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Habby222:
Advice needed pls.

I've been with this guy for close to four years now and its not really been a perfect relationship. Lots of ups and downs due to what I can term insecurity. At some point we're cool and the next minute issues arises just like every other relationship.

He's a good guy to some extent as he showers me with love ( my thoughts)and a lot of times he gives gifts not money though. I've had to give financial assistance to him alot of times, he returns some if he deemed it necessary and doesn't return if he so wishes. I've never complained about this and still always willing to help him out whenever he is in need. Pls note that we're both financially ok.

This gesture of me offering him financial help stopped when I realise he doesn't do same to me. I've had to test him on serval occasions that I needed financial help and he has never for once helped out on those request despite knowing he has. I never needed the money though, I made those request to know if I could actually fall back to him if I'm in need.

Last year October, I told him about my plans of getting a new car as I got tired of the one I was using. Pls note that I did not request him to buy for me neither did I ask for any support whatsoever. I contacted my source in the US with my budget and spec, was able to find one in a short time and I paid for it. All of this moves were known to him. By December, the car arrived and cleared accordingly with every expenses incurred payed by me. He gave some moral support though.

A week after getting the car, he called me one morning and started apologising for not supporting financially in getting the car which I told him I had no issues with that. I told him I wasn't expecting more than moral support from him since I could afford getting the car on my own. I also made him realise he doesn't owe me no apology as I wasn't t his responsibility since we weren't married and that even if we were married, ill always want to get my stuffs myself as long as I can afford it. The next I heard was him ranting on phone that he doesn't expect less from me, said I'm a proud and that he knew I wasn't going to be a good wife. He said he has always known I wasn't going to be a submissive wife and a whole lot of other derogatory words despite not having issues whatsoever prior to that time. I ended the call as I was so surprised he could say those mean words to me.

All through that day he didn't call back and I did not as well cos I was expecting him to realise I was hurt by his actions. A week pass and still no call from him so I decided to call him and he didn't pick. I'd sent a lot of of messages to him and has not replied to any. I'd gone to his house to check up on him and not met him too. Its been three weeks now and we haven't spoken and seen despite all of my effort to talk to him and or see.

Guys please I'm confused and do not know how to handle the issue. Pls advice.

Some men gets scared of women who has prove of being independent, it makes them feel less a man

If I were you, just leave that guy to find his way or rather should I say that you should find your way

Four years of relationship with no plans from him to you

Why not start planning to leave him so that you can find another person

He knows what he is doing but you are just hoping on him and he had no plans for you

Well, If you can't leave him be ready to deal with it

Rogosa:
Hello,
I want to know if all is well with my 11months old daughter who has not really crawl on her knees but had tried crawling on her chest many times. This is becoming a concern to me as some baby of her age are already walking.
What do I do?

That child is a healthy child just don't rush her

She will do the right thing at the right time

The most important thing is that she is not disabled and can hear sounds and communicate by blabbing

The5DME:
Take sniper. It'll end it swiftly.

You are a devil's advocate

Make sure you take a sniper too to solve your worries

CrescentMoon:
Let me first tell you my kind of character. For you to make me angry, you have to repeat an offense more than 30 to 40 times. After each offence, I would only give you facial expression that will let you know that you offended me. And I would ensure you get the message.

So wife kept repeating same offence. I told her I don't like what she was doing. She said she would adjust, but kept repeating the same thing. When I got fed up, I tried to retaliate. My only retaliation is that I stopped being around in the house. I would leave the house very early in the morning and return late at night. I would go for business in another town and return 4 days later. She knows nothing stops me from coming home everyday from the other town because I have means of transportation. She flared up. Started calling relatives that I'm maltreating her. They asked her to say which ways I have been maltreating her...she said I'm avoiding our home. Relatives asked if I'm beating or starving her. She said no.

I know why it pained her very well. If she wants to go and urinate outside, I would go and drop her there. When she is through, she would call me and I would go and pick her up again.

She's a woman that's always settling fights for couples in the street. So, she never wanted it to be heard anywhere that we are quarelling in our home. She won't want anybody to come to our house to settle disputes. So this prolongs our fights always.

When she couldn't bear it again, she sent a message to me that goes like this: I INITIALLY DIDN'T WANT TO DIVORCE YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR DISABILITY AS I PITY YOU. BUT NOW, IT'S OVER. YOU HAVE TO BEAR THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS TOWARDS ME ALL THESE YEARS. WHAT DID I HAVE TO DO WITH A JUJU DIABOLIC MAN IN THE FIRST INSTANCE.

Let me disect those words in capital letters for you. I have a disability, but you can't notice it easily until you start talking to me. She said I have to bear the consequences of my actions towards her... looking back, I have done unimaginable things to make her happy. I even saved her life when she didn't want blood transfusion from unknown persons as a result of her Christian belief not to contract demons from the blood of unknown person. Fortunately, my blood group is that of a universal donor. That means I can donate blood for anybody. Note that she had never done any noteworthy thing for me apart from giving birth to our babies. About being a juju man, I will tell you how she arrived at this: somebody was about to give birth from her family side and the baby was in breech position. She asked for advice and I told her that if I take the woman to the village my uncle will give the woman a concoction to reverse it. Her faith is against it, but because someone from her side just gave birth through CS, which almost led to the death of mother and baby, she asked me to take the woman to the village. The breech position was reversed. I'm surprised she now labelled me a juju man.

Instead of me to take her message personal, I urged her to please herself. This infuriated her the more. Instead of leaving me, she invited someone to intervene, tracked me to the second town, and it was settled there.

My problem now is that those words are still ringing in my head... someone I thought was a lover said she married me out of piety.

If you follow women mouth, you will feel like avoiding them

Seat her down and tell her how bad you feel about those words

But before then, you must find it easy in your heart to forgive her

The demands for apology from her

amazing101x:
I'm in my early 30s, I'm a christian, i'm single , never married and never had kid. I would have loved to marry in my early or late 20s but after several years of chasing true love when my heart was still tender, i've come to realize that love is selfish. Ladies i loved back then don't usually love me and now that i'm financially stable, every ladies seems to love me but i no longer have a tender heart, please don't get me wrong, i'm not wicked, i'm a nice person and i respect women alot but i no longer believe in true love or soul mate.

Now that i've come of age to pick a life partner and get married. To think of spending the rest of my life with one woman is very confusing. But recently i've been thinking of marrying more than one woman , maybe atleast 2. I've talked to some ladies about it, some of them showed remorse and some gladly accepted it. I'm considering marrying educated ladies who won't think of harming each other with charm but would see each other as friends so we can build a family together. Each time i think of marrying more than one wife, i feel more convinced about marriage than thinking of marrying just one.

Please i need your advise.

Being educated as a wife is not enough for two women to live peacefully it will rather toughen things because they will have their own differences

Managing one wife is challenging talk more of when they are two or more as wives

If you think you have what it takes to survive two wives then go for it

BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.

Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

If you live her from the depth of your heart, get hooked to her

If she has never been married then good

For more clarification get in touch with her family and ask questions

Single motherhood is not a stigma

You concern should be, is she the one that will guarantee your happiness in marriage

Sanja:
Hi everybody!

I come from a country in Europe, I am married to a Nigerian man. We have a son (1 year old).
I wonder what happens with our child if I and my husband get divorced. Should I be afraid to let him take our son to Nigeria in the future? I mean, are there laws in Nigeria saying that the child automatically belongs to the father? (As it is in some countries).
In the country where we live now the law says we will have shared custody if we both want it.

How is it in Nigeria?

And what if my husband hides our son somewhere in Nigeria, will the Nigerian state be willing to help finding my son? Or are they oing to protect the father?

(This is a worst-case-scenario that I hope never will happen, but I have to ask anyway, )

Before it gets out of hand

Try and come home and get good details of his family and also know his family members

Take pictures with them especially the family heads or the ones you feel that are important people in the family

Take pictures of your son with his dad in the picture

Take pictures of you and your son

Take pictures of your son too

Make sure you take them all with your phone and wash the pictures when you get back to over seas

Make sure you get your son a foreign passport as you know he is already a dual citizen

After all this, keep your child passport with you because of tomorrow

Whenever his dad wants the child to travel with his foreign passport and the passport is in your custody, be the one to travel with the child to wherever you are going and come back to drop him with his dad if he you took him from his father

By right the child belongs to both of you and here, our government doesn't have that kind of thing you guys have over there

So that in the nearest future, if that child grows, he will remember the memories you have with him and the pictures will speak volume

Always be in touch with the child even if it's once a month

For the fact the he is a male child, his father will want him around him

Merchan:
Good day house,

I want to be straight and direct as possible. My friend missed her period for two days and did a scan. It came out she was pregnant via blood and urine test, but the number of weeks is not known. The scan said no gestational sac, no fetal pole, no myoma noted, no calculus or stone.

She immediately proceeded to using misoprostol 200mg (4pills) only. Unluckily, she just saw two droplet of blood and later the other day a brown discharge which doesn’t have mucus.


Now to the uncertainty: she did a strip test today and the lines are in even thicker l, tomorrow makes it one week she used the pills.

Please can doctors in the house help regarding this abortion, if it is complete or not. She is intending to get the misoprsotol again to use two dosage. As she is not sure of whether the stuff flushed or not.

Is there any adverse effect. Also should she use it with mifepristone instead for effectiveness. Is it certain the abortion is complete like this?? Or can she go for a scan?

Pls assist her by telling her that she should stop the drug abuse because of her womb and her ovaries

She couldn't take preventive pills to prevent unwanted pregnancy after sex

So how come she is taking a stronger pills to abort

Take her to the hospital for proper diagnosis

Ulunne777:
Someone came to a group I'm in to solicit for help and this was her story.

There won't be any need to bail them, just let the law take them to jail

After all, you weren't notified of their going there neither did you give them the consent to do that

Princepioneer:
. No vex but noted.,

Alright dear

Princepioneer:
. Wise man...

A woman pls

klbakare:
O.P follow this advice. This is the most sensible advice here. Nobody can drag you for anything. Make sure everything you told us is the truth because God actually sees the integrity of your heart.

Thanks for the acknowledgement

simpledoty:
Fellow nairalanders,
Please, I need help.

I used to be a play boy, doing it for fun not knowing the consequences of my actions.

I have had countless heart broken, over 500 ladies. Promised and failed and disappointed many women although I never promised anyone marriage but always tricked them with a lovely relationship.

Now everything in my life seems backwards. Some girls have threatened to curse me in the past.

Now no money to even buy soap unlike before where I make over 700k monthly.

How can I set myself free and move forward in life?

The worst of all is that you can't trace those girls and even if you do, you can't reach all of them

Just hand yourself over to God and stay away from women from this new year

God is the only thing that you need to stay free from those curses

Brosst:
Tanx ma'am. I will follow part of what you said. Have been trying to raise half of the money and take it to them so that they won't see me as a bad person and I can't run away because of N40,000.

Thanks dear

Unclesmart12:
My younger brother of 23 years is a little promiscuous, he keeps a barrage of girlfriends and my mom has noticed because 95% of his time at home is spent talking to one girl or the other.

I over look most of his acts because I feel he will get over it with age, I did worse when I was his age but now I have more serious things to think about instead of chasing things in skirt. He sleeps out of the house at times and I and my other brothers cover for him, one of his girlfriends came around this week and gave him 50k and he shared 2k to all the guys in the house.

Mom found out that he has been sleeping out this morning and he used me as his line of defence and I covered up for him as usual, now she's mad at me that I'm not controlling my younger ones well and I'm too lenient on them because I don't beat or maltreat anyone in fact you won't know who's the elder among us but they respect me very well. I'm a student but others are doing biz and they always try to help me out in school to the best of their ability.

They once attacked a guy just because the guy insulted me and I had to restrain them that day, I guess it's due to my relationship with them. Last year Xmas most of the family traveled leaving just three of us in the flat, my younger bro bought my favorite wine before begging me to allow him bring a girl to the house which I later consented to and the girl spent 3 days and we benefited cos she cooked and did all the house work.

Now after my mom's outburst this morning I feel guilty, my girl wants to come to over since my people have travelled but I told her I'm not comfortable with her coming. I know sooner or later my younger bro will still ask for my permission to bring a girl over and I'm now thorn over to agree or not.

***Modified**
Just like I envisaged he brought the girl he has lodged for the past two days to the house without prior notice, meaning I'm automatically displaced from the room I share with him though there are other rooms in the house.

In a bid not to embarrass him in front of his guest I reasoned him two aside and gave him 24hours to get the girl out of the house or I will fling the girl's bags off the balcony,he was taken aback by my anger but still apologized and promised to send her out first thing tomorrow

Am surprised at you, is it that you are weak or you can tolerate nonsense

Anyway make a resolution, this new year, put a final stop to it let him go to a guest house and spend the money there since he doesn't have financial plans

Brosst:
Good day fellow Nairalanders. Please don't mind my long note.
I got a job with a newly opened superstore in the month of November this year. I was formally with a private secondary school but I had to quit when this new job clicked. I forfeited my October salary because I didn't give the school a month notice and I didn't even know that I will get the superstore job. We did interviews during the endsars lockdown.
I had to take up the superstore job as an inventory manager because the salary is better than the school job. To cut the long story short, I resumed as the inventory manager and we were handed over our employment letter. We were two in my department (Inventory). At the end of the month (November) the staff were asked to submit account details to the accountant which we all did so we were expecting credit alert for the month of November. The accountant didn't credit our account rather he was calling the staff one by one in his office and pay them with cash. I was not called and i was wondering what could be the cause. My colleagues asked me to go meet the accountant in his office. When I got to his office he told me that he didn't know how he wants to relate the latest development to me. So he started saying different stories and he was pacifying me. He handed my salary and another letter. I opened it and it was a "temporary lay off letter". The reason was that " budget consideration ". The superstore hasn't make much to cover staff salary. I was laid off with 3 other staff( one merchandiser, one bakery staff and one cashier). Meanwhile it was the manager that interviewed
and she is the one I report to but it was the accountant that handed over the letter to me. The company retained My junior in the inventory department after I had put him through somethings he does not understand on the job. I was dumbfounded and it look as if my world is coming to and end. I thought of my children and wife, my house rent. I started blaming myself for leaving my former job. I summoned courage and I left.
I got home and explained situation of things to my family. That week wasn't an happy week for us considering the fact we are approaching the month of December(festive season). Meanwhile I have another side hustle I engaged in during weekends but its not fetching much money and the stress was too much; I collapsed and I was hospitalized for two weeks.
On the 28th of this month I received a call from the accountant that he mistakenly transfer the sum of N40,000 into my account that I should please forward the money back to the superstore account number. The manager also called me. But my phone mouthpiece has been very bad since Christmas day. I used to manage my wife's phone anytime I have important calls. That faithful morning I took my phone to the engineer and I went to collect it in the afternoon thinking the phone is ok but the mouthpiece is still not working fine. So since the accountant couldn't hear me, I sent him a text that my phone is faulty and that I will call him back as soon as I fix it again. The following day which is today I took the phone back to the engineer. And I went straight to the superstore to ascertain what really happened. So he told me he mistakenly sent the sum of N40,000 to my account and that the money was December salary for the second guy in the inventory department. and that I should pls forward the money back to the company's account and that the company is on his neck. And I explained to him that I don't usually receive funds in that particular account because i took a loan from access bank which is overdue and I'm yet to pay them. And even if I receive money in that account I will transfer it immediately to my kuda account and i showed him my kuda atm card but in his own case now when he transferred the money I wasn't with my phone it was with the engineer and I wasn't expecting transfer from anybody. And I told him that when he and the manager were calling me the engineer didn't fix the mouthpiece well and I was on my way to ijaiye. I told him I went to drop the phone back this morning and I will go and check my access bank app to see if transactions occur because I didn't receive any credit alert. Alas when I collected my phone back and I checked the app I saw the 40k credit and access bank had already debited me for the loan.
I don't know what to do now because he is begging me to please refund the money into the company's account and I have been trying to borrow from access bank again but the bank keeps telling me I am not qualify for a loan at this time. I don't have salary job at the moment and there is nowhere I can get money to repay the company. I wish to refund them so that I won't look like a bad or dubious person to them. He has been calling me on phone but I don't know how to break the news to him. Pls what can I do in this kind of situation?

You don't have to put your self into a depressed state because of their own mistakes and also putting you off for reasons best known to them

Let the accountant follow you to the bank and see things himself

As for your other accounts, just remove whatever penny that is there so that they won't see a kobo there

Tell them to give you time to look for money as you don't have anything doing now to get money

If are asked to write under taking, you can write and if it's 2k you have at any given time you send to them and keep your records

Don't ever promise in the writing that you will pay all at a time

Let them partake in putting you through hardship, eve is it takes you a whole year to clear it, to me, it doesn't matter

whyteteeth:
I am 30 this year and it has always been my dream to marry @ 30 or before 30. But the truth is I haven't been able to fall in love with any woman for years now. I do have sex. And I have women in my life from time to time yet I am not in love with any of them.

Now the real issue is this, I stumbled on an article in this forum days back that says that an arranged marriage is the best meaning that without being in love with your spouse, you two can still have a successful marriage, and I have been giving it a thought.

With this premise, Should I just marry and then maybe love can grow over time or should I keep waiting till I fall in love before I marry? I seriously need your advice please..

Love can grow with time but the best is immediate love that brings you guys into the relationship

Arrange marriage has its own negative side, in short its negative side is more than two people that meets and falls in love and built it up for marriage

In your own case, you are yet to prepare your mind to fall in love and until you open your heart and make uo your mind, you may still not get it

Just allow your heart to pick a choice of the person you will share true love with

Love is sweat if you are lucky to get a woman who matches you

tck2000:
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that's the problem now. He said he can't stay with his mother again because she got married again, he doesn't want a step father.

At 20yrs he can't stand with out any one

It's now left for him to either bend or break but he must touch ground

tck2000:
Actually, the Father forcefully took them when they were still little kids and went to another city abandoning the mother behind with his eldest son.The father doesn't talk to the mom at all.
He is always swearing for his eldest son,their mom,my cousin and the rest children sometimes.

Whenever she comes to see her children, the Father doesn't allow her in the house,she would sit on the verandah talking to them with the Father forcing her to leave in not up to 3 hours. Last year, they formally divorced and the mum has remarried and the Father is hoping to get married too but my cousin is strongly against that idea.

If that is the case

Then the father is toxic

He should leave the father to his mother and manage with her

tck2000:
Cousin doesn't like his father at all so he spend all his night outside close to home with friends till late in the night 11-12.He isn't a bad guy,doesnt smoke,drink or use drugs neither does he move about with bad guys.Father is threatening to arrest him saying very soon, he would start using drugs.


Is that possible?

And by the way,he just turned 20.I believe Father just hates him.

There is no hatred there, the issue is that his father never created the synergy for both of them

He should try and get admitted into school and he will be a distance away from him

Alternatively, he should have a meeting with his mother and father to find out why his father is not showing him fatherly love

There has to be a round table discussion before it gets out of hand

Souqwaqif:
Good day all,

Please I need good advice from married folks. I have been doing my best in providing for my wife and children. Without much input of support from her despite the fact that she runs a little business and works as a teacher.

I pay the house rent, children school fees, her shop rent, feeding for the house etc. because she is not usually paid alongside others by her state government.

However, from recent findings, I discovered the govt. Has gradually and almost cleared their salary arrears remaining just a few months and yet she does not seem it necessary to at least let me know. Although I won't ask her to give me her money nor subject her outside voluntary support of the family, but one thing is that I am very much disappointed that despite all my efforts in taking care of the family, now that she has money she cannot tell me nor deem it necessary to at least pay for her shop rent.

Please I have called her one on one to talk sense to her after which she will agree to change but am not seeing any change. What else can I be advised on,thanks.

I think you need to give her a schedule of financial responsibility at home so that you too can save and plan well for the family

Sest her down and tell her to chose between feeding of the family

Or paying school fees and rent

But I will prefer you give her the family feeding

That feeding is the most important of all family responsibilities so that you can do the rest and still save for the future

Havesomesense:
I gave her oil perfumes to sell,

i told her not to do free stuffs for casual people cus she's dexterous and her friends and other people would take advantage of her niceness.

I told her that she's relaxed and feels too comfortable with me and i don't want that..

the thing is if I let her go, i may not see her type again, she's everything i want in a woman but she's broke and her immediate family too is broke.

In this case work on her tell her that you want a healthy relationship with her but her relaxed nature is what you don't like about her

By the time you want to work on her, don't look at her face because you are building her up

Do that without fear or favour and if she is resistant about it, follow your heart

Havesomesense:
I'm in a relationship with a girl i like very much, she's a good girl, she takes good care of me, I take care of her bills but the issue is that she's broke.

she's not lazy but she's too nice and not business minded like me.

she's relaxed and comfortable with what i provide for her

I'm tired of taking care of her, i have other important things to do with my money.

Another thing I don't like is that, i feel too comfortable in the relationship, i added weight, big stomach, I lost my good shape.

Also, I haven't saved much since our relationship started, i like her a lot but i want to quit the relationship so I can invest more on myself because I believe that if i were a broke ass she wouldn't have fallen for me



what do you think ?

You spent so much on both of you that's why you are running down with cash

You find it difficult to teach her how to be business contious

Now you want to leave her despite the goodies in the relationship that gave you peace of mind
.
Is it that when you make more money, you go back to her or you move on

For once be a man and tell her what she needs to hear

miniziter:
We are in a era where the world frown against physically abusing women not minding what she is doing to the husband.
Am into a mobile money business which I started with my wife, why she was working with me, I do daily contribution for her since it will not make sense for her to be asking me of what she needs always but some months ago, she quit and started her own business. Before then, she never wanted any lady near me as a staff as she is fond of driving away as she is doing it out of jealous. And now the same issue is persisting. She accusing my girl of coming to work on Sundays after church (which I see as a relief). Yesterday that happened to be Christmas, she rain all sorts of curses on this girl to the extent of shedding tears. Now I don't want to loose this girl because its not easy to get someone ready to do our type of work because of insecurity. Also, it's not easy to train someone to the extent of leaving the work for them to do alone. If I get a tear gas and use it on her when next, have I abuse her? Will the law allow it? Should I inform the police about it as she is threatening the girl's life.

She is just being inconsiderate if actually you don't have anything doing with the girls and she is frustrating her

Warn her for the last time and watch her

If she disgraces any of your sales girls, return the disgrace back to her her
Worst case scenario, let her go and stay with her parents so that her parents will teach her how to mind her business

You have to take madness to correct nonsense

joa2013:
If a woman you're legally married to denied you sex and you forcefully have your way with her, can that be described as rape?

Once a woman is not willing to go down with you and you went ahead, it's a rape

It's supposed to be consentual

silibaba:
madam calm down,

Is for sky scrapper or buildings above 4 storeys

That's not true its for a storey building and above

SweetCunt97:
Abi o, watch cartoons, play video games. Very incompetent parents

Exactly, his parents may be pure illiterates and doesn't want to know that, that child is being deprived of his child's rights

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This is just another way of abusing a child

This child would have been allowed to enjoy with his mates and read his books and also play with his age mates

dawnomike:
Most welders do not use the type of machine he described... It is mostly used by companies

Is alright

gregyboy:
Serious why na

Men sees sex as food and a must do

Women sees sex as snacks and must not be taken all the time

Druise:
I think i am in a lot of trouble.

I live and work with a prominent family in nigeria here.

So it happened this christmas, that the last son of the family came home with his wife and children, from abj.

I primarily enter the family as a cleaner, but cause of how i am, i am soon introduced into the family business, and works in their office, lives with them and was considered by all as one of their son, cause actually i have become one.

I am 22, tall for my age, with a quite slender and masculine frame and some cute face (i don't consider myself handsome, but people strongly treats me like i am)

So, it happened that i went out with my boss junior brothers wife and one of her inlaw, to get somethings in the market, and was just surprised at the drama that ensued.

Before then, she has develop the habit of always looking directly into my eyes while speaking to me, and once i look back, she put on some smile, which to avoid embarrassment, i made a point to always return.

So while in the market, you will think she is my wife, with the way she caresses and talk to me in public, not even minding that her inlaw is around, she became excessively flirtatious, caresses me without caution, and i was dumbfounded, but i overcame the shock, and tried my best to respond, and we became friends.

She is a jovial woman, small in stature and slender, having some aura of mystery around her, must be between 28 and 31.

I do like it if some one openly display a show of affection towards me, and this woman does, even at home it is no longer new that she is quite attracted to me, as she never failed to show it even in her mother inlaw and husbands presence.

I am quite a bold young man, and my presence in the family is well felt, which earns me a good respect by all, hence no one really makes it a big deal that i am this affectionately close to their wife, cause i do return her love (she showed a deep affection towards me, and not wanting to offend her, i do return it, which is the biggest mistake of the year).

It continued like that, that even the younger girls, in the family that are trying to get my attention and we are just getting used to each other, decided to stay clear and regard us instead.

It's so obvious that when she wanted to make her hair for christmas, she specifically asked me to accompany her, although, girls are around that may do that, she categorically stated that she wants me to. While going, i caught her husband throwing a glance at us, expected him to be offended, cause i do sometimes feel maybe they are quarrelling and she wants him to be jealous, but it came as a surprised to me that the husband became so close to me, after noticing how close i am with his wife (before, he only regard me from afar, avoiding a direct communication with me).

I never really mind all these show though, cause i am man enough to stand up to any challenge, incase someone is not pleased, so i played along with her, regarding her as the sister i never had, but i have really fallen in love with her.

But, something is off.

she is trying hard to seduce me, and this a path i no longer wish to thread.

When it comes to women, i am innocent, never having offered anyone s*x, cause i am strangely discreet, i find it very difficult to be turn on just by anything, except the person truly loves me, but not ready for marriage, i have never really been looking for a lover, so i have remained how i am.

this woman turns me on perfectly, cause she isn't ordinary (i likes anything extra-ordinary) and i am easily turned on by it.

But this is a forbidden fruit, which i can never taste of.

I have been moody since yesterday, to avoid talking with her, but she stayed up late into the night outside with me cause she literally thought it was a quarrel i had that got me upsets, but she left when she could not have my audience.

Today, she has been trying hard to get my attention, making unnecessary body contacts and trying to establish an eye contact with me, which i have been avoiding.

My problem now is breaking free from this woman, cause i do understand the consequence of what i have gotten myself into.

Any suggestion will be welcome pls?

If you can remember what happened to Adam when he ate the forbidden fruit, he was chased out, Learn your lesson from Adam

You came there to work and make a living not getting attracted to one trap or the other

This new year, make a resolution on how to bring yourself out from this web