other twice. It was okay, not mind-blowing or anything. I’ve had much better, but I’ve had much worse with the wrong guys too. He’s relatively attractive but not my usual type or taste.
Am I being picky because I think my boyfriend is boring? Any other woman would think he is a great catch. I think so as well but just…I don’t know why I can’t get into him.
He’s completely fallen for me, thinks I’m strong, independent, beautiful, good mom, etc. wants to make me happy and for me to be his “girlfriend” and I can just tell the L word is coming along any day now. I can just tell and trust me, I’m not wrong on this.
Another bit of history…
So he usually gets involved with psychos that latch on to him. That is – the complete opposite of me. I like my space and I don’t care if I never see you again. Guys come and go but my family, especially my kids, are forever. It’s one of the mottos I live by. I don’t need anyone to take care of me. A guy in my life is “nice to have” but by no means a need. I think I’m a challenge for him, which is fine. But on my side of things it’s too easy.
From experience, happily ever after doesn’t exist. Sure everyone puts their best foot forward when they’re dating but who’s to say he’ll stay like that? Am I just confused and not giving him a real chance? Or is just the reverse that I’m just not into him? Then the dilemma becomes do I let this great guy go and regret it afterward?
Can you give some advice on this? I have no idea what to do. No insults please. Thank you.
From my own side, I will advise you, base on my thoughts after reading your post
We humans, sometimes like crazy things, but for how long do we continue to go crazy ways
Because circumstances have mad you a single mother, it has also prepared you to be independent and that's what you now use to protect your feminine guard
At 28yrs, you are still young and need more exploration, assuming you are around the age 40s, you will appreciate this very guy
But bear in mind that the kind of guys you really want, will break your heart
Left for me, relax your speed of life and let this relationship penetrate
He doesn't disturb you from being crazy, but you will get tired either by age or by timing
Slow down and try to understand how the relationship will be
To me he is a good guy, I am saying this because of the qualities you mentioned about him, at least he have your time
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Derin, girlfriend of young man killed during EndSARS protest, Okechukwu Nathaniel has taken to Twitter to narrate an encounter she had with his ghost, IgbereTV reports.
Oke was stabbed to death by hoodlums who attacked his home during the EndSARS protest on October 21, 2020.
Derin said that few days after her boyfriend passed away before he was laid to rest she needed his SuperHI password and mysteriously got it in her dream.
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i have a connection but i dnt want to ask her about the salary.
i work with a private company here in lagos with my SSEC, i plan to enroll a part time program in yabatech this year but the FRSC is a government work with a job security and this woman will soon retire from service.
she told me i will suffer to gain promotion if i join FRSC with SSCE.
pls someone should advice me.
Pls pick up the employment
After two years, get a part time admission in the university and apply for permission to study with your admissions letter, you will be given approval, start school, finish your school, get certificate of exemption from NYSC and forward to abuja for upgrading and approval and you will be upgraded to one star and that's how you will keep be promoted as at when due
GAJIT: On point here! I tried to exhaust my patience so that when I say it's over I won't regret it but rejoice over it, and I bet other people will support the idea and appreciate me for being patient enough.
Bigredmachine: i keep hearing these all the time, but does he have power to forcefully drop the "Y" Chromosome... sometimes no matter how the man does he calculation to make sure he drops the Mr Y at the right time, it just wont work for him...
It depends on his feeding habits and life style, it is expected that his Y chromosomes must be healthy and stronger to dominate the female X chromosomes
A weak sperm count is another factor that can affect the full strength of the Y chromosomes
Bigredmachine: The most important thing is to preserve the family's name and if a girl child can't do it... Oga no go rest o... Male child has a lot of responsibility lying on their shoulders even before they were born (either with silver spoon or not)...
Hope you know that it's a man that determines the sex of a child
So if he can't drop "Y" Chromosomes and he no go grew what happens?
24brains: Wonders shall never end. I feel i have just shot myself on the foot.
nairalanders i need help. i keep receiving debit alerts of 30k every month
it all started when i personally suscribed to numero, text me, adobe photoshop, tinder, vpn360, emily dates and many other paid app.
it is on auto monthly renewal and my debit card is networked to it on google playstore.
nemesis started when my phone got stolen 4months ago. i left my suscription on before the incident and now i cannot reverse it without the stolen phone.
i keep having high BP same time, same date every month as debit alerts flood my Email.
please how do i disable this nonchalant and heinous shit suscription suff?
For now remove all the money on that account and open another account on a different bank
AmeLonRo: She should stay with her husband. You can always plan something around your husband. Her leaving may expose him to temptations. Who will cook for him? Who will take care of the home? House help?
Exmilitant: madam no vex, your write up dey scratch my eyes. I no say to write english hard, na the reason why our fathers invent pidgin.
There are more polite ways of correcting people or drawing people's attention to typo errors, not just being nasty You should know is night and the eyes can get blued
ola92: I got married March this year, am a graduate, my hubby is a realtor who sells lands and properties. I got a Federal job offer in Abuja which my hubby is in support for me to go for the job. And his job is big hit once in a while not like monthly earning like that. We both leave in Ibadan where I manage my sewing business at home and do home and office deliveries. Am happy I got the job and and also sad and scared that I will leave my hubby back in Ibadan to Abuja for a job. My parents are Abuja based. My question is should I go or not? Pls I need advice on this
Why are you scared, is it that your husband will go for another woman in your absence, he may have been doing that in your presence, while you live with him, meaning that a man that wants to follow women will definitely do so
Do you want to remain a seamstress, meaning you don't want a paid Job where you will rise, if that's the case, don't cry latter
Discuss with your husband if he supports the job, go for it and keep visiting him as often as you can
With time, you take a transfer to be with your husband since its a federal Job
Golden147: Good afternoon everyone.. Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR.. There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her. I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid. Here is my reasons
She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too. My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.
I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me. I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this. It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears. I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.
Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.
Matured advice please
Having read all these, am not a man, but tell me,
What exactly is the rush for marriage commitment on her
Is it because you don't want another man to pick her before you
Is it because you have spent on her and you realy want her
Is it because your mates have married and you are willing to get married too
Now look at the pross
Her brothers are nuisance am sorry to say this, so getting married to her, makes you to have a link with her brothers, it could be direct or indirect link
Secondly, you are having a percentage in her educational sponsor and you too you are in school, is that the kind of burden you are building yourself with, what if she becomes pregnant, would you be able to shoulder the responsibilities till she finds her bearing
Are you realy set with the money you need for her marriage rites, or you want to deposit on her head, what if you no longer want to go ahead, would you go back to withdraw your deposit or both of you will remain in an inconclusive relationship
Pls for your own interest, think twice but dont rush yet
As for her, she may see you as her last hope because she really wants to leave her family as she is tired of her brothers attitude
Marriage is more than the pictures you see about marriage
bigpicture001: ..yes, it's new marriage life.. he works in the health sector and just had his marriage about 6months months ago ..but twice he has come to the house to express disgust over his wife's grudge of accepting 50k monthly for food upkeep of the house...with just the two of them and she is heavy with pregnancy
He buys all the durable food stuffs and still files out 50k monthly for the remaining to make food throughout the month.. he is just a middle class man..and I know the wife really well, she is not a money demanding lady while they courted...
Please does this mean 50k can't help a woman run a home these days even after buying all the heavyweight foodstuffs in bulk
So if your brother gives her 50k. What's left of the remaining salary
He has to think twice, so what's the woman contributing even though she is pregnant
Tell your brother to prepare himself on how to fa e the family finances with the woman else he will carry the burden alone
A 31-year-old woman, Ate Joy Veronica, who died four days after her wedding has been buried in Benue state, Reports.
From The Information Gathered By , Veronica and her husband, Irabor Samuel, from Edo State, had their traditional and court weddings on June 25 and 26 respectively.
She was said to have fallen sick on June 28 and died the following day, June 29, Learnt.
The remains of the Marketing graduate was laid to rest in her hometown, Mbarikyor Wadoor in Gwer Local Government Area of Benue state on July 10.
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Let the person go and eat her corpse Probably a Someone was already interested in the man Benue and kogi, fear them
Volkswagen90: no mind am,am 36 i just got government job 2 years ago,even the salary them no pay,how somebody wan attain all what he wrote there, in reality life is very hard, hard knock life.
truthsayer009: Lmao, you're thinking of it in a backward direction.
Ideally, a serious man's value / career / business worth increases with age, especially when he his not married because he has an advantage of his youth, time and money to save and invest because no kids are involved at this time. He can jump from business to business to see which one benefits him without thinking of children and family.
A serious man at 35 already has his life, finances, education (Msc PhDs) etc figured out before this time, so therefore he makes more money per hour than a younger man which inturn means he doesn't have to work twice as hard. Even as a business man, at 35 your business should have really established that you make more per day at 35.
Again at 35, you don't have to double your hustle really. All you need is just to manage your investment or career, that's all.
It takes less time to build a house when you are older than younger because you have more financial resources and connections.
All you wrote was like thinking in a backwards direction How many men of these era fits into all you mentioned, including you considering the economic situation since this regime ?
englishmart: I understand age is just a number, but all numbers are not equal still. The society tend to fix a standard for everything. Most guys will want to get married on or before they turn 30, but a couple of uncontrollable factors preclude that from happening.
What's your take concerning marrying at 35 for guys. Do you think it's a bit late?
Once a guy is getting married at any thing after 35yrs, he must hustle double to meet up so that when the children starts entering secondary school, he must have finished establishing his family, especially building house
zangodangolo: Atimes I begin to reason may be I don't satisfy my wify in bed but she may out of shy not open up and tell me and this is making me fee low self esteem as far as sex is concerned as if I am not doing my work well.
Since we married I can't recall any day during love making she ever told me, hubby abeg I don't want anymore, please stop na, you wan scatter me, I beg you I am satisfied,stop na, Abi you want me to collapse etc. Such words from your partner can increase a man's ego and stamina and being confidence that he is good at bed and doing his work well and not "a one minute man". I am also the one that stops once I ejaculate and can hardly go next round and her body language always signifies that she need more and more and need more satisfaction and I come stop but she won't tell me.
Please kindly advise for I know there are some couples that also witness this kind of scenario in their marriage and how do they handle it?. Even if I ask her whether I do satisfy her in bed or not ,but I know if I ask her such,she will still say yes just to cover up . Advise please.
Am glad you are thinking towards her side because not being able to satisfy a woman creates lack of sex feelings on her
Since you must have been doing it and once you release, it ends there, it's time you do more of romance sex
You don't have to be bored or self during sex, romance her gently and communicating with her helps a lot while on sex
Find out her weak spots, by the time you dedicate time to romance her, she will be close to satisfaction and she will will beckon you to penetrate, meaning she is realy set for the full game
You too will see the expression of satisfaction in her after that
GeneralKoko: I have been a victim of disrespect over the years from mainly my friends. I don't know if it is because I'm too free or too playful but I hardly gain the respect of people.
Please I need tips on how to gain the respect and loyalty of my friends. Thanks
If you are too playful as you said, reduce it, no one will see the maturity in you. This time around talk less pay more attention
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