₦airaland Forum

dawnomike:
Check on youtube for practical videos showing how to operate the machine... I wish you all the best in your test come January and remember to share the testimony with us

Why not go to other welders and tell them you want to buy this type and he should just put you through on how to operate it

Just introduce yourself to him as a colleague

But am still wondering how you will practice what you don't have the experience before now

EmptyGarden:
What that house needs.

What's the cost on mounting this on a building

Salex007:
pls, can someone tell me how to be a tough guy? Although she was not the first female to tell me so.

You don't need to be taught on how to be tough

Life situations will teach you how to be tough

Jemiwizzy:
hmm I wish I have one they are dead

Ohhh dear, pls go back to her and apologize to her once again and promise her of your loyalty

Sammy07:
How would they differentiate someone from Enugu to other states

If I'm going to Imo state, I could just boarded the Enugu bus and then take Peace transit to Owerri.

You will have to go to the chairman of your Town Union in Lagos to get clearance from him. that you are an imdigene then proceed to the disignated packs where all the town Union executives will identify you before entering the vehicle

Odewaleadesoye:
https://punchng.com/i-arrived-late-for-first-meeting-with-femi-otedola-as-daughters-boyfriend-mr-eazi/

This guy must be very very romantic and loving for winning this woman's heart

thesilentman:
I need genuine advice.She moans during the rumpy-pumpy,but she never wanted a second round.Once I cum,the show ends.Moreover,i've not seen the fabled juicy flow.What the heck could be outta place?How do i know if she gets to orgasm?I won't sleep tonight until i get the right answers.

The answer is with her

Not every woman is interested in second round of sex

ptoall1000:
I need a used washing machine in Abuja

What's your buget

ebube10:
gud morning elder's. Am nt yet married but what am nw seeing in the society makes me to be in fear about marriage.pls what really mks couples who where once's madly in love b4 marriage then beging to loose interest nd love in marriage after 2/5 years,which then leads to divorce.?

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Lack of communication
Lack of transparency
Lack of openess
Lack of love
Lact of trust
Lack of appreciation and ingratitude

Any three of the above mentioned can break up any marriage beyond repair

Gather the whole family, tell them how she failed you and how you have forgiven her

Freshbank:
Please moderator push it to front page

This is my first post and I'm writing from the comfort of my lodge celebrating my honeymoon but I'm not very happy. I truly want to know others opinion on the issue causing my unhappiness ( please for those of you who would say brought my marriage issues to the public, just try to be civil, I said I want to get your opinion if it where to be you how will you handle it).

Straight to the subject matter I just got married less than a week, the entire marriage plan was drawn by my spouse and I we both agreed on what to spend and how to go about it, during the whole planning process my wify was super supportive (I have to acknowledge her before I throw in the complain). I trusted her judgements that I entrusted the execution of the marriage plans to and her families while I provide the funds, of which she was also covering some of the expenses I forget to cover. From caterers, mc, live band, renting of canopies, chairs, deco, make-up etc everything was left for her to handle since we were doing it in her home town the only service I brought someone to cover was the coverage (cameraman). I had to send the cameraman there the previous day before the event because she said she needed the cooking process to be covered and other stuffs before our arrival.

Fast forward to the main day, it was about 3:30 mins drive to her home, we (I and my kinsmen) arrived five minutes to 12pm it was during that time some chairs were carried in, the arrangement was not very organized, by 2pm MC was no where to be found, the couple's stage and the cake design was like the expression "what I ordered for vs what I got". In preparation she traveled to Onitsha to buy stuff including gift items but all the cars that accompanied me I didn't see anyone with any of the souvenirs. Some of you might want to think from the description that my wife is unexposed but this is someone that has lived and worked in the Emirates (UAE), being to Britain, Italy and some few others.

After the whole function when we got back I was very angry not because of the shabby execution of a well planned marriage but the facts the she thinks I should commend her for her efforts and stress she went through and not the opposite. The way I look at the issue is like you registered for a course with 50 points as benchmark then u score 15 and you're expecting a "part on the back" or songs of praise. I ain't perfect but I love excellence, my sadness lies in the facts that I don't want to start our home with discord at the same time i can't tolerate or live with this kind of argument. The argument is that she claims it wasn't her fault, the people she designated could not meet up to expectations but every of the plans were drawn by just two of us only. Imaging spending so much to get very little outcome.

If you're in this situation what will you do? Thanks

The wedding has come and gone despite the embarrassment you went through

Next time, plan with her, make sure she execute it under your supervision it's obvious she can't do things by herself that's why she delegate it and the people she trusted fed on her weakness

BlackCastle:
My youngest brother; early twenties, lives with my parents and a university student is becoming a hardened con man.

Late last year, the stole close to 400,000 from my mum’s acct through her phone and squandered the same amount on phones, women and clothes. When I suspected and discovered he’s slowly emptying Mumsi’s acct through her acct statement, he attempted suicide when confronted.

My mum was horribly traumatized and the entire family with her. Now, recently he has devised another scheme with forex. Taking people’s money and making bogus promises which he’s not able to meet and from the last information i got from home, they’ve started coming to the house to demand for their money.

How do i handle this case, i need sincere mature advice considering his delicate mental state.

He will meet his waterloo soon just don't worry yourself

In as much as he us no longer stealing from you mum

If possible, open another account for mum, you put your phone number and be getting alerts yourself whenever mum.needs money, let her use her atm or go to the bank directly but you gets the alert

Let him keep duping people by when they come for him, let you family release him to them so that he will be prosecuted and be taken to jail

binghamm:
Currently talking on and off to three Nigerian girls all less than 30.

First one:
Tax lawyer in a foreign country. Quite accomplished. Doesn't want children. Open to cohabitation.
Loves me. The oldest of the three

Second one.
Engineer with top 3 oil multinational. Wants children. Loves me. Wants to get married asap.
Highly driven and ambitious. Religious. Not open to cohabitation. Least attractive

Third one.
Secretary at no-name company in Lagos. Wants children. Loves me. Still quite young. The youngest actually.
Not so driven. Seems satisfied with job role and not seeking further prospects.
Religious. Not open to cohabitation. Most attractive.

Me.
Don't care for children. May or may not want. Very late 20's. Open to cohabitation. A little religious.
Open to both cohabitation and marriage.

Who would you choose?

Your list is incomplete, get more of them, you will definitely see where you belong to

We can't chose for you because of the way you wire yourself

Jemiwizzy:
I followed the instructions and advise of most people on Nairaland to go back and apologize to my sister to let me stay but she gladly refused. I don't know what to do anymore I don't want to fall into trap all in the name of finding where to stay I think it will be better to get my own room and start working to take care of myself since school is closed yet. I really need financial assistance to get a room. it will be very odd to stay in a man I don't know about house. especially I may get treated like a trash.
I really believe genuine people are among people willing to help but likewise some try to take opportunity on me. save me from self destruction, save me from falling into danger.

What about your parents, are they not aware of your case with your sister

What did you do that made her to turn her back on you, have you been a serial offender

Involve your family because they don't have to pretend that all is well

Sebastine1994:
When half of my neighbors have travelled, I am now left alone in the compound. every year it is only me who remains back, I am ashamed. I can't go home. I offended my family so much.

I was deported from South Africa for drug trafficking, my father spent all his life saving to send me abroad, I went there to do drugs,

Now I have my freedom, but my heart remains in chain, seeing my family struggling financially because of me and the failed investment on me. I am depressed because of this.

I can't call them, I don't know what to do. I may take my life if the emotional torture becomes much.

A downfall of a man is not the end of his life

Many has fallen yet they still stand up, dust the dust and start looking for their lost bearing

You can't be alone, even trees don't stand alone

Am glad you were back alive because assuming you were caught in drug dealing, you would have been dead by now

Now the real problem is you, your pride is the major problem you have

I don't see the reason why you can't travel home especially this yuletide period to reconcile with your family they are not happy about your bad deeds and you are not making efforts to go and seek for their forgiveness

Summon courage and remove pride, travel on the 31st and meet them by surprise even though if they are not expecting you, let me see if you will be rejected

You did not only offend your immediate family but also the extended ones

If assuming any of your parents passes away with this anger in them, your conscience will double its work on your

If you are ashamed of which you should be, to travel alone, go with a trusted friend who knows your case and reconcile with them

If in the interim you die you will be buried with out regards that's if your family will locate your corpse

If you want to marry now who and who will you present as your family, will you go to bustop to gather people or you will do arrangements with fake people and claim they are your family

What about your woman family, if they decide to make enquiries behind you and get to know that you are a prodigal son will they give you their daughter?

Take a move, you are only extending the evil days

You are not the first that go to abroad and come back deported and you will not be the last after all the whole villagers are aware that you are roaming the street

T817:
I returned home from my shop only to find my wife 4 siblings in my house I wasn’t happy because she didn’t informed me they were coming over and in this economy when the country is hard why would they come all four of them at the same time.

My mother in law came for omugwo she stayed for 5 weeks, she left 3 weeks ago I had given my wife 30k the money I borrowed from a good friend of mine to get her some few things to take home, then 3 weeks after, her 4 siblings are here too, they are 6. The last born who is 10 have been staying with us for 2 years now. I take care of her, my wife doesn’t work and I am only managing I don’t know why her people want to
drain me.

Can you imagine as soon as I entered the house, her sisters were asking me about their Christmas gifts, "brother where is our gift?" As if I am their ATM. I just ignored them because I was already angry seeing them in my house without my permission but keeping calm was the best thing to do.

What shocked me was the fact her brother was comfortably sleeping in my bed next to my 2 months old baby. My wife didn’t see it as anything bad she said he is her brother and wouldn’t harm his own niece but my point was not about him doing something wrong with her but the fact that he doesn’t have any respect for my bed that what really got me angry which led to my wife and I to quarrell not in their presence but in our room but since it’s only parlour and room self con I believe they must have heard everything but I don’t care.

My Wife thinks I am overreacting and I don’t like her siblings and she said she will tell her parents everything I said to her in anger which I didn’t meant to but nobody in my position will be happy if he happened to be in my shoe. How do I handle this problem with my wife without causing any further problems between us and her parents because I don’t have money to feed 4 more mouths for 2 weeks because they are not leaving any time soon not until the 3rd or 4th of January and before her siblings came she complained about her Christmas clothes and hair. I told her I will only do Christmas for the kids because I don’t have money she frowned her face and started giving me attitudes and on top of that she has invited her 4 siblings when I don’t have a kobo to feed all of them.

Even the food we have in the house won’t even last until January because I bought enough for 5 people but now with 9 of us it won’t last and her siblings are expecting me to do Christmas for them too , I don’t blame them because they are small children 20,18,15,12 who thinks that I have a skeleton in my cupboard where I get free money lol.

What should I do right now ? I am not happy Your advice is needed please

My dear, don't allow her attitude bring out the other side of you

Let her go ahead and tell her family anything she wants to tell them, it's either they call you to defend it or they keep it to themselves

What ever you have for feeding Wether it will be enough or not just drop it for them

The way and manners she is going to handle it is not your business

Remember you are the one to give them transportation fare back home so start saving too towards that

It takes madness to correct nonsense

When they go seat her down and let her know that when next she invites her siblings in groups without minding if there welfare will be guaranteed, that day you will set rules for that

Ignore her attitude and keep moving, you will notice her attitude if you want her to flaunt it on you

From next near, let her go get a teaching job it's the simpliest job to get now even if it's for nursery class

Let her start working and start feeling the pains of running a home as her contributions can be enough to cook stew, soup while you buy garri and rice

Twenty8:
Whenever I see a girl that catches my attention, and I want to talk to her, I suddenly freeze, I don't know what to say to her, I simply have no idea. I need help from people with experience please, any idea or tricks will do.

Just start being friendly with girls

Get close to them with caution and you will understand their nature and how to get into them

Women are a set of people you must study well for you to get along with them because they have a complex nature yet very friendly when you get to know them

From there you will start a good relationship, you musnt toast a girl but your interactions with her will send the signal

Good luck to you

coolsegun2002:
On the contrary, u are the one that said women were for sale initially, and if we don’t have the money we should bounce.....

It's because you read from the reverse side, that's why you assume that women are for sale and men like your are their patronage

Just show me were I said women are for sale in this post and if you can't get it and post it here then done with you

coolsegun2002:
If she wish.?? ....I thought she’s a mere merchandise waiting to be purchased...does she still have the decency to have a choice

like u said.. it doesn’t even matter how shes going to be handled so far she’s has been purchased...

If you feel is for sale, go get your choice then

coolsegun2002:
U are totally right....that’s why it’s better to buy, use and toss aside ..

It doesn't matter how it's being handled

The most important thing is for you you to get access if she wishes

coolsegun2002:
Of course...you women have turn yourselves to goods for the highest bidder...that’s why it’s always funny when u peeps start clamouring for respect from nairaland men/boys...

It's meant for those who can get it

coolsegun2002:
Everyone is h0rny, u ladies only make it a man thing so that u can leverage on it .....We all contribute our bodies in sex...but u ladies bring in the monetary exchange into it...

That's the more reason why if you can't meet up leave them alone

Luak:
this advice will break the flourishing marriage

Was the marriage standing on solid ground before?

Some men just want to behave any how and expect the women to accept it that way

IkpuMmadu:
Why are you girls leeches ... Can't you take care of yourself

Always depending and begging


Read what you wrote

Why are you guys always randy

Always chasing women to get down with them

Can't you guys hold yourself

Petsolo1115:
My babe of over 2 years called me this evening for 2000 naira to get some body soap products.

I transferred 10,000 naira to her. She called back and asked what the money was meant for. I told her to manage it for her personal needs for this yuletide season. I made her to understand few days ago that i won't be able to give her enough money for Christmas due to the fact that I have to support my Dad financially for my grandma's burial which is in 7 days time.

To cut the whole story short. She refunded 8,000 naira and told me it was better I keep my money than giving her what she can't manage to buy clothes. My babe has a business which gives her profits on a daily basis. The money I spent on her from November 1st to 30th is in excess of 30,000 naira.

I am currently contemplating on breaking up with her or forgetting the whole issue..

Your advice please. Criticisms are allowed

It depends on what you people have been debating about on financial matters

10k would not actually get a dress for her and probably a shoe and a hand bag

If you have been taking care of that, then if you don't give her anything this Christmas, it won't be an issue

She returned the rest to you because she feels that you are being smart with her

She wants to be sure that you gave her nothing this Christmas

So, after your grand mother's burial, seat her down and talk with her to tell you her exact reason why she returned the money, that's if you are still interested in her

And if you are no longer interested in her, let the relationship end with the year and move on from next year

Valenciabaddie:
Hi Guys ..
I need serious matured advice . I have been dating this guy for about a year now ,
When I met him he was jobless but living comfortable due to his parents wealth ,.
I'm 25 and he's 3 years older than me , my problem is that he's too spiritual , he always have bad dreams and because of this he is always going to a celestial church and this makes him bring fetish things home like candles and substances in white container ..

I go to a Pentecostal church but I still continue the relationship and also follow him to his church sometimes.. but lately he brought this black soap home which smells bad and to make matters worse he always wake up at a specific time at night .To have the bath ..

M feeling uncomfortable with him and im beginning to lose interest in him due to these because I don't believe in all this fetish things .What do u guys think ? I'm I overreacting?

Only him knows why he is moving from one white church to another chasing an invisible thing

You don't know how far he has been into it and what leads to it

He is comfortable with such lifr and I will advise you start with drawing from his slowly, by the time he knows what you are up to, you are done with him

A guy of his age to be into spiritual life calls for questioning and I don't want you to be the one that will question him

You will get a better person who will be transparent to you

canttedra:
The recent topic on the home page motivated me to make this post, anonymously of course.

We were dating before I left Nigeria. We've been dating for about three years. Sometime last year I got a new job in the US (I schooled there so it was easy), and moved away from the country. Until a few weeks ago, we talked nearly every other day. It's always fun talking to her. But lately, things have started to get a little rough because of something that came up, and which I would like to believe is not my fault.

Prior to dating her, since I was a kid in university, I made myself a few promises relating to women:

1. I will never pay a woman's school fees
2. I will never rent a house or apartment for a woman, nor furnish an existing apartment
3. I will never sponsor a woman abroad.

Of course, this does not mean that I won't buy a woman gifts (I do that regularly), or take her on a nice trip. I just do not envisage myself pulling a woman up the social ladder. I prefer she makes her own growth moves as it relates to finances or relocation.

I made these promises based on the fact that I expected that whomever I make a partner should be able to make something of their own selves. I do not want to be anybody's savior or anyone's get-out-of-jail card. This resolution has made lose a few women in the past who thought the relationship should be based on what they can get out of it, and my girlfriend knows this.

The situation right now is that there is a path for her to come to America through studying. We already talked about her applying for graduate studies and then transitioning here into a better job. However, she now feels that would be stressful and may not work. Instead, she thinks it's better if I return to Nigeria this December to marry her and then sponsor her eventually to the US. That's not going to happen. This has created a rift and we have not been talking for a while now.

Am I being unreasonable here? How can I make her realize she can be her own person and not have to depend on someone else to "sponsor" her? It just drives me nuts that she knows this about me but is now vehemently insisting that this is the only viable option.

Having read through your policies on women, I want to assume that, you are not helping yourself not to talk more of your woman

This lady in question is your girlfriend and you want her abroad

Are you inviting her over to start living with her as couples or as baby mama to be or as live in lovers


You want her to school abroad too, so how wiisje sponsor it

Your idea that you want a woman to stand on her own is good but you have to build her

If you keep thinking you will not do it and she stands on her own will you exer expect her to assist you in raising your family in future or have you created a stream of income that you can never get broke financially

Now assuming you want to marry a woman, do you expect her to sponsor her marriage because she us the one that wants marriage not you ?

Then when you have babies, she should provide all she needs for her antenatal because she is the one that is pregnant not you


Pls for your own goodness, you need to meet a physiologist over there to assist you in changing your mindset about your relationship with women

You may have issues with any woman if you hi ahead with your thinking about them

Smile4mee01:
Sometimes being a good father is a thankless Job. You do your best as a man to put your kids and the next generation in a position to succeed, knowing fully well that you might not be praised for it that's even you live long enough.

The true value of a good wife is in old age. Not now, that the man is working, hustling , providing. It's when he is now old, retired, weak, this is when he can be easily discarded.

This is why some argue that women don't love like men love. Women love you for what you can provide and not who you are.

Some of you will be shocked to find that, if you were dead today. Your wife will be looking out for your will, where the property documents are etc.

In a nutshell, as A man. You may not win your children over emotionally like your wife would. Make effort to be in thier lives, provide for them. And most importantly take care of yourself and your future so that you wont be in shock like Buhari when in future they will be asking your wife if they should love you or not.

I love your write up and you Just explained a very good point what is expected of a family to avoid children mind being bayaised

notoracism:
Hi Guys,

This is really disturbing me, I do not have that dream home. How do I mean? Buying home fittings and keeping the house neat. We both work, but since we've been married my husband has refused to buy things at home. My living room has no tv as I write, this is over 2 years! I decided not to buy and it has remained so. I only bought one in the kids room. He drags remote with them atimes to watch sports!..

I bought the cushions in the living room when it has become so shameful having the old ones there, so bad that my kids were complaining they couldn't sleep on it. Talk of anything at home now, ai bought them from fans, to AC, to bed frame to whatever we have at home except the 2 mattress and they are old now. Our mattresses were in the floor until I bought the frame. Even Window blinds name whatever.

He wasn't a made man when we got married, I don't even discuss buying things at home before marriage because I thought we'd jointly make our home homely when we get married but na lie.

Even for the kids, the only thing he does is paying school fees, I pay a part too (Bus fees), after that, he doesn't care about cloths or extra items needed in school. Since we had our kids he never gives me money for kids Christmas clothes, he call them luxury. My husband went to market one time and bought them rubber shoes.

This same guy like good things oo, when it's time to go out he selects good cloths and shoes for them to wear but he can't buy them.

He once told me it's woman responsibility to take care of the home, I think his orientation about life is wrong but he is also had to convince. How do you Share the responsibility of taking care of the home married couples?

I love cute home but he doesn't. He says atimes, he doesn't mind sleeping on the floor. I have told him several times to let's jointly make the home beautiful but we'd decline. Am doing the little I can but atimes i get financially stressed. I have other responsibilities too.

Let me add, I bought even gen too after the first one we had got bad. I buy units, his excuse is he doesn't know how to buy it online. Am really getting tired and am feeling cheated. I don't know how to lie that I don't have money, he knows how w much I earn.

Leave him, he is cheating himself

Just stop buying all that stuff and start saving to buy a land and make sure you buy it in you name and not his name

Start planning as if you are a single mother

You are preparing yourself to be an independent woman

Spend on things that you think us needed not this that you want at home

He has choosen not to be responsible, a time will come it will be too late for him to apologise

Jogunomi1:
There is almost nothing a woman can do to get back at me. If you don't cook, we have plenty restaurants. If you don't give sex, I have answer to that.

So, my wife found out my daughter is my mumu button. Once she's angry, she would start denying my toddler daughter attention. If my daughter cries, she would let her cry very well in my presence knowing that I can't stand my daughter's cry. I know it's a game, and I would leave the house for her so as not to see my daughter crying.

I fear who no fear women.

Every one will go blind if we all go for eye for an eye

There must be a lingering issues that are yet to be resolved and you guys are neglecting that issue

It will still attract other issues until you go your separate ways if not properly handled

posh4545:
So I saw this beautiful girl some months back. I was trying my best to see her again but ladies and their attitude of forming so I gave up on calling her.

Just being myself, so just last month I saw her around area and I invited her over and the rest is history but no sex of a thing.

After she left, she wouldn't stop calling to come around again ..and now I have lost my feelings for her how do I go about it.

Since you have lost your feelings, just dodge her from visiting you

It's better than going down with her and she will now understand that you weren't what she thinks about you after all

korilala:
Blackmailed By My Ex!!! Don't Know What To Do.

I dated this lady several years back but due to her promiscuity we broke up but by then she was pregnant for me.

When my daughter clocked 3, I asked for my daughter to stay with me (she's staying with her mother's family) but she gave me a condition. That I forgive her and forget the past and we should plan a future together with our daughter. For my daughter's sake I accepted and she moved in with us but alas she still messages her ex and still reaches out to them. I confronted her again today and her reply to me is "you better don't kill yourself."

We're not married but every time I tell her to leave she threatens to take our daughter who is only five years old and who has grown a strong bond to me.

Mods in the house please advise me.

My dear, she has said it all, do t kill yourself

First of all let her leave if she can't be responsible and decent and if you can no longer tolerate her illegal life

If she demands for her daughter, let her go with her daughter and you visit her over there

You are not yet married to her so she is hell bent on frustrating you, using her daughter as a bait

You have to tread with caution because she no send and you want to kill your self

Law of survival is you first