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seanwilliam:
no be my force to comment .. I said buy land 600k use 100k to hold body till him go find better business

You are right, no be bye force

seanwilliam:
Assuming you have skills like tailoring or barber , I for tell you to open shop for correct location and furnish it ..

But see ehn , the economy no Dey friendly with business these days .. so my brotherly advice to u is
Use like 600k to buy land in a developing area ( depending on the state you Dey ) then use 100k to hold body while u continue to Dey make research on business u have in mind or invest the money on the thing wey give you that 700k …

Buy land 600k build the house with the remaining 100k and die of hunger, abi ⁉️

Mrscarter:
Im agreed with you. I think once the baby is born do dna. I wouldnt take her word for anything as shes shown she cant b trusted. Til then id just move on cos she seems like she just gonna keep causing u stress if shes already behaving this way.

She knows her game.
Just be smart and stay ahead of her

DonroxyII:
lol, we all have our individual differences but if we should accept our wrongs and ready to correct ... anyway ... I'm a dude and my job is to influence my woman better !!

Most marriage failures to me is caused by Men!!

How Nigerian Men failed Nigerian women indeed!!

Now you are talking.

DonroxyII:
Why must you marry your "enemy" ?

Why won't you marry your friend and keep fuelling the fire of that friendship...

Protect and Defend that "Friendship" at all cost , at all cost and keep earning each other trust .... with God, with each other and if possible, Go Africa on any intercession!!

You won't understand till you are involve

Convention107:
Hello house,
I'm in love with a lady but I am not ready for marriage neither she is. But the problem is i will be travelling out of the country for studies and also to stay. The problem is I'm thinking if i should foster the relationship with this lady or should plan to get get a lady abroad. Issues of commitment crises in relationship bothers me a lot.
Pardon any grammatical errors

Travel out first, find your bearing then think of either to foster the relationship or get another there

Relocation is not a child's play, even the mind plays its own too

22o62021:
[b] Our patents are aware of the pregnancy.

She traveled home and she told me that she has no money to come back, I sent her #12500. But I was surprised that her number stopped going through and I was restless. After the first day on the road, she called me to tell me that her step brother took her two phones inside her back and went away. I was surprised and asked her if the brother dropped her sim and she said yes. After three days on the road ,she finally came home past 11pm . When I went to open the gate for her, I saw that they were two girls outside, I let the both inside, she told me it was her step sister, I said ok because at this moment I thought maybe her sister is going somewhere else.

In the morning I woke up before then and I was at the bathroom when my girlfriend came in, I asked her , that she planned bringing her sister here without informing me , she said that it’s none of my business if she bring her sister, that her sister will not stay with me because she already has a work for her. I was angry but I kept quiet since she said that the said girl won’t be staying in my house. Before this my girlfriend stays with me but her belongings are not in my house, they are in her own place.


After about 5 days later , I got her another android phone because she was already asking for it because a guy bought a phone for her sister just in her four days in the city.

They will always come to my house to eat in the morning, on one particular day, I have yam at home and I bought everything that we will need to make porridge, I called them to come in the morning. Immediately they came, her sister opened the fridge to check for bread but couldn’t find any,my girlfriend gave her money to go buy one and eat, when they are done eating, I asked them to go cook the food, I followed my girlfriend to the kitchen but her sister stayed back, put on an earphone, on the fan and television, laid down. After 10 minutes in the kitchen I went inside to meet her and asked her to go help out in the kitchen, she just stood up and left my house. I told her that I don’t want to see her in my house again. My girlfriend after preparing the food, she fished in the flask and took it to her, I did not even ask her why because I know that she won’t have the heart to eat without her sister.

Right from that moment, my girlfriends behavior changed too, she will no longer call me on phone or come to my house, At their working place, her boss started complaining of her change in attitude since she brought her sister there.

Her boss was tired of complaining and sacked them. They came to my house when I was the kitchen, she joined me in the kitchen but her sister was inside. After cooking , we ate together in the kitchen and I went straight to stay at the balcony, she came to me and told me that they are going to her brothers place that she will be back.

It had been days now and she doesn’t pick my calls and I don’t even know where they are right now.

I have called with different numbers and she wasn’t picking.

This morning I called the numbers severally until a guy picked up, I asked after the owner of the phone and he told me that she is not around now, I told him whom I am and the said girl is pregnant for me. She was shocked and told me that they are together now in a different state with me. This is to say the said girl has ran to meet another girl with pregnancy.

My friend also called the guy and introduced himself as my elder brother, he explained everything to him and he promised to call us back when he get home, that he was not aware that she is pregnant, that he is going to send her back to where she cane from by tomorrow.

This evening they flashed me and I called them they will busy the call. Her number hasn’t been going through since then.

Many women have advised me to let her be for now that she will come back begging when she sees that no man is ready to take her in when the pregnancy starts coming out. Others said I should pet her to come back then talk sense into her.

To me right now, I have tried my best and I have chosen to stop looking for her.

Many people on this forum warned me about TIV girls and their promiscuous nature but I defended her thinking that she is different.

I have been avoiding my moms calls because I know that she will ask after her

I can’t sleep and I can no longer concentrate on anything I’m doing. It’s affecting me psychologically .[/b]

Do you want to hurt your emotions for someone who have gone to several places and possibly sleep with other men while pregnant for you

Left for me, just leave her for good
What makes you think that the pregnancy is yours after all

Benard5050:
Pls friends this story is long but I will try my best to summarize it...

After staying at home for 9months after Nysc without a job, a woman who is a family friend told me to come and teach in her school, this was timely as I was getting depressed due to my joblessness...

I relocated to d town which is a rural area, and but with time I adapted. She's has been doing well to me to d extent of even bringing lunch for me every day.

I've been doing this job for 2 years now but there's no significant progress and my life. I'll be 29yrs in a few days from now but still not ok with d way my life is...

I had a plan to get a loan of 200k from family and friends to open a laundry business in the town I'm teaching as d business is not common there and I wish to use d opportunity to explore this.

My great concern is how will my boss react if I resign and she noticed I'm not going home but staying in her then doing laundry business.

She pays me 20k per month for teaching in her school, she even made me V.Principal and increased my salary by 5k of recent.

Guys pls advised me on what to do that will not hurt anyone...

I need to go into business so I can have proper planning for myself and my future.

The way out is for you to get accommodation then you can as free as a bird

Laundry requires your presence and time as customers will come at their own timing not your timing, Meaning that you have to be on ground

Fahdiga:
Even when on a sick bed?

It's already a training given to them, once he can recognize him, he will pay his compliments
You won't understand

Fahdiga:
What a fool. Someone that should have landed a deadly left handed blow to the COAS for cornering the funds meant for better weapons to prosecute the war but he is here embarrassing his children.

There is no way a junior will not give his senior compliments, even if you are seating you must stretch those hands

Ekomatrix1:
I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.

she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.

Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?  

Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness  but no improvement .

what should i do?

What's special about how then ?

Juliusmomoh:
Am confuse about it... Must we have joint account?

Only couples who are friends to each other

Transparent to each other

Protective of each other

Loves each other without faults

They are the only set of people that can operate joint accounts

sarrki:
A rare picture of a pair of shoes worn by bandits. The shoes are made with cow hooves for soles so that when security agents are trying to trace them, they will think it's a herd of cattle that passed.

Bandit shoes designed like cow footprints to confuse trackers trailing them.

It's only criminal ideas that they always have

Funlag:
If are good with broiler raising... 100k u should raise 100 broilers for 3 weeks provided u have housing,drinkers and feeders..and u will make a profit of 30k

Pls this is good for someone that wants to be busy at home yet have a job doing

Doing this as an only business to feed a family is a no for me because it takes a long time to be set for sales besides they eat so much

maikbanj:
Good evening. I got transferred to a new office and my boss is just the direct opposite of the Previous.My current boss is a bit nice but then doesn't have managerial skills. She really doesn't know how to handle her subordinates. At a slight mistake, she's all shouting the roof down. She exaggerates a lot and looks for every means to put a blame on you when things don't work even though it's not your fault.
E.g, you're working on something and probably you have network issues and can't complete or round off on time, she'll just look for a way to put in on you.
Now it's almost affecting the way I work. Asking her questions sometimes is almost difficult and then I do it my way. There are just so many complains and I can't afford to lose this Job right now.

In front of you she's acting so nice but behind she's all saying dirty things.
I'm getting fed up. Coming to work seems tiring now.

Please how do I handle this?

Honestly, you have to tolerate her or manage her, unless you don't mind leaving

Lostchild:
My past problems will not repeat itself in my future.

My future is well plan

Fantastic

Lostchild:
God has placef me in a situation where I will not be at the mercy of any human.

I will not even be @ the mercy of my children

Interesting

ultiabaz36:
Good day my people, please your advise is needed. I am in my 30s and I came into this relationship this year January. I like and I love this babe so much but she’s always demanding financially despite being a working class and I am only surviving on 45k job here in lagos. I have target and ambition for my life and everything is placed on this my job. So, I have a proportion of my income to be saved for this my ambition but since I met this girl, I never have anything called savings again while I still go on borrowing to satisfy her needs.

The most painful part of it all is that anytime she asks of anything and I’m not capable of what she asked for, she will first block me on Whatsapp and drop a breakup message. I will be the one to call and persuade her and when she feels like to unblock me she will do that.

But now, she’s asking for salah cloth and I don’t have the amount she’s asking for. I told her I don’t have the money for now while I told her that I don’t know what tomorrow will say and as soon as I said this, she dropped the breakup message as usual and block me on WhatsApp.

Please Advise me on what to do as this is getting on my nerves.

You don't need any advice, just break up with her and save for your future

Poverty and sex always goes together

The guy should marry both of them

Oggolden001:
A degree in architecture nd that in civil engineering which is more sustainable in the nigerian society? Please i need advice bcuz i'm finding it hard to choose btw this two. Heres me like, i b average maths student wey like to draw alot especially building related drawings/environmental drawings too. Heres my jamb subj comb, maths, physics, chem nd english. Please advice from experience persons in the field will be veryly appreciated. (if there is any word as such)

I am not any of the two professionals but I did prefer you go for civil Engineering, it's more vast than architectural

cPapaAjascO:
Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. But I am lost and confused as to what to do next.

This would be my very first real relationship and I dont want to screw it up. This babe is special and well versed in almost every topic of discussion. She tickles my brain with her intelligence and I want to quit old odd escapades with desperate girls and start a real relationship.

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.



Do I call her or text her or send her money or gifts or take her out shopping or swimming


I m already scared that my relationship with her may end even before it starts. I need ideas guys.

Help me!!!

Wahala no dey finish !!!

Where you asking her out unprepared or for the fun of it

If you don't hold yourself well, you will floor yourself before her

Just take her to her choice of eatery and let her order any dish if her choice and you do same then you guys can enjoy your meals there

After that see her off and that's it

I hope you won't come back here to ask us to give you ideas on how to bleep her

Pls man up

chocolateme:
I come from a very strict background.
I grew up in fear, submission and obedience to my parents, elders and relatives. I am well mannered. I have anger and temper issues but it never goes beyond sulking and crying silently to get it off my chest. I find it difficult to let go when aggravated but in trcent times, i have worked on myself so much that i channel my displeasure to free tears flowing down my cheeks after which i let go of everything.

I am always looking for excuses to run away from any form of marriage discussion whenever its comes to that, i don't give room to premarital sex. I don't know how to overcome this. When my potential suitor seems so nice and with good disposition and everything worth craving for , then i ask myself " who are these people that end up enemies suddenly and what on earth can cause someone to become so horrible that a once lovely marriage turns into chaos "

Honestly, i believe that with my tolerance level that i can manage a home and marriage but then,how can you tell that of your potential partner?

Sometimes, i just want to remain like this and grow old and still be very happy but then societal and family pressure to get married and have your own kids keeps getting higher which results to my running away more and more. To make it worse, i don't keep friends.
Who knows how to overcome this and how can it be ok?

You can just have a kid or two for yourself and move on, marriage is not for everyone

Those kids will now take care of you at old age

Before then you can have a lover who will be keeping you as you desire

abeniagbon:
It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

How much do you think the bus needs to be back to business

What kind of business does she wants to do incase you sell the bus

What's your other plans with the income from the sales assuming you are not going to give her the money

When it comes to business or money or machine meant for business

You are the one to decide because it is something you will understand better and the cross is for you to carry

She needs something to do, two of you can seat down and dialogue on what business to do and what the profit will be used for

That alone will scare her from spending all on her family

sarrki:
Hatred on the Plateau !!!

A field of maize cut down in Jol in Riyom LGA, Plateau State!!!!

How did we get here

Why don much hatred to one another

Meaning if they had met her there, they will cut her off too

God will judge them

jbreezy:
So the story goes like, my gf and I have been dating for 2 years now. I really love her cos she's so interesting, extremely caring and so good to me. She's a pretty one too. So I finished school ahead of her (We were in same school).

But we couldn't let each other go because we already love each other, so we continued the romance. I loved her after and I really gat plans to marry her even though I'm like 5 years older than her. I was going to wait till she finishes school (She was in 200 level when I left). So I went to visit her in school and out of curiosity, I checked her whatsapp chat...I read her chat with her very close friend (the best place to find the truth) Well well well...There was this gist about her having sex with a friend. Then another was about her trying to date a guy..It really broke me, but till today, I haven't challenged her...

Actually, I would have broken up if I dont love her up to this level cos I hate it when I'm being cheated on... But I don't think I'm ready to lose the girl..

So I met a very pretty lady lately... We've been talking and she's really been giving me all the greenlight a normal guy needs to see... This one is more mature (I felt like my gf is still probably at what y'all call the hoeing stage cos she's 21)... So I've been contemplating on leaving her for this one, by bringing up the cheating part (something like a chess game)...

Seriously, I still think I love her, and would have married her if she didn't do that... So I'm lost between challenging her and giving her another chance (cos she's going to obviously beg) or challenge her to leave her...Thanks and sorry for the long essay

If you find out this current one cheats, you will also leave her and that's how it keeps going

Forget about all those things, when you are ready for marriage you will get a wife

Ejay4700:
Amen. God is Doing it Gradually..

Good to hear that from

ImaIma1:
He's obviously still a kid either by age or in his head. No man (I don't mean boy) can be opening such useless and senseless threads

He is creating future problems for himself

Op, your moniker says lostchild

You need to find your mum, probably she didn't tell you more good things about women

But since you are lost, you can't find good things in women

Keep bashing women and make sure you don't marry any woman because of the hatred in their attitude,. You will still experience more negative things from women

ImaIma1:
Op you will be alright.

You need to open more threads and keep
bashing so that you can be fine. Since this is what makes you sleep well at night.

I can even give you a topic for tomorrow...Nigerian women are evil...

As you sleep, you can dream about more women-bashing threads for tomorrow. Good luck

Funny you, lol

This one is not married yet, he is already against women

Him case go double in future

ChizzyBuna:
I haven't been able to sleep since yesterday. Im a young guy and still in school and this girl is my bestie in school.
We do it regularly and without condom I never knew it will end like this.
I'm still young any advice on how to handle this situation..

Is good to be a young father

Ejay4700:
God bless you ma. I just go it. May God replenish your pocket

Amen, and will open doors for people to assist you

Ejay4700:
Ike Emeka

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God Bless you Ma

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